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Being Alone At Christmas
Member Name: superguinness
Being Alone At Christmas
Date: 07/12/00, updated on 07/12/00 (96 review reads)
Advantages: cheap and quiet
Disadvantages: have a guess
I have spent the last few Christmas Days on my own, and each year it seems to bother me less and less (although last year I "cheated" and did actually go round to a friends house, as they had very kindly invited me, and had a nice time there too!).
Thinking back, I must admit to feeling a bit sad on my first Christmas morning alone and indeed my then recent change in circumstances did dwell on my mind. Luckily I had managed to enjoy Christmas Eve enough, so that I wasn't really capable of too many deep thoughts.
Since that first one (Christmas 1994), I have made some observations both about my situation and Christmas day in general. If you are going to experience your first Christmas alone this year, then I hope these may help just a little in some way.
When you are on your own on Christmas Day and you are not having to travel anywhere, you will notice how quiet it is everywhere. I live in an area where there is a high percentage of students and professionals (ie non locals). The streets really do seem like a ghost town. Very good if you want to see how loud your music centre really can be though.
When you tell other people of your "plans" for Christmas they do tend to either look in horror at you and/or rapidly invite you round for festivities. Don't feel proud and refuse, but do try and judge whether they really want it.
Rely on the trusty TV. Here's the perfect chance to watch some quality programmes in peace - plan what to watch and take it! Maybe even prepare by hiring out a couple of videos as well. Beware of Christmas family sitcoms though, they just emphasise the fact that you don't fit the media's dated perceptions.
If alcohol features in your life, then again do stock up and indulge. However I would recommend waiting till noon maybe, before you tuck in.
You get the chance to prepare a Christmas meal to your own specification. Mine is based on quantity r
ather than all the trimmings due in part to a lack of motivation in the kitchen department. Remove all traces of christmas hats and crackers though, for sure.
I tend to phone friends and family during the day, however again you can come across the problem of them worrying that you are on your own, and to be honest I still haven't really worked out a good answer for this one yet.
Finally don't be afraid of just going for a walk. Like I said earlier, the quietness and tranquility is very refreshing and I bet you'll see things that you have never noticed before...
My main observation though is that I feel a lot luckier than some people on their own, since I am able to travel down to my family on Boxing Day, and could chat and see friends on Christmas Day if I wish. Some people don't have these choices, so I feel very grateful really.