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A Man Named Dave - Dave Pelzer
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A Man Named Dave - Dave Pelzer
Date: 06/05/02, updated on 06/05/02 (1069 review reads)
Advantages: very moving
Disadvantages: bit harrowing
I've just finished reading the trilogy, and what can I say, what an amazing man.
This final book charts his life from age 18 and his struggle to come to terms with the abuse he suffered from his mother as a child.
His mother and father have split up and he has no contact with his mother at all at this time. His father is a drunk and most of the time Dave doesnt know where he is.
He wants to get into the air force but as he didnt finish high school has a very tough time trying to convince them to let him in.
After months of exams they finally let him in but even though he wants to train as a fireman, apparently he misses the deadline for it and has to be a cook instead, which he finds hard to cope with.
When he hears from his foster mother that his father is very ill he flies to be with him only to find out he has cancer and not long to live, so decides to try to contact his mother to convince her to come and see him.
She treats him like she doesnt even know him and when Dave sees her he still has the fear he has from when he was a child.
When his father dies he goes to the funeral only to be met by his mother who tells him he has no place there.
This part really got to me as I just don't understand how someone who gave birth to you can treat you like a total stranger.
Dave then meets someone but can't seem to trust her due to his past and eventually they have a baby and get married.
He's very determined to treat his son in the best possible way but something is always holding him back from being close to his wife.
A few years later he decides to confront his mother again and asks her what he done to her that was so bad she could abuse him like that.
His mother says " the boy was bad David" like he was a completely different person, which obviously made him come to the conclusion that she had serious mental health problems.
She dies a short while afte
r and Dave decides to forgive her so he can move on.
Dave Pelzer now helps run support groups for children who are having a hard life.
This book made me cry like the other two but it was good to finally see he got a grip on life after everything that had happened to him.
I'd recommend reading all 3 of these books just to show you that your life isnt all that bad and what some people in the world have to go through
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