My own experience (Abortion)

Member Name: cher_2004

Product:	Abortion
Date:	05/11/09 (51 review reads)
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Well there is no doubt that this a very controversial subject, and a subject I feel able to give a valid contribution to.

I am not asking for anyone's acceptance about what I am going to say, I just want to share with you the decision that I made.

I am currently 35 year old mother of an 8 year old daughter.

When I was in my teens and leading quite a wild time, contraceptive was at times an after thought, I am afraid to say. At 17 I was in a relationship with a jack-the-lad and it led to me soon finding out I was pregnant. I went to the family planning clinic, gave a false name and I had the expected news told to me that I was pregnant.

I luckily had good friends around me who gave me a huge amount of support.

My gut instinct was to have a termination, my mother had been far from the best mother figure. Obviously the pregnancy played on my mind and I new that I had to be fairly quick in making a decision.

I knew I really wasn't ready to be a mum, and that I defiantly wasn't responsible enough. I kept thinking about what a let down my own mother was when I was young and didn't want to be the same to my child. Yes, I should have thought about this before i had unprotected sex, but I didn't and I was facing the consequences. I was no longer with the father, and I chose not to involve him in my decision. He was slightly older than me, a major drinker and drug taker.

The decision was made, and many sleepless nights were had and the day came when I was dues for my abortion. The nurse could see that I was blatantly upset about the whole decision and she discussed with me what my pro's and con's were for going ahead with this procedure. I kept coming back to the same thing, I wasn't ready, or mature enough to look after a child and give it the best life i possibly can. I did not want to risk giving the child a childhood I had experienced, and I felt strongly that I want to enjoy motherhood when I become a mother, and not feel trapped and unhappy.

I went ahead with the procedure, and honestly felt mentally and physically awful afterwards. This was an upsetting time, but even afterwards I new I had made the right decision.

I could have gone ahead with the pregnancy and had the child adopted, but,I knew i wouldn't have been able to hand my child to anybody else.

That termination has always been in the front of my mind and I regularly think about the decision I made especially since I am now a mother.

I can honestly say that although I still feel very sad about having a termination, I still feel I made the best decision for my situation.

After my termination I went on to work with children a career which i have continued ever since.

I am a very happy and responsible mother, I have life experience now and I have confidence in myself that I am able to give my daughter a loving childhood and provide her with everything she needs.

I made a responsible decision for my personal situation.

I would neither promote abortion or protest against it.

Everything i have said above reflects my personal decision on my own situation. I am not saying that 17 year old wont make suitable parents, I am not saying they will feel trapped, or be unable to provide the best for their child.

Abortion is not a decision to be made lightly, and it is a decision I wish i had never had to make.

Take precautions x

Summary: Dont be too quick to judge people