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Member Name: onlyliana
I have always been Pro-Choice. Thankfully I have never been in a position where I have had to make such a difficult decision but as pregnancy and parenthood are such a life changing events I feel that it is important to give the subject thoughtful consideration.
Sadly I have had a few friends who have been in this difficult position and I feel that the best way to support someone is to give them time to come to terms with their own thoughts and consider the consequences of the decision they're making, whatever that decision may be.
My personal thoughts on abortion are that women are subject to a kaleidoscope of emotions and can be thought of badly, whatever decision they make. People are so divided and opinionated on the subject that it is impossible to make this decision without someone thinking you have made the wrong one.
I myself am the result of an 'accidental' pregnancy. My mum fell pregnant with me at the age of 15 and gave birth shortly after her 16th birthday. She hid her pregnancy from my nannan for several months. I cannot even begin to understand the vast amount of stress and worry my mum must have felt. I am very grateful to be here and my mum has not had the easiest of lifes. I have never met my biological father and have no desire to do so, I know nothing about him and am happy that way. This is not due to any reluctance on my mums part to discuss him, she has expressed that if I want to know anything she would be happy to tell me, I am just not interested.
My mum is now happily married and has had 4 more children. I do not feel that my life has been hindered in any way by being brought into a single parent family. I personally feel that seeing the way my mum has gone through life has actually benefited me. I am hugely independant and grateful for it.
I have never felt unwanted and would have completely understood my mums decision to terminate, if that had been the decision she had made. I think it is a credit to society that women are able to take control of their lives/bodies and make the decision for themselves without fear of retribution.
Every situation is different but if you feel you are too young, irresponsible, not ready to bring a child into the world then going against those feelings can actually make your life worse in the long run, the psychological affect of resenting a child must be on a par, if not worse, than the feelings of guilt women feel after terminations.
I think the important thing to remember is that a foetus is not independant to the woman carrying it, it would not survive on it's own. It has no consciousness or feelings about whether it's life will be able to continue or not. Obviously late stage abortions are different. Medical technology now allows massively premature foetuses to survive. My personal opinion is that these medical marvels are simply astounding but just give pro-life campaigners (the extremist ones) another round of ammunition to take a pop at pro-choice women with.
I do not feel that abortion should be used as a form of birth control but where do you draw the line? 3 abortions in as many years and you can't have any more? Attitudes like that put women between a rock and a hard place.
Our sexual education should be such that women do not think of abortion as birth control but a last resort in a difficult situation. No form of birth control is completely effective. Condoms split, mistakes are made, rape babies are tragic but they happen. The one positive from all of these situations is that we have the choice to take what we are dealt and deal with it in our own way.
I am single, 23 and not at all ready to have children. I am still completely undecided as to whether I ever want children. If I had the misfortune to fall pregnant by mistake I think my first instinct would be to terminate. I would not want to have a child that I could possibly resent, I feel I would have to be in a place where I was ready for children and able to make the sacrifices they bring. I couldn't guarantee that I would resent having a child at this stage of my life but I am not willing to take the risk just for the sake of being pro-life.
Summary: I hope you have found my opinions on the subject interesting. I feel I have been completely honest!