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Member Name: Julie449
Advantages: The option is there for women who need it
Disadvantages: Too many abortions taken place
After reading an articile about abortion in the metro last week, I decided to share my thoughts on this subject. By no means do I want to upset or offend anyone, I do not judge and everything that follows is just my view.
I am a mother of one. My son wasn't planned and my now husband and I hadn't been together that long when I found out I was pregnant. I was 22 at the time. We didn't have money saved, a house or a car. We both had jobs, but we lived pretty much a student lifestyle. When I found out I was pregnant, I went into panic and really wasn't sure what we were going to do. I can understand why people in my situation would have considered abortion but for myself and my husband it was never an option. Its not that either of us put our feeling across about it, it just wasn't something we discussed. I was pregnant and we were going to face it the best way we could. It wasn't until I went to the doctors and asked if I was planning on keeping the baby, that abortion even entered my mind. For me it was more of a panic of, where are we going to live, how are we going to afford everything.
For me, everything worked out, but it wasn't always like that. When I was 18-20, I was in a very bad relationship, with all types of abuse. While in this relationship we didn't always practice safe sex, not always through my choice. It took me a long time, but after finding out my partner was in trouble with the police, I had enough and packed my bags and left. My periods were always a bit all over the place, and largely due to the massive changes I had made in my life at that time I was unaware I had missed periods. It wasn't until I suffered miscarriage that I even knew I was pregnant. I can't say for sure what I would have considered if I had know I was pregnant but I know it would have been alot harder knowing I was carring a child by a violent ex.
Now, my husband and I are trying again and although we haven't been trying for long we worry about struggling to conceive.
The point I am trying to make, by sharing my stories is that I can see this subject from all angles and I believe that there is no real/correct answer to the subject. However the figures and satistics I was reading are very worring.
There were (according to the article I read) over 190,000 abortions which took place in the UK last year. To me this number seems Massive. What I found even more worrying was that around 36% of those women who had an abortion had had one or more previous abortions. Also it was stated that around 1000 abortions were given to girls 15 or younger, thats scary.
Surely some of these abortions could have been prevented. Now don't get me wrong I understand there are many reasons people choose abortion, and I don't think everyone who falls pregnant should have their babies. I can understand why people choose this option due to extreme circumstances like rape, violence, and health issues. However it is my view that too many women/teenagers see abortion as another method of birth control, especially in women who have more than one abortion.
Abortion doesn't have to be the only option for women who find themselves in an unwanted pregnancy, there are so many couples out there who long for a child and struggle to conceive and would do anything to adopt a child. I understand that to carry a child and then having to give it up would be hard, but it would bring other people happiness.
I must stress that I do believe abortion should be available as there are circumstances like those I discussed before that people really do need that option, and although I wouldn't say I was for abortion, I don't believe its right to withdraw the option.
It's hard to say how to decrease the number of abortions, as I know myself when getting sex education at school etc, it all seems like a bit of a joke and a laugh, and no-one really takes it too seriously. But I do wonder if we had all listened if the number of abortions would be lower. There does need to be more education about the consequences of sex both in schools and at home, but will they listen. We can but try.
Summary: A hard topic to discuss