Adoption

Hi When I was 8 some 31 years ago I was adopted by a couple unable to have children of their own. I was adopted along with my older bio brother. At that time for a couple to take on 2 boys so old was rare and indeed they used to attend meetings where they would share their experiences. In all that time, being adopted has never been a stigma to me. I am not ashamed, I am better off for it. I wouldn't be where I am today if I hadn't had the undeniable love of two of the best people you could hope to know. Being so old when adopted meant that my parents didn't have to tell me or my brother we were adopted. We were there at court when it ...  Read the complete review

The tragic case of Child P, yet again in the borough of Harringay, has highlighted what a minefield child protection is, the gorgeous blue-eyed blonde kid left to the mercy of its so called guardians, all three awaiting long prison sentences. The very idea the social workers didn't want to get this kid away from his guardians as quick as possible is outrageous. You can guarantee middle-management made the decision not to pull that kid because if they had got it wrong they would have been sued, only recently a young mum in Nottinghshire 'allegedly' picking up 28k in compo because social workers removed her baby on delivery because they felt she would harm it, going over ...  Read the complete review

Little update - Thanks to those of you that have nominated this for a crown, you'r personal messages have been nice! Adoption, which way do you look at it? The mistake that is going to a better place? The mother who didn't realise motherhood was such a tough job and wants her old life back? The thought in the back of the mothers head for the rest of her life that she gave her creation away and the thought in the innocent child's head for the rest of their life that "what did I do wrong?" Yes, that child is me and that could be the thought in my head. This story may get confusing, but I will try my best to get it out. Way back in the late ...  Read the complete review

Adoption is a strange process these days. Apart from the odd rich and famous couple 'rescuing' the worlds underprivaledged babies, and raising them in bizare opulance (talk about a culture shock!, adoption doesnt seem to be a fashionable option for the average man. Is it because IVF has promised many previously 'infertile' couples the answer to their procreational prayers, and now other peoples babies just arent good enough for them? I tend to see people who adopt now as virtual saints, because despite the options open to them (fostering, IVF, surrogacy), they are making a permanent commitment to kiddies who were rejected for some reason or ...  Read the complete review

I have not heard of anyone in Britain offering their baby for adoption for decades. This must be because it is now acceptable for an ummarried girl to keep her baby. I have heard of British couples adopting babies from abroad because apparently there are very few babies for adoption here. Older children yes, but not babies. But what of this scenario? What would you advise? This is something which I have been asked my opinion on by friends of a pregnant girl. The young girl who is pregnant is from a country where having a child out of wedlock is totally unacceptable. Not only that, but they are also very racist. The girl is black, her boyfriend ...  Read the complete review