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Adoption |
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03/09/01 (53 review reads) |
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Advantages: finds people quicker
Disadvantages: takes the fun out of the search
I was adopted at the tender age of three months. My birth mother for whatever reasons decided I would be better off adopted.
I can't understand why there is such a cloak and dagger issue regarding adoptees finding out about their adoption.
In america, you can go online and research almost anything, from death records to social security numbers, But in britain it is almost impossible to find out anything online, unless your willing to pay an agency to do all the work for you.
I found a site that gives you phone numbers, of the names of the people that you are looking for, but then you feel foolish 'phoning them up and asking them questions just to find out that they don't know what the devil you are talking about!
No, the best way of finding out your roots is by going to your local social services and asking them to do the trace for you, it takes out all the uncertainty of embarassing phone calls, and all of the heartache of countless wrong alleys.
The first place to start is with your original birth certificate and then get an appointment at your local hall of records and research the next ten years of your parents lives, when you have all that info, take it all along to your social services office and they will start the search for you
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- 03/09/01 I can understand that most people, adopted or not, are curious about their backgrounds and want to know where they come from. However, sometimes people who've given a child up for adoption don't want to be contacted, so there is a fine line to walk between assisting genealogical research by adopted children and protecting the privacy of the birth parents. |
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- 03/09/01 True...a good op.
It always dismays me with adoption that there is so much inhuman bureaucracy, that it is impossible or very difficult to retrace stuff, and that it is costly. And also - that once a child is put up for adoption they just become a statistic in the eyes of the government - I do think that the law is not well enough written (it makes it hard for the right people to adopt when they want to and ultimately prohibitively difficult)...and it is totally disgusting how you can now buy adoptions on the internet, a la Kilshaw...something that needs to be sorted out internationally, not just meanedering on the silly way it does now...
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- 03/09/01 Nice op. Next time try to write some more and paragraph your work so it is easier to read. |
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