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Advice on relationships
Member Name: luigi0778
Advice on relationships
Date: 06/08/09, updated on 06/08/09 (106 review reads)
Advantages: Better to have a roof over your head than sleeping rough.
Disadvantages: Hard to construct, Other houses may look better from the outside, Hard work to maintain,
Really a relationship is like a house. No more, and no less. Doesn't matter what side of the road your building your house on, a house is a house.
(I suppose you can rent a flat, or even be part of a shared flat, its fun for a while, but arguably most people in flats, would prefer a house).
Well to build a house, you first need to eye your plot, (your potential partner). Good places are bars, nightclubs, through mutual friends and recently even the internet. So always keep your eyes open for an investment oppurtunity.
Next step, is to make sure of a few things: you have to have plans and agreement (they like you too), and to thoroughly make sure you have legal planning permission (they are single).
I mean you wouldn't want to start building on someone elses plot, would you? That can lead to all kinds of problems, best avoided really.
Then as you start laying your foundations, you need to get some bricks fast, and the more the better.
Suitable bricks are made from things like Faith, Trust, Attraction and Love, they are the best materials you need for a decent house!
You could try to use lust, but thats similar to straw, it will need alot of cement, and will only stand up for a while, and certainly not in bad weather.
So remember, without the correct building materials for bricks, there is no real chance of constructing a house. Don't cut corners or compromise on quality, not unless its a temporary shelter.
So ok you have chosen the right bricks, but what is going to keep it together? Well Mortar is made from the physical side of things (Sex, and Passion). Sex is the industrial grade sand, and it needs to be mixed in the correct dosage with Passion. Passion is a type of good quality cement.
If mixed correctly, this will form mortar, which makes a strong bond to hold the bricks together well, these will then form the walls of your house.
It is worth mentioning that no matter how much you try, a house can not stand strong with no mortar between the bricks. A good strong bond, makes for a good strong house. So do not try to cheat, continually make sure you have the correct mortar mixture, and check it regularly.
Another caution, is that mortar does not last forever, it needs attention to keep the bond between the bricks maintained. Regular maintenance and filling of the gaps, usually ensures that walls stay very tight.
Once a strong wall is constructed, you will find that strangers won't easily break bricks and weaken your home. Also as the big bad Wolf found to his cost, a house made from bricks and mortar is hard to blow down. An is normally able to stand up against all types of weather, even fierce storms.
It is worth keeping in mind that because the walls are made from lots of bricks, you can safely lose some bricks in your walls, and so long as you keep most of the key bricks, the house will still stand up fine.
However if you lose too many, it will collapse, and to try to rebuild a house is almost impossible. An even if it is, it won't ever be the same.
So it is advisable to take stock of your house often, and check that the key bricks in your walls are safe.
So now the structure is sound, well then you have interior furnishings to think about. The things you have in common, mutual interests, mutual friends, even having children, they are your furniture. Not all vital, but as everyone knows it is nice, to have nice things.
However not everyone can have everything, and the house can remain there happily, even without all the rooms bursting full of furniture.
Ultimately though, if there isn't enough there, there will be problems.
I mean who will want to willingly live in an empty house?
Only a squatter perhaps, so do change furniture and decorate often.
Still despite of all your efforts, there is another danger to all houses!
Even strong ones. An that is Fire!!
Typically fires are caused by Jealousy, Rage or Anger, which are of course perfectly normal, but only ok, if kept in the fireplace.
In fact at certain times of the year it is nice to feel the warmth from someone who cares, and even an occasional argument with rage, can make you feel human, even if the fire overspills slightly and burns the floor, it can usually be fixed.
However if you leave fires unattened, and uncontrolled, it will definately destroy your house.
The use of frequent talking, is a good way of making sure things don't get too hot, and that fires remain in check. Signs of fire can include getting a cold shoulder, moodiness, and warping walls. So do check for these often.
The best advice of all is to be house proud, don't compare your house to other peoples, and keep the doors locked to strangers. It takes alot of effort into building one, so look after your home!
Summary: A strange way of looking at it I know..