BEAT THOSE BULLIES - BRING BACK DISIPLINE IN SCHOOLS (Bullying in Schools)

Member Name: mswhizz

Product:	Bullying in Schools
Date:	04/07/09 (36 review reads)
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Advantages: MAKE THEM THINK BEFORE THEY ACT

Disadvantages: COULD BE TOO LATE FOR THIS GENERATION OF CHILDREN

BULLYING IN SCHOOLS.

Bullying in school can be one of the most frightening experiences children have to cope with whilst growing up. There are no specific rules that work in dealing with 'cowards' that bully our children.

I changed comprehensive school three times from the age of thirteen to sixteen, and I cannot remember a more lonely or frightening experience. My parents went through a divorce and as a result my brothers and I moved three times.

I had made good childhood friends during primary and first school, which I had to leave behind more or less one month after starting secondary school. My first change was temporary as my mother was waiting for a house in a new location to be finalised. This school was quite 'posh' and ahead academically from my previous school, so my work was inferior to other pupils. I would be laughed at in class for not knowing the answers, and no one would speak to me. I spent many a lunchtime on my own lonely and afraid. Times were hard back then and my mother asked me to dye a white jumper green (uniform), as she hadn't the time or money to get me a new one. Well, this jumper turned out a blotchy green, and everyone whispered and laughed at it behind my back. This intimidated me and made me feel insecure.

Time passed by but things did not really improve. I did not make any friends and during a P.E. lesson one girl pushed me so hard I fell down flat on my face. This was followed by laughter and jibes, until the teacher stopped them. I cried myself to sleep that night and was petrified to go to school the next morning. I lost weight with stress.

I did not tell my mother, as she had her own problems. She would only worry if I had told her. I carried on at this school for about 12 months, although I latched on to a few 'so called mates', I didn't bond with anyone.

I moved to another comprehensive school in the Midlands, and this one was totally opposite to the first 'posh' school. This one was 'ROUGH' compared to the other school.

I seemed to be a little ahead of some of my class, but this did not help me. Fellow pupils called me a 'Creep' 'Geek' 'Swotter', and many other things. Bullies like to be the first to start a row.

One day I was minding my own business, when a girl came up to me gave me a shove and said someone had told her I called her a bad name, I won't repeat the actual words as they were swear words. (I didn't of course). I replied I had not called her anything, but she proceeded to give me a proper good bashing. I had a black eye, swollen forehead, lots of hair missing. I duly cried all the way home , sick to my stomach and wondering how I could hide these bruises. My mother saw them and went crazy. I can't quite recall what actually happened. She did go to the school and complain, but nothing changed!

I don't know if what I did next was the right or wrong thing to do to combat bullying in my case it helped, I had gained an inner strength and found I had the nerve to do this: -

The next day, I dressed up for school in what I considered fashion at the time and put on a little make up to hide the bruises on my face. I waited until lunchtime when I sort out the girl who gave me a beating. I walked straight over to her and punched her straight on the end of her nose with all the strength I could muster. I shouted at her, and her friends to leave me alone.

It gave me great pleasure to see their shocked faces, and I became slowly more popular, however, I was then going through rebellion and did not take my education seriously, and missed a lot of school. I got involved with the wrong crowd, (that's another story).

My advice is try and stand up for yourself (verbally). Please don't do what I did; this could be dangerous in this day and age. Never show the bullies you are affected by their jibes, as this will make it worse for you. Go to school with your head held high, and try and act confident. Keep fit and feel good about yourself. Remember a bully is a coward, and they are insecure with themselves, so try and find a weakness of theirs, and bite back occasionally, especially when their friends are with them. Show them what it feels like to be humiliated and intimidated.

Schools need more power to discipline children these days. A little fear hurt no one, and to be honest did me good, as I would think twice before doing something wrong, as the consequences would not be nice. Slap of a cane hurt!

I would feel really great if this read has helped anyone out there!

Summary: SOMETHING SHOULD SERIOUSLY BE DONE TO COMBAT THOSE COWARDS.