Kick the Bully! (Bullying in Schools)

Member Name: Alindrail

Product:	Bullying in Schools
Date:	27/02/01 (20 review reads)
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The fact is that if you talk to most people, they will say that they were bullied at school, or at some point in their lives. The only difference is the degree to which an individual is bullied. The level in some places is shocking, and hearing some individual tales really does make you realise that this is a serious problem which needs addressing.

The problem is simply that there is no effective way of dealing with it. Sad, but true, the only effective measure at the moment is to buckle under, be supported by others, and get on with it. What is needed is help for those who are bullied, not by targeting their assailants (who are themselves insecure and often unsure as to why they are bullying), but by helping those bullied to turn around, retaliate, but to do so in a way which will not lead to further retribution.

The fact is that some of those bullies will grow up to be losers. Dead end jobs, social drop outs, and general trash of society. Not all however, others will have good lives, but the thing is that they often do regret what they did, as is good and proper. We shouldn't ask bullied people to forgive their bulliers, you might as well ask a rape victim to forgive their raper, but at least understand that the person is not inherently evil, and to tolerate their presence.

Suing schools is pointless. Teachers are overworked, and they often know that saying anything in defence of the child will only result in MORE bullying. Their efforts should be concentrated on getting the child outside the school in other ways. Moving the child to another school is probably pointless, it will happen again, but getting them involved in other activities outside schools, where they can meet others and thrive in an environment without bullying, will allow them to tolerate their time at school.

The frustration that parents undergo is understandable, but they must also realise that their intervention can also potnetially just lead to more abuse. r>
So get the kids into environments where they have friends and allies to cope with the times when they don't. Eventually they will realise that they should ignore the taunts, and then the bullies will become distracted.

There's no quick fix approach, and bullying is something almost every person will have to cope with at some stage in their life - not just at school.