Violence in violence out (Bullying in Schools)

Member Name: pebbles

Product:	Bullying in Schools
Date:	08/03/01 (28 review reads)
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Disadvantages: terror for the victim

Many of the children that become bullies have a violent homelife, they experience aggression, violence or shouting constantly, so it's hardly surprising thet they grow up to think this is the way to behave.

Adults behaviour has a strong influence on children, their language, habits or opinions are projected wihtout them often even realising it. How many parents have attended their childs school and were shocked to learn that their child was a bully, yet totally unaware that the father who shouts at his wife or pushes her around is giving the message to the child that 'it's ok to behave that way'. Behaviour breeds behaviour.

Bullies often have something missing in their lives such as love and affection. They do not receive praise for the good things that they do, so why bother?

Bullies very often have few friends, although to the victim it looks as if the bully has everyone on their side. Take another look! The bully has bullied those people into being part of the gang, if they didn't wouldn't they become a victim too? If the supporters stopped suppporting what would the bully have on his side? Certainly not their personality or charm or likability. They would feel insecure just like their victims.

Never give into a bully! Easier said than done I hear you cry!!!!!!!!! The victims have to overcome their fear, fear of being mashed to a pulp or fear of not being one of the crowd? Fear can be conquered and so can the bully. Many schools offer a support structure, very often amongst the pupils themselves whereby the victims can talk to someone to tell someone about the bullying.

My son had a bully in his class who thought it very amusing to pick on as many kids as he could, especially the girls. My son disliked this boy intensely but decided not to say anything in case he became another one of the victims. However he was unable to stand by and watch one of the girls in his class being slapped in the face
and pushed around the classroom, being called names and teased. He told the boy to leave her alone. Silence in the classroom! The bully did nothing at the time, but yes you've guessed it he became a victim too because he dared to stand up to him. This went on for a long time until one day during a lesson, this boy threw something at my son and it hit him in the face.Enough was enough and my son confronted him, probably in a rage! He pushed the boy the same way he done to him previously and called him the same names. Silence. The teacher intervened at this point. My son got a weeks detention, which he said he deserved but it was well worth it. The same boy has since stopped bullying and has now become part of the accepted crowd. My son has since learnt that he is actually a nice boy who is quite bright and just wanted to be part of the class. His parents were aggressive at home, not violent just not giving him praise,always shouting and putting him down and making him feel demoralised.

When a child is bullied very often the parents will not know about it.There are signs that the children emit such as being subdued, not wanting to go to school or going off their food. I learnt that I needed to talk to my son and asked him what was happening and what I should do for him, his reply was it was something he had to sort out himself and he would be embarrassed if I went marching up to the school to complain. 'It would make the bully worse' his words not mine.

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