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      26.12.2009 22:14
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      Here we are - my 200th review in around eighteen months of Dooyoo membership so, in the time honoured tradition, I have searched high and low for a Dooyoo-related topic that I haven't already covered! The topic I've chosen is Dooyoo's Circle of Friends function which is something that I actually regularly make use of, as a member who spends much more time on here reading and writing than actually writing.

      New members might wonder what the purpose of Dooyoo's Circle of Friends actually is. I suspect that many of them won't even have discovered their own yet, particularly new members who haven't yet discovered the delights of reading and rating other members' reviews. You can access your own Circle of Friends from the left hand site of your 'My Account' page and it is essentially a quick and easy way of keeping track of other members on the site, so that you can get to their reviews quickly without having to use the site's irritating and frustrating search function or scroll for pages of 'New Reviews' containing loads of churn.

      I suspect there may be some 'political' motivation for some members when they add other people to their 'COF', particularly now that the Dooyoo home page celebrates members for random achievements, one of which seems to be having X amount of friends who 'trust' them. I don't have a member photograph as my avatar so won't be listed on the homepage. My motivations for adding people are much simpler - it enables me to track people who write good reviews and, a major point for me, write about topics that usually interest me. I do tend to add people who are parents of young children, for example, as I spend a lot of time reading on the site and I prefer to read about baby/child related topics than, for example, XBox360 games or suchlike.

      I don't, however, restrict my reading to just people on my COF. I return received rates as a matter of courtesy and generally only go through my COF once a month or so, to catch reviews I might have missed otherwise or just for general browsing. I also regularly cull my list so that people who are no longer active on the site are removed, simply to avoid wasting my time clicking on other people's profiles when they have no new reviews. I tend to stick those people on 'alerts' which means that Dooyoo kindly notify me in a daily email whenever those people, particularly those who are infrequent review writers, have posted a new review. Please don't feel slighted if you're not 'on my list' - chances are if I read your reviews regularly anyway, you may well be on my alerts or just a member whose reviews I catch up with via return rating anyway.

      At the risk of sounding petty, I will also remove members that no longer seem to be rating other people on the site (not only myself but other members.) I think there has to be a level of reciprocity for the site to work well, particularly given the payment system which rewards member rates. I appreciate that not everybody agrees with the idea of 'return rating' but there needs to be time spent reading other people's reviews. I will add non-raters to my COF if I particularly enjoy their reviews but generally remove them after a couple of months if I notice that they aren't giving much back to the site. Admittedly, online 'friends' are not the same as real-life friends but I wouldn't want to be 'friends' with people who are essentially behaving selfishly.

      Despite what the above might suggest, I think the important thing is not to actually take the COF too seriously. I wouldn't, for example, immediately add somebody to my list if they add me or feel slighted if they don't return the 'compliment.' Unlike Ciao, there is no maximum number of friends that can be added but I like to keep my COF down to a manageable size so that I can work my way through it when I have the time and inclination. There is also no financial incentive in adding or being added to any COF so my advice would be simply to use it in any way that makes reading and rating other people's reviews as easy and enjoyable as possible.

      Right...Here's to my next 200 reviews...

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        27.05.2009 21:44
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        Circle of friends

        I read a hilarious review on this very topic today and while I have no intention of trying to match it I thought I would give my opinions on the idea of havng a circle of friends on Dooyoo.

        When you are on someone home page or reading on of their reviews there is always the option of adding them as a friend, it is a sort of demonstration that you trust and respect their opinions and appreciate the quality of their reviews. All you do is click on the add link and they will appear in your circle of friends. You can also set up e-mail alerts to advise you when they have written a review and once a day you get an e-mail from Dooyoo telling you who of your alerts have written a review and there is a link straight to it so you can decide whether you want to read it or not.

        Once you have added someone the link changes, click on it again and they will be removed from your circle, I have only had to do this a couple of times when one member got a bit creepy and a bit of a stalker and I also blocked their messages as well. The other was just a bully guide who tries to tell eveyone how to write and behave on the site.

        It is easy to set up a circle and there is no big deal about doing it, not as if you need to have lots of conversations or mutual rating it is more in my opinion a form of recognition for the good writers on the site who are not bullies or stalkers.

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          27.05.2009 10:20
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          Friends are not just for XMAS

          The important thing about the Circle of Friends is that it tells people you have read their reviews, or at least one of them and by adding them to your circle of friends it increases the chances of you getting some reads in return. Now you could call me a cynic but then I would call you a doody breath and name calling will not get us anywhere.

          The Circle of Friends is also an important way of measuring just how popular you are on the site, there are a couple of Billy no mates who have not added any friends at all, maybe they think they are being cool but those of us in the know understand that really they have insecurities about reaching out to others and making contact. I see a future of cat rearing and newspaper hoarding for these individuals and it is up to the rest of the community to reach out to these individuals.

          I do believe that Dooyoo is a community and one that can be harnessed for the greater good of mankind. I'm actively considering standing in the next general election as an independent candidate to fight injustice and also get my house done up as the garden fence is on its last legs. Just like my hero, the bloke from Dollar whose name escapes me but he is still my bestest hero, he is standing in Luton South however please do not vote for him as the existing MP's kid is at my school and if she loses the expenses where will the fees come from and then that is me out of work having to survive on an MP wage. Hang on that is more than a teacher, where is the justice in that. Anyway you my Dooyoo friends, and trust me you all will be when I need the cash will be the ones donating my deposit so I'm here to represent you.

          You should select the right people for your circle and not get miffed if the trust is not returned, I assume most people select friends who are extremely attractive and of the opposite sex who they want to mate with, that is why I have 69,000 women who have added me to their circle of friends while in return I have eyes only for Elise on the Dooyoo Team, the nude guide forum picture with her modesty only covered by day glow hippy paint has got me through many a lonely night while I groom the cats and organise my Guardian back issues. Both of these terms can be seen as euphemisms.

          Thanks for reading and remember to vote for me, you just have to hit the nominate button to register.

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            31.05.2006 09:16
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            Why it is called TRUST CIRCLE and Distrust circle.

            DOOYOO TRUSTED CIRCLE

            I trust my Mother, I trust my Father, I trust my Son, I trust my Daughter, why do I trust them, because I found out over a period of time they do not do me any harm and I love them, but always they give me right advise, they are kind to me when I am down, they encourage me when I am high.

            The biggest tip of choosing and trust friends on this site is his reviews and their meanings.

            Humans are the only known intelligent beings on this whole solar system, by virtue of this intelligence, he is offered a trust of this Earth, He is offered Domain over Plants, Land, Water, Animals and other things known and unknown.

            Human beings accepted the trust to speak good, give good advise, be kind, be truthful, be helpful, be polite, be constructive, that is the reason all these deeds are called human and deceit, cheating, lying etc., are called inhuman or devilish.

            Now this mantle of being good is given to us all who are born, whether he is aware of it or weather he is like a Buffalo, sit where you want, do what you want. Still only humans know what is the meaning of doing good, no other creature is aware of the meaning of trust, we are capable of passing good from one to the other. We are sole beings know what is trust and know how to trust. Know how to be trust worthy.

            Lets proceed further, the saying SPEAK GOOD OR KEEP QUIET, why we are just told to speak good or keep quiet, because we know instinctively what is the meaning of good, it is not religion or education or any other thing which makes us aware of goodness, it is inborn, it is self contained in ourselves, we all know what is good, we all know how to do good, we all know what actions has good results, we are born with full psychology, our learning as a child is only vocational but all our feelings and reactions are instinct.

            Not everyone can be a scientist, not everyone can be a Piano player, but without arguments everyone can be good, we don’t need colour, education, money, looks, position to be good, we are born good. The world and the living makes us bad. We are all one, there is no difference between anybody's DNA, no arguments please science has spoken, let the proof speak and lies shut up.

            Because of above facts, we judge others by the piece of meat in our SKULL, we find some people are being true to their nature, so we trust them, they are frank, truthful and speak in clear words, words of advice. Their words can be analyzed by us to be true or false, we trust them for their integrity, their ideal makes us trust them. We admire their help giving qualities, we admire their being HUMANS.

            So we add them to our trust list, even in real life, I have a trust list in my brain, I have it since my childhood, I look at people, I listen to people I think over their words and I start trusting them, so also we can do on DOOYOO, it is the pulse of the review writer which makes you trust them, their heart beating to give you good advise is trustable.

            Some people do not see beyond their noses, they do not think about others, how will they benefit me by thinking about themselves, so we are duplicating our real life experience on DOOYOO, people who live upto their trust and trust of their fellow humans are remembered beyond their death. Those people are respected and loved even after their death, they are alive with us.

            We will become dust one day, before that day earn some good deeds, your good deeds will outlive you. I am so happy to write reviews because I am able to talk about my experience of products, I am able to discuss the faults, this is a good deed, if DOOYOO outlive me, my reviews will still be there to be read by others. Even otherwise I am getting practice to do good thru DOOYOO, once this becomes a habit in my nature, I will start doing good away from DOOYOO.

            There is an end to everything my review is nearing its end, these are my poor efforts to highlight some meanings of trust list and distrust list on DOOYOO.

            Life as it is will push you every day in a situation where you will have to make a trust or distrust decision, be it product, business, people, places, books, things, emotions, food, medicine, theories, speeches, magazines, personalities and life goes on and on there are miles to go before I sleep.

            Yo loose trust in a jiffy gaining trust takes years.

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              30.09.2004 20:22
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              • "My ring is dilated"

              You want to get inside my ring, don’t you? If there’s one thing you can get pleasure from on Dooyoo it’s folks trying to penetrate your ring. Of course, you may think that this is just an excuse for a cheap euphemism and..erm..actually you’d be right. Noooooooo…..let’s get serious and put all thoughts bum related to one side for a few minutes. So you're new on this old fangled and broken down sorta site and are feeling a bit isolated…what you gonna do? Well, you could always find the “circle of friends” button on other writers’ profile pages. Once found and clicked, that person will appear on your profile as a “friend of” and bob’s your uncle, you don’t feel so isolated any more. This works both ways, of course, with people slipping you into their ring too.

              “What’s the point?”
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              Well, what’s the point of anything, really? Hmmm…maybe that’s a bit philosophical. The point is that you can use the COF to mean anything you want really. If you simply want to feel inclusion and a bit of validation (psycho-babble, I know) then surrounding yourself with a few online friends may help. I mean, it’s all a bit Frasier-esque in a way but people really do take it that seriously tha knows.

              Alternatively, you may want it to mean that the people on your list write opinions that you trust and that’s fine too. They may write consistently good movie reviews or maybe you like their opinions about toilet paper and other household products. It doesn’t really matter as long as you respect their stuff. Adding them to your COF may make it easier to look them up in future or even trigger an e-mail from Dooyoo that they have written another review assuming you’ve clicked the notification option on their profile. Personally, I’m not so keen on this as it kinda feels like you’re being forced to read stuff. Then again, I can be a bit random at times. Quite frankly, I like randomness (is that a proper word?). From memory, one e-mail arrives daily listing the writers whose opinion you’ve opted to be reminded of and that’s cool if that’s what you want.

              “How big should your ring be?”
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              One of the big differences between rival sites Ciao.co.uk and Dooyoo is that there are no limits on Dooyoo. Ciao now calls it’s equivalent a buddy list (formerly “circle of trust”) but restricts the number to 100. There is no limit to how people can enter your ring on Dooyoo but this brings mixed reaction from seasoned members. Some say that having a limit stops people filling up their ring simply to attract reciprocal reads whereas others don’t like being restricted in this way. Maybe they are simply so nice that they want lots and lots of cyber friends or perhaps they’re just folks that can’t say no (a bit like a former girlfriend of mine...well, with other fellas anyway). Who knows but it’s the old conundrum of whether folks are adopting tactics that will gain reads or being genuine about their ring. To be honest, there are bigger fish in the world’s sea to fry but it can be life and death to some and flame mail has been known to be sent to those appearing to whore themselves by having a disproportionately large ring. "Whore" is such an unpleasant word.

              “How do I choose my friends?”
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              To be honest I haven’t got any. Then again, that’s real life and I really must buy an effective deodorant. Notwithstanding my own problems, I have had people in and out of my COF in my life and times on Dooyoo. I generally put those writers who write well in my ring but I have been known to slip those in that I’ve taken a shine too anyway. Oh, you know, the odd compliment that may have been paid offline or a suitably placed fiver. Predominantly, it is writers that write well, though.

              Conversely, you can take people out of your COF by clicking the same link as that mentioned above. This has the reverse effect. I do like to scour my list from time to time (as I’ve nothing better to do) and if the writer has become dormant by being AWOL for a few months then I may delete them from my records and possibly my online life. In fact, they may cease to exist and simply fade away forever. Again, I’m grossly exaggerating but this is important stuff, you know?

              Then again, there will be people who are shy at using the COF facility. It may be that they worry that inclusion in a COF amounts to the same thing as an arranged marriage or they may simply not like anyone. In the grand scheme of things, it don’t really matter but then if the facility is there, maybe it should be used. It’s a bit like a story I always remember a teacher of mine telling in assembly one day. He stood up, plunged his arm into a goldfish bowl full of water rather theatrically, water cascaded all over the stage. As everyone in the audience looked at each other wondering whether he had just ceremonially executed some goldfish (don’t worry, there wasn’t any in there), he went on to make his point that life was just like that i.e. you only get out what you put in. The more you put in, the more you get out, hence the water pouring out all of over the stage. Oh well, I thought it was poignant at the time.

              “Should you say thank you?”
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              Ach, it’s up to you, innit? I find the thread format stops me thanking peeps for slipping me into their ring although others do get around this minor barrier. If you look at the rival site, Ciao, you eeeeeven get 80 community points to add to your burgeoning community score. As Dooyoo doesn’t bother with this sort of sham then you don’t get anything but it’s still worth participating for the reasons above.

              If I was a shallow person I could use this as a retrospective thank you to all those people that have deigned to put me in their COF over my approaching 3 years on the site…erm…..thanks you lot.

              Marandina




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                16.08.2002 07:07
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                "Circle of Friends". Such a pleasant phrase, which conjures a cosy feeling of togetherness. Yet it means different things to different dooyoo members. Some people regard it as a useful list of people whose ops they do not want to miss. Others regard it as a reciprocal read vehicle. I have noticed that quite a few people have commented that they don't know why it is there at all. There are members who have a discreet list of a few chosen ones and some who have a much longer list. We musn't forget one famous member who puts everyone in his "ring". :-) Having read a few good ops on this subject and found that my comment on each was probably very similar, this is an attempt to put things as I see them. Also, hopefully, to enlighten new members on this, at times, confusing subject. I know that when I first began reading on dooyoo I found that I liked the comments made by someone so much that I put them in my circle even though I hadn't found any of their reviews to read yet. There was no ulterior motive, just embarrassment when the protocol was explained to me. I value my Circle of Friends and try to read the ops of everyone named in it, because it is an important baseline from which I start my reading and rating. As with many things, I work on reaction. I find a writer who's ops please me so much that I begin to look for them. So I do things the easy way, click on the "Add to your Circle of Friends" link (this is found beneath the short list of other COF names on the member's profile page), and then click on the "Inform Me of New Opinions by this Member" link below that. From then on dooyoo will inform me by email when my chosen names have posted a new opinion. I was surprised to see that I have 40 names on my treasured list. It also gives me pleasure to see when someone else has added me to their COF. It is flattering and I really do say aloud "Ooh! Thanks Matey
                ". Such is the relationship with my 'puter, that I talk to it sometimes. The names in my COF are there because I really do enjoy reading their reviews. They don't have to be particularly long to please me, or necessarily often crowned. Some people have an original way with words, or an individual turn of phrase and I know that some will make me laugh out loud, which is a good way to start the day. Many will think as I do on contraversial subjects, others I will disagree with at times but find my eyes glued to the page because of the darn good writing. One of my COF members writes in such a way that at times I almost recognise my own fingers on the keyboard and I have a feeling that we would get on if we met. Now who could that be, you wonder? The writers I appreciate most often let me see into their personality, probably without knowing it. Sometimes there are surprises as I recognise between the lines of a seemingly mundane subject a compassion or depth which I hadn't recognised before. That is nice. Then there are dooyooers who I like to read, but are not in my Circle of Friends. The only reason would be that their ops are predominantly on a subject I know little about or am not particularly interested in. With my policy of reading all the ops where possible in my COF it would defeat the object of the exercise if I spent time reading reviews on subjects which I would not normally pick out, just because they were by people in my circle. My Circle of Friends gives a pleasant order to my dooyooing. Regular reads of these people help me to get to know them and many of them read my own reviews as well. Thus, indirectly, there is dialogue. It is a little like joining a social gathering. You look around and see a group of friends whose conversation you will enjoy and be able to happily take part in, so you grab a G&T and join them. As the evening progresses the chat moves gently from humour to
                debate, the gathering becomes larger and a good time is had by all. Of course I read others than those in my COF. Once I have been through the list I have noted from the emails, I wander down the new ops and reciprocate those who have been kind enough to pop into my own writing. Thus I meet new people and also find some surprises. This evening I read an op by someone I hadn't seen before and thought was new. There before me was a list of crowned reviews. How had I missed them? Proof that we must move outside our COF's if we are to expand into the Community which is dooyoo. To summarise, I believe that there is much value in our Circle of Friends, if it is established with care and used. I can see no point in listing a multitude of writers who we have little intention of reading. So, if you are a new member wondering about the "People who I trust" and "People who trust me" list on the bottom of your profile, this in my view is what it is about. Read around the site and rate other people's opinions. As you become familiar with the site and begin to look for favourite writers who you do not want to miss, click on their names and you will be taken into their profile page. Click on the instruction to add them to your Circle of Friends and then to be informed when they have written a new review. Keep the list to a workable amount and take it from there. Enjoy.

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                  12.08.2002 00:34
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                  This is perhaps the most confusing aspect of the Dooyoo website. Some of you may be surprise at this comment but let me explain. I do not mean confusing in the sense that it is difficult to operate, maintain or even aspire to, but difficult in the sense that what does it actually do? We are all very happy to call Dooyoo are local community, and by no means am I suggesting that this is not true, Dooyoo is innovative, creative and welcoming, but to what extent is it a community and to what extent are the people in our circles of friends; friends. Setting up a circle of friends is extremely straightforward and operating it is even easier. I only have a few select members in my circle of friends and I recommend you doing the same, just because you decide to befriend every member on the website, doesn' necessarily mean that they will befriend you too. But is setting up a circle of friends the best way to get yourself noticed on the Dooyoo website. I would say that writing quality, well informed opinions was the most decisive and insured way to get recognised and respected but leaving comments even if you don' leave a rating will get you noticed and clever comments left on your own and other people' opinion will see you getting befriended and trusted in no time, or so it would seem. Setting up a circle of friends is not something that happens overnight and you are never reassured that just because you befriend someone, they will return the favour, no not at all and I find that the people who read my opinions the most frequently aren' even in my circle of friends, more often than not, the are people who want to be in it. But I'm sure that every Dooyoo member has their own techniques and outlooks on how to get noticed and make 'friends' at Dooyoo so I won't simply regurgitate past remarks and comments on the this aspect of Dooyoo that you have probably read many times before. This opinion is more
                  on what the circle of friends is and whether it is actually worth even setting it up. I have set up a circle of friends but I have never really sat down and used it. For instance I say King Herrod is my friend, but that doesn't mean that I read all his opinions, in-fact I only read the ones, which catch my eye, so does the circle of friends even work. In addition I feel that the circle of friends is a gateway to invite the notorious clicking cartels to our prevailed online society. These members will befriend the best at Dooyoo and rate all their opinions very useful even if they start producing rubbish. This will result in poorly, inaccurately rated opinions, which help neither the consumer nor the writer's image. This leads me to question whether or not the actual system which upholds the Dooyoo circle of friends scheme even works. I found as a young upstart months ago on Dooyoo that even when I was producing top crowned opinions, and rating reviews, other member wouldn't even give me the time of day because I had very little friends and the friends that I did have were rookies too. This kind of snobbish attitude only really broke after I surpassed the 50-opinion mark. It therefore seems that at Dooyoo, a writer statistics are everything, like in the offline world, who he knows and what he has done in the past is more important than his aspirations, who he wants to know and what he is actually doing in the present. Please do not leave this opinion thinking that I have totally disregarded the morals and inspirations which the circle of friends system has strived to enforce, I believe that Dooyoo are innovative and exciting, always looking for new ideas to promote and invigorate the site, perhaps it is just the fact that the community is not yet ready for a community of FRIENDS; can a collection of writers and readers who have never met or even acknowledged each other be called a community of friends? Perhaps it is a
                  shameless wordplay promotion by Dooyoo, or maybe it is a sincere institution to uphold better standards at the site, whatever it is, it lacks in zest and co-operation, how many of you readers use all the functions of the circle of friends such as email alerts and other integrations, the sad truth is that, as soon as we leave the site and our desks, we no longer become the green Dooyoo, consumer conscious literates, instead we return to the offline world, with all our offline friends.

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                    Style you either got it or you haven’t, well not really we all have our own individual style and who is to say what is right or wrong, helpful or not helpful? When it come to setting up your Dooyoo circle of friends this is just the case, different people have VERY different methods and reasons. You won’t need to have been here long to meet Mr.Youareallmyfriends! As soon as he/she sees your name you are added to their COF and they have a list as long as the recent queues in London have been. I assume the reason for this is to get their name onto as many profile pages as possible and to get noticed which undeniably does work. Although I’m not so sure in the long term it actually makes friends or helps build up trust. That has not been my way here on Dooyoo so I’d like to tell you how I have managed my COF. I joined Dooyoo at my daughters suggestion, she knows I am fairly opinionated and am happy to share it with others, well she’s been on the receiving end in the past! Also at that time a couple of other family members were on site and therefore I quickly had a few people I knew I could put onto my COF. Whichever way I looked at it I knew they were good choices as they were already friends and I knew them to be 100% trustworthy. Fantastic I couldn’t fail, if only it had all been that easy! After writing just a few opinions I began to recognise a couple of names and they left me welcoming, encouraging comments so off I went and read a few of the things they had written. I found I rather liked them, I wont say I thought them to be the greatest writers in fact more than anything they made me smile. Now I don’t ask a lot out of life but a good smile always cheers me right up! So I added them to my COF and continued to read their ops and they mine. So far so good. More names were becoming familiar and I added more to my COF although I have never added people by the score, I think the highest nu
                    mber I have had on my COF is about 35. The only reason I ever added people (with the exception of those I knew already) was because I like their writing style and they seemed to be active on site. So now having been here for 9 months can I tell you how I have found my approach has worked and point out the mistakes I made? 1. Think about what you are setting up and why, your idea on this will form the type of COF you make. If like some you just want quantity then so be it but if you want quality take your time, chose carefully. I did make mistakes and added one or two names too quickly after only reading an op or two that I liked. One person comes to mind who I soon realised wrote mainly ops in categories that frankly I had no interest in and found it laborious to read. We had nothing in common even in the tiny world of Dooyoo and so after a while I quietly took them off. 2. Think about what adding them will mean to you, are you committing yourself to reading all their ops? Well I certainly try to although I do leave the odd one out if I really can’t face the topic, to be honest there aren’t many days I can be bothered to sit and read about loo paper! So check out the type of ops you will be reading and don’t add people that write mainly about computer games if you have no interest or that write mainly on Speakers Corner if you are only interested in film and music. I’m not saying you have to read all of any ones ops but for me that is part of the commitment I feel I am making. 3. I’m sure others will disagree with me but I know I am influenced by what I feel lies behind the writer. So read their profile, do they seem like the sort of person you would want to chat to if you met them elsewhere? In no way am I saying they have to share all your ideals and beliefs well not many profiles would tell you that much any way! It is just that for me if someone says they are into some
                    thing that is totally against my beliefs (Christian) then I know I may find it hard to read some of their ops. So if for example a profile began by saying they were into witchcraft I would not add them to my COF. If a profile led me to believe they were agnostic, atheist, Muslim, Jew then I would probably look forward to reading some ops that although I may disagree with would give me scope to add my comments! 4. Do I and should you expect your COF to read your opinions? Well I think adding someone to my COF in no way gives me an expectation of reads just as if I see someone has added me I don’t feel obliged to read their ops. Curiosity may cause me to take a look and see if I have been added for a reason or if I am simply one on hundreds! I would say here though that I am loathed to add anyone to my COF who doesn’t read many ops, never mind whose they are. To my mind being an active site member means reading as well as writing and I want active members on my list so if you don’t read I don’t add you. Please let me say again though I’m not saying if you don’t read my ops I won’t add you, that’s your personal choice but please read someone’s! 5. Is the COF cast in stone never to be changed or updated? Well of course it is not although I don’t mess about with mine all that much. If someone hasn’t been on site for months and months I would email them if I could and see if all as well. If they didn’t intend to write again I would take them of my COF but click the option to be informed of any new opinions they may write in the future. I did also take a member of me COF off a few weeks ago when after a long while it became clear to me that I really couldn’t trust them, they would leave a comment then after a while leave another retracting the first! In my mind they had shown themselves to be untrustworthy and so as my list is of those I trust I did (with a deg
                    ree of sadness) remove them. 6. A COF member says they are leaving what do I do? Not a lot as 99 time out of 100 they don’t go far or for long, you know who you are! Others though I would take seriously and if they really did leave well of course I would remove them although not to quickly. In fact some of my family members that were here already have gone and to be honest they are still on my COF as it feels funny to remove them, but that is just me being sill so perhaps I will soon. Another one of my COF has recently left and I am waiting to see if he really means it (or will he tire quickly of the opposition?!) if he does then I will remove him but keep an eye open in case he returns one day. 7. How do I feel when others add me to their COF? Well sometimes quite chuffed and other times mystified! If someone adds me because they have read a few of my ops, enjoyed them and probably left comments then I am encouraged and I do take it as a compliment. If someone adds me and every profile I go to I notice they have added them too well I take no notice really. I certainly do not just return the favour and add the one I have just been added to nor would I expect others to do that for me. Of course it often happens that people are on each others lists as is natural really. 8. How do I rate my COF opinions? Well fairly I trust! I am not one that rates everything VU for the sake of it and although it can be hard to give a friend a low rating,if I do I would tell them why. I recently added some one to my list because I enjoy his writing and his way of thinking but I do not always find his ops VU. So I rate as I find and I still do, no problem for me or my COF, I hope! So to the merits and draw backs. For me one of the merits of building a COF is that I have begun to think of many of them as just that, friends. I like the fact that my list spans all ages and many different beliefs and life sty
                    les, they are not all of a like mind with me! The experiences of my COF are in many cases vastly different to my own but that adds to the interest, if they were all like me I know how boring that would be!! It has given me a base, when I log on I look down the list of newest ops and search (amongst the chunners) for COF first and then others whose names I know and I read them followed by others on topics that sound interesting. Then I look through others and am always happy to read new writers and to greet new members; I know how encouraging I found the welcomes. I do also from time to time go through my COF to try to catch any of their ops that I may have missed. I don’t think there are any real disadvantages to the COF system, there is freedom to choose how you use it and therefore hopefully each member gets what they want from it. I have a felling a couple of people may use it a bit like kids with their party invitations, do you know what I mean? One day it’s “You’re my best friend, you can come to my party!” the next it’s “ You’re not coming I don’t like you”. Now I hope you read that bit in a whiney, grizzly child’s tone!! It seems to me (correct me in the comments if I’m wrong) that Dooyoo is about consumers getting advice (yea!) and fun.So do it my way or do it your own way let’s enjoy ourselves and try to encourage one another by reading, rating and leaving those oh so lovely comments!

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                      it's obvious she's a whoare - Advantages: it's obvious you are a whoare - Disadvantages: it gives me no info, why, who

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                      I wonder if my opinion will be locked for using whore in the title. VicReeves used whore in a title, but he is a category guide and they can get away with murder. I hope it is okay to say whore because I wouldn't like to be locked for saying whore. Trust, friendship, what are they? Am I supposed to only put my friends in my circle of friends? None of my friends are members of Dooyoo so how could I put them in my circle? Is it okay to use lots of questions in an opinion, and to say whore? How can I say that I ~don't~ trust someone? If I don't add someone to my circle then they are not among those who I trust, meaning by definition that I don't trust them. If I read an opinion and don't add the writer to my trust list then it means I didn't trust their opinion. Surely that would mean I have to give a not useful rating to anyone whose opinions I don't trust? How could it be of any use if I didn't trust it? I like making friends. I like to have lots of friends. By saying that someone is my friend through their inclusion in my circle I am inviting their friendship. If they do not add me to their circle then I have to believe that they don't want to be my friend. Why do people not want to be my friend? I am nice. I had a budgie and he was my friend, he would have added me to his circle if the cat hadn't eaten him. Maybe if Dooyoo were to change the words to "My list of favourite bestest opinioners" or "My list of people who I want to suck up to" then things would be different. As it stands now it is friends and trust. I trust people, I am a trusting person. I like making friends also. You tell me why I shouldn't add everyone to my circle, are people here not trustworthy? Are they not good enough to be my friends? I aim to have the biggest circle on Dooyoo. If you are not in it please don't be offended, I just haven't got around to adding you yet. I tr
                      ust you all, and I want you to be my friend. Is there anything wrong with that? Here is my advice on setting up a big circle of friends. (1) Add new members to your list daily. They are just friends that you haven't met yet. (2) Find the most read opinions on dooyoo and click on the who has rated part. Add everyone who has rated. (3) Find some very old opinions and see who has rated them, add them to your circle. (4) Add everyone who reads your opinions. (5) Check through the latest opinions listing for people who you haven't yet added. Add them. (6) Find other lists such as the guides list and the hall of fame list and add everyone. Lets be friends, I do trust you all, even although I'm just an old whore.

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                        Three recent incidents arising from my use of the Circle of Friends (COF) facility changed my mind on wanting to post this opinion. I wrote it some time ago and thought that it wasn't up to my usual standard, so just left it to moulder in my 'Miscellaneous File'. These 'incidents' are included below and I shall be interested to see what response, if any, I get from the opinion. I cannot recall having read any of the other opinions in this category, so you will obviously get a very personal viewpoint. Anything stated here that has been stated elsewhere will just be another case of "Snap !" with me and whoever else thinking the same thing, albeit at different times. The Category 'blab' (as I term it), is quite straightforward : "Can you help others to set up their own circle of friends? Can you point out the merits of the system or do you find it has its drawbacks? " "Circle of Friends ?" To be perfectly honest I do not use this facility as a 'Circle of Friends' and I reckon that anyone who uses it purely for that purpose is missing out on the more useful features of the facility. Well, to be truthful, I suppose most of those that I do regard as "friends" are there, but I do try to keep numbers on my COF down to about 100 - a very arbitrary number, but one that I can deal with as a 'resource'. Thus, I will have a periodic 'cull' of names with whom I am no longer communicating, or, without wishing to appear rude - shall we say - "interested in", or whose opinions I no longer find 'attractive'. There is no guarantee that I will keep the number at 100 and may soon reduce it to 80. OK, there are within my COF a group that I would hope to describe as true 'cyber-friends' (and I reckon that those who are will know it!) but certainly not everyone there in my COF could be regarded
                        really as a 'friend'. Who is in ? So, what is it that makes me add a character to my 'list' ? Well the most common and frequent reasons are quite simple : 1 I read an opinion by someone that I reckon is a really "interesting" opinion, and I will want to refer back to it relatively frequently over a few days to follow the Comment thread that I hope will develop. As I have indicated elsewhere, it is the Comment threads that I find one of the most interesting parts of the DooYoo experience. You will note that I did NOT say a "good" opinion. Sometimes it is an opinion that I do not agree with and, as is my wont, I will say so pretty firmly in the Comment thread. I will want to keep up with the argument on the Thread, so this is the easy way to do it, is it not? By having someone at or near the top of your COF, you can very easily visit their most recent opinions by clicking on their name on your COF and entering their front page. It is interesting, (in my experience) with the warped way that life operates, that some of those with whom I start off 'with daggers drawn', eventually become 'real friends' (and again you will know who YOU are !). For this purpose, I should say that "friendship" means discussions via direct email and, on occasions, meetings when either I am in their area, or they are in mine. OK, I will admit it ! I will go further and say that there are also small handful of DooYooers who are really 'not my glass of Guinness' and not infrequently we 'fall out'. Thus do I, on occasions put their names in my COF, just to 'offend' them? Do I? No! Certainly NOT! That is an exaggeration. Firstly, it does require an opinion to be posted for me to read, and I will (genuinely) want to go back to the opinion to continue commenting (so I will put the character on my COF as indicated above). All quit
                        e logical, I would have thought, but about 2 weeks' ago, but one harridan actually emailed me and 'demanded' that I should remove her name from my COF!!! So what did I do ? Naturally I did so and pronto ! If someone is so 'unstable' as to resort to such pettiness, I want to steer well-clear ! Not that this will totally discourage my doing the same thing again at some point. After all, I have cage-rattled for Wales, England, Scotland and Northern Ireland at various times in my career and cannot easily give up the habit.... 2 On occasions, I will see an opinion which is really good from a name that I do not recognise. I will put that name in my COF, and also make a note of the name in my 'puter notebook. Then I will come back and read/rate a whole lot more of that character's opinions. Similar to point 1 above, but just a bit different. 3 On other occasions, someone will leave a stimulating comment on my Comments thread and again I shall want to go back and read some of their opinions. Putting them on the COF and making a suitable note is a good way of achieving this, particularly if time is short. However, I try not to engage in reciprocal COF-ing ("you be my friend and I'll be yours", sort of thing). Each situation should be judged on their merits. In saying this, I do try and make a considered judgement when my name appears on someone else's COF. Yes, I do go back and reciprocate and read one or two of their opinions. If there is any aspect of their opinions or comments which shows any indication at all of the person being depressed or upset in any way, then I will offer words of comfort and consider reciprocating and putting them in my COF. Together I believe that we can help others in this way, and I try to let this feature over-ride any other consideration. 4 OK, there are about 6 characters whose opinions I try to 'catch' as often as I possibly can. With these
                        I may on occasions remove them from my COF and then immediately re-instate them, so that they are nearer the top of my list. This enables me to check their recent opinions out much more easily, as indicated above - particularly if I have been away for a few days. 5 Occasionally I will find a brand new DooYooer who looks 'promising'. These immediately do go onto my COF. In the same way, I will always go up to a stranger on their own in a room where I am attending a function. Such displays of comradeship can go a long way to easing someone's first faltering steps. Sometimes you will find that the new 'un is a seasoned (usually disillusioned) Ciao-ch, but hell - civility costs nowt ! 6 Always when I include anyone on my COF, I also activate the extremely useful facility to inform me of new opinions by that DooYooer. And when I clear out my COF, I always leave that facility 'enabled' - to establish which of the 'usual suspects' are writing each day. What about the others ? The way other established DooYooers go about their COF's can be quite intriguing. 7 Some are real DooYoo whores (of both sexes) and soon have upwards of 500 names on their COF. C'mon guys 'n gals, you don't fool anyone !!! 8 Others will go so far as to put no-one on their COF (admittedly that is extreme!). But a significant number seem to use it, as a 'Circle of Friends' in the literal sense and you will not stand a chance of appearing on it, no matter what you do in the way of posting good opinions, reading/rating theirs and making stimulating comments. Or it requires you to post a number of really excellent opinions in that Dooyooer’s speciality category. OK, if that is your 'bag', so be it - it don't worry me. 9 However, taking the point made in 8 above, I would say that some of these who keep the number down in their COF's intrigue me. I have already
                        had one of those (no naming!) who actually contacted me and asked why I had removed their name from my COF. Considering that she had a couple of hundred or more in her 'trusting' list but she only had fewer than 20 in her 'trusted' list (that had never included my name), I did find this enquiry rather strange.... and I did not respond to the email ... Similarly, a more recent comment was made by someone (whose opinions I have read frequently) that thanked me for including them in my COF, but quizzing me on why it had taken me so long to include them in my COF? In fact I had done so because the opinions are of a high standard and IMHO some are capable of being marketed to a newspaper/magazine group. Thus I wanted that name on my COF, so I could refer rapidly to their opinions. Again this DooYooer has a rather select 'arty-farty' bunch in her COF, that is never likely to include a hairy-ar*ed scientist fellow like me, so I just could not really figure out the point of the comment .... Another 'amusing incident' that I recall was in my early days, when I made a supportive comment on an anti-monarchy opinion. I included in that a rather flippant observation of 'Saint' Diana. A day or two later, I noticed that I had been kicked off five COF's .... Setting up Your Own Circle of Friends I reckon that I have indicated above the various reasons I have for including specific people in your COF. It is up to you to decide on the criteria YOU adopt. There is also little point in getting yourself into a lather when those who you have put into your COF don't reciprocate. It is one of the freedoms that we have in life - to choose who we list and those who we don't, and to choose our reasons for doing so.... The merits of the system for my purposes speak for themselves, but perhaps it is difficult to provide a name for the 'service' (other than "
                        ;COF") that describes all of its uses and merits. As regards drawbacks, well yes, there are some. It does take a devil of a long time to carry out a 'cull'. You will have to visit each front page, and remove them individiually. How much better to 'zap' them a half-dozen or so at a time !!! There will be some who may get upset when a 'friendship' in any guise is not reciprocated and I reckon that it can rankle. Improvements ? Well, apart from giving a means for 'kwick kulling', perhaps it would be useful to have different categories of 'Friendship', with say a short list of up to 10 'real friends', and the facility to post another list of 'the favoured'. However, that could however lead to even more back-biting by some of the stranger characters we have on the site, could it not? Ah well ..... © Sidneygee 2002

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                          Dear me. I have just realised today, how far behind I am with my reads for my circle of friends. Yeah, I know you're all probably thinking why isn't she reading instead of typing this well the whole circle of friends thing is a pain in the bum... no I don't mean I don't want any friends, I think you're all fab, I really do (hello, otherwise you would not be in it) but I start feeling guilty if I've only read three of your opinions when you've read ten of mine. I think when you first join the site, you're like 'HEY be my friend PLEASE' and sometimes this can lead you to have people in your circle just for the sake of a few reads. I for one won't do that, remember if they are boring or you simply don't like the way they write you are making a cross for your own back, when you get to their name on your list. Some people write very long detailed ops once in a while.Others write shorter ops everyday. Just because you enjoyed ONE of their opinions doesn't mean you're going to enjoy the other 1000. So make sure that you read a fairly wide range of a person's work before you commit to being a regular reader. You can always tell when someone's just added your name on the offchance. Dooyoo should be fun and part of that is the communication that goes on between users. Decide on a number and stick to it. If you think you can only manage to 'stay on top of' (LOL, Sorry Kay- ism) twenty five readers then fine, so be it. Make sure that people who reciprociate your trust get a perk. I try to read two more opinions per reading session at least if this is the case. Realise that being in someone's circle does not guarentee a very useful or crown nomination. I try to rate fairly whoever or however I much I like a person. Have patience, sometimes it takes a person AGES to consider you C O F material. Don't take it so personally, ultimately it is
                          just a way of us all keeping in touch with the people we enjoy reading.

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                            The circle of friends (COF) can be a very useful tool on Dooyoo, but unfortunately no one ever explains how to use it. The upshot of this is a lot of misunderstanding; although people complain of abuse, the reality is you can use your COF in (just about) any way you want. Without guidance, many people neglect it. Indeed, I'd admit that I may not have made the best use of it myself, but I've recently changed how I use mine. Here, I thought I'd offer some ideas and tips for others that might be useful. The absolute basics: In case you don't know (as may be the case for newbies) the COF is a place where you can list your favourite writers for easy access. When you're at the profile of someone you like (having read a couple of their opinions, for example) you'll find a link on the right 0f centre just above their COF saying 'Add member name to your Circle of Friends'. Clicking on this link will do just that, when you return to your profile, you'll find the member listed under people you trust. Also on your profile, you'll find a list of people who trust you, which is kinda nice to know, but something with little meaning over which you have no control. Only the top three members of your COF are shown, but more can be displayed, 20 at a time. These links can be a handy way of finding your favourite writers quickly. It's worth noting though that all this information is public, and you may be judged on it. What to do and not to do. Many new members ignore the COF, which seems like wasted potential. Others, once they work it out, start adding everyone in the hope those members come and read their opinions. These users are commonly called 'trust whores' and it's worth noting it doesn't always work - I have email notifications of all ratings I receive and if I see someone's added me to their COF without reading any of my opinions, I'll probably ignore them. For the
                            COF to be truly manageable, you have to keep it to a reasonable number. How many you think you can keep up with is up to you. Many members maintain a COF of around 40, and aim to read all new opinions by those writers. Some are more select, and may only include, say, five, whereas others may have 100 people in their COF. None of these approaches is wrong, find a number that's about right for you. Incidentally, if you have added too many people to your COF, it need not be unusable. Unfortunately, there's no 'remove all' button, and removing 400 names one by one may seem too time consuming. My advise would be to leave them there. Pick a 'real' COF of 40 or so people, and add those (removing them first if necessary) - those 40 will appear at the top of COF so you can then use it as if it was just 40 people and ignore the 400 mistakes below altogether... What does it mean once you've added someone to your COF? Well, it certainly doesn't mean you have to read ALL their opinions. Try thinking of the people in your COF as like 'real life friends' though, and reading each others' opinions (and perhaps commenting) as 'talking'. If you don't want to read their opinions, and they don't read yours, ask yourself whether this person should be in your COF... Who should you add? Well, the normal way (I think) is coming to Dooyoo not knowing people (or maybe one or two friends who referred you). As you read around the site, however, you're likely to find writers who, for whatever reason, you like. You may find their opinions fantastically informative, funny, well written or just that they share your interest (e.g. a certain type of music). Any of these reasons (and more) could make someone a candidate for inclusion in your COF. Normally I consider adding a member after reading several of their opinions over some period of time. Hopefully they will reciprocate, friendship is more likel
                            y if it's mutual, but that they don't read/like my opinions won't stop me trusting someone if theirs are good. Similarly, I feel no obligation to add someone to my COF because they've added me. Although it's natural sometimes to judge people by their friends, this temptation should be resisted sometimes. Afterall, you don't know why someone has so and so in their COF. It may look strange to see someone trusted who hasn't written any opinions. Well, they could be known by each other personally (off-site) or just from elsewhere, such as Ciao, writtenbyme, etc. On Ciao, for example, I might look like a bit of a 'trust whore' because I tend to trust anyone I know from here. Like I say, that may look bad, but you can use the COF any way that's good for you - on Ciao I want different things from it and so use it differently, that's no less right than my more selective approach on Dooyoo. Personally, in fact, I used to be extremely selective on Dooyoo. Some people might write brilliant opinions, but if I wasn't particularly interested, I wouldn't add them to my COF. Over time, however, I found users I regularly exchanged reads with. At first, I kept them out of my COF until I was really sure they were ready to enter my personal elite. Now I add people more often, after all, a trust is simply saying to someone 'I like your opinions, and I like you'. It doesn't mean anything really significant, and if I made a mistake I can always remove someone (though it's best not to repeatedly add and remove people, I do regularly 'prune' my COF, removing inactive users and so on). I must stress though that there are many reasons for adding someone to your COF. You shouldn't think it wrong to have 200 people, or add someone who only writes useful/somewhat useful opinions - there can be legitimate reasons for this. I might want to include plenty of good writers covering all categorie
                            s so I can order any opinions I'm browsing by COF (rather than simply usefulness). Also if I find someone who seems to share my tastes in music almost exactly, I'll want to refer to his opinions on CDs even if they wouldn't normally be all that informative. And then what? I'll just give a few pointers on using your COF. When I add someone to mine, I normally request to be notified if they write new opinions (although I do this for many not in my COF too). This way it's easy to keep up with when they write new opinions without having to regularly browse 40 or so profile pages. I don't often use my actual COF list to locate them to be honest. I use member searches, the Dooyoo bookmarklet, or a recent link (since normally we regularly read each other). Some people have said it would be handy to have a COF drop down. I don't think this is really necessary - open your COF list, then use right click to open them in turn in new windows... I don't take the COF *too* seriously. As I say, it's really just an informal way of saying you like someone and their opinions as far as I'm concerned. It's for that reason I try to read new opinions by my friends, but there's no obligation. Similarly, it makes little difference to me whether someone is officially in my COF or not, I know in my head many writers I like (or don't) and I have different 'levels' as it were in my COF too.

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                              OOh another happy costumer - or is it?? O.k. so what exactly is this “adding to my circle of friends list” all about anyway. Nothing? Anything? Everything? There are just 3 of the possible meanings in which the members of the dooyoo community see the use of the circle of friends list. To some members of dooyoo being added and adding other members to their friend’s list means nothing. To other members of dooyoo it could mean any number of things and to some of the other members it can mean everything. To them being a good writer alone isn’t enough, you have to be much more then just that. Bear with me a few minutes while I just amuse myself and have a little grouping fun. In other words I will break up a few of the members of the dooyoo community and try and explain some possible characters that you may find lurking around dooyoo and some of the methods that each character could use to build up their circle of friends list. TROUPER TRUSTER - The trouper truster must be the nicest person on dooyoo. They add everyone too their circle of friends lists, they don’t even have to read any of your work because they are such nice people that they take it upon themselves to be your friend anyway. The trouper truster doesn’t even mind if you churn out 10 opinions a day they will still be your friend anyway. The trouper truster likes new members that have just joined dooyoo. (Out of the chip pan into the fire) They like new members has they are an easy target. They don’t yet understand how to use the site very well and the trouper truster knows that by adding them to their circle of friends there may be a greater chance that they will return the favour and even read a few of their opinions too. In my eyes the trouper truster can not be trusted all they are after is a large circle of friends and to gain has many reads as possible. Every member’s profile they visit
                              looks like a potential 3 p in their pocket. In my eyes the trouper truster defeats the whole object of the circle of friends list. TRIBE TRUSTER - The “Do you want to be in my gang” members. To tribe truster is on a mission. They are cautious and careful when it comes to adding a member to their circle of friend’s list. The trouper truster likes regular ratings wherever possible from the members in their circle of friend’s list and will rate back in return whenever they get the chance. They are usually friendly people who enjoy the site and makes lots of friends. THE TRESURE TRUSTER - The treasure truster is one of those members of the dooyoo community that are quite active and have been using dooyoo for a long time. They don’t want to spread kindness all around dooyoo and aren’t just after a “rate back”. They are honest with their ratings and they rate fairly. They rate honestly! - Not just to put a damper on your day but to help you improve your writing skills, improve the dooyoo site and try and point you in the right direction. To get into the treasure truster’s circle of friends you will need to write good opinions but more importantly honest opinions. They add with caution and rarely add a member to their friends list without having had a close eye on them for a few months, but once you have been accepted into their friends list you will be that one step closer to becoming a respected member and a great all round writer. NEW AT DOOYOO We were all new once; it is a little confusing at first. For a new member at dooyoo the circle of friends can be a little hard to understand at first. I’ll just say now that there are no set rules on how to use the circle of friends. You use the circle of friends if and how you wish too. The beauty of the circle of friend’s list is that it can be personal to you and no one can tell you a right and wrong way of using it. WHY ADD A MEMBER There are lots of different reasons why you may want to add a member to your circle of friends: FRIEND - If you have stuck up a friendship on the site with another member of dooyoo you may want to add them to your circle of friend’s. You may find that some people’s lives interest you and that by reading their opinions, you are learning about their problems, successes and way of life in general. WRITING STYLE - I think that many people on dooyoo add other people to their circle of friend’s because they like there writing style. Some members write in a certain way, which can even make a bar of soap, sound interesting. Some members write good opinions and add a bit of honour or personal detail into their writing. This makes the site amusing and interesting and all in all gives you some enjoyable opinion to read. TOPIC INTEREST - Some people on dooyoo may enjoy a certain topic e.g. T.V and Movies or Food and Drink. If a member writes most of their opinions in this section and they are good, enjoyable, informative opinions, then that could be another reason why someone adds you to their circle of friend’s list. WHY DO I ADD MEMBERS I have around 80 members in my circle of friends and I am in around 100 member’s circle of friends. I add people to my circle of friend’s list for many different reasons. To be in my circle of friends you do not have to be one of the best writers on dooyoo, you don’t have write excellent opinions every time you post an opinion. Like it says in my profile “I like friendly, honest people. I like to read opinions that are well written and informative. (Or they at least try to be) I like opinions that are enjoyable to read and ones that include bits of humour. They must be honest opinions and include information about the chosen product that is informative but most importantly they must write about their view
                              s and what they think. I enjoy reading opinions that include personal thoughts and feelings - not just tells me was it says on the packaging. Some members of dooyoo have 300 and more members that have them in their friend’s list but do they get 300 or more reads. - Umm not many - so what does this whole circle of friend’s list mean, maybe it means that the whole thing doesn’t work at all and that it is just a way to separate the new members from the old, or maybe it is just a bit of fun. The way that I like to look at it is the circle of friend’s is a way of making up your own little community, who you include to be in it is up to you and how you go about building it is also up to you. KICKING MEMBERS OUT I up-date my circle of friends about once every month or so. Most of the time I am adding members to my circle of friend’s but sometimes I do remove them - gasp well I have my reasons. Since I joined dooyoo I have removed around 3 people from my circle of friends. The reason for removing a member from your circle of friends can be any number of things. I removed a few members because they where no longer active on the site. I removed another because I had reason to believe that they wrote an opinion that was dishonest. Reasons for adding and removing people from your circle of friends are personal to you. Do it at your leisure for whatever reasons that you choose. I think that the right way to go about removing someone from your circle of friends is to leave them a comment telling them that you are removing them and giving them a explanation has to why you are removing them. IS THE CIRCLE OF FRIENDS A GOOD THING I have to give the circle of friends a thumbs up, it gives you a quick link to reading opinions written by the people in your friends list. When I click on the dooyoo site and look at my profile I must admit that I feel really rewarded when I see that someone has added me t
                              o his or her friend’s list. To me it seems like all the work that you spend writing your opinions has all become worthwhile. Quick questions Q. should you add someone to your friend’s list because they have added you? A. First check to see if they have actually read any of your opinions, if they haven’t then I wouldn’t bother adding them. If they have then I would check to see if the person has left you a comment explaining to you why they enjoyed your opinion. - If they have then I would go to the profile page and read one of their opinions to see if they interest me. I would then keep a mental note of the writer name and after reading a few more of their opinions. I would then decide whether their opinions are of interest to me and if I would like to read more of their opinions in the future. Q. How many of a members opinions should you read before it is seen as acceptable to add someone to my friends list. A. Umm well this is a harder one because everyone seems to do this differently. I tend to read a few opinions from their latest 10 opinions on their profile page. I wouldn’t recommend going though their opinions and rating them all. I have known of people who have done this and people have had mixed feelings about it. One member rated over 200 of someone's opinions after adding them to their friend’s list. The member felt that could be seen has abuse and thought that the person had gone a little over the top. (This happened on another site - not dooyoo) I think that you should rate a few of their opinions but not go too far with it. Finally - make an effort to keep your friend’s list up to date. In my eyes the circle of friends list is a nice feature on dooyoo that can be used (if a members wishes) to make the site a little more interesting and rewarding and to set new goals to aim for. Use it don't abuse it! Ok - I
                              217;ve had my say - hit me with the comments. *UPDATE* When I first wrote this opinion around a week ago I didn't use the Dooyoo Email alerts so I couldn't really comment on them. SO - I thought that I would give them a try. I went through everyone in my circle of friends yesterday. I went to their profile page and clicked on the "Inform me of new opinions by this member" link, when you click on this it means that when ever this member writes a new opinion you will be sent an Email informing you that this person has written a new opinion and the Email will also include in it a link to click on - to take you straight to your circle of friends list, so you can read their opinion. It took me about 2 hours going to everyone's profile page and clicking on the link but now I can keep up with all the members in my circle of friends a lot quicker and with less hassle. If you want to keep up to date with your circle of friends. I think that you should use the Email alert link every time you add a new member to your circle of friends. I didn't use it before and it took my a long time sorting all my alerts out yesterday. I think that it is a great idea and not only does it save a lot of time but it also means that you will now never have to miss an opinion that you wanted to read written by a member of your circle of friends. DONE

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                                Well, far be it from me to bang my own gong, but you probably haven?t been made aware of the fact that I've got 8 Crowns, had 3,193 member reads to date, average 68 member readers per op, and have 233 members in my circle of friends have you ?? I know you'd be so fascinated to hear of my amazing achievements, but as I'm so very shy, could I just for a while concentrate on something I'm a superstar at, Dooyoo.co.uk, Circle of friends - tips on setting it up. Why am I so good at this, well read on and see the results I've achieved. Firstly, as you know, Dooyoo is a community and I'm probably the worst and self- confessed perpetrator of this !! Hopefully, everyone knows the system here, to get reads yourself you must read other people's opinions and rate their comment accordingly, that part is the subject of other opinions and doesn't really have any bearing on the fabulous insight I'm now going to relate to you. Now, to create a Community spirit one should leave comments to offer useful feedback to other writer, and other future readers !! Oh !! These comments should relate to the subject matter Oh !!! Double Oh !!! I've never left a valid comment in my life on Dooyoo, I have tried to encourage people on Dooyoo with their writing but if you read my comments boxes, or Sue26 say, you should see some of those comments, like "Hello yorkie, fancy going to a boot sale?", or ..." You're no good at DIY, get back to your sheep !". Or say Smark1985, we exchange very good comments, I'm helping him to defend Cornwall against the attacks on it by fluffy slippers, she is constantly bombarding us with slippers, and recently ruined my comments box when attacking it with a foot long E Mail address. What is this blithering idiot talking about you say, either tell a joke or get on with the opinion. In my most humble opinion then, one builds up a liking for other members, a res
                                pect for their work, their subjects, their quality, or perhaps in my case, for my stupidity !! Now to let the other member know that you like their work there is an indicator button on their profile page, Add (whoever) to your circle of friends, and by doing this that person is then aware you have done so, and may also return the favour. Also there is an indicator button, Inform me of new opinions by (whoever) any more. If using this, then Dooyoo will inform you, usually by E Mail, that person has written a new opinion that you may wish to read. Now, there is no official way to use the circle of friends, one can use it how one chooses, or not at all. There are those on the site that seem to add people to their circle of friends without ever having read their work, and I will run through my immaculate system of creating a circle of friends. I always read people's profiles first, before reading their ops, that way I know there is a fair chance that they will return my reads, if that person's profile does not substantiate this then I will not read their work, simple as that, whatever the subject. Now, if I like their work, I will add them to my circle of friends if it is quite exceptional and to a high standard all round,. If the work is slightly below this, I will read several more, and then decide whether to add them or not. I always make a point on having read or added that person to my circle of friends, to leave a comment in their box. Sometimes I will add a person to my circle of friends because they often read mine and leave friendly comments to me. All of this is entirely optional, purely depends on the way you choose to operate yourself. In this way, I have built up my audience of 233 readers, avid fans of mine they are to. I always make a point of reading their work wherever possible, but I must advise you that the larger the circle of friends, in general the more time it should take. On average I would
                                say I spend 2 hours a day reading ops by people on my circle of friends (sorry if your's hasn't been amongst them, I'm coming to that !!). Now, beyond that I have developed a close relationship with a select band of my circle of friends, both by E Mail and on MSN and Yahoo in chat. Sometimes I talk to several at once, a common practice. Now, why am I an expert on circle of friends, well I'll tell you !! I was in chat last Friday with several of my friends (sorry the other's, now you know what happened) when Santa granted my Christmas wish. harmonyk who was on my circle of friends, I fell desperately in love with, and I believe she with me. We met over the weekend, and now we are I hope a very loving and caring item. Expert on circle of friends aren't I, mark it how you want, I'm happier than I can ever imagine thanks to Dooyoo.

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