You may not realise it, we are, after all, very hidden in our difficulties, but there are people - adults - for whom time is a problem.
I don't mean we're rushed. I don't mean we have too much time or too little (although, that's probably true on occasion anyway.) No, what I mean is we have difficulty working out how long something will take, keeping appointments, scheduling, and physically reading the time.
I'm not stupid. I'm not thick or a bit dull. I have suspected dyscalculia. I say 'suspected' because I don't have the cash or resources, like most adult sufferers, to get a formal diagnosis from an educational psychologist.
Dyscalculia, in a nutshell, is like dyslexia for maths. That's a bit of an over-simplification really, but it's the best way to explain it.
I cannot read clocks easily. The hands move. I don't mean the second hand, I don't mean time moving on. I mean that when I look at a clock face my brain interprets the hands as flipping and turning. Most commonly, I read it inverted - so quarter to instead of quarter past, and half past instead of o'clock etc. Sometimes I read the hour incorrectly. Often, I have to take a breath and draw out the position of the hands with my fingers or arms to re-orient myself.
There are other issues relating to dyscalculia - problems with financial concepts, a tendency to confuse numbers for similar numbers (for example, I often read crossword clues wrong - the clue for 3 down instead of 3 across, or 12 instead of 21) and have no sense of direction and limited ability to read maps or follow directions. I even have issues with left and right.
Unfortunately, like so very many of us, my teachers and parents never picked up on it. In fact, myself and my family didn't even know it existed until my sister-in-law (who is dyslexic) suggested it a little while back.
I can only assume that as I'm not unintelligent, and somehow managed to force a B in GCSE Maths (honestly, I don't know how I did it,) that everyone assumed I was OK. I didn't realise that my problems with time and direction - amongst other things - were anything other than me being inherently stupid. I didn't realise that there are people like me all around the world - many of whom also didn't know that there's a reason why we're like this.
Time these days is seemingly something which is in short supply for all of us. Few of us have have time to cook, or share a meal as a family. Even fewer have time for personal hobbies. In fact, we barely have time for each other.
Yet things are far more convenient than they ever were. I am sure most of us can think of at least a dozen or more time-saving devices which we all have in our homes. Our supermarket shelves are packed with time saving ready meals, we don't even have to trapse around the supermarkets aisles, we can shop from our very living rooms online.
So what is going on. Why do we no longer have the time for anything. In our modern fast paced and hectic lifestyles, time is something which is flying by. Is it Autumn already? No, now really where did Summer go? If it continues at this pace, in a decade or so from now, you will barely have time to read this review, before the day is seemingly already finished.
However. Wait a minute, time hasn't changed at all. The day still consists of 24 hours, each hour is 60 minutes, each minute is 60 seconds. Each minute is actually a LONG time, if it had to be. Just to prove my point. Count with me.
and, someone has now rated this NOT USEFUL probably,
and, most of the few people who read reviews have skipped past this now,
OK you get my point, if you were to continue to 60, to get to the 1 minute, it would seem an eternity.
An hour counted out, second by second, would seem a life-time. Imagine if you had to count a week? Still think the weeks fly past? If you had to count the seconds of every day this past summer, im sure you would not have said it has flown by.
The reality is, our perception of time has changed. The reason it has changed, is that our expectation of time has. Everything now needs to be immediate, immediate satisfaction, and convenience. Websites must download instantly (remember dial-up?), food must take minutes to prepare and eat, or else it is just too long. The washing up, has to be done in a dishwasher, I simply don't have the "time" to do it by hand anymore! How long before we have robots to perform our daily tasks.
Basically. Things which are not convenient, are simply not palatable anymore.
However, all these extra minutes and hours we supposedly gain from convenience, are simply dissapearing because our expectations of time have changed, the way we percieve seconds has changed, they are now no longer tangible and measurable, but whizzing by in our ultimate man-made time warp.
To explain, our day consists of the same physical time (as we measure it) but our perception now means it all appears faster. Things we love, the things we enjoy, they are just whizzing past. Much like time "slows" in an accident, where the brain is forced to evaluate the situation, the perception of time slows, and we get the 'time stood still' effect, our unrelenting fast pace of modern living is having the opposite effect.
So why are we rushing, do we really want to feel like we are living our lives like "Solomon Grundy". Why are we rushing ourselves to the grave.
I am not proposing we shun modern technology, which undoubtedly improves and enriches our lives, and ironically gives us more time. However, unless we take regular breaks to relax properly away from it all, to regain our perception of what is our most priceless commodity, we are gaining nothing.
Which is why I regularly make sure I enjoy time with friends. I cook meals from scratch regularly, you'd be amazed how long eight minutes feels when stirring and waiting for custard to thicken, that really puts time back into perspective.
Even finding time for doing something seemingly pointless like staring at something inane, like a butterfly flying past, or watching children playing (your own, or relations is advised), is far from being a waste of time.
Doing things the long way once in a while, or just relaxing with nothing to do, helps normalise your perception of time, and lets you enjoy your spare time (which we all have, but don't realise it) much more!
"A person should sethis goals as early as he can and devote all his energy and talent to getting there. With enough effort, he may achieve it. Or he may find something that is even more rewarding. But in the end, no matter what the outcome, he will know he has been alive."
Walt Disney 1901 - 1966
I have recently signed up for a course in Goal Setting and Time Management by a company called MLP Training. The course is for one day at the Bolholt Country Park Hotel in Bury - http://www.mlptraining.co.uk/course/4/Goal_Setting___Time_Management
I thought that I would do a little bit of research into time management, the different ways I waste time and the wys I can have more control over my time, particularly at work.
I believe the business and personal time management skills are essential for us to be more effective work people and just people in general, even a modest level of time management in your personal life can make you a much happier person.
When you think about it people who use time management techniques routinely are the highest achievers in all walks of life, from business to sport to public service.
To effectively manage our time it is important that we concentrate on the end results rather than being busy! Many people, me being one of them spend their day in a frenzy of activity, but when you look at it actually achieve very little because they are wasting a lot of time concentrating on the things that aren't important.
I found the Pareto Principle (80:20 Rule) while looking on the internet. This says that typically 80% of unfocussed effort generates only 20% of results. The remaining 80% of results are achieved with only 20% of the effort.
While this isn't always the case, this demonstrates the small proportion of activity While the ratio is not always 80:20, this broad pattern oclearly demonstrates what I am trying to say.
I do not know if this is relevant here, but I would like to discuss some of the time management tips and skills I have picked up while looking on the internet.
From reading the literature the Goal Setting and Time Management course that I will be attending on the 10th March covers many of these in more detail, but hopefully these will help:
One of the major barriers to Time management is each individuals procrastination, myself included. Some times it seems easier to put things off. But in reality you are just making the job harder for yourself. The job needs doing, how is it going to be any better later in the day or week?
At the beginning of each day write a list of things that need to be done and then number them with 1 being the most important and urgent. I have found this really helps me to focus and it is extremely motivational to see all the jobs being crossed off throughout the day.
Remove Time Wasters.
Easier said than done right? Wrong! I kept a activity diary for a week and then at the end of the week reviewed it. I was extremely surprised at how much of my time was being wasted.
Delegate to other.
Is it really you that need to do something, or are you just holding onto things because you thnk it is easier then explaining it to a fresh set of ears. Give other a little credit and ask for assistance and help when it is needed.
It is important to identify what you want to achieve. Setting goals even small ones has help me to not only acheive these things but also to do it more effectively.
If there is silence, we fill it with noise; If it is white, we fill it with colour; If there is peace, we fill it with war; If time is ours, we give it away. It is in our nature to stretch ourselves, to fidget and fuss and tinker. It takes discipline not to hurry and agitate for every second of the day. It takes discipline to be still. Everything tangible around us is defined in time. We are increasingly conscious of it. First, we were aware of it as light and darkness, then as seasons. The introduction of sundials and clocks and the calendars united man the world over in trying to control time. Our microwave meal, telephone bill, parking permit, sports session, relationships, birthdays and television programmes are all measured in time. Time has long been the subject of heavy philosophical debate. It is a critical parameter if our paths are to cross. We have introduced endless labour-saving devices into our lives in a bid to spare more of it. We travel at break-neck speeds and tempers quickly fray if there are queues or traffic jams. How precious our time is. Yet no sooner have we bought ourselves more time than we invest in mobile phones to interrupt every available minute. We clutter our lives with junk and spend forever moving it around and tidying it up. We make lists and lists of lists in an effort to manage our time and, let?s face it, how many of us avoid starting tasks by shuffling papers, trying to organise the workload. Time is not at a premium. It is simply that we squander it and then regret not having made more valuable use of it ? quality time. If we took sensible steps and prioritised all the things that truly mattered, how different our lives would be. Do we really need to give the companies we work for those extra hours free every week or could we work through lunch and get home to family sooner? Does the job really pay that much better or offer more than a job nearer home? Do we have to walk the to
ys around the house or could they be slung in a basket at the end of the day? When that salesman calls during family time interrupt him (he interrupted you, remember) and tell him firmly ?no, thank you.? It is just a case of looking at how we spend our time and giving it to the things and people that matter most.
When I was young (a lot more younger than today..), time seemed longer and drawn out. The first 10yrs of my life felt very long; and I thought that my descent into teendom and early adulthood would seem as equally long. Life was going to be longer than people were saying at the time. But as you many know, your teens whizz by; and though I'm not particularly old, it's odd to think in 7yrs time I'll be 30 (not hugely old too, but you get my drift). I certainly don't feel it. On the surface level it does seem quite sad that most of us lead robotic lives. We all have schedules or routines, or designated times for work, rest and play; but also there are many of us who feel anxious and toppled if there is chaos in our lives, even if it's sometimes in the wanton guise of being bold and quite daring. It can work for a time; but in essence all of us now and in the future will continue to adhere to a set of guidelines to keep us safe, atleast feeling safe. I don't really know why we allow ourselves to be controllers of time, and I don't know why we shouldn't be controllers of time. The winning argument is that you realise time is short; some have short tickers than others; so I guess we try and squeeze more time in for things; and sadly it seems not the majortity of those things are as simple and as grand as spending time with family and friends. All mod cons have cluttered our lives. Freedom from these sometimes strict routines is a concept that differs to all of us. Freedom can also be held securely in these routines. Too much freedom, in the form where there's nothing to really do, can drive you mad and poison your mind, which is why a little bit of self-imposed fascism is healthy in my opinion. But then also, if you're chained to a job you have no time to think (out of the scenario); you just do what you think is right, but you don't actually think, you just kind of react; and when yo
u go home you just rest; and when it builds you feel it closing in. It's not abnormal though, to get as much as you can out of life. But you have to put as much in to make it work, but it doesn't always balance. You've got to work to live, you need free time to 'live'; you need to be jailed to be free. In an ideal world we could work less, eat only when we really need to, and sleep as much as we want; and then excess time could be dedicated to the true beauties of life: being with other people. But as it stands we're in a bit of a mess (and I'm offering no solutions, sorry), and so it's easier to just feel in control than be in control; because we can't/don't want to. And this swaying weighted see-saw can sometimes get us up aswell as down. It seems, that we have found happiness in slavery. But life is short; break out once in a while, break out as much as you can; break too far though and you'll just find you're in new chains. 'Freedom' is just sticking to/finding a new set of comfy rules each time. We'll all return to our chains whether we wear our lives away on them or not. I'm happy! And if you can muster atleast a small dose of happiness now and again, then you're doing alright too. Just like all of us.
Our lifespan is extraordinarily brief in relation to the universe we live in, like that of the mayfly to its meadow. We deliberately forget that of course - if we did not I suspect we would be crushed by the enormity of it all. But gazing into the night sky we are reminded, and the light of those stars illuminates our lives in ways that can take our breath away. It was 1997, and the night of the comet Hale Bopp. My girlfriend and I stood together in an otherwise empty park waiting for the comet to pass overhead. We stood there awhile, eagerness gradually slipping into disappointment as we scanned the empty heavens. Then I saw it, hidden behind a cloud, faint yet glowing with all the history of the universe. It was a wondrous sight, and I drew her closer as we watched, thinking how it was this childlike wonder at the world that had drawn us together in the beginning. Then she turned for a moment and gasped, discovering that Hale Bopp was in fact behind us. We had been gazing in awe at a simple star! The comet was huge, like nothing we'd ever seen, glowing with a cold blue light. We felt tiny in the scheme of the heavens, yet somehow our lives were not belittled by this thought, but given greater significance than ever. The comet was sailing through a universe that it had known in its infancy, and our love burned brightly with it, and we felt untouchable. I laughed on the way home at my mistake, and she replied "It was magic, the way it happened. You always make magic happen". I can't remember the last time she said that, the last time either of us felt that magic. Perhaps it is simply obscured for a moment by clouds, and is glistening unseen. Or perhaps it has faded forever, lost amongst the universe's inexorable decline. Only time will tell.
I have a birthday coming up this month. I will be getting close to my mid-thirties. An amazing age to me. I always thought when I hit my thirties; I would be all grown up. Not true. However, it has made me realize one thing. Life is short. Much shorter than I ever really thought about. When you’re a kid, life seems like forever. Your teen years seem to last forever. During your twenties, you are so busy making a life for yourself, the horizon seems wide open. Then boom, you hit your thirties. Suddenly, life doesn’t seem the same. Suddenly, you start to take stock of your life. I did, at least. And I came to a realization that didn’t please me. I had spent more than half my life doing things I didn’t want to do, living in places I didn’t want to live in and being with people I didn’t want to be with. A sad realization for me. But instead of getting depressed about it, I decided to change it. I had spent the last two years living with my parents since my divorce. I was working full time, going to school full time and trying to raise my two kids with what time I had left. I was living down South, which I hated. I was working the midnight shift, which left me little time during the daylight hours. I kept telling myself it was for the good of my family. I was making a good life for my kids and me. Then one day, I realized that I was so busy making a good life for us, I wasn’t living my life. Little did I know that you can get so responsible that you forget what’s important in life? So, instead of getting all depressed, I decided to change it. I packed me and my two kids, all our stuff, our cat and myself into my mini-van and moved us 400 miles away to live with my best friend and her family. It took awhile, but its happening. I’m remembering how to enjoy life. I spend more time looking at the stars, taking walks with my kids, reading good books instead of school books, camping, shoppin
g, playing games. I am once again remembering how to enjoy life. And that is a wonderful thing, because time goes more quickly than you think. Kids grow up quickly and before you know it, are out on their own. Life passes you by if you don’t watch out for it. Now, I didn’t go completely mad. I’ve got a good job that I enjoy, which is important because we spend so much of our time each day at work. But I also don’t let the job get to me. I’ve decided that as long as the job is enjoyable, I will stay. The minute I find that it is bringing nothing but stress and worry to my life, I will find a new job. Because job stress is one of the worst kinds of stress you can have, it affects your attitude that you bring home each day, that you wake up with each morning. Job is very important and if you hate it, your life will be miserable. But mostly I found out that time is priorities. You have to decide what is most important to you. Do you want to spend all of your time making more money, moving up in the company, impressing people. Or do you want to take the time, stop and smell the flowers and enjoy each day as it comes instead of worrying where you will be tomorrow. I made my decision. I great each day as a new adventure and a treasure. I hope never again to get so bogged down with life that I forget to live it. Stop and think about it. Did you enjoy something today? Did you smile at a stranger today? Did you hug someone you love today? Did you look at the clouds? Did you stop even once to do something fun? If you can’t say yes to any of these questions, are you really living your life? If not, maybe it’s time for some changes. Maybe it’s time to stop and smell the flowers. Time is short in our lives, how do you want to remember it?
The environment is an important issue to me, and what is time but one more element of our environment? It’s all in how you look at it. Time doesn’t have to be something that rules our lives and spurs us on to even greater stress. Chronos can be your friend, if you let him. Ever hear the line, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure”? Here are ten of my favorite ways to recycle my time from mundane, routine, responsible, and ‘more profitable’ pursuits to golden memories that seem to last forever. 1. Listening I prefer to go out where sounds of traffic and people are lessened, but any place you can go to just listen to the world around you is good. The longer you sit and listen, the more you can hear how the sounds of the world moving around you blend into a kind of music with its own rhythms and harmonies. The wind moving through the trees is one of the most soothing sounds you can find, and always manages to ease my jangled nerves so this is a favorite pursuit of mine when I’m feeling particularly stressed. Listening gives my mind time to rest, clear out its proverbial clutter, and rejoice in the fact that the sounds washing over me are not demands for my attention. I have grown to nearly despise the sound of a telephone ringing as it usually means Somebody is going to want something from me! This sound alone can make me feel more rushed and pressed for time than almost any other. Going off for some quiet time is one of the best ways to relax. I choose a spot, make myself comfortable, and start listening. What are the first sounds I hear? What sounds are at the limits of my hearing? As I begin to contemplate, daily concerns and various thoughts will bubble up to the surface, which is often helpful when you have a lot on your mind. In today’s world, I believe we often need these calm moments to allow something that has been bothering us like a spl
inter under the skin to really come to our attention. However, if you allow each thought to take shape and then imagine it floating away on the wind, that is when you will begin to catch the strains of hidden music flowing around you. I’m always pleasantly surprised at how vibrant and refreshed I feel afterwards. 2. Watching and Noticing I have spent countless hours simply noticing and observing things around me. Where you go for this activity will really depend on what you wish to observe. I have several favored spots for watching people (fascinating creatures!), for example. There is a particular courtyard in our city where I love to sit by the fountain and watch all the bustle around me. People hurry in and out of shops, businesses, and a large hotel nearby as I wonder about their lives, dreams, fears, and destinations. You never know what you might see when engaged in People Watching. Transitional places like airports, subways, or train stations are also excellent for this hobby. When people travel there is always a reason and these are especially interesting places to wonder about the people around you. It’s exceptionally fun to stretch your imagination and take a tip from George Carlin. “You Know there’s a spy at the airport! Your job? Find ‘em!” I have spent several lay-overs in paroxysms of suppressed laughter while trying to determine which of the folks around me is The Spy. As endlessly fascinating as people are, there are plenty of other things to Watch. I have lost all track of time watching flocks of birds practice landings and take-offs in the Autumn. It simply amazes me how gracefully they can move as a group. They make co-operative maneuvers look effortless. I have also been known to become entranced by the way in which rain gilds tree limbs and spider webs with crystalline pearls of water, or the pattern raindrops make in a large pool of water. Whenever I find mysel
f grumbling too much over the lousy weather, I usually make myself stop and really Look at the world around me. It is then that I am usually rewarded by a little bit of natural beauty…like the Earth smiling shyly back at me. Not sure where to start, or if you will be able to notice anything of interest? Try walking a familiar route, looking at everything and everyone around you, and take your time. Usually we have some destination in mind and are thinking about that rather than noticing the world around us. Make sure to look up at the buildings around you. (People in a city almost never look up!) I did this once and was amazed to discover a lion’s head I had never noticed before carved atop a building I had walked past frequently for about a year! 3. Playing I have noticed lately that I spend too much of my time ‘taking care of business’. Fortunately, I have plenty of kids around me to remind me to take the time to just have fun! Whether or not you have kids though, you can still remember how to play. If you are lucky enough to have free time on a windy day, buy a kite. No wind? Try climbing a tree, swinging on a swing, or skipping stones on a pond. Silly Putty or modeling clay are both great fun, and good for any occasion. In a world that can often leave us feeling squashed, stretched, or pushed around, there is something eminently satisfying in pounding on a lump of clay and shaping it to our own designs. You don’t have to make anything specific and you don’t have to be an artist, it’s all about having fun. Try to remember the things you liked to do most when you were a kid and then ask yourself when was the last time you did any of them? In a pinch you can always borrow a younger relative and take them off somewhere fun like an amusement park. This is especially helpful to those of us who feel foolish jumping in empty elevators on the way down, flying kites, climbing trees,
or playing hide and seek by ourselves. ~wink~ While you’ve got their attention, you can pick their brains for other ways to have fun. My eldest daughter was kind enough to point out that one of my favorite pastimes is probably seen as a waste of time by others. I love to do puzzles. I can spend hours with a favorite hot beverage and some friends or family members putting together puzzles that we are only going to take apart once we are done anyway! I hadn’t really thought about it that way until she brought it up, but I think she’s got a pretty good point there. 4. Spending Time Sometimes you have to spend a little to make more…whether it’s time or money this old adage can still hold true. Visit relatives you haven’t seen in ages, take your loved ones out for a picnic, look up old friends with whom you have fallen out of touch, or even take a few moments out of your busy schedule to help a stranger with directions. Whichever way you choose to spend your time, remember that the time we are given with our loved ones is a gift and life is far too short to waste it on regrets. At the end of their days, no one has ever said, “I spent too much time with my kids.” Or “ I wasted all my time visiting with friends and family.” Ask questions, listen, and make sure you never leave anything important left unsaid. I have yet to hear Anyone mention that they have said, “I love you.” Too often! It’s just as important to spend a little time on ourselves as it is to spend it on others, but sometimes we have to remember that we touch the lives of everyone around us. You never know when simply smiling at someone you pass on the street or helping someone with a door or flat tire could make a profound difference in their life, and using words like “please” or “thank you” costs us nothing. Such straightforward courtesy always manages to find
its way back to you eventually…usually when you least expect it and need it the most. 5. Laughing Look for the humor around you and don’t ever be afraid to laugh at yourself. If you look hard enough, you can usually find something to laugh about in any situation. Sometimes you can’t let go enough to laugh about it until later, but as long as you remember to laugh you are on the right track. No matter how you look at it, laughter is a great investment. It burns calories, it feels great, improves circulation, and makes time fly as well as stand still. Our happiest moments seem the most fleeting in retrospect, but those are the memories that last the longest too. A good laugh is priceless. I sometimes feel as if others look at me as one would look at the Mad Hatter. I often find myself laughing in a crowd and just can’t help laughing all the harder at all their puzzled looks. Why am I laughing? Well…why not? 6. Dressing Up There are a variety of reasons throughout the year for which I dress up, most of which are just for the sheer fun of it all. They also usually has more serious (stuffy) adults shaking their heads and wagging their fingers at me. While it’s nice to take your time, pamper yourself while getting ready, and get dressed in your finest from time to time, even for no particular reason, I’m talking about taking it just a step further. I always have a costume of some sort for Halloween, which I manage to get a lot of use out of between Halloween parties that our younger kids attend, Trick or Treating, and our annual visit to Castle Blood, a local gothic horror house. At least once a year I also attend a Renaissance Festival where we dress in period costume. I have even been known to paint my face (love those face paint kits), or put together a costume simply because it is an extremely rainy day, and we have nothing better to do! Playing ‘Dress Up
’ was always one of my favorite games as a child. It’s fun, stretches the imagination of yourself and those you interact with, and keeps you looking at yourself in a new light. This is one of those great ways to keep numbers 3 and 5 in this list an active part of your life. I couldn’t stop laughing the day my family of five got locked out of the car in a small town grocery store in full Renaissance garb. Neither could anyone else! If you don’t have any occasions to play Dress Up, then for goodness sakes throw a costume party and invite everyone you know to come over and Play! 7. Roaming Some people walk for exercise, some enjoy hiking on their holiday, but most folks nowadays look at walking as an occasionally necessary evil to get where ever they are going. I like to roam about with no particular destination in mind, no goal to obtain and just generally explore. Deep in the woods or in the heart of the city makes no difference. Perhaps you will find a new shop or restaurant that strikes your fancy, or a particularly beautiful view. Just follow your feet and see where they will lead you. It isn’t always easy to motivate for something like this, but you can often be pleasantly surprised when you do. I find it a bit easier if I set Watching and Listening as my goal for any given ramble. I’m sure to do both along the way anyway and the sense of having a goal is often all it takes to get me out the door. Very few people take the time out of their busy lives to just roam about and generally explore the world around them, but this is a great way to keep from feeling restless and bored. When people ask you where you have been or where you are going and your only answer is, “No where in particular.” You are sure to get some odd looks, but you’ll be chuckling over those expressions as you float along where ever the wind may blow you. 8. Keeping a Journal T
his is the one that I usually have trouble keeping up with in my own life. I often forget to take down my notebook and jot something down for the day. I do better with setting aside some time once a week to write down my thoughts. Keeping a journal doesn’t mean you meticulously note everything that happens to you in a given day though. This is just a book where you can write about whatever may be most on your mind. If all you do is write a single line in a given week, than that’s enough. Writing down thoughts on what is going on in your life at the moment, capturing bits of nonsense with pen and ink, commenting on interesting current events, recording bits of dreams that you remember after waking, jotting down a quote that struck your fancy or even a good joke that you heard are all good things to keep in your journal. Writing about what is most on your mind can help you make decisions clearly, and recording anything that interests us can give us a useful link to our past. It is very enlightening to go back and read something you wrote years ago. 9. Writing Letters Writing letters is swiftly becoming a lost art form! Like the journal, most people find it a waste of time to write anything when they can do it on the computer, send an email, or use the phone. However, writing our thoughts down gives us the chance to consider exactly what and how we want to say whatever is on our mind. We often find ourselves embarrassed or regretting ill-chosen words spoken in haste, but by putting pen to paper we can just as often discover that we have the soul of a poet hidden within us. 10. My favorite way to ‘waste’ time? The Internet! Chatting online with friends and family too far away to stay connected to otherwise! All too often, I find myself feeling guilty and thinking of all the other things that need to be taken care of while I’m frittering time away chatting online. Yet, without the internet there
are dozens of family members whom I would never hear from, and friends that I never would have met at all! Having all the information available through the internet and indulging hobbies like submitting to writing sites such as this one are really just small perks compared with the luxury of hanging out and talking with all my friends! Friends and family are one of the greatest gifts to ever enrich my life, so how can I feel so guilty for spending time with them? Hmmm, looks like I need to review #4 on my list! So what do I consider to be a Real waste of time? All of the following mismangements of Time cause far more stress and unhappiness than something that might seem useless on the surface: 1. Lying, to ourselves or others 2. Regrets 3. Worrying before there is anything to worry about! 4. Holding grudges 5. Obsessing over housework. Housework is endless. No matter how much you do, there is always more to be done. While it is a necessary evil…don’t waste your time obsessing over it all. One Martha Stewart in the world is enough, don’t you think? 6. Commercials! ~shudder~ Commercialism is a horror I could rant about for hours. It all boils down to things like obsessing over objects, money, or what the neighbors think. Why waste the time of so many people by trying to sell them the latest whatever with new go faster stripes or fresh scent? Do you realize how much money is poured into advertising, how much time is thrown away in consumer research, and how much junk mail this industry generates? One of the main reasons that I watch so little television is because they waste so much of my time with commercials. 7. Placing Blame. Whose fault something is very rarely matters. Better to deal with the problem than worry about who to blame it on. 8. Cheating. Whether it’s really life or just some game you are talking about, cheating is a was
te of time. It makes you a smaller person, eats away at self-esteem, and makes playing less fun for everyone. 9. Doubting Yourself. 10. Judging Others. Putting others down to make yourself look good, spewing venom over someone else’s origins or lifestyle, gossiping, allowing superficial issues to sway your view of others and the world around us is not only a waste of everyone’s time, it’s just wrong. This is like social toxic waste as far as I’m concerned and I, for one, am getting mighty tired of doing the clean up work. When it comes to important issues, of course there is going to be contention before a decision is reached, but there are thousands of pointless petty ways in which we judge others that only makes difficult situations more muddled and generates a lot of negative emotions that feed off each other. What a waste! So, which would You rather do, waste…or recycle?
How I would love to be a child again. Not having to worry about the alarm clock being set, getting to school on time and how long it took to make dinner. As a child your parents are responsible for you. If you are late it?s their fault, if you get to bed late they can also be blamed. As you get older time begins to control you, no matter how hard you try you cannot control it as it is always ahead of you. Time controls my life. It?s kind of like men ? you cannot live with them and you cannot live without them. Without a watch my life would be impossible. I would miss the bus on a daily basis, be late for lectures and I would be a complete nervous wreck in a timed exam (even more than usual). I am nearly twenty-one and many people would say I have spent my time so far wisely. I have 10 GCSE?s and 3 A Levels and hopefully will soon have a degree to my name. I have left home and I have met the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with. However I have no money, I?ve never travelled outside Europe and I have no idea where I am going to be working next year and where we are going to be living. Look at Michael Owen for instance; he is worth millions and the same age as me. He has travelled the world playing football and enjoyed almost every minute of it. I often compare myself with famous player when considering time. I would love to be on £50,000 a week but I am sure they do not despise me in the slightest. I am the first to admit I waste a lot of time. Right now for example I could be getting on with my dissertation or doing much more valuable things than writing this opinion. I waste hours a day watching rubbish TV programs and reading pathetic newspaper stories. I spend a few minutes a day planning what I am going to do. I have to plan my day around travelling, lectures, studying, shopping, washing, sleeping, spending time with my fiancé and socialising. Without measuring time how could I plan this? I wish I h
ad all the time in the world on my hands. Twenty-Four hours goes too quickly, often I feel as if I?ve just woken up when it is time to go to bed. I don?t always wish for time to go slow though. When I am sat in a doctor?s surgery or waiting for a cheque to come through the post I try and rush time. On the other hand there are some days that I just want to last forever, take for example the night my fiancé proposed and we saw a shooting star. I wanted that moment to last for an eternity. When I am on holiday I try not to worry about time. I take off my watch and forget about it eating exactly when we want to and not just because it is dinnertime. We go out when we want and go to bed when we want. Still when it gets to the end of the holiday reality sinks in and you have to look at your watch to make sure you catch your plane on time. However you see it and however people explain it time will always be a difficult subject. Who knows I might not be around tomorrow, nobody knows how much time they have got left. It?s all right saying enjoy life while you can but we?ve still got to work and many people cannot afford to enjoy the time they have got left like they would like. I try and enjoy the time I have. I make sure I spend valuable time with my family, friends and my fiancé. I also spend valuable time on my education as I am hoping it will improve my chances of having a long and successful career. Many Dooyoo writers have pointed out that Time only controls you if you let it. I don?t think is the case as time affects everyone both physically and mentally. You cannot stop your hair falling out or you face growing wrinkles. You may be able to prevent them or prolong the ordeal but over time it will still happen. Take Care and enjoy the time you have Grimsbygal
Time is something you have no control over, or do you? As you go through life you find yourself wishing for more time. More time time to do what. "There are so many things to do and not enought time to do them. If you put a broom up my bottom I will sweep the floor at the same time. If I go any quicker I will meet myself coming back". Need I go on, how many times have you said or heard said some of the above. I am one of those people that doesn't have enough time to breath, you know what I mean, you too well why. What do we achieve. A typical day in my somewhat rushed and mundane life, you may well be able to relate to it. 6.30 a.m. My husband goes to work. I am awake but still in bed. 6.30 - 7.00 a.m. I contemplate getting up. 7.00 - 7.10 a.m. I get up. 7.10 a.m. Wake up youngest son (11) who can't bear to be late for anything, who has to either catch the bus at 8.00 a.m. or catch a lift with me at 8.10 a.m. From 7.10 - 8.10 a.m. it is one mad rush STOP & THINK, WHY? WHY DO I HAVE TO RUSH AROUND WHAT HAVE I DONE WHICH COULDN'T WAIT. 8.10 a.m. Drive my son to school (2 minutes from office) and get to work - now 8.30 a.m GET IN THE DOOR & OFF I GO AGAIN, SO MUCH TO DO SO LITTLE TIME TO DO IT. 1.00 - 1.10 p.m. Attempt to stop for lunch, constant interruptions, need a break, too busy, bolt down lunch. No time to go out, back to work. 1.30 p.m. to 5.30 p.m.ish Work, rush, work, rush, set off home. %.30 - 5.40 p.m. driving home, all the way deciding what to do first when I get in, whether I will have time to do this or that before preparing tea. Thinking ahead to tomorrow. 10.30 p.m. Exhaustion overcomes me and I crash into bed, only to find my mind racing and preparing for tomorrow. This is what I would call a fairly typical day, you can probably relate to it yourself. However much
there is to do there is always time to do it. It doesn't matter if you don't do it today, it will be there tomorrow. So why do we have such an obsession with time. If you think back to when you were born, it starts there. You sleep at a certain time, eat at a certain time, etc. etc. But really you have no control over this. When you progress to school the same thing happens, you are dictated and therefore so is your time by the regimentality of the school day. So when you become an adult, although your time is governed to an extent by your restrictions of working hours, why oh why do we carry the time restrictions through to our own time. Time is very precious, none of us know what is around the corner. For all the rushing and cramming in so much in the time we have available to us, surely we are shortening the quality time. Our stress levels increase, we tire easily, we become agitated and in turn resent the time (or lack of it). We only have one life, so why don't we take our time to enjoy it. It is easy for me to put my opinion down in words, why then do I find it so difficult to follow my own advice. Life is for the living, but it doesn't last for ever. I think we should try, at least once a week or once a month to have a day when time is imaterial, when we don't work to the clock and see if we feel better for it. They say time waits for no man, but don't let it pass you by. Time I was somewhere else, oh well there is always tomorrow.
Time is of the essence and rightly so, because time is money, there is no time like the present. I guess it's time for me to stop riddling. Why is it that we value time? I reckon to ask that you're not even talking about time. You're talking more evolution. Human beings crave money as unsurprisingly this brings us happiness (to all that doubt that, please write your comments at the end. But if it starts with s and ends in x, I guess that’s the only exception). It gives you somewhere warm to live lets you buy food, to keep you alive as you can guess the list is endless. What do we have to do to receive this money we talk about? WORK YOUR ARSE OFF! Work takes up most of our daily life, whether we be students or in full time jobs, this lovely item saps your time, supplies you with a large quantity of stress (Unless your lucky!) and usually gives way at 60. At which time you don’t really have the physical strength to sky dive, or canoe white water rapids. Although there are many outstanding people out there that defy my last sentence, just so as not to land myself in a big pile of pooh pooh. Money gives you the chance to do what you want to do most, whether it be extreme sports, or shopping, or even spending the rest on grossly over costing Anne summers items that spice up the bedroom. Of course when carrying out these activities your mind fills itself with the happy hormones, what makes you ecstatically happy. Happiness is good, a dream that you wish to fulfil everyday when standing next to the coffee machine or the canteen dreaming of that £500 shopping spree that you'll be able to afford the end of the month. The rush when you can afford going on the extreme sports holiday or buying that new jet ski that at top speed would almost kill you if you were to collide with even so much as an upturned stick. This would be all well and good if humans didn’t have to sleep. Eat and carry out all of the daily chores.
For most of their time will be sapped dry from them. The dream of freedom, the rapids replaced with going back home to look after what was created by the heated passion. Or to rest as you feel after your 6-hour shift in the most boring place on earth. Apart from the white padded cell you know about, because you would end up there if you started telling people what you really think as you left your place of work. We come to the people who control you as workers. They are known as the lucky ones or the not so polite words that I will disclose from this opinion. They would like to increase their profits, double there capital so they may splash out on only a big luxury then they already have. Business and learning must move forward otherwise these companies wont make any money that means you must be worked harder and for less money then you really should be getting considering the price of things today. We want new, we want quicker, bigger. I.e. faster Internet connections, quicker modes of transport, flashier cars so we either may live our dreams or make money quicker. We have no time now, and things are only getting faster and faster, evolving more rapidly. Our wants are our own time re-strictures and we certainly cant help this, its in out genes. The American dream comes to mind, the belief of working because one day they will have their dream and there freedom. Sorry to disappoint, but we can't all be rich, so learn to be happy poor. Or in those famous words, you will die unhappy. have a nice day, and tahnx for reading. By the way incase your wondering I have a huge overdraft, but I am a student so I only have two more years of fun then its all downhill. Unless! a miracle happens. hehe have fun.
~ Introduction Most of us will probably agree that there never seems to be enough time and that this in turn can create stress. No more is this so than in the workplace. As our jobs tend to dominate our lives, usually out of necessity more than choice, the problems we encounter there can get carried over into our private lives as well. This can cause all sorts of added difficulties. Because of this, I have concentrated my opinion on time management within the workplace. In business and in a lot of employment we are faced with the responsibility for achieving results through meeting targets, schedules and plans. These results, however they are expressed, are always measured against a time scale, either in terms of units per hour or by specified deadlines and target dates. Time, therefore, is a measure of efficiency and the only denominator for comparing relative efficiency between different individuals, product types and companies. It is not possible to talk about efficiency without including the element of time. The effective worker or business person is the one who gets more done in less time and can devote increased hours to important matters. If any tasks have to remain undone, they should only ever be non essential ones. As time is a resource its use must be planned, controlled and accounted for. As a resource it is as important as any industrial or commercial asset. The difference being that you cannot buy it, trade it or drill for it, but you can manage it. ~Where Does Time Go? In order to improve the utilisation of time it is important to understand where time goes. The use of time falls into two broad categories: (a) Time spent on useful work and (b) Time that is wasted Useful work can be further classified into four types: (1) Routine Work This includes what are often essential tasks such as filing reports, writing memos, answering phones and other administ
rative duties. Such tasks are usually of a minor nature, but they have to be kept under control otherwise they can consume time out of all proportion to their importance. (2) Key Tasks Every job has its heart, key activities or tasks which produce the main results or pay off. They include planning assignments, sales, progress checking, inspecting for quality, measuring and controlling output, perhaps training staff, directing labour and issuing instructions. Unfortunately it is easy to lose control and and these can often receive less attention than they should. (3) Special Projects A lot of us have to carry out special projects from time to time. These may range from evaluating a new type of machine to designing and implementing improved systems or procedures. These projects are extremely varied; the only predictable features are that they do arise and can take time away from Key Tasks and sometimes Routine Work as well. (4) Innovative Work The successful person needs to take steps to constantly improve his/her area of activity by using imagination, creativity and innovation to improve such things as sales, methods, systems, layouts and quality. ~ How Is Time Wasted? There are probably six main ways in which time at work is wasted. (a) Failure to focus on the Key Tasks which lead to the achievement of results (b) Failure to communicate properly (c) Failure to delegate, if you have staff or helpers (d) Failure to plan ahead (e) Interruptions (f) Fatigue leading to low performance ~ Suggestions For Managing Time Better We have looked briefly at why we should manage time, key tasks and how time is wasted. Here are a few ideas for managing time better. (1) Personal Time Study Begin to manage time by first of all finding out where it is going. Try keeping a daily log of the time spent on your various activities at work over a two week period. Once
you know how your time is being spent you can take steps to correct areas where it is being used unproductively. This can also be done for other apsects of our lives besides the work place. I wonder how many hours are spent watching television that is of little interest, for example. How long do we actually spend time: talking to our wife, husband, partner or children; taking exercise; following our hobby; laughing and having fun? Obviously you can take this sort of thing to extremes but finding time for what, to us, are really important things in life must be worthwhile. (2) Budget Your Time Assign different blocks of time to the four categories of work i.e. routine work, key tasks etc. Strive to achieve a balanced time budget, which allows time to give proper attention to each of the four categories. I am talking about work, but why not also budget personal time as well (without becoming obsessive and stopping all spontaneity). (3) Communicate Do this effectively in order to reduce misunderstandings and the rectifying of costly mistakes. How often we waste time because we haven't got over what we are trying to say, whether this be in the spoken or written word. We have to make sure that the other person really understands the message we are trying to convey. This also applies in our personal lives. (4) Cut Down Paperwork Eliminate forms, records and reports that achieve nothing. Be ruthless and concentrate on the really essential communications and records that contribute to actually achieving desired results. Simplify, eliminate and combine documents wherever possible. Keep it all simple. I realise some companies have set paperwork that has to be followed. This doesn't mean, however, that you can't look for improvements and make suggestions. (5) Be Decisive Effective people can make swift d
ecisions and dispose of minor matters quickly. Do not spend a long time vacillating over small matters. Decide straight away if you want a digestive or plain biscuit with your tea! (6) Control Interruptions Stick to the point, limit telephone calls to essentials, reserve unessential contacts for a free period, set aside time in your budget for routine communications and allow for legitimate interruptions. Be firm in dealing with unnecessary interruptions and limit social gossip to lunch and other breaks. (7) Set Specific Times Set definite timed appointments of a defined duration, if this is applicable to your job. (8) Use A Checklist Write down planned activities on paper. Use this as a checklist to remind you of what needs to be done. If the scheduled time for performing a task is passed by, without it being completed, efficiency can suffer. When I do lists myself I prioritise the entries in order of importance and find there is great satisfaction in crossing off completed tasks. When I feel there is a lot to do, getting it all down on paper removes a lot of the stress as it acts like a map, and you can clearly see where you are heading. The journey often turns out to be far less difficult than first thought. ~ Finally As I have already said work often dominates our lives. Employers are becoming more and more demanding. Though many of us have responsibilities I think we owe it to ourselves to try and find work that we really like and enjoy. What is the point in spending forty hours doing something we hate? All this does is effect our health and often relationships outside of work as well. It is true we need incomes but there are usually options if we 'really' want them. We all have only limited time and I think we should try and gain as much enjoyment, in the true sense of the word, as we can from our lives. We need time to watch our children grow, to develop our natu
ral inbuilt talents and to follow our true purpose. We can only do this if time is our friend and not a foe we are constantly fighting. ~ Good luck.
I wonder how much time you and I have got left. What do you reckon? One year, ten years, one hundred years? Who knows. One thing is for certain though: our period here on earth is limited. So what is this stuff we call time? There is a theory that we all have a lifespan of 2,700,000,000 heartbeats - providing we avoid serious illness or being killed prematurely. It's the same with all living creatures and explains why some live longer than others. All species have hearts pumping away at differing rates so determining how long they will live. It's why a dog, for example, has a much shorter lifespan than us humans. With forward thinking, and just in case this should be true, I'm writing this in a very relaxed manner - a few saved heartbeats now may come in very useful when I'm Granny Kay in my nineties. Isn't this what time means to us? All that matters is how long something takes to do in relation to how long we have got to live. Do we want to spend 78% of what's left moaning and groaning and doing things we don't really want to do? Or should we be indulging a little and giving ourselves and others some pleasure? There can be no doubt that most of us waste a lot of our time fretting over trivialities that aren't really important - wouldn't you agree? It's all so silly, but we seem to believe that we have a never ending future. The unfortunate truth, however, is that we have only about 27,000 days or 650,000 hours to spend. So I suppose we should be trying to use these units wisely. And yet we will most likely squander a large proportion of this priceless commodity. You know, I bet if we knew exactly when we were going to die, right from birth, we would live our lives a lot differently. And isn't it true that we can give no better gift to others than our time? OK, all of this is all well and good, but is there actually such a thing as time and is it the
same for all of us? Most likely we'd answer that there must be time because we can watch it tick by on our clocks, but this may not be proof that it exists. Time is the duration between events, we measure it astronomically with reference to the sun or stars. If, however, nothing moved and there was nothing that changed would there still be time? Kant maintained it is simply something we impose on to reality in order to make the world more comprehensible. There is so much to ponder, so many questions like: Does time have a beginning and an end? Does it flow in one direction and so on. It's mysterious stuff because it can sometimes appear to be manipulated. Here's something interesting, well I think it is ... Let's imagine two identical clocks, both accurate and synchronised. Now let's place one on a spaceship travelling away from earth and the other somewhere safe and sound in a secure cupboard, let's say in the Dooyoo office. Now when the spaceship finally returns, guess what? The travelling clock will show that less time has elapsed than the clock sitting in the cupboard. It's true! On a simpler level we all notice how time flies when we are having fun. It's the same period, according to our watch, but if we are waiting for something, time drags. Get engrossed in an interest and an hour can tick by in an instant. If we are making love, look how quickly the seven minutes shoot by, even though blokes will swear it was much, much longer - hours in fact! Time is an illusion, just like the rest of life. It all depends on how we see it. There is no actuality, there is only our realisation of events and happenings and what we believe is the distance between them. I've tried to manipulate time a little. As I've written elsewhere, when I go on holiday, amongst other things, I never wear a watch. I try to live life as I want, eating when I feel like
it, sleeping when I'm tired and so on. This works to a degree, but in reality it's difficult to do. You can't lay on the beach in the sun at night, or go to a club mid morning. So I feel I am still not fully in control of time on holiday. I have to fit in with a standard day if I want to do certain things. Time is always with us because of how we travel round the sun and the way our minds and bodies have evolved over thousands of years. The best we can do, to control time in our every day life, is to control what we do with it. Getting organised, in other words. We need lists of jobs, priorities and so on so that we can efficiently get necessities out of the way. This will give us more free time to do what we want - providing we know what that is! Surely all that matters is that we use the majority of the time we have in, what we personally consider to be, worthwhile and enjoyable ways. This means deciding what the objectives are for the rest of our lives and then going out and making these happen. It would be something completely different for each one of us. Some may want to travel, while others would be happy at home raising a family, some may want financial success or fame, while others thirst for knowledge. Whatever, as long as we are true to ourselves, we will have controlled time and put it to the best use. The saddest thing would be for us to reach the end of our natural lives on earth saying, "If only ..." I feel that time, while we are 'here', runs in a straight line. Our past is all behind us. 'Now' is where we are and the future stretches out before us. We may possibly, by accident, be able to step sideways in time and see 'other' things but this is not how our lives are designed while living on earth. The only really important time is now - this moment. The past is gone, though it undoubtably still influences us. The future will be decided by
what we do now and what we have done in the past. It's all pretty easy, well it sounds it at least: enjoy and make use of the 'now', it's all we definitely have. I've just taken my pulse! 59 beats to the minute, which I think is OK. Working on the theory of the set number of heart beats, that would give me a lifespan of 87.06 years. I was hoping for much longer! Oh yes, but sometimes my heart beat does go up, so that will knock a few years off. Ahh, but it goes down when I sleep. Oh I don't know, but my dear gran is in her eighties and says it has gone by in a flash. Frightening! Such short lives and yet many of us get bored, shuffle cards or do things to kill time, the very stuff that life is made of. How strange that is. Right, so what do I 'really' want to do 'now'? It's got to be something that doesn't raise my heartbeat, of course. Oh blow it, guess I can waste a few heartbeats ... "Time goes, you say. Ah, no! Alas, time stays, we go." :-> Kay
'Yesterday a child came out to wonder, caught a dragon fly inside a jar, Fearful when sky was full of thunder, and tearful at the falling of a star And the seasons they go round and round and the painted ponies go up and down We're captive on a carousel of time We can't return, We can only look behind from where we came And go round and round in the circle game.' -Joni Mitchell I have taken the bull by the horns and decided to write this opinion without any prior thought. Just pretend we're in a kitchen at a party. I'm drinking Merlot and for some reason all the niceities have flown by and we're feeling rather philosophical or drunk (LOL covering myself to all eventualities here). I think the Joni Mitchell sum up time nicely. It's much more than us being aware that we must keep an appointment at two o clock. Some years ago I stopped wearing a watch and started living on 'Jo time', that suits me just fine as I don't have a job and can pretty much study (or not) as the case may be due to the structure of my course. If my day begins at 5 am or 2.30 pm it doesn't really hold much consequence for me. I eat, drink sleep and all those other mundane things whenever I wish. This is not to say that I live in my own little world, because I do keep doctor's appointments and of course have night's out with friends, but generally I do what I please, when I please. I know that once I embark on a career I will have to relinquish this delicious freedom. But I think that there is far too much emphasis placed on time and the passing of her elusive being. I may be chronologically twenty five, but I also feel like a naive fourteen year old some of the time, but because of our ages we are expected to carry ourselves in a certain way and I think that the weight of this responsibility has led to us becoming an a
ge of anxiety and depression. That may seem like a sweeping and immature statement to make, but I do genuinely think that this emphasis placed on time and the need to be so structured is kind of detrimental to the experience of being human. So what if we're not where we're supposed to be in our spiritual or personal world. Who makes these grand edicts anyhow? I do, however think that the pqassing of time is essential to certain aspects of my life. No, let me explain. If I got asked if I could have the Groundhog Day experience of one of the happiest times, I would kindly decline. You see, if I had this gift, I would not appreciate the time. Cliched but true, you don't really appreciate what you had until it's gone. Sometimes you don't even realise you were happy until you become sad. I know that earlier this week I wrote a very bleak opinion on the loss of certain loved ones. I do not renege on that, that was where I was at the time, but now I am here. Time allows us to change , for better or worse. Our own mortality may at times seem like a burden, but it also inspires (or at least should?) making the most of the present. Present. Gift. More than a play on words I think.