Domestic Violence

I have recently been to court for an emergency injunction and occupational order and just before the hearing I sat and read my statement properly for the first time as I had described what had happened during my abusive relationship and how I had felt over the telephone to a domestic viloence helpline lady and told her why I needed her help and now it was all down on paper before my own eyes. Tears of sadness and shock poured down my cheeks as I simply could not belive the story I was reading was my life - my old life and thankfully now my past. (long one im sorry....) I met my abuser when I was 17, he was 27 and I thought he was great. To cut a long story ...  Read the complete review

On May the 14th 2009, I changed my life for the better. I had spent four years and three months in an abusive relationship, and made the choice to leave. I'd met my partner back in 2004, but finally started a relationship with him on Valentines Day 2005. Things moved very quickly. Within a matter of months, he had persuaded me to move in. I was 20 at the time. MY ex had two children from a previous relationship. I quickly became responsible for them, starting with babysitting when they were round ours and he was working. He soon convinced me that it wasn't fair on me for me to be looking after his own kids, so dropped out of work so he could ...  Read the complete review

Whenever on here I always look at personal stories that you lot write. I'm very interested in what shapes and moulds us as people and it's good to know that we are not alone in facing demons and we're not the only one's to suffer in some way throughout life. I always think of the motto there is always someone worse off than you. I'm not going to throw statistics at you. I purely want you to know my story and that if your suffering at the hands of someone with domestic violence that you CAN get away from it even if it's difficult. I never thought I would get away but I did but don't get me wrong it took me a very long time to get over it and even now I have the ...  Read the complete review

When I was about 16 I met someone who after just 2 weeks I was silly enough to move in with. He was gorgeous and I was not the best looking girl so I was flattered. Everything was perfect at first. He was loving, caring, kind and would do everything for me. He used to make all the meals, do all the housework and everything. It wasn't until about 4 months later after we had been food shopping that it all changed. We got home and had not even started to unpack. He looked really angry so I asked what was wrong. He told me that I had been flirting with the man at the till. He started shouting and screaming at me and calling me a slag. He went in the huff ...  Read the complete review

Having read the previous reviews on domestic violence, it occurs to me that that it would be helpful to put society's attitude to violence against women in its historical context. Reasonable chastisement of a woman was still a defence to assault until the 1940s - ie a man was 'entitled' to beat his wife, in order to enforce ensure her obedience. It only became an offence to rape your wife in approx 1994. Prior to that date, a woman was not permitted to refuse her husband intercourse. These two facts are shocking in themselves. But put them together and it becomes apparant that there are women, alive today, who lived through a ...  Read the complete review