I had seen Dooyoo making a bit of a fuss about the Erotic section recently billed as "an over 18s only category with plenty of naughty surprises." and thought that it would be a good fun addition to the site. Not to mention providing practical independent recommendations on products that it can be a bit embarrassing to ask about face to face.
The first reviews were very tentative and seemed to centre around "erotic costume" and novelty items. I thought that this was just because people were a little bit embarrassed to suggest more "hands on" erotic products ,so to speak.
Anyway I thought what the hell I'll get the ball rolling and suggest a vibrator to review. Hardly the most adventurous suggestion as the vibrator I put forward was the Rampant Rabbit. Never has a sex toy had as much a press as this one, thanks to the ladies on Sex and the City it is almost a byword for such products. However I thought it would be not only interesting but useful to have it reviewed in the real world. I can assure you my review was going to be a very practical review not explicit or titillating - just good honest opinion about a product that it can be hard to discuss with friends and family.
Thanks to the ladies on Sex and the City I thought that the stigma about sex toys had gone, no longer to be whispered about and wrapped up in anonymous paper bags - there seems to be an Ann Summers on the high street of most cities. Unfortunately Dooyoo did not feel the same and my suggestion was rejected. The team had asked us "don't be shy - tell us what you think!" it seems that Dooyoo are the shy ones here as my suggestion was rejected :(
I know that such products are not to every ones taste but I think reviews on these type of products would have been very useful to alot of people.
I'm not sure how you are meant to star these kind of discussions so I will just go straight down the middle.
I have been with Dooyoo, writing reviews in exchange for Miles, for a few years now and have never really had reason to complain. True, I am a bit disgruntled about the new Miles system and a tad disheartened that some of my favoured Categories now give me less Miles than in previous years, but this is neither the time or the place to discuss such quibbles. Especially when all it means is that I have to work just that little bit harder to earn my rewards.
But the new introduction of an Erotic category kind of befuzzles me!
I mean, I am not sure who is actually going to use it!
I don't mean who is going to read it because we all have sex and a large majority of us have a certain amount of curiosity about products designed to help us achieve a healthier and more active sex life even if some of us are reluctant to use said items or are slightly embsarrassed by their presence. But I am not sure who is going to write reviews for some of the products listed under the category such as sex dolls or butt-plugs.
Now I am not a prude by any means and like to think I have a fairly open mind but really? If I was the kind of person to use a sex doll for instance (and no...thats not a confession though I do possess, but have never used thank-you very much, a blow-up sheep that was bought me as a joke gift one xmas), I still do not think I would come on somewhere like Dooyoo and offer my authoritive insight on to how realistic her holes were or how easily she was to keep clean or tidy away! The idea that someone would come on here and not just confess to such use but also comment on how pleasurable the experience all was really does not fill me with much relish and I find it hard pressed to imagine that anyone would feel that confident in their sexuality that they might consider doing so! Likewise some of the other toys on offer for review.....penis pump anyone? Oh yes, that WON'T be mine! A certain Austin Powers sketch from the first film springs to mind!
I am all for diversity and some of the items listed such as Lingerie and Costumes I see could be useful in terms of quality control but I would be very surprised if someone wrote reviews for some of the other items listed there! As such, this kind of makes it a defunct category. Especially, as you don't get points for writing reviews there either!
I am sure there are plenty of other places where you can get reviews for these products that better caters to the market it is intended to reach. Do we then need this on Dooyoo? I think not. But of course, I might be wrong and will be watching to see who (if any) of us is brave enough to actually turn up and offer their advice and wisdom on some of the products available for review.
Not because I want to use or need any of them, you understand, merely for research and out of professional Reviewer curiosity! Lol!
Everyone has sex...they can lie and say they dont or those who are prudish and feel it should stick to the bedroom so be it.
Sex is natural and its something we all talk about...all the time..it may be the odd passing comment or smutty remark or even that we dont do it...but we DO!!!!
I think that Dooyoo should have an erotic section for sure. Most people are shy and dont like to discuss this kind of thing and then there are others who are either too much in your face with how many times they ''did it'' the night before ,or there are the silent times you can never read.
I am a mixture of the 2..I love a bit of smut and I love to talk about it but to be honest when it gets really personal I clam up!! To be honest its more a case of not knowing your audience..Having worked with women and a few men for over 8 years I got into the pattern of being able to chat to other women about the latest vibrator or erotic catalogue offering the best sex toys around.
It has all changed,,,,not only over time but in the circle that you mix in. I work mainly with men now and its strange how much of a change there is. Men give it the large but I have to say most of them embarrass really easily which I am really shocked by.
After one too many vinos in the pub one lunch I remember staggering back to work and having a rather amusing if not scary convo with one of my male colleagues about the distinct lack of expertise when it came to vibrator manufacturers ...although very merry I was actually really quite serious on this topic and decided to re approach this when I was sober as I had nothing but scared looks when I talked it through the first time.
Anyhow it made no difference the men( or boys as they are under 35) had the same approach the second time around. A few were mildly interested in the detail of how vibrators work in the best way. maybe it was because those guys was single or maybe just that we bonded over this but we managed to have a serious convo about it. I complained about the lack of honesty with not only colleagues and friends but also with the sellers of these products.
Anne Summers is a name most people know and giggle about. But when you asses their products and what they offer it is actually pretty limited. they have a pre conceived idea of sex and what is sexy and I have to say I am not impressed. They arent cheap and the things they offer are not new or innovative they are basic and almost what every girl/man has experienced...its almost on the level of been there done that got the t shirt...
Anyway my point is that sex should be talked about, Whether its a quick tip or a bit of advice,,,a way to spice things up,,,or to gain more control whatever it is you are looking for I think having an erotic section would benefit everyone .....
An erotic section hey... I think I'm a bit too British to be writing reviews about sex products! I would however, probably find it informative to read other people's opinions.
I have attempted to write review about "bedroom products" in the past. A few weeks ago I started writing a review about a Durex Play lubricant, but to be honest I didn't quite know how to express my opinion without writing more than I was comfortable with and in the end I scrapped the review completely.
In some ways I'm not sure how this section would work, because I don't know how anybody could possibly give an honest opinion about using a sex toy... never in a million years would you catch me uploading a review like that.
Am I a prude? I don't think so... I just wouldn't feel comfortable writing a review about an "erotic product" (unless of course, I had a few glasses of wine inside me. Hehe.).
I'd also be interested to know how the Italians monitor this area of the website, because surely lots of obscene material is uploaded? The guides would have to be quick off the mark in this section!
I'm sure there are people out there that wouldn't have an issue with reviewing erotic products and as well as generating a lot of traffic for the website, I'm sure that these reviews would be of use to a lot of users. There is so much over-priced tat on the market and it would be good to know what's what without shelling out on a "sensual lube" that leaves you feeling sticky and irritable. ...Oh God, am I actually discussing the concept of an intimate product without blushing? I think I am!
Overall I think this category would be a good addition to Dooyoo... just don't expect me to be writing erotic reviews!
I think having an erotic section acceptable , and would be good to see and i think commenting on products should be allowed if they wanted , it is always good to pick up new tips to use in the bedroom.
Yes a few people my think it is not right but at least this site is monitored really well so unacceptable behaviour in reviewing the products would soon be removed.
I do not see any reason why it should be added and I'm sure it will be done in the proper manner informing people what it is about so then the writer can decide if they want to enter. there are so many sex sites out in there that adding one here seems no different , sex is a part of peoples lives and discussed all over the place. We live in the 2000's now it is no longer 1940 where sex was swept under the carpet.
I do hope it is added as i can say i shall be commenting and visiting the section I'm rather looking forward to it and from reading other peoples opinions on it they are too.
Yes I would like to see an erotic section.... Granted there would be a lot of sniggering at the back, and blushing............and of course hiding behind the sofa, which I do when the subject of sex is brought up.. I think it will bring me out of my strict catholic up bringing shell, and gently ease me into a world were being comfortable with all kinds of sexual images, metaphores and innuendos are really quite important.
I am barred of course by 'the good woman' from looking at anything of a sexual nature at present. This would be ideal, as she would never suspect anything going on here on Dooyou. So even though it would be a bit sneaky, it is still by far a great idea.
Without going down the religious path too much- Catholic men tend to marry the same bride version of their Mothers. In fact the first thing Joanne did on our first date was spit on a tissue and wipe my dirty face.
Ok shouldn't of gone on a date with a dirty face but I was nervous and a tomato sauce, marmite and salad cream sandwich did the job nicely.
So yes please please please, 'The Powers That Be on Dooyou' I need to finish off my education and hold my head up high with my peers and not have people needing to explain saucy punchlines to me. I promise in return to buy all the sex products as a thank you.
Can always use the 'merchandise' as presents............maybe not for my nan!
I would like to see an erotic category also. I mean after all sexual products are extremely natural and have a huge market in the UK. There are a vast amount of erotic products on the market which aren't cheap, and I'm sure there are a number of readers who would like to know others experiences before shelling out hard earned cash.
The only problems I foresee are the monitoring of the reviews and also getting reviews. Let me explain abit more. Firstly the guides on this particular subject would need to be extremely fast in removing posts, which go too far and are too explicit. Secondly I foresee a problem getting sensible reviews from the more experienced and respected reviewer. I may be wrong, but I personally could not see somebody giving an honest review on a sex toy. How he/she found it during use? etc. Okay there will be those out there who are quite open about their sexual experiences, but I think they are probably more in the minority. I think those who do will find a huge amount of people rating them though!!
Maybe one day this category will find its way on dooyoo. I'm sure that, like much of the adult industry, in the comfort of your own home, there will be many men and women, who would enjoy it.
Around 20 years ago I was an Ann Summers rep (earning a top sales for the South badge!). Those days were fun.
My only embarrasing moment was when my parents helped me move home and I had two big cases of all my samples - whips/potions/lingerie/ vibrators/ love balls etc etc... I decided to hide some of the vibrators (because my cases were too full) in the bottom of some plastic bin liners with various clothes on top to 'disguise' the true contents. My dad started to carry the bags down my stairs and suddenly the bin liner ripped at the bottom. (Damn those cheap bin liners...!).
Out poured all these vibrators - and there was a deathly silence as they all bounced down the stairs and rolled loudly over my hall tiles. Finally the batteries also came to a halt...and my mum picked one up and said "are these yours dear?". My dad made a strange noise and walked outside ....Oh the SHAME!! ;-) lol
Anyway I thought I'd write a brief note on some things to think about when purchasing sex toys which may/may not assist - and which you all probably know anyway!!
POINTS TO CONSIDER WHEN BUYING A VIBRATOR
1. Firstly, you can check out the intensity of a vibrator by placing it on the tip of your nose - it will give you a reasonable indication - although not totally the same granted! (I don't think anywhere offers changing rooms to try out these things but correct me if I'm wrong).
2. Many women are allergic to rubber. If you are, think TWICE about the type of vibrator you buy - you may need to opt for a boring plastic casing instead of the latest latex designs. Sometimes, rubber or latex ones can cause thrush or irritation afterwards.
3. Remember to check in the shop how "noisy" the vibrator is before purchasing. If you are in your own home and don't have children and are happy to have loud sounding vibrators then fine...but sometimes a woman likes a more secretive 'play' i.e. when hubby's asleep and she doesn't feel like sex(! oh yesss...we ONLY tell you sometimes that we don't feel like it because our vibrators are BETTER LOL). Perhaps with young children in a next room a quieter vibrator is also better otherwise you worry that you may wake someone.
4. Always clean the vibrator after use - sometimes the plain plastic ones make this easier.
5. If you are buying a vibrator for your partner, check first what she/he prefers. You may get off on the thought of giving them a 14" black stallion vibrator - while they may prefer a 3" small clitoral stimulator...you see where I'm going with this? It's a very personal choice - unless you are just adding to a large collection.
6. Be aware that your vibrator can interfere with TV signals - so if you are house sharing and they start getting lines down their telly they know what you're up to. Someone more technical can perhaps tell me if this is still the case with the advent of sky tv...but it was definitely an 'issue' before.
7. There is obviously a time/place for vibrators - but be aware of the story in the newspapers a year or two back of some woman trying out a clitoral stimulator (a butterfly type I think) while out shopping in Tescos/Sainsburys -she consquently passed out from having too much fun. If you are going to do something like this - test drive it first in your own home LOL. ;-)
A POINTS TO PONDER WITH DUO BALLS
Duo balls are like two balls with a piece of cord attaching them which clink/vibrate as you move (you put them inside you). However what many people fail to realise is that sometimes they set off security alarms because of the ball bearings inside them. This goes for shop alarms and of course Airport Security. Try not to travel through customs with your duo balls or you may spark an incident! (If you do, please write about it on Dooyoo so we can all get to hear about it first :-)
SOCIAL ETIQUETTE RULE WHEN HAVING AN ANN SUMMERS PARTY
They are fun for a girlie night in - but remember, if you decide to hold a party, make sure you tell everyone present that "what's said at the party, stays at the party" i.e. not to be spoken about outside. It's a social etiquette rule really and its well worth enforcing and mentioning because it avoids any problems afterwards.
I mention this because I remember one of my clients who worked at some stables and I did a party for around 20 or so of her friends. She happened to mention that she wore duo balls when she went out horse riding. The next day, a couple of the stable lads shouted across to her "Have you got your duo balls in Laura?" Bless...she was highly embarrassed and it took her a while to live it down.
TIPS FOR ANN SUMMERS REPS
1. Be sensitive to the group you are 'working'. If they are loud and brash and knocking back the alcohol then you can tailor your presentation, words and jokes to appeal to them. If they are quieter and more reserved then you need to adjust accordingly.
For example rules for trying on lingerie; with a more exhuberant group of women (read rough!) then you tell them to keep their knickers on because you don't want to scrape loads of white stuff off the gusset. With a more demure lot it would be the last thing you'd say.
2. A lot of preparation makes for the best parties. Have loads of different games in your mind and all the prep behind them - and adjust it according to how the party is going. It takes experience and hard work to make a party seamless. For example, 20 years ago I used to make chocolate willies as prizes and a large chocolate willy for the top prize (using my Ann Summers moulds) as part of my pre-party preparation. I did this the night before. Making parties fun and getting everyone - no matter how quiet to join in - can make all the difference between good sales and mediocre sales - you need to get everyone relaxed and in the buying mood.
3. A lot of sales can be made outside of the parties. I used to have several regular customers who wanted the products but didn't want the faff of a party. It's important that you make everyone feel comfortable - i.e. I used to have an old woman who wanted to buy lube every few months - and making her feel that it was a highest selling product because most women found it useful and suffered dryness at menopause or other times was an important aspect of keeping her business.
Well doo yoo. I think if there are people who would like to review erotica things, they should be able to.
We live in a democracy right? So it would be a niche for people. And maybe they would have a lot to say about certain products which would be helpful to potential buyers.
I don't think anyone should be offended, if they didnt want to see reviews they dont have to type it in to doo yoo. We should be more open. To deny your impulses is to deny your very existance afterall!
I would like to write about various erotic categories like ann summer nights and toys etc. I think a lot of people could maybe learn from the reviews written. Because lets face it were all were not born with complete erotic knowledge. So its nice to hear other peoples points of views.
I hope you do add it even if a few people reply to the question, it shows an interest and some others might not feel as open to talk about it. Lets get sexually liberated! lol.
I would like to say it was a good idea because there are a lot of erotic products (from Ann Summers, for example) that are good fun and that there is no reason to be ashamed of using.
But sadly I think that if dooyoo did introduce the category it would soon be abused by people advertising porn sites and so on. Not only that but anything to do with eroticism seems to be more vulnerable to viruses and stupid links and so on, even if they have nothing to do with eroticism.
If they could come up with a way of controlling that sort of thing then it would be a good idea.
Otherwise I would suggest introducing some items but not bothering to put them in a seperate erotic category. I don't know if there are people who would get offended at browsing and seeing reviews for saucy underwear and vibrators, maybe there are, but I wouldn't have any problem with it personally.
In many ways it would be a very useful resource. I saw a documentary ages ago explaining that as many vibrators and other sex toys are sold as novelty items there is no safety check on them. But some plastics can be toxic and actually absorbed into the body, so it can be dangerous to use these. If people had reviews to refer to they could choose safer items.
While browsing through the bowels of DooYoo, I found this topic and decided to have a stab at it, especially as I don't think of myself as a particularly erotic person - I can't resist a challenge. To me eroticism is about a sense of something rather elusive and ethereal, being more about an idea or a feeling than an actuality......so, here goes and let's see what comes up (so to speak!):-
1) What would you describe as Erotica?
Bruce Springsteen's bum
In the 1970s, Errol Brown's (Hot Chocolate) dancing
Meatloaf's "Bat Out Of Hell" album - not he himself though!
Van Morrison's "Stepping Out Queen Mk II" track on his "Philosopher's Stone" album
Exile's "I Want To Kiss You All Over"
2) Would you like to have a category dedicated to this?
Errrrrrr seems like there already is one? Or maybe I have misunderstood something? I don't really have an opinion on the issue one way or the other.
3) Have you ever watched an erotic movie? If so, what is your general idea on this kind of movie?
Many years ago my ex husband and myself visited some friends, and they played us a blue movie. I actually found it hilarious, and not at all erotic.
4) Have you ever used a so called adult toy also know as sex toys or sex aids? If yes, which ones and what is your personal view of these products?
No I haven't. Even though my answer is "no", I'll still give a personal view. I can't see that sex aids would or ought to be anything to get hot under the collar or go on a moralistic crusade about. If people like to use them, then go ahead!
5) Many people say that British are prudish. Do you agree?
I don't think they are prudish these days, although maybe in the past they had a tendency to be......but I have found that a lot of young people who I've worked with in recent years, seem rather ill-informed as to the workings of the human body from the waist below, even though they are by no means prudes and seem to be out there in the big bad world getting their rocks off for England.
6) Have you ever had erotic dreams? If so, describe one.
A while ago I dreamed I was wearing a pink satin catsuit (that's a laugh in itself!!!) and was on my way to have an "experience" in a London hotel room with Simon Cowell. For some bizarre reason I was looking forward to it, but woke up before the deed even began.
Wow! Is that it? Seems like it.
There is no doubt in my mind that an "erotic catergory" would be a mistake, as sadly we live in a poor society which is addicted to porn, and if "erotic" post where put in here it wouldn't take long for this site to degenerate into just another porn or sex story site, and the members who do really like dooyoo and enjoy writing about real-life topical issues (me included) would be sadly dissappointed and probably leave through fear of clicking on a site which could lead to disgusting sites or being plauged by pop-ups. The idea may be a noble and good one, as many people i'm sure could write about the subject in an adult (excuse the pun)and objective way, and many more would find the reviews useful but it only takes one sicko to post his degenerate fantasys or godknows what else to ruin the site for everyone. I've onlyrecently joined this site and so don't want it ruined just as im getting addicted!
People want to buy erotica, and just as with anything else, there is good and bad stuff out there. Just as with anything else, I suppose, people would enjoy reading reviews on it.
My main worry wouldn't in fact be anything to do with seediness so much as how it would look if future employers did a random search and someone's erotica review popped up. Sure, it's legal enough but do you really want your employer knowing what porn pushes your buttons?
I would suggest making any such category viewable for members only for that reason - although as they then have to pay 1.5p for everyone who views it, I'm not sure how profitable that would be for dooyoo. I think members give their birthdate on subscribing (yes?) so it would be easy to ensure anyone seeing them had to be 18 or up. I would still suggest making it opt in to view those reviews on search or new reviews though, because being an adult doesn't mean you're automatically interested, and also some members might have family members who use their computers.
The only other thing I would be wary of is, if an adult only category were to be created, would other things end up being pushed over into it? For instance, should booze reviews be classed as 18+? How about condom reviews? That would inevitably end up with less reads for those reviews, so it really needs to be considered.
The introduction of an 'erotic category' on Dooyoo would cause many problems. The biggest one is that there will always be people who get a kick out of abusing such a category.
I recently witnessed how one reviewer turned a condom review into something unpleasant and unhelpful and then proceeded to do the same with every other condom category.
If someone can do this with a perfectly reasonable adult discussion on the use of condons, imagine what a person of the same mind set would address in an erotica section.
There are many sites on the internet if people want to access this kind of material and I can see how the idea of reviewing them would be lucrative for Dooyoo.
However, it would take a lot of 'policing'. For example, in the new reviews section where the first few lines of reviews are printed there would need to be some way of preventing items that are only suitable for 18+ from being displayed and accessed.
The only alternative there is to make Dooyoo an adult site and allow that material to be added freely.
Putting Dooyoo into this category would affect its standing in search engines like Google and Yahoo (and others.)
So, how do we control the 'idiots' who would abuse this section?
How do we stop 18+ material showing up in the new reviews section?
How do we stop Dooyoo from becoming an unpleasant place full of reviews that many people don't want to read?
If all these thing can be addressed properly and successfully, I see no reason why Dooyoo shouldn't have an erotica section. Whatever floats your boat, as the saying goes.
However, I for one wouldn't want to read obscene, or explicit headlines and sample text from reviews in this section along with the reviews on bread and teabags on Dooyoo front page.
There's a danger of making if an unsafe and seedy place to be if this issue is not handled carefully.
Is there a place for erotic category on Dooyoo? Yes there is. Erotica could breathe a new life into peoples creative minds. Erotic reviews will be far more interesting. Reviews written in this category will get more reads for the writers.
The category could include reviews on sexual health, erotic books and dvds.
Erotica will be an incentive for people to join this site and bring new advertisers to the site.
Will anyone object to erotica on Dooyoo. Some might do but everyone will have to realise that this is a consumer review site and erotic products are sold to people and thus become consumer goods.
The reviews written here will help consumer decide on product.
Dooyoo has to be cautious on what is added to the erotic category as I don't want people reviewing hardcore stuff like dildos.
I don't mind reviews written however there has to be some sort of control. Perhaps reviews have to submit reviews to admin for checks.
I have an erotic review in mind already so why not?