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Member Name: Coconutter
Date: 16/03/12, updated on 30/09/12 (71 review reads)
Advantages: Giving rights and equality to everyone
Disadvantages: We live in a sometimes horrible world where people discriminate
It's really strange: after a debate erupted throughout my psychology class today about gay marriages I come on here, look through the general section for the first time and am greeted by this topic about gay marriage- obviously with it still fresh in my mind I've decided I'd give my opinion on it all. As this is still quite a contaversial debate in life I am going to stress what I say is just my own personal opinion taken from what I've read, seen and my experiences in life- nothing is being write to offend so please don't take it that way.
I'm gonna start by saying I generally can't believe how homophobic my class are after hearing what some of them said today, for a group of young people they have some incredibly strong beliefs and are more than happy to express them in a way I personally found to be quite offensive. I'm not gay and I'm perfectly happy this way but my views very much stand at: if you love someone why shouldn't you be with them? We live life with the aim to make it the happiest we possibly can and I find it hard to believe that someone would defy another person of being their true selfs and having a relationship with another person regarless of gender, race, religion etc. I'm not religious nor am I too bothered about big celebrations so marriage isn't something that particularly appeals to me (I'd be just as happy spending my life with the man I love without having a certificate to prove this) but I have some strictly Christian friends who see marriage and doing things 'properly' as a very important thing in their life and the same goes for many homosexual individuals around the world so I personally think gay marriage (in a church or anywhere else) is fine and the perfect way for many homosexual couples, like hetrosexual couples, to share this with the world and infront of their God make a commitment to the person they want to spend eternity with.
One thing that really stood out to me today was before the argument had even started whilst the tutor was reading an article about gay couples having children one girl loudly stated 'that's disgusting' and something that shocked me even more was the tutor agreed. Now I'm fine with the fact that others don't share my opinions but I found this to actually be a way a horrible way to express so. Though this review isn't about gay couples having children I feel like marriage it is, for many, a basic part of life and why they shouldn't be able to do either to me is just ridiculous. I know many gay couples who love each other a lot more than many straight couples that marry and many who have been much better parents than some straight parents- how our sexual orientation will affect how good a partner or parent we are is well beyond me. You get good straight parents, you get bad: you get good gay parents, you get bad- notice the recurring theme that this is not based upon sexual orientation.
It got very heated today and many of those who believed it was wrong ended up screaming and shouting over everyone else and one girl even admitted she was shacking when it was over as she had got so worked up. Many (if not all) of those who were strongly voicing their opinion come from an ethnic minority and just this thought makes me laugh as they are very much for equal rights for all ethnicitys- it was the way they were born why should they discriminated against because of this- yet the exact same applies for gay people. People don't choose to be gay and just like their race or gender it is something that they can't change so what gives someone they've never met the right to say they can't marry? It doesn't. It eventually got to the point where 'murders can repent but gay people can't'-I don't even want to comment on my thoughts of this as I can't make a promise that it will be appropriate for a site accessible to children.
Many views are based upon religion but I can't find any to bring a substantial arguement when many contradictions can be found in pretty much all religions so how we can take every word written as the truth is impossible. I understand that many say gay marriage is fine as long as it isn't done in a Church, Synagog, etc but then for me this is saying that these people are doing something wrong, that their religious beliefs don't matter and that they are less a person because they want to marry someone that traditionally they shouldn't.
I also can't quite work out why this should matter to many people who don't believe being gay or having a gay marriage is right- all I can think is 'don't have one then'. If you don't like it avoid it. Something that two men, you've never met, are doing officiated by a priest that is happy to do so doesn't require you to get upset or criticise.
Although not as celebrated or noted as other parts of history gay men and women have always been part of life and many of the great people that have made the world what it is today were gay or suspected gay- it is a natural thing, science has proven it is a natural thing, why would 'God' make someone like this if it wasn't a natural thing?
I think it is great that many celebrities and TV shows/ films are now promoting gay marriage as a good thing as that it what it is and it is things like that, that will open up this world to many young people that have been struggling to tell the world that they are gay out of fear of being ridiculed or seen as different- showing them that gay marriage is fine is part of this. The 'It Gets Better' campaign was a brilliant project launched by married gay couple Dan Savage and Terry Miller made to make this world better for many gay young people. I respect these people a lot more than I do someone who for no real reason believes that can make decisions for someone else.
I've grown up in what I see to be a fairly liberal generation where things are a lot more multi cultural and respectful of other people regardless of their lifestyle or belief and although I wouldn't say the same for my parents and some of the things they believe I'm proud to say they have let me defy my own understanding of the world. We are moving into an accepting world where people all have the same rights regarless of who they are and so this should be reflected in the laws, punishments and attitudes we have for homosexual lifestyles. I will walk into my psychology class on Monday with new views on these people I had previously seen as lovely people. There is no reason why gay marriage shouldn't be done so when this country comes to finally accept this I feel we will live in a much better place.
Summary: Homosexual people can't help who they are, who are we to say they can't marry?