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I Blame Jarvis
Member Name: duskmaiden
Date: 17/08/11, updated on 26/08/11 (53 review reads)
There are many milestones we pass on our journey through life. Birth, first steps, first day at school, first job, first car, engagement, marriage, children, retirement et al. Some are fixed whilst some come sooner for some than others and some do not come at all. I've recently hit one of the big milestones in life perhaps a tad later than most of my peers and I'd like to share it with you all. The milestone I recently reached and celebrated was becoming engaged to my lovely then boyfriend now finance M/
I am an old fashioned romantic at heart and certainly believe in marriage especially since my parents have been married 40 years this year. I must admit I have always dreamed of a marriage proposal and for ages felt it would never happen to me , as my last long term boyfriend did not believe in marriage. I know getting engaged and married is not for everyone Some think it is outdated and old fashioned and there are plenty of people who are happy as they are and do not want the expense or the hassle of a wedding just to prove their love. Its only a piece of paper I have heard many people say but deep down I know it has always been important to me as long as it was with the right person.
I maybe an old romantic but I am not keen on clinches. Being whisked away to Paris to have your man propose at th top of the Eiffel Tower or perhaps being serenaded by a gondola might be nice but not entirely original. I would bracket them with a dozen rd roses, as being flashy but just a bit boring. To me a true romantic proposal should be one that is personal and mean something to the two of you. I would also say only do it if you both feel ready for it. There's no point in getting engaged just because everyone else is doing it or you have been together x number of years if your heart is not in it.
"Just 20,000 people standing in a field? "
M and I met two year ago on a dating website and we bonded over a love of Britpop and indie music. So when Pulp announced they were getting back together to play Hyde Park on July 3 2011 I bought tickets for us for M's Christmas present.
The day in question arrived. It was a lovely sunny day and we were in high spirits looking forward to singing along to all our old Pulp favourites. The Hives really helped lift the mood with their bouncy songs and theatrical show As the day wore on we got into position for a fairly decent view of Pulp. Whilst waiting we marveled at Grace Jones managing to keep a hula hoop going throughout the whole of "Slave to the Rhythm" . By the time Pulp came on at around 9 o clock the frenzied anticipation really created a fantastic atmosphere. The band burst on stage with "Do You Remember the First Time" and from then on we were hooked by Jarvis's charisma, his witty observations between songs and the set of wall to wall hits.
"Martin Said you were the Best"
Halfway through the set the band played "Something Cchanged" which is a special song for us because it reminds us of when we first dating seriously. I remember just feeling so close to M whilst we danced and kissed in a little world of our own. It just felt so nice and so special. I almost wanted to cry with joy, as it was just such a magical song. "Something Changed " finished and Jarvis mentioned something about a couple getting engaged at their recent Barcelona gig before launching into "Disco 2000". We were dancing away when I thought I saw M fall. I was worried hoping he had not been pushed by the jostling crowd but the next thing I knew he was down on one knee asking me to marry him. I was in shock about this happening even though we had discussed the possibility of getting engaged before. Once I realised what he was asking I said yes! The one thing that clearly stands out in my mind about it ll was the reaction of the crowd surrounding us. I There was a giddy atmosphere as everyone clambered around congratulating us with loads of hugs and hand shakes. The response from strangers was just so nice. I do not remember the rest of the concert in great detail. It was just a blur . We had lost our friends and although I was enjoying the gig I was feeling a bit sick and just wanted to get out and scream and shout.
M had wanted to ask my dad for my hand in marriage before he proposed but it was such a spur of the moment thing he asked him when we phoned my parents , as soon as we could find a quiet place after the gig. I just remember going home in a daze wondering if it really happened, as it all felt so surreal. We decided to tell our nearest and dearest early on but keep it low key. M's brother was getting married mid August so felt it was not right to make a big deal straight away. We did not want to steal their thunder so agreed not to announce it to the world until after my future brother in law's wedding.
You'll be wanting to know about the ring but I'll have to disappoint you, as I have not got one yet. It should be coming sooner or later even if I get it for Christmas. I do look at my wedding ring finger and feel likeIi have an invisible ring there.
I am really enjoying being engaged and saying my fiance although I do forget and still occasionally say boyfriend! I'm not sure how long our engagement will be. At the moment we are in the early stages of bouncing ideas off each other and researching possible venues. We could marry in Reading or in Scotland we are not sure yet. We do need a bit of time to deal with a few important issues such as moving in together. This will also give us time to save up, as weddings do not come cheep. We are looking at autumn 2012 at the very earliest to anytime during the summer of 2013. We don't know yet and we still need to meet with my parents which we will do in October.
Whatever happens I am so looking forward to spending the rest of my life with my gorgeous fiancÚ and becoming Mrs M.
Update. I've now got a very beautiful 9 carat white gold ring with aa cluster of diamonds set in a very simple square
Summary: My tale