Helpful discipline (How to Discipline Children)

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Product:	How to Discipline Children
Date:	08/05/05 (333 review reads)
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Advantages: Happy Children, C.T.B.G

Disadvantages: Time, perserverance, Consistency required

Firstly to help your children learn discipline, you have to be a good role model, it is no good shouting and screaming at your children for all you are doing is teaching them to do it back. Teach by example. Calmly say, 'I'll talk to you when you've calmed down.'

The best way to get a message across about behaviour is to try and ignore the bad behaviour and reward the good. C.T.B.G is a motto that is very important. Catch Them Being Good.

I know that is all very well to say this but if you are always telling them off for bad behaviour, you are giving them attention, albeit bad attention but it's still attention the same. If you ignore them, they will realise their bad behaviour is having no effect and will eventually learn that it's not working and give up.

Now to get the good behaviour going, you have to notice any small significant thing they are doing that is pleasing, and tell them so, 'Well done. Thank you for .....'

If you give them attention for doing things that are pleasing, they will soon realise that by doing things that you notice, you give them attention and they will reap the rewards of your attention.

It's not easy, I know, but you can see the reasoning behind this and believe me it does work.

Have an area away from toy, bedroom that they can be put if they are exceptionally naughty and make them stay for as long as you see fit. Don't expect unreasonable amounts of time though, it can be more of an off putting experience if you overdo it.

When they have done something good, or pleasing or apologised, do make up with a cuddle or what ever suits, it will make them feel good.

Don't hold grudges, children live for here and now, not what damage they caused to Mum or Dad yesterday.

I have occasionally tried taking a favourite toy which also works well if you stick to your guns, but it depends on what other toys you have about, they may just shrug and play with something else.

Give them small tasks to make them feel important and helpful, this will do wonders for their self esteem and make them feel better about themselves.

I know there are no easy answers, but all you can do is try your best. Good luck

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