I Was Little Miss Perfect. (How to Discipline Children)

Name: katygriff

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Product:	How to Discipline Children
Date:	09/04/06 (314 review reads)
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Advantages: Learn How to do it Properly.

Disadvantages: I See So Many People Not.

Before you all faint and think oh my god I didn’t know Katy had children, I don’t but although I am not a mother myself I think I know quite a lot about how to discipline children from my experience and also listening to my Mom. So here I go in my review and hopefully by the end of it a lot of it will have made perfect sense.

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Perfect Little Me:

A bit of a pretentious title for one of my sections but to be honest I was the perfect child. Apart from when I was a baby and continually cried so my Dad would end up walking around with me and my pram at four in the morning but nobody can help their baby ways. Anyway when I was growing up I was a great child as I never caused my parents any troubles, I always used to share my problems with them and I always used to behave in public and private.

My Mom said this was down to her way of disciplining children because it has worked with my sister also. She did not smack us or yell at us but instead she did everything with such elegance that when she said no we knew that she meant no.

Her secrets for doing this were quite easy and that is she would compromise with us a lot of the time and she would not say no for the sake of saying no but instead only said no to the really big things that she had to. I have to say that I was never naughty because she told me that if I ever had a problem that I could confide in her and that is what I did. My Mom and Dad made growing up easy for me as I always knew that they were there for me. It may sound silly to some people but even at bedtime they would make it as comfortable and enjoyable as possible so I didn’t play up. I would get ready into some comfortable pyjamas and then my Mom or Dad would come and give us a drink and then read us a story and I blame this for my obsession with pyjamas now.

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My Moms Work:

My Mom works with very under-privileged children in the way that they have been treated and works in a special part of a school where the children learn how to be calm and relax. Very recently they have had the inspectors around the school like all schools do to monitor how the teachers are doing. My Mom and her friend were the only ones in the school to be told that they were doing everything right and should continue with the good work. This is why I have taken on my Moms advice for this topic as she knows what she is doing.

If you are wondering what types of kids she deals with then imagine children that you see on the adverts to try and get you to donate money to help them and those are the kinds of kids so she has seen all types of discipline.

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So How to Discipline Children:

There are many different ways to stop your kids behaving but it does depend on what they are doing and what time of night it is so here are things that were done when I was a child and also tips my Mom has given me to tell you all about her work children.

Never Shout:
The most important lesson is to not raise your voice although I know how hard it is to resist doing so sometimes when you are angry. Instead what you should do is use a very firm voice as it sounds very harsh and has a very strong effect without the need to be loud. When I hear people shouting I want to shout back and this is what it is like with children. It should not be one rule for adults and then one for kids as children learn from people around them so you need to teach by example.

No Means No:
This is one from my childhood as it was very effective and thinking about it still is now I am all grown up. Children are renowned for asking for things such as ice-cream and sweets and toys but if you say no every time and sometimes give in then children think they can just keep asking until they get their own way, I always knew that if I asked for something and my Mom said no then it was a definite know and believe me it saved a lot of annoyance for my Mom when I was little. It worked for my Sister too.

Designate Somewhere Naughty:
I have noticed this done with my boyfriend’s nephew and it really works. If a child is misbehaving then if you send them away either to a mat or a specific part of the room and call that a naughty place then they will hate it. It is hard enough for children to sit still but if you send them to a place away from everybody so it is quiet and they can think what they have done then they will be ready to apologise and will not want to be sent there again. Just remember not to send them there for hours but only a few minutes.

Make Bedtimes Fun:
I have already explained this above but most of my friends say that the worse time when they were little was when they had to go to bed and they are always shocked when I say how much I loved it. Get the children cosy pyjamas and sit reading a story and make them a drink and then always make sure that you give them a kiss and say goodnight. I know it will not work with all kids but I have seen too many people just force there kids to get ready and then shove them in the room and leave them to go to sleep.

Quiet Time:
This is one from my Moms work and it is a brilliant idea. They have a tent in the room at the school and the children use it to have a think in. I know it may seem a bit silly but it helps these kids as they are unruly and they love having a bit of time to themselves taking a cuddly toy with them and having some quiet time away from everybody in there own little shelter. I think it is great as if they are being naughty then they can just go and have a think about what they have done and then my Moms kids do come out and apologise and have realised what they did that was so naughty.

Make Sure They Know When They Have Been Good:
When a child is good they must know that so a good way of doing it is to do an activity with them or give them a small treat so that they know if they stay with this good behaviour that they will be rewarded. If I knew I was going to get sweets if I was good then I would act that way all of the time.

Never Ever Use Violence:
This is the worst thing you could ever do to a child and smacking does not do you or the child any favours. If Mom and Dad can smack then why cant I? I have seen so many children during my years who have been smacked and many of them have become slightly violent themselves so I would never recommend it but I do think this is only when they were smacked regularly.

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So there you go, I hope some of those may have helped and I know many of them seem obvious but there are so many people who have trouble with their kids and do not get anywhere. If you do want any more tips from my Mom or for me to ask her something then please let me know.

I am going to give this subject five stars because I do think if you do things this way then you will have an ok time and I just hope that everyone who has children are having a great time as less naughty behaviour will make everyone happy.

Thanks for reading.

xxx

Summary: No Smacking, Just Love.