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How to Discipline Children
Member Name: donnagall
How to Discipline Children
Advantages: smacking is wrong
What a dodgy subject to write about. This topic can be taken into many views and contexts depending upon a persons own beliefs. Well how do most people discipline children generally it is smacking but as we all have heard the euro is trying to force the UK government into outright banning of chasteising children in this manner. But what does that mean for us. will we get prosecuted for smacking our kids and could this not open a whole whirlwind for the few troublesome kids that we all know about. Personally I hate smacking my kids and I only ever do it as a very last resort. Even when I do I normally apologise for it after a few hours when things have settled. But that is how well we can come together to admit that we have both been wrong etc.
The thing that worries me is what is smacking classed as to me it should me no more than a smack across the bottom or a slapped hand. people who punch and kick their kids do go to far and even though it is getting far less common it still occurs. I just swore that I wouldn't treat my kids that way or let anyone else either because I know what it is like to be on the recieving end on a daily basis. I also know that the way the courts are i could take him to court but I think whats the point as it would only cause more trouble. For me it is in the past it is the kids that go through things like this now that we must think about. Saying that he was not my parent and no matter what I think I cannot condone the smacking of other peoples children. This is not on only the parents should have the right or power to approve or dissaprove of this. Thats why I think that stopping punishments in school was good.
I can remember getting the cane at infants as well for making faces in the class. I for one would not be happy with any teacher that smacked my kids. For all we know the teacher may just be having a bad day and end up taking it out on some pupil. Not niice to think of but it certainly is a possibility.
We are all try to do the "right thing" by our kids. We see someone in public shouting at their kid and smacking them and you see people staring at them. how do we know what that child may have done or whether they deserve a telling of or not. They are not our kids and we have not been around to be able to judge things.
Not all kids are so gracious to go to their rooms to sit out their punishment, some would just climb straight out their windows to do what they wanted to. The way I see it there should be strict guidelines laid out to say exactly what would be classed as reasonable punishment. This would go a long way to help parents who honestly and seriously want to do the right thing by their kids. We all know that there are some kids who are almost uncontrolable. The law is now capable of punishing their parents for what they do. Is it fair if you got a fine because of something your child done when you may practically have your hands tied behind your backs when it comes to disciplining your kids. Plus like I said earlier whats to stop some kids from claiming abuse has occured when none did.
Very tricky thing to sort out indeed. Personally I think that there would be too much time energy and money wasted until there are true guidelines set out to what is acceptable and what is not. Not all kids are the same. Your child may be heartbroken if you send them to bed or ground them. The person sitting next to you at the cafe or on the bus may just get told to f off if they said something like that to their kids.
I even have known kids that have assaulted their parents so what would we do with them. The main point that I am trying to get over is firstly there are too many different situations to just say no we cannotphysically chastise any kids. Not all kids are even bothered by forms of punishment. So how do we punish kids then.
All in all this is too hard a subject for anyone to state what they think is right and wrong as most people would write what they personally believe and as all kids are different there truly needs to be better clarification for parents and more help for those parents who are ready to admit that they may have a problem themselves or with their kids. Not all kids are angels and all kids are different on a daily basis. personally i would leave it at the parents discretion but with very strict guidelines.
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