Well timed works wonders (How to Discipline Children)

Name: charlhrdy

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Product:	How to Discipline Children
Date:	01/09/06 (322 review reads)
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I am generally in favour of not smacking children. However I do think there is a time and place for smacking.
My child is extremely wilful, if I say no, he will push and push and push. No amount of naughty step will stop him. I remove him, distract him and play with him, but he will still return to the scene of the crime time and time again.

I wasn't going to smack, I was going to use positive reinforcement, and I managed this until my son was nearly two. Then I caught him turning on the cooker, first I said no, then I moved him, then said no, and moved him, and said no, sat him on the step, used distractions. I suppose you could say I could have not had him in the kitchen, but that doesn't work all the time. It's too impractical.

I decided to smack him for it. When I found him doing it I smacked him on the hand, said no and moved him. He was mortified, and it was effective for a much longer time.. He still does it, but thinks much longer about it first.

So yes I am in favour of smacking children, but the circumstances must be extreme and I certainly don't advocate beating them around the house. A well time/placed smack can do far more than repeated No's.
However, too often and the smack can become as ineffectual as the word 'no' there was a time when my son would listen when I said no.

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