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How to Discipline Children |
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20/05/07 (237 review reads) |
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This is a very difficult topic for most people and I am no different. I am the mother to 3 girls. My kids are 15, 4 and 3 years old. Having kids at such different ages gives me very different ways of disciplining them. I hardly can treat a 15 year old the same as a 3 year old.
Now to the big question, do I believe in smacking my kids? Well the short answer would be yes. I know that this could make me very unpopular but I feel that there are times when a little tap on the hand does no harm and gets their attention. This I feel is only need up to a certain age, I would and could never smack my daughter at 15 she is too old for that. She needs another form of discipline. I will take her ipod away or stop her using the computer. To be honest this upsets her far more than a smacked hand ever would.
My two little girls are very well behaved for their age. I am very proud when I take them out and people comment on their manners and how sweet they are. Oh don’t get me wrong they don’t have halos over their heads, they can be little devils like any other kids, but due to the fact that I am not scared of disciplining them, they are not little terrors. There are times when I have told them not to do something and they don’t listen. I give them three warnings then I will tap their hand. When I say tap I mean a tap. I could not hurt my kids for anything in this world. For me, my kids need to know that I mean business. When they do something naughty then they need to know what they have done. There will be people who say that there are other ways but I have tried them. I have tried the naughty step but they sit there singing and once even my little one fell asleep. Smacking their hands should be a last resort. This does not stop me from threatening it every now and then just to get their attention.
I think that any one who has had kids knows that it is very difficult to bring up your kids in the right way. Do you push your kids to do something or do you let them find their own way? Unfortunately kids don’t come with a user manual and every man and his dog will give you advice on how to look after them. I have come to the conclusion that there is no right way to bring up or discipline kids but there is a wrong way.
Kids need love food, water, warmth and guidance. How you do this has to be up to you. If you give them those 5 things then you won’t go far wrong as a parent. You can not hurt your kids if you love them. I feel most parents should trust their feelings on how to discipline their kids. Don’t get me wrong I have seen that mother who’s kid has been screaming in the supermarket and she has really smacked him hard. This has made me feel sick and I one case I told the mother so.
I grew up with a very strict father and when I was two we moved to Africa for most of my young life. Both home and school life was very strict. My father would (very rarely) give us the belt and smack us on the legs. In school the cane was the means of punishment for boys and the ruler for girls. This to me was way over the top and I feared both my father and my teachers for a very long time. To me this was not the right way to treat children, but how do you feel about the way that kids are being disciplined in school today. There is no deterrent in school at all at the moment. I know of kids that have told the teacher to F**K off before getting up and leaving the class. The have got a little speech from the headmaster and back in class the next day.
You have to know the difference between hurting a child and discipline them. If you love your kids you won’t be able to do more than discipline them. This is a very personal opinion and I don’t claim to have all the answers. I am always interested in other people’s views. So let me know what you think.
Thanks
Summary: Do you believe in Smacking?
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