Discipline or control? (How to Discipline Children)

Name: rollover20

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Product:	How to Discipline Children
Date:	26.05.07 (211 review reads)
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Advantages: None in my opinion

Disadvantages: who knows?

This is a subject I feel quite strongly about and I can see by comments written on other reviews that a lot of other people do too. It is a very controversial subject and seems to be that people either totally agree or totally disagree.
Personally I don't agree with smacking as I don't think it is necessary and is usually used by people who were smacked themselves as this is what they think discipline is. I was never smacked as a child, I was told not to do something and told why and as long as I had a reason I was fine. If I was cheeky or naughty all my mam would do is give me a 'look' that terrified me, although I knew I wouldn't get smacked-in fact she still gives me that look now and it still scares me!! If all this failed I was sent to bed or ignored which was the most effective way for me.
I always remember when I was about seven years old and my Gran was looking after me before school, I had forgotten my PE kit so she made me wear some of my uncle's grey shorts. I was crying because I didn't want to wear them and she smacked my legs. I am 26 now and have never forgot that, my mother went mad and told her she was never to hit me again. We laugh about it now but it shows what an impact smacking can have. As I got older of course I was cheeky, had an attitude and broke the rules but it was enough punishment to know that I had disappointed or let down my mother. I have a lot of respect for her and would be gutted if I'd done anything to hurt her. My boyfriend on the other hand was smacked as a child along with his 3 brothers but his sister was not. Now, is it OK to hit your son but not your daughter or if you choose a form of discipline should you use it on all of your children? I must admit my partner is a calm, well adjusted man and has never been violent towards me or our child, in fact him and his brothers joke about the old days when their dad smacked them!
It makes me feel physically sick when I see people hitting their small children in public-or even when my family and friends do it to their children. There is a difference between tapping a hand to warn them off a fire etc and smacking because they won't do what you want them to or they are crying.
I feel they will grow up thinking it is OK to hit to get people to do what you want them to, because that's essentially what it is. Adults controlling children by hitting them, also might it cause a problem when they get older and bigger? Will they think it's OK to hit their parents back? Children are just small people and most of the time have a valid point or reason for not wanting to do something. Their minds are very simple, maybe if we talked to them instead of smacking them we could learn something aswell
Maybe I'm wrong and it doesn't cause any damage but I know I won't be taking that risk with my little boy.

Summary: Very contraversial