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How to Discipline Children
Member Name: mrbusy62
How to Discipline Children
Advantages: a little discipline, a lot of respect
Disadvantages: there is a risk of over stepping the mark
I have slightly unorthodox ways of discipling my two step kids. Some of you will find these a bit harsh, but hey, it works for me.
I've lived wife my kids for nearly six years and they are very different children. That in itself is a good thing. They are no strangers to discipline and theyoften push me to the limit.
Now, I was smacked as a child. I was clipped round the ear and I had the belt. And yes, I have had counselling, but not for specifically for that.
My problem comes in that I am not my children's father. This makes discipline difficult, or it did. I was all for the talk to kids and explain why they are being annoying little sh!t$. This doesn't always work. When you have told a child for 10 minutes to stop doing something and they get right in your face there is sometimes no option but to smack them. Or as I did once swing your leg against the back of their knee and send them tumbling. The humiliation works a treat and you get left in peace.
I have only done this once and I felt terrible afterwards.
The other reason discipline is needed is that there has to be an element of fear. My youngest runs a mile when I threaten him with a hairbrush although I have never hit him with it. I have no idea why.
The same child was being cheeky to me at a friends house and i told him off in good parenting style. HE slapped me. And before I could stand he had been phsyically removed from the couch by his hair courtesy of his mother. He has never even come close to that again.
My oldest ran up a huge phone bill and in true teenager style just shrugged it off. When I tried to talk to him he became very iritaing to the point I confiscated the phone. He slapped me as well. I slapped back. He showed no remorse, until his mother had words.
My point is when do you let them away with it? If that had been adult you would have decked them.
So how do I deal with them. Hit them where it hurts.
DO NOT take playstations and Xbox's away from them. Oh no. They resent you for that a little but find another way to amuse themselves by hunting for the toy.
Take the controllers, or a cable that makes it work and leave them offending item in plain view. They can see it but it won't work. it works a treat. I have taken controllers to work before for several days at a time and had to fend of phone calls pleading for me to leave work early.
This is where revenge is a dish best served cold. Make them earn the right to use the toys again. Basic household chores like dishes and cleaning their room. Limit their use. One hour at a time. My children have cried more over controllers than anything else and there is no smacking involved.
I am not the perfect step dad and am sometimes dubbed the wicked step father but hey, I have rhino hide. I don't condone violent smacking, but a swift flick to the ear or a smack to the back of the leg goes a long way to keeping the little darling in check. And if that fails organise a play wrestling match..........oops....sorry....was that you arm!!!
Summary: Everything in moderation