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How to Discipline Children
Member Name: jessy2010
How to Discipline Children
Advantages: none in my opinion
Disadvantages: Upsetting you child
I have no children at the moment but plan to start a family in the next year. Like most people I look at other peoples parenting skills and I am always full of criticism and constantly thinking how I would of handled situations differently.
Above anything else in the whole world I just want to be a good mum, in fact I want to be the best mum ever. And with all the books, websites, TV shows and people willing to give advise how can I go wrong. I will have a constant stream of advise to guide me. But of course there is nothing like hands on experience to really give you an idea of what you have let yourself in for.
Well let me point out that I already understand the struggle that parenthood can be. My next door neighbour recently had her fourth child. She now has a 8 year old and 3 under 3's. Her two year old has a speech problem and screams her head off when no-one can understand her. Now most the time I am understanding. I don't bang on the walls and swear, but I run a bath and ignore her. I turn the TV up or walk around the garden.
How my neighbour copes is beyond me. After the second hour of constant, high pitched wailing I am about ready to drown her daughter in the water bucket at the bottom of the garden. Instead my neighbour comes outside has a cigarette then goes back into the house and talks to her daughter until she calms down.
I am in absolute awe of the woman. Her child is screaming like she's in the worst pain in the world and her mum is all calm and collected and eventually manages to sooth her to a point of tranquillity again. I really don't think I would have the patience. But maybe it is one of those things that automatically switches on after you have children.
Now I do have some opinions in regards to my future children which I think will stay true once they arrive. I don't like people that treat there children like adults. Now I know that sounds odd but honestly, your babies are only babies once. Let them get covered in mud and eat chocolate at Easter until they are sick. Its part of being a child and part of the learning experience that shapes them into the responsible adults that they will eventually become.
A balanced and healthy diet leads to a balanced and healthy mind, but a MacDonald's as a treat doesn't hurt. I hate it when I hear the all to familiar thwack as a parent strikes there child for being naughty. How will that calm them down and improve your situation and to top it off what is that teaching the child. When you have had enough of someone a good smack should shut them up. No people!! I understand the stress but if you had a bad day at work and was having a bit of a whinge at your partner, how would you feel if he gave you a quick slap across the face?? It just does not make sense.
I know that punishing children has become a hot topic in the press, what with the travesty that was baby P. When ever I see a story about an abused child on the News I cant help but cry. It makes me so much more possessive of the children I don't even have yet.
So this is what bases my opinion on parents disciplining there children. I believe whole heartedly that if a child does something wrong but it is an accident, then why not let it pass. If a child is being naughty intentionally then ignore them. Children tend to be naughty as a way of getting attention. If you ignore them when they are naughty and praise them when they behave surely they will learn what behaviour gets them what they want.
In my opinion the world is a scary enough place as it is. Why make it worse for your child by having them be afraid of you?? Protect and love your children because they don't stay little for long. And finally a big thanks to my parents for never raising a hand to me or my brothers and for loving us with every breath in there bodies. We owe you everything we are.
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