I WILL SPANK YOU !!!!!!!!! (How to Discipline Children)

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Product:	How to Discipline Children
Date:	22/03/02 (796 review reads)
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Disadvantages: Encourages violence

Hi everyone i have been away on business and am back with a bang hope you have not missed me to much and i will catch up on all your opinions but here is one for you al to get stuck into.

Smacking,Grounding,Taking away pocket money this are just some of the ways in which some parents choose to discipline their children but are they the right way to teach our children and to what leave should we punish our children when they do wrong ?.

I am a father to two beautiful children my boy is 5 and my daughter is 7 and i for one have never raised a hand to either of them and would hope and pray that i never do.

In an ideal world we would never have to punish our children they would be born and grow up to be upstanding citizens get good jobs and have beautiful lives but lets face it life is never that easy.

I saw a very disturbing programme on the TV the other day about a group of children aged between 6 and 16 who terrorise a community by smashing cars and windows, mugging the locals, breaking into cars and homes and not only do they openly brag about it to the cameras but think that this is normal for children of their age.

The problem with a childs discipline lies with the parents and that childs upbringing that is truely my belief with th exception of hyper active children and those with major behavioural problems.

Now i really have to start asking myself why on earth these children are allowed to be out of the family home after 8pm and what are the parents doing whilst their children are running riot around the streets do they not care.

I was beaten severely as a child by one of my many step fathers and i was not a bad child but if i did anything wrong i was hit very hard either with fists or belts.
This is obviously not the way to deal out punishment it did not work for me and only helped provoke me into being a violent teenager myself.

Children are born into this world completely innocent but
from the minute they are guided by their parents the type of person they are to become starts to take shape.

A parents responsibilty is to help that child to grow up and learn right from wrong and they have to be shown when they have done something wrong a good smack will never work it will just make them thinki that violence is the way to deal with confrontation.

So if you have to punish a child i believe that it is very important to talk to them tell them what they have done wrong and why they should never do it again, if you must punish them try grounding them or stopping their pocket money because violence will only provoke violence.

The learning of right from wrong is so important in a childs life they must be taught to understand why something is wrong, how what they have done could hurt or upset others etc.

I have heard as we all have of parents biting children back as a way of teaching them not to bite and hitting them when they hurt others but they will never really understand that what they have done is wrong if you are doing it as well.

My boy once bit his sister really badly so i sat him down and showed him the damage to her arm that he had caused and explained to him why it was wrong to hurt others and he started crying not because i was telling him off but because he felt so guilty for hurting his sister.

After that he never hurt her or anyone again in any way yes he has been naughty in other ways but each time i explain he takes notice and tends not to repeat his same mistakes again.

I understand this may not work for all children but if you nip these things in the bud early then they will learn whats right from wrong through feelings and not will not do them not through fear of being whacked but the knowledge that it is wrong.

We as parents hold the ultimate responsibility when we have children and that is to bring them up as best we can with understanding and knowledge and thats
why i believe that to punish children through violence will never truely work only cause our children to fear us and have resentment towards us.

Right thats my piece said and feel free to reply in the comments if you disagre.

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