Who am I to tell you how too? (How to Discipline Children)

Name: J-i-n-g-l-e-s

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Product:	How to Discipline Children
Date:	09/05/02 (26 review reads)
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Advantages: Educates?

Disadvantages: Unjust, Against Human Rights

If this opinion provokes a few thoughts, then it will have served its purpose.

I am not a parent, and so many of you will argue that I and others have little or right to comment on how to bring up a child, but remember we were children, we have parents, and we are just as entitled to observe and comment on life as we see it.

My personal opinion is that parents should be allowed to bring up their children as and how they wish. If we look from nature’s point of view then the natural instinct of the parent must surely prevail.

Nature evolves, and so with it do society’s views and opinions. We surely all agree in the fundamentals of basic human rights. That a person should be allowed to live a safe, free and happy life without the risk of harm from others etc…

When we talk about disciplining a child, what do we define as harm? Is it the slap on the back of the wrist because they have been winding their parent up all day, or is it the controlled slap on the back of the risk to highlight that they are doing something they shouldn’t.

Regardless of the circumstances, physical pain is put upon another human being in order to cause pain:

1) To vent frustration and annoyance, i.e. A loss of control.
2) To teach the child i.e. Controlled, but violence none the less.

So what gives the parent the right to impose physical harm onto that child? If I was to vent my annoyance and frustration on someone they could sue me, likewise if I were to start hitting my friends around the back of the head because they were not doing as they were told I could be sued.

If anything it is worse to hit somebody who is defenceless, I use the example of hitting an OAP as being similar to that of a small child.

Who then has the right to judge, the parent or society? I would say that Nature dictates that the parent has the right, but I would say that society continually talks about human ri
ghts and that these should include everybody so therefore society should be the judge, and in a democratic society government is meant to represent the will of the people, so surely the Government must decide?!!!

How else can you educate and control your child? Who is the best person to judge? How do you educate parents?

As I have said I personally do not believe in hitting children as a method of discipline because I see it as an act of violence, and I believe in the fundamental principles of human rights.

I understand why people will use smacking in a controlled manner; although think there must be better ways, but when the situation is in a supermarket, the kid is running a mock and the parent loses their temper, then that is just wrong, as it is an uncontrolled act of violence. Perhaps the parent should take a deep breath, count to three, and talk to the child.

BTW. I was smacked as a child, and my views very much conflict with that of my parents.

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