Don't use violence on other people ! (How to Discipline Children)

Name: Jinxed

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Product:	How to Discipline Children
Date:	14/06/02 (43 review reads)
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Advantages: I don't believe there are any

Disadvantages: fear, pain, anger, etc

I don't think the smacking of children should be allowed, but then, behind closed doors, how can you stop it happening ??? If you could, then child, animal, human, abuse would already be a thing of the past !

I was smacked alot as a child, and teenager, and it did nothing but scar me. The last time I was hit...because smacking let's face it, IS hitting, was when I was 26, by my father for a silly argument. My mother stopped hitting me when I was 19 years old. I live at home and I am their child, so if the hitting of children is allowed, and is seen as a release of frustration, what age do you stop ? I'm not saying I was/am abused, I did and do, have some wonderful times with my family. My mother was loving and attentive, but I can never forgive my parents for hitting me, and it is an issue that I am still battling to come to terms with, a few days before my 27th birthday.

I do think that kids can and do behave 'badly', but I also do think that smacking is an easy way out, into not understanding your child ( whatever the age ). There are other alternatives, and if you think all else is failing, then maybe counselling is something which should be looked at, and possibly stress management for the parents.

Everyone is an individual, and even if you think you were never harmed by smacking, you cannot place that assumption on your child. My mother was hit as a child, and as she dealt with it better than I did, she assumed I would be ok with being hit too. That is a dangerous game to play with a child's mind. I grew up, from the age of 4 years old, wishing I was dead, and thinking my parents didn't love me. I was 18 before I finally felt they did.

So let it be a warning...Please think carefully before you hit your kids. You may be instilling doubt and insecurities, no matter how much you may tell them you love them !!!

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