A strategy (How to Discipline Children)

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Product:	How to Discipline Children
Date:	02/01/03 (131 review reads)
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Advantages: Brings a good life to them, Better grooming, Happy home

Disadvantages: You got to discipline yourself :), Takes effort, Nothing more

I am father of two kids. Disciplining children is the prime concern of mine as for anyother parent. For the same concern and for grooming my children in a better manner, I have read about it where ever I could find some material, have thought about it and have consulted and observed some other parents. The result of my study of others is that you need to develop some strategy and need to follow it strictly. Here is how I approach the problem:-

Convince Yourself
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Convince yourself about the importance of discipline in children life, only then you will be able to make a policy and follow it. You will have to take some tough measures about it. At that time this thought should not disturb your mind that you are being harsh to them. Trying to discipline them is an outcome of your love for them and not the lack of love for them. So when you make decisions, your parenthood should lead you and not come in your way.

Think Positive, Be Positive
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Positive thinking is the base line for children grooming. When you talk to them, don’t complain about life rather appreciate it. Don’t ever tell them that life is hell. Life is beautiful only its demanding. It demands hard work and dedication. Make them believe that they can get any thing they want from life. Its only a matter of right and positive approach. It’s a matter of working for your goals and dedicating time for achieving goals. Teach them to approach it in the same manner.

There are No Short Cuts
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There are no short cuts to success. Give them examples of successful people and the way they achieved their success. The time they invested and the hard work they did to reach that position. Make them believe that top positions are not reached over night. Look around and you will find many people in your neighbour hood who did not much succeed in life. They will serve as good example for your children

. Find the reasons behind their failures and educate your children but in doing so don’t have an humiliating approach for your subjects. Remember, you got to be positive. Those people who did not succeed are not “Bad”, just that they did not adopt the right way of leading their lives.

Show Self Example
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Be good and disciplined and you won’t need to tell your children to be good. They will follow you. Discipline your own self. After all you are a parent now.

Give Responsibilities
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Give responsibilities to them. They will automatically discipline themselves. There can be many things they can do. Making their beds, keeping their room tidy, filing old newspapers and many such things. Look out for such things and hand them over the little jobs. Such little responsibilities can do great in creating self-discipline in them.

Accept Mistakes but NOT the Attitude Failures
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Accept mistakes with a smile. When they do things, they will make mistakes, they will forget, they may even break or damage some thing, accept it. But Don’t accept cheating, lies or such attitude problems.

Reward And Punishment
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Life is a real thing. It rewards you for doing good and punishes you for not doing bad. Follow the same principle at home. When they do some thing good, reward them. Material of reward does not matter, the fact that you appreciated their good work matters. And punish them for being bad, the kind of punishment (should not be humiliating) does not matter, the fact that you did not like their being bad matters.

Make Schedule And Follow It
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Make a schedule and follow it. Give time for studies, sports, fun, TV and other activities. Chat with them regularly. They will have confidence in you.

Don’t Supervise
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Say No
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If some thing should not be done, it should not be done. If you cant buy them some thing, you cant buy them and that’s simple. Don’t make false promises. Learn to say no to certain things. It will develop their minds to accept the truth and realities. They will respect you more and will believe you.

Give Time to Them
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By all standards, your children are more important than your job or your business. Give time to your children, watch TV with them, play with them or spare time for just talking to them. They will listen you better.

Appreciate Little Things
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Appreciation works wonders, try it. When you appreciate little good work they do, they not only feel great but will also try not to do any thing wrong for the fear of loosing the taste of appreciation. When you start appreciating, they will start making efforts to earn it more. They will work for your goal (disciplining children) then.

Thanks for your patience in reading all that. Being a parent I request you to guide me about any point that you think can contribute for better grooming of children. Thanks again.

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