Patience of a saint (How to Discipline Children)

Name: lorraryall

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Product:	How to Discipline Children
Date:	15/04/03 (163 review reads)
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Advantages: The shock factor

Disadvantages: Children become numb to other ways of discplining

I'm not going to pretend that I have even the slightest idea what it is like to raise children, because I don't. I have no children of my own, and the only experiences I can go from are those of the way my parents disciplined me.

I am however training to be a teacher, and although not exactly the same thing I do think there are a number of areas which go hand in hand.

When in the classroom you are NOT, under any circumstances allowed to physically harm a child. A very, very strict rule and one which thousands of teachers practice everyday. Most teachers spend their entire career managing to make children do what they are told without using physical contact. My opinion on the matter follows - if teachers can do it with 30 children, surely parents can manage 2 or 3.

I am not naive, I'm fully aware that some children are more difficult than others and some children are so disturbed that they often require physical force to get them to do things, however voilence isn't necessary.

There are so many ways in which a parent can choose to discipline a child, I don't understand why a parent should resort to using physical violence. I have no evidence as to whether it affects a child later in life, but I do hold the opinion that it is simply wrong. A child of 5 has no way of defending themself against an adult of 30, so is it right to use violence to demonstrat that they have done something wrong?

Children are a complex area, because they are people. We do not know how they will react later in life, and therefore at times I feel my opinion is just that, and holds no physical evidence.

I do know from experience however, that children who are repeatedly punished with violence, tend to demonstrate indifference to other forms of discipline. Children who are punished with violence, tend not to be bothered by somebody shouting at them. They have been treated far worse before, and this can lead to the children&
#39;s behaviour becoming worse. The only thing that can make them stop is physical violence again.

My own experience as a child was physical disciplining was rarely used, and if it was used it was never overly forceful or violent. However when it was used, me and my siblings knew full well that we had done something wrong and would never do it again (The Shock Factor). So I also hold the opinion that if used correctly it can be a very valuable way of disciplining children, but some individuals can take it too far.

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