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How to Discipline Children |
| Date: |
10/09/00 (37 review reads) |
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Advantages: deterrent
Disadvantages: doesn't work
When I was little, i was smacked when i was naughty, I do not think it worked at all it would make me resentful to my parents. And instead of loving my parents i would be scared of them, when i was bad or if the teacher at school wanted to say something critical about me at Parents evening.
This was only when i was eight, so when I was 13 I knew that if i was bad at school, i would get a slap, and that my parents would be capable of smacking, so out of fear i would behave.
But, now i am much older and I think even though i have turned out well, that was not a good method. You can not tell people what to do let alone children by making them scared. When we were kids we all asked questions which seem stupid now, but at the time they were not. Like mummy 'why is the sea there' when we got a reasonable explaination,we were satified and left the subject.
In the same way, I think kids should be reasoned with. They must be told why their actions are wrong not they are wrong and smack smack. Things don't work like that. Kids can't be expected to act like adults, they just can't. They have to play and that means being loud, making mess and doing some bad things.
There is no point in even touching a child before two years of age. They don't understand why people are hitting them. Reasonign and talking is the answer, once you hit your child I think your kids will lose respect for you.
So here's my top ten tips on alternatives to smacking:
1 Explain why the behaviour was wrong, sometimes children don't understand
2 Give them three chances, if the bad behaviour persists, send them to their rooms
3 Sit down and talk to them
4 Behave well yourself, so they do not pick up bad language etc.
5 Remember they are only kids and they do not have the same mentality as adults
6 Reward good behaviour
7 Do not always focus on bad points, praise the child when it does something good,
8 Give them a hug, and cuddle often, so they feel loved.
9 Punish bad behaviour by making them explain why they might think their behaviour was wrong,
10 Punishments like taking their favourite toy away, seems much more effective, than smacking.
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