Marriage for today (Marriage - Is it outdated?)

Member Name: Lady_Alys

Product:	Marriage - Is it outdated?
Date:	03/11/09 (26 review reads)
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Advantages: Marriages can be beautiful unions

Disadvantages: The actual wedding can be costly

I honestly think marriage is what you make it.
If you are not religious but what to show that level of commitment to one person then you don't have to get married in a church.
Research weddings and find out what you need to make the ceremony legal, the rest is then upto you.
This is my personal plans (obviously my other halfs as well as we have discussed this so much):
We are having a registrar conduct the ceremony but with no mention of god as neither of us are religious in that way. Then we will have our own vows to read and put in a couple of very old traditions from our cultural pasts.
Then onto the reception, which is going to be a sit down meal and also, we are having it Mad Hatter themed so there will be a starter and then lots of over-sized sandwiches, cakes, bottles of bubbly etc
The party on the night will just be a party but, as neither of us are into pop music as such, the music won't be your typical party tunes. We're hoping to have David Bowie's Let's Dance as our first dance as we don't particularly like love songs.
This will all be held in a historic stately home or something similar and the clothes will also be more Victorian themed. I will be wearing a very dark blue Victorian dress with the bustled back and corsetted top. The bridesmaids will be in plainer, hopefully silver, dresses and he will be wearing a more Victorian styled suit.
I know all this is just the ceremony itself and it is just the formailities really but I see a wedding as a symbol of your life together, if you put effort into your wedding you can put effort into your marriage.
Me and my other half already act like a married couple even though, because of financial reasons, we are not living together yet. We make the effort everyday to tell each other that we leave each other and simple little things. We don't buy gifts for our anniversarys, instead we buy each other little gifts if we see something unique or just feel like it. We especially don't believe in buying things for Valentines day and we don't buy the most conventional gifts either.
It's all about taking time and effort, if you do that then I think you are onto a winner and I love the idea of marriage and lives becoming one but I understand it isn't for everybody. it is what makes you happy that counts. If you have had a bad experience and don't believe in marriage then that works for you and go with it, don't let someone tell you your opinions are wrong for what you believe in, your thoughts and feelings are never wrong.
All in all marriage fits with todays society and is relevant but nowadays we have the freedom of choice, 150 years ago most women had no choice in who to marry and men married to provide a fruitful union and to reproduce. Times have changed, marriage and weddings have changed but it is still there and still with us

Summary: I am pro-wedding but that's my choice