Happy Anniversary (Marriage - Is it outdated?)

Member Name: sue26

Product:	Marriage - Is it outdated?
Date:	02/11/01 (127 review reads)
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Advantages: A good excuse to get blathered

Disadvantages: Too expensive

What better day to write in this category, as today is our 10th anniversary. No, not the anniversary of the day we got married, but of the day we got engaged. I don`t believe whether you`re married or not really makes a difference on your happiness.

True, I would like to get married one day, but I`m in no rush. We`ve been together 10 years and have 3 great children, so when we do get married then they`ll be able to join in the celebrations.

A lot of people say that long engagements mean a lack of commitment. Well that not the reason in our case. We`ve had plenty of high periods and many, many low periods, and the fact that we`ve stayed together and talked through our problems whenever the low points occured, just goes to emphasise our commitment.

At the moment we just can`t afford to get married, and in the past we`ve just never got around to it. Yes, I know weddings needn`t cost a fortune, and neither of us want a big church wedding either, but they are still expensive nonetheless.

Even though I only want a register office wedding, which seems the way of most couples these days, I still want a decent wedding dress and a good old knees up afterwards. These things don`t come cheaply, even if you opt for second-hand, which I will most likely do, then you won`t find a wedding dress for under £100.

I don`t think marriage is outdated, I think it`s just the fact that it`s so bloody expensive. Many, many people are in love and wish to get married, but people see the fact that they simply haven`t got the money to do it as a sign of non commitment.

Being engaged for 10 years, I see myself as already married anyway. We live together, we share the bills, we both love the children with equal amounts of love, what will change by us signing a piece of paper and have a booze up. Absolutely nothing, that`s what, so I don`t see the need to rush.

The Inland Revenue see you as married after a certain amount of time, so yo
u still get to benefit from the married man`s tax allowance. The council see you as married, on their forms it says, if you are living together for a certain length of time, then you are classed as common-law man and wife.

Getting married won`t mean that I`ll love my partner any more or less than I do now, after all, that`s why we`re still together.

It`s not really a point of whether marriage is outdated or not, it`s just a matter of personal choice and circumstances. What really matters is that you love and respect each other, and if you do, then marriage won`t alter that fact.

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