I don't (Marriage - Is it outdated?)

Member Name: alirigby

Product:	Marriage - Is it outdated?
Date:	04/07/02 (60 review reads)
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Advantages: Committment, Love, Stability

Disadvantages: Organising a big wedding day -don't do it!

think so....

In 5 weeks time I will no longer be Miss Rigby, I will be Mrs X (my new identity will remain a secret!).
I’m 24, a thoroughly modern woman (although I do like those doors to be opened, and the man to do the man’s things – she says provocatively ;o) ) and I certainly don’t consider myself to be doing something old-fashioned by marrying my partner.

Before I met my fiancé, I never thought about marriage and thought if it did ever happen to me it wouldn’t be for decades and as for children, well no-way-jose! Life can prove you wrong and opinions and thoughts change as different experiences affect you.

I can’t say I had a rosy opinion of marriage 3 years ago; my parents recently divorced and soon remarried, left me feeling cynical and resentful. However, I then met and fell in love with my fiancé and I just knew that I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life. When he proposed after 2 years I had no hesitation in saying yes and it has to be the happiest I’ve ever felt in my entire life. By marrying him I feel I am giving him the ultimate expression of my commitment and love for him (as he is to me) and it’s as if a new chapter is beginning in our lives. We are stronger people together and supporting each other through life; we want a secure, solid foundation from which to start our own family and feel that becoming man and wife will enhance what we already have.

As I said before, opinions and thoughts can change over time, I am not so idealistic as to think marriage will be perfect, I know it needs a lot of hard work and commitment from both of us and you have to be prepared to stick with the rough as much as the smooth. I can’t predict what will happen in the future, but as with everything you never know until you give it a go, and if you really, truly want something to work – you can make it work.

Marriage should not be belittled, there
is nothing unfashionable or outdated about two people expressing their love and commitment to each other. Those who marry, without giving it much thought or without being 100% committed are those who diminish its importance.

Marriage is not outdated, many people are just frightened of ultimate commitment!

Please note: the only thing that puts me off about marriage is the stress and blooming family politics involved in organising the day – she says letting off steam (go to Vegas it’s far easier!!).

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