An hour glass silhouette hanged by my semi closed bedroom door, head slightly tilted, peered in lovingly at my bundle of duvet, she believes I'm asleep but I stare back at her through my half closed eyes a vision mildly impaired by my straggly disobedient eye lashes. She waits for twenty seconds longer and softly under her breathe whispers 'goodnight sweetheart'. She thinks I don't hear her, but I do. I observe her every movement of her in the dancing chards of light behind her. She then disappears quietly, trying not to disturb me, yet I'm wide awake. She moves gently away from the doorway towards the stairs, fading from view. I lean forward and stretched my neck to see her descend elegantly down the stairs, missing out stair three because it squawks like a distraught Mother hen. I knew I was loved by the numerous of times my Mother checked on me before she would retire herself at 10.30 p.m. This was the norm, even if I had been a pain all day, and I had been sent to bed early for acts against my own sibling; that'll get you the red card if reenacted on a Premiership football ground. I was remorseful afterwards, however, I barely ever let it show or be said. She has an incessant unconditional love; which is sparse, going by today's standards, so I've been led to believe.
One day is not enough for such a person; so I abhor that commercialism has taken a piece out of the motherly, fatherly 'love pie' and embroidered it into a filthy capitalistic venture. I refute that any commercial organization should get a profit out of emotive occasions such as 'Mother's Day' or 'Father's Day'. Whereby in my early childhood, a mandatory daffodil would suffice; I would tenderly water it, and shove a loving message on it; 'To Mummy, I love you'. Naturally the water smudged the felt tip pen, but it was legible 'just'. No card required, no monetary expense made; only a one pound note went to a local garden centre at the most.
Mother's Day tradition threads go back to a bygone age, before capitalism revamped our daily liberties, rewrote our social ethics - and delves into our virtues like a pick n mix. Commerciality shouts from the rooftops the date of Mother's Day every year, like a prophet of doom - galvanized on a cardboard erection in shop windows, to a high street audience in big letters accompanied with a clip-art floral icon. What it really means is: 'Spend money on your Mother, look what she's done for you, she made you?' You owe her your life, your existence - how much is that worth? It's priceless. Buying this whole shop for her wouldn't suffice - but hey, we know you can't afford that, so why not buy something outlandishly calorific, priced up for the occasion, that'll last a second on the lips and a lifetime on the hips, ten times over? Mother will love you for it, honestly, trust me, I'm a shop window.
Public Houses advertise for months their 'Mother's Day meal deals' - "Book now to avoid disappointment". "Free glass of house wine for Mother on arrival". They use the word 'disappointment' as if it means dark thoughts or witch-craft would play an effect on the special day if the term 'disappointment' was to be experienced. When they say 'Free glass of Capitalism has invaded our lives on a daily basis as well as our relationships; 365 days (not including leap year) 24 / 7. To re-capture an essence of normality here on the commerciality of Mother's Day; is to realize and comprehend the incredulous domination of commercialism for these one day events. It has warped our lives, told us what to do, bullied us into over buying for our loved ones, made us feel guilty, and then is fed into our psyche to such an extent we feel it is right to preach to others, about Mother's Day; as if the 'talked at' recipient just landed after residing on the moon. Gifts mean absolutely nothing when the woman who has given birth to you has been ignored for 364 days of the year. The travesty is; it incessantly happens. Mothers' are disregarded all over the nation daily, by their offspring's busy lifestyle commitments, it takes priority. Work autonomy increasingly has disappeared, thanks to 'unfriendly family orientated governance' - and the excuses are abundant. No one or anything is more important than your parents.
Sadly commerciality is not waning; it'll continue to devalue unconditional love and implies love can be bought. It can't. Commercialism dilutes tradition due to each generation witnessing the invasion of civil liberty via being told what to do, what to buy and for what reason? Tradition has been mercilessly tarnished due to commercialism voracity. And using a sentimental emotive as a profiting vehicle is an intrusion in all our lives - there is no mistaking that; whether you accept it or not. I can never repay my mother. It pains me to think my mother won't be around one day, to see her smile and bathe in her warming smile. Today she does her utmost to entertain her adored grandchildren; she keeps them from harm, foreseeing anything that may cause discomfort; as she always has done. Although not so agile her energy is admirable, albeit, sporadic. She still has that insatiable ability to unconditionally love and that for me is the biggest gift; by that I mean to understand what unconditional love actually means. I too, try to emulate what she has taught me. What was a lovely tradition, Mother's Day has been bought. It's now a multi million pound trading day. We pander to commercialism's demands - slaves to the system.
For all my wondrous childhood memories, I knew while slipping off into slumber land that these priceless memories will stay with me for always. Money can't buy you love.
Mother's Day is what you make of it. Of course it is over commercialised but every day of national celebration we have in this country has been leapt on for commercial gain.
Just because you cannot move in shops for the cards, flowers and chocolates rolled out weeks in advance of Mothering Sunday, it does not mean we have to turn our backs on a celebration which honours our mothers.
Mother's Day is a lovely tradition which I think is very important to mark in our own special ways. We do not have to buy the most expensive cards, the biggest bouquets of flowers and max out the credit card. The smallest token can just as easily be enough to tell our mothers we love them because it is very much the message that counts.
I'm sure many people have that sinking feeling when they go into a shop and see the Mother's Day card stand and think 'oh no here we go again', another card I need to purchase along with the birthday cards, the Christmas cards, the Valentine's cards and so on.
It can be a little pressured to have to show your mum you care on a set day. A lot of people would argue they show their mother their love on many days of the year and don't have to be called to order.
However, it isn't Mr Clinton Cards who decreed Mother's Day should take place every year on a Sunday in March.
The celebration has its roots in antiquity. One of the earliest historical records can be found among the ancient Egyptians who held an annual festival to honour the goddess Isis, who was regarded the mother of the Pharaohs.
A later incarnation of a holiday to honour motherhood came from Europe. Early Christians used the fourth Sunday of Lent to honour the church in which they were baptised - known as their Mother Church.
It was a clerical decree in England in the 1600s which broadened the celebration to include real mothers. It was known as Mothering Sunday and was an especially compassionate holiday towards the working classes. Servants and trade workers were allowed to travel back to their towns of origin to visit their families. Mothers were presented with cakes and flowers.
Mother's Day still in my opinion holds a very important place in our society. I think it is very important to set aside a day, if nothing else to draw attention to the fantastic job mums do.
Before becoming a mum myself I have to say I saw mums out and about pushing their children around in their pushchairs and thought, you've got the easy option there. As I slave away day to day at work dealing with all the stresses and strains that come with a pressured career, there you are going to the park, ambling round the shops and sitting drinking copious cups of tea with other mums in Costa.
Now I realise I couldn't have had it any more wrong. Nothing has ever been harder work for me than looking after my own daughter. I have a new found respect for mothers. I see them out and about now and think how are you doing this job? It surprises me what a range of women fulfil this role. It is not like other jobs where there is usually a certain character who is good at it. With motherhood there are all types of mothers with very different personalities and outlooks on life, all trying to do the best they can in their own individual ways.
Then there are some mothers who have to perform well beyond the call of duty and they certainly deserve a national day. I'm talking about single mothers who through no fault of their own are having to bring up a number of children single-handed. It must be such a terrible weight on their shoulders, especially if their partner has died and they had no choice but to pull themselves up and carry on with life.
I was watching the news recently when they were talking about the latest soldier killed in conflict. They had the wife of this soldier bravely reading out a statement in tribute to her husband and what really touched me was how when the camera flipped back to the newsreader he said it was the wife, who had been left behind to bear the grief of losing her husband while continuing to bring up their children, who was the real hero and this rang true for me. I had never actually thought of it in this way before. It is the women left behind who have the hardest job.
In this day and age there is this 'craze' I will call it for people having time off work for stress. I'd like to invite them to look after a few young children for a week and then they can compare just how that rated compared to their day to day job. As a mother there is no opportunity to say, no sorry I'm far too stressed out to do this job today. The children can fend for themselves - I'm retreating under the duvet. It just can't happen.
Mothers really are the heroines of our society and yes shops do try and cash in on this celebration and yes it does heap a whole lot of guilt and pressure on the shoulders of sons and daughters already up to their eye balls in the pressures of modern life. But I think this is even more reason for everyone to take a day to reflect on what is really important in life and to give their mother's a little token of their appreciation and a whole lot of love.
So mother's day is coming up (18th of March) just to remind everyone. And I would like to share my opinion on this day to everyone.
As a child I always remember this special day for when we would please my mum so much with a card and small gift, i remember she would always say not to worry but she loved it really. Especially after I had my first born and grandma got a mother's day card, it was a special card which had grandma written on it.
Before I had children I noticed they did cards for other members of the family other than your mum on mother's day I always thought this is a way fro shops to make extra money. It more than likely is to shops, but realistically made my mum feel extra special and proud to be a grandma.
I myself have 3 lovely children and last year I got a lovely present of a day out at foxton locks and a meal. My partner made it very special and nice for me. It was a hard day being the first mothersday without my mum being here but I never forget her and think about her every day and everything she has done for me. She has made me into a proud, loving mother.
This brings me to my next comment of that weather its mother's day or not I will always appreciate her. Everything she has done for me throughout my life and the help and advice she gave me once I had children of my own. She guided me through my life and was there whenever i needed her. Not only my mum but also my best friend.
This is a special day just to remind your mum how much they mean to you. Yes you could go out and spend lots of money and treat them to lots of presents. But these are not forever. But the love you share sure is. Everyone has ups and downs with their parents, but either way you will always love each other.
Maybe try something different this year like making mummy a special drawing from your little one or painting a hand print of your child. These inexpensive gifts mean a lot more to parents. These are things that money just cannot buy. Yes a bunch of flowers or chocolates is nice, while it lasts but gifts from the heart stay for ever.
I enjoy mother's day as it's a special day to remind your loved ones weather is your mother, carer, aunty or other family member that they mean a lot to you and you are thankful for everything they have done and provided for you.
But remember shops are always after your money. So why not cook your mum a nice meal and let her relax for one day.
Overall mother's day is nice, but there are many ways you can tell your mum you appreciate her. She is there all year round for you so don't forget that you should try and tell them every day not just on mother's day.
Weather you mum is in heaven or here with you now dont forget to remind them how much they mean to you. You will make her day.
Mother's Day or Mothering Sunday which is the correct name in the UK is always celebrated on the fourth Sunday of Lent; which means the date varies.
There were traditions with Mothering Sunday in England which date back as far as the 16th century. It is said that this was the day when people were encouraged to return to worship in their 'mother church where they had been baptised.
On this day it is said that people that were in service were allowed time off to visit their mothers and family. They usually baked a cake to show off their new skills.
Mothers Day now means a card - there are always lots on offer from early Feb and sometimes a pressie for mum. As children get older and grow into adults they hopefully appreciate their mum more and will spend time with them; but this is not always easy as they may have a family and children of their own that want to do something special with their mummy.
Why should we have one day to say I love you mum or to show them by buying a present that you love them. Flowers double in price so sometimes I send my mum some the week before. (Does this make me a stinge). When my girls decide they want to buy me flowers for Mothers Day and my hubby does I always feel that they shouldn't have done so now I have to tell my hubby before hand (he isn't as stingey as me)as I feel bad the about the amount of money being spent.
I now live about 55 miles from my mum so don't always see her on Mothers Day and I feel guilty even though I am also a mum and my family sometimes do something special for me. I know my mum places more importance on Mothers Day than me she was even annoyed with my dad one year because he didn't get her a card. I remember it well, I was young and I said 'but you're not his mum' she replied 'no but I have had his children'. I still don't really understand that. To me if anyone receives a card for Mothers Day from their husband saying to my wife, or a card from someone saying to someone special it should be a bonus and not to be expected every year as it can get silly. I have even seen a card that's from your dog on Mothers Day surely that is going too far.
So this year I am already starting to feel guilty and thinking I want to do something so I have an idea to run by my hubby (although I know he will just say yeah whatever) that my mum and dad come and stay with us the Saturday before Mothers Day and we take them out for a meal that way I have done something for my mum that she will enjoy and then I will get the afternoon with my family (well the girls will be bad tempered because they had a late night).
Personally I think you should do special things for your parents throughout the year to show them you love them (if you do of course). I sometimes buy my mum a small bunch of flowers when we visit (not always as I don't want her expecting it everytime). Most of all I know my mum likes spending time with people and her family and now she is getting older I do feel guilty that I don't see her as much. She offers to come and stay in the school holidays for a week to look after my children that is how thoughtful she is. I couldn't allow this as it would do my head in but because I know she isn't getting any younger and although she thinks she can cope with things I know she couldn't.
So I want to try to make this Mothers Day special for my mum because she isn't going to be around forever but I also want my children to be able to do something for me because the eldest is soft like that and will want to do something.
I don't really like Mothers Day as I think you can do nice things any time you want for your mum and to me that means more than a card on a certain day. But I know for my mum, she would be so upset if she didn't have a card off me on Mothers Day and (for some reason) off my girls.
I think my mum likes cards too much.
Last Sunday was 'Mother's Day' or 'Mothering Sunday' as it is more traditionally known. This year my Mother's Day was particularly memorable, although not for the best of reasons. My youngest son came down with a tummy bug the day before, meaning that Mother's Day for me consisted of a poorly toddler, an irritable (and at times irritating) six year old and me and my husband at each others' throats for much of the day! The highlight (or rather low point) of the day was when I lifted my youngest son out of his highchair after his tea, only for him to projectile vomit all down my back, in my hair and everywhere! Even worse was not being able to properly wash my hair until the kids were in bed. Happy Mother's Day to me!
This just proves a point about mothers in general. We never get a day off, regardless of what the calendar might say. Motherhood is a 24/7 responsibility for all of us Mums out there. Just because it's Mother's Day doesn't mean I get a day off from soothing irritable children or mopping up vomit! (Although, to be fair, my husband did actually clean the sick up. It was Mother's Day after all!) So, is it worth it? If you don't get a guaranteed fuss and special treatment on Mother's Day, how do you make it through the rest of the year?
I have to confess that my Mother's Day wasn't a total disappointment. The day before my oldest son's school put on a special performance and I managed to get time off work to go and see it. I was fighting back tears throughout the whole show! My son's class sang a song to the tune of 'You are my sunshine.' From memory the words were 'I love you Mummy, My dearest Mummy, You make me happy, When I am sad, I want to tell you, I really love you, When I'm with you, I am so glad.' How could any Mummy fail to be in tears when faced with that? My son was standing there singing with his slightly coy face that just makes me want to go right up to him and cuddle him!
The school also hold a sale to raise money for the PTA where the children can buy a small gift for their Mums and it's wrapped up in school making it a real surprise for the parents. My son loves doing this and really chooses his gift with thought and care. He was bursting with excitement and pride when he woke me up on Sunday morning (admittedly at silly o'clock but, never mind that.) He had chosen a lavender scented teddy bear on a key ring which he picked so that I could attach it to my work bag - which I will do with pride. My littlest had been shopping with Daddy and between the pair of them had chosen some lovely Lush goodies. Just a shame that my bath that night wasn't a nice relaxing soak - more of an emergency hair washing session! Both my boys had produced hand-made cards. My oldest had made a card saying 'Who is the best Mum' and inside was a mirror. Bless!
So, in spite of the tears, the arguments and the vomit and the fact that I never did get a cup of tea in bed that morning - just how many hints does a woman need to drop?!- I still spent a magical day with my family. Who needs flowers and a fuss when a homemade card and a look on your child's face can bring so much joy, each and every day of the year (even the bad ones!)
As a lot of you will know I lost my mom on 2nd April last year so this has been my first Mother's Day without her and yes, it hurt.
When I was younger I would always buy presents - of course - but mom and dad and my sister and her partner would all come round to my house for the day and I would cook for them all.
All of our family have always been disgusted at the standard and price of flowers on Mother's Day (and Valentine's Day for that matter). It's a chance for most shops to sell flowers at inflated prices and when children are using their pocket money to buy them I think it's terrible.
If you order a bouquet it's even worse. The bouquet will arrive with flowers looking at their best, which of course means that they will be passed their best by Monday! We all know that it is better to buy flowers when they are in bud and let them open gradually so that the recipient can enjoy them for longer.
I would either buy mom a big bunch of flowers the week before Mother's Day when the prices were sensible and give her a present on Mother's Day, or I would go onto our local market on the Saturday before Mother's Day and buy lots of bunches of buds from there. Mom always appreciated us not wasting money - that's how she'd brought us up.
Anyway back to yesterday.
I sent my sister a card with the words 'thinking of you on Mother's Day' and she rang me during the day for a quick chat and we offered one another some support. We both agreed that enjoying the day was what mom would have wanted so that's exactly what we both did with our respective other halves.
I did feel sad when we went into shops with cards and banners everywhere and seeing people who had left buying something until the last minute but overall the day was okay with the support of my lovely husband.
I will finish by saying that, although Mother's Day is a time to tell mom how much she means to you and to buy her a present and make a fuss of her, why keep those feelings especially for one day a year?
I speak from sad experience when I say that your mom won't always be there so make sure that she knows just how much you love her whether it's Mother's Day or not. At least I know that mom knew just how much she meant to me. I was her full time carer for a couple of years before her death as she had Vascular Dementia and she often used to say that she would be 'forever in my debt' for all the help I gave her. This gave me the chance to reassure her on a regular basis that I did what I did because I wanted to and because I cared and I would remind her that she had always been there for me after all.
So there you are - that's my experience of my first Mother's Day without her. It wasn't too bad and I did get support from people including our own FourPaws here on Dooyoo who remembered that it was my first one and sent me a message of support. That was so kind and such a nice surprise that it really helped, thank you.
So remember show your mom how much you love her whatever the day or one day you will wish that you had.
Happy Mother's Day, mom.
I hope every Mum had a wonderful Mothers Day. That of course is Mums in England.
We celebrate Mothers Day 4th Sunday in Lent but a lot of countries celebrate it the 2nd Sunday in May. If you have American friends they will celebrate it in May.
I have mixed feelings about Mothers Day as I lost my Mum 6 years ago and Mothers Day meant my Mum even though at the time even I had children.
This year though I could not have had a better Mothers Day.
I have three adult children and we all went for a meal. But it wasnt just them and my husband. My youngest daughter has given me a Grand daughter so of course she is a Mum too. So we could have a double Mothers Day celebration and it was a great great feeling.
My sons partner is expecting and so next year all going well we will have another Mum with us.
When your family have family and their partners have parents it can be awkward how, who, and where to celebrate. This year we arranged that it would be with us and then in the afternoon and evening with their Mums.
Next year, hopefully and I know you cant take things for granted, we are going to have one big altogether celebration.
Sharing Mothers Day with your daughter for the first time is very sereal and I love it.
After my Mum died I thought the only way to survive Mothers Day would be to hide away in a cupboard all day but then you start to think of the lovely mothers day you had together and smile and thankfully I did tell her I loved her on Mothers Day and on others too.
My own children have given me a lot to smile about over the years with Mothers day. One was my son handing me a bunch of daffodils so proudly in his hand. It wasnt till we went out that I noticed that he had picked them from the front garden and left just one lonely daffodil there hoping I would not notice. I did not tell him for years that we had. Now in memory of that day I always get daffodils from him and not from my own garden and this is worth a million times more than a huge bouquet.
Thank you for reading. x
On Mothers Day I think we should all stop and have a little think about mothers in general, without whom, let's face it none of us would be here!
Here is my essential guide to Mothers:
1) Mothers come in all shapes and sizes. Those of us who are not lucky enough to still have one would probably say appreciate the one you have and treat her well every day, but especially on Mothering Sunday.
Mothers generally have a high patience setting, however this can be prone to malfunction when offspring (i.e small people produced by mothers) fail to do something they have been asked nicely to do about 10 times, like not hit their sister or to put their socks on. On patience malfunction a mother can generally be reset by a winning smile or a "I love you", if this fails chocolate can help.
2) You only get one mother, so if your model isn't the one you hoped for you should do your best to work with it. If you are a mother you are probably a better mother than you think - the best ones in my experience are the ones who don't always think they do a great job. Mothers who realise that you nobody goes to the grave thinking they did too much housework and who don't mind being silly from time to time are to be treasured. If they can cook, help with homework and generally organise things fairly well and tell you how wonderful you are then all the better.
3) Mothers will function longer and more efficiently if not woken up 6 times a night - under 3's take note.
4) Mothers do not possess superhuman powers that mean that they know where your missing keys/socks/shoes are at all times. Look for them yourself please. Mothers, contrary to popular belief do not have 5 arms either, though they do multi-task quite well with the two they have.
5) Most mothers like cuddles, however a well thought through present also goes down a treat, especially on Mothers Day - it doesn't have to cost a fortune, actually mothers probably appreciate little thoughtful things all year long.
6) The correct answer to a mother who asks "does this look alright" should be on default "yes" setting. You should also notice when your mother has a hairstyle update.
7) All mothers are embarassing sometimes - it is inevitable. Don't worry about it.
8) Not everyone wants to be a mother - so if you are one don't oversell it to your female friends who really don't want to go there.
9) Mothers like a break from drudgery now and then. They do more than you know, and even the stuff that you see them do is amazing - recognise and appreciate all they do - even if you are 4 weeks old you can probably muster a smile or two, if you are older offer to help - your basic mum model may think you are ill, but it will be appreciated.
We celebrate but once a year:
Mothers Day is but once a year, and however you celebrate it, celebrate it well. If you are a mother give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done as you enjoy your little treasures and give them an extra special hug and remember that, actually you are quite lucky to have them, even if it doesn't feel that way sometimes. Your children are probably your greatest achievement.
Mothers Day can be a happy and lovely day if you can ignore the over-commercialisation and look for the real meaning - which to me is to treasure and be treasured. For those of you for whom it is a difficult day, I'm sorry. For those of you who are mums I hope you had a lovely day and you have had some reason to smile - Happy Mothers Day!
* if it is not Mothers Day when you are reading this, then why not make it a special day anyway!*
So, another mothers day. I lost my mum 17years ago next month and so am something of an observer to the general mayhem and flower buying frenzy. I was in both Tesco and Morrisons yesterday and was staggered by the amount both of flowers on sale and being purchased. It looked as though there was a large army camouflaging itself for an assault on an RHS flower show!
There seemed to be an awful lot of stressed people who were simply going through the motions. A lot of (admitedly beautiful)flowers seemed to be rather more expensive than they normally are as well. Although I know why this happens it is hardly in the spirit of the occasion is it?
I always had mixed feelings about the entire concept of a special "mothers day" I did buy the usual cards and gifts, and did take her out for a meal on the day itself once(only once mind you ARRGH) I have always felt that it is important to show you love and value your mum throughout the year not just on a special day. Why do we need "permission" to show our love?
The one mothers day meal we had was truly memorable but not in a good way. We were driving around for ages getting somewhere not totally booked up (yes I know I should have booked but in my defence I was a lot younger then) and when we did find somewhere decent we had a huge wait then were packed in like sardines. Still we did laugh about it later. Much later.
I have also been on the receiving side of a meal so to speak as well, my daughter took us all out (me hubby and her)for a meal years ago. I felt so sorry for her. She had saved up for ages (she was 14 at the time)and had rung to ensure they would cater for a veggie(husband). When we got there she was talked down to, the meal was ordinary at best and we were rushed. In any other circumstances I would have complained but to do so would have ruined her treat.
I never used to get flowers for mothers day as mum had a large garden and at this time of the year it was always packed with daffodils which were stunningly beautiful. Also I always liked the element of surprise-I used to send her a bouquet of flowers a couple of times a year on days of no special significance.
I also avoid the cemetery on mothers day for pretty much the same reasons. It is SO busy with loads of people making their duty visit. I took some flowers last weekend and will go next week when it is the peaceful place it normally is.
I sound so negative about mothers day and truly I am not but I wish it was a more simple and less commercialised day. I miss my mum all the time and am grateful for the time we had together.
She was a wonderful person and a rock. My sister died when I was very small and we lost my dad when I had just turned seven. She held our family together and worked herself into the ground (literally-being hospitalised once) she had two office cleaning jobs in the morning, picked potaotes in the day then back to the cleaning as she did not want to leave me alone for too long. She did this for three years till I went to high school when she worked in a factory. Then, when I turned 14 she went back to nursing.
When I got married we took a large bouquet of flowers to her grave as, sad though it sounds, I really didn't want her to miss out on anything that she would have got had she been alive.
I am aware that this mothers day will be the "first without mum" for so many people including three of my cousins. My heart goes out to anyone in that position. It never goes away but sometimes things are slightly easier to cope with. Eventually the memories don't hurt quite as much.
So mothers day means different things to everyone, which is only right as each mother is different. I hope your mum has had a wonderful day and that you don't just say "I love you mum" on this day. Mums are special. Treaure the one you have.
Mothers Day is celebrated on different days, and for different reasons, in many Countries around the world, but the central ideology of honouring your mother is totally Universal.
Here in the United Kingdom, Mothers Day always falls on the 4th Sunday of Lent, and by tradition, gifts such as flowers, chocolates, greeting cards and general pampering of one's mother is the order of the day.
Of course, I, like most people, will be lavishing my mother with these traditional gifts, as I have done every year without fail, and will also pamper her to the best of my ability, in order to show her my appreciation and genuine love towards her.
After all, it's mother that tended to my needs when I was younger, hugging me and wiping away the tears when I had scraped my knee, or tending me when I was sick, tucking me into bed, smoothing my brow and telling me that everything will be fine.
Even as you grow into an adult, mother is always there for you with a shoulder to cry on, or some soothing gentle words of advice when your latest love has given you the heave-ho, or things are getting on top of you and you just can't seem to cope any more.
Mother continues to worry about her offspring throughout her life time. Continually concerned about our well-being, always wanting the best for us, smiling, and sharing in our happiness when things are going right for us, and sharing in our anguish and tears when things go wrong.
However, my mother's mother died of cancer almost 30 years ago, so Mothers Day isn't really a special day at all in my mother's eyes, as, with all the fuss being made over 'mothers' on this day, I can see in my mother's eyes the sadness and feelings of emptiness inside her, almost wishing that she were in the same position as we are, and was able to pamper her own mother in the same way that we are doing to her.
So, in this respect, Mothers Day can be a double-edged sword. A great celebration to mothers who are still alive, yet a sad miserable day for those of us who have lost our mothers.
Despite all this, my mother smiles appreciatively, thanking us for our cards and gifts that we have bestowed upon her, yet I suspect she is yearning for the chance to do likewise to her mother, but this of course, is not possible.
So, a sad day for some, happy for others, but whatever, mother must never be forgotten because she is like a bridge, steadying herself long enough for us to cross safely!
Spare a small thought for mothers in Yugoslavia on this day. Children creep in to their mother's bedroom and tie their mother's feet to a chair, shouting 'Mother's Day, Mother's Day, what will you pay to get away?' Surprisingly, she then gives THEM presents!
A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavour by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. ~Washington Irving
Mothers day is the one day of the year where are all meant to show our love and appreciation to that one special woman in our lives - Our Mum! Whether it be making her breakfast in bed, buying her flowers, gifts and cards or constant compliments. It's the one day of the year that apparently your mum should be 'off' from all the hardwork she does.
I love Mothers day personally, I don't tell my Mum I love her enough and mothers day, which crops up every March is my excuse to pour her with the soppy I love you mum comments all day. To be honest it's only been since I've had my own children that I do really appreciate and understand what shes been through and had to do all these years.
Before I had my own children I would buy her a card, maybe a Mum mug, and although I did love Mothers day as I'd make my mum tea and toast in the mornings, not alot of thought went into it really.
Now though after having my twin boys in 2007, and being a single parent to them I can really appreciate everything my mum has ever done for me, especially the fact that she had me at such a young age, she was just 16! She had to grow up so quickly, and I found it hard having to suddenly grow up at the age of 20 when I became pregnant. My mum has been an inspiration for me and if it wasn't for her I don't think I would have coped in becoming a mum myself. But now I love motherhood, my boys I love with all my heart and they love their Nanny to, even though they are only 16months old! I can understand now the emotion, the hardwork, the selflessness, and the struggles shes had to go through all these years bringing me up!
Really because of all this I should be telling my mum I love her every single day, which I do now more often than not. But Mothers Day really gives me an excuse to go all out and really treat my mum for that one day. It's the one day she can really look forward to something for herself for once so she knows that all her effort and hardwork is appreciated and that she's my best friend, always has been and always will be.
Of course everybody does different things on Mothers day to show their love and thanks. But all your Mums probably deserve the world, even a kiss on the cheek or a big hug can really melt your mums heart.
Perhaps I should of wrote about MY Mothers Day for this review but seeing as my boys are just 16months old they don't have a clue what it's all about, all they know this year is I'm very soppy and there are fish in the kitchen, as that's what my mum bought me for Mothers Day. It's Mothers Day everyday for me though, as I have the 2 most beautiful, amazing sons and they are my world!
**HAPPY MOTHERS DAY MUMMYS**
I hope you all have a fantastic day! x
Well today is mother's day and as my son is only 23 months old no breakfast in bed or bunch of flowers for me but he did kindly get up at 5.20am so we could spend as much time together on this special day.
Mother's day is actually based in the Christian religion but in the modern world is seen as an opportunity to recognise and celebrate the efforts and care put in by mothers every day of the year.
I was bought up to believe that it was an important day of the year which must be recognised ,card and presents given which is ironic as my mother clearly had no idea how to be a parent ,didn't show any love to either myself or my sister and seemed to positively hate been a mother.
The year I decided I was better off cutting contact with my parents I received a letter off my father demanding I apologise immediately for not sending a card to her. She did not get and apology as giving birth while quite a painful experience does not in my opinion require a celebration year after year. This has had an effect on my perspective of this day.
I personally believe that the job of been a parent is while very badly paid, on someday completely thankless get it right and every day is the reward in been a parent.
My first mothers day was spent living in a refuge and we did receive a mothers day pack from a local church which was particularly nice as it was recognition of what we were doing as most of the mom's there weren't going to have partners taking their children out shopping or sitting down making a card
I did get a card that my son made for me at nursery and this is special to me because it is made by my beautiful boy. He made the petals of tulips with handprints then stuck on stems and leaves. He then put glitter on top of the petals. This is the point I wish I could upload pictures to my review to show off his hard work.
We won't be doing anything particularly amazing today in fact we are going to a car boot and then will spend the afternoon playing but each cuddle, kiss laugh will be my reward today for been a mommy to the most wonderful boy in the world.
I would like to think that as my son gets Older he would welcome a chance to show his appreciation for all that I do for him but the kind of man he grows up to be is the real reward for me.
Happy mothers day to all those mommies out there.
Mothers day has become one of those dates that we all celebrate without having the foggiest about what it really means. So before you turn up at your Mums for Sunday lunch, clutching a bunch of wilting flowers and the last card from the shelf from your local garage, read on and you'll be able to impress her with your new found knowledge regarding Mothers day.
Well, first thing is first, Mothers day is celebrated all over the world to thank our Mums and to show them how much they are appreciated and loved, however in Britain we are actually celebrating Mothering Sunday, which is a British tradition that has its roots in religion.
Mothering Sunday is celebrated during the forty days of lent, which lasts from Ash Wednesday to the day before Easter Sunday, this means that it is celebrated on a different date every year. It was also known as Mid Lent Sunday or "refreshment Sunday" and the fasting rules for lent were not as strict. This means that your mum can happily chomp away on that box of choccies that you thoughtfully bought her!
It is also thought that Mothering Sunday was an occasion when, in the 18th and 19th centuries, domestic servants were given the day off to visit their mothers and the family home, traditionally they took with them a gift of a simnel cake, and flowers that they had picked on their way home, another field of thought is that Mothering Sunday was due to the older custom of going together to the church where you were baptized, or "Mother church" as it was known. So it seems that Mothering Sunday is not meant to be an American style Mother's Day, it is meant to be about celebrating the church as Mother Actually it's probably a combination of all traditions that have cumulated into Mothers Day as we know it today.
So what does mothering involve? Giving your child a cuddle when their upset, kissing their grazed knee better and then giving it a magic rub, or snuggling up in bed together for a story, some play time, amidst the making of meals, washing faces, wiping noses (and bottoms) a mother is someone who loves unconditionally.
Does it really matter that Mothering Sunday has been turned into another commercial money making celebration? I don't think so, I'd put it up there with Easter, and Christmas. Mind you I'm not religious.
So for all mothers who are flicking away the crumbs from their duvet, and wiping away a tear from her eye after reading the verse in her card, enjoy Mothers Day, a celebration of Mothering.
And for everyone visiting their mother with a bunch of wilting flowers and a dog eared card, think back to all those years of mothering, and celebrate Mothers day.
The Mother's day I always remember was in 1986. Why? - because the previous September I gave birth to my first baby girl, and all 4 generations of girls posed for a family photo. There was my gran then aged 92, my mum 54, and myself 25, and my new little baby girl. This wasn't the first time there were 4 generations because my treasured son was born in 1984, but this was the first collection of 4 generations of girls including 3 mums. I had the same feeling in 1989 when my second beautiful daughter arrived, and again 4 generations were together.
Even more amazing soon after we went to see the house where my grandmother was brought up in Gloucestershire in which her mum had raised 14 children. The house is a beautiful chocolate box cottage and dates back to the 15th century.
That moment when I looked at my mum, my gran, and my little daughter was really special as times change. They did, my gran passed away aged 102, and my mum went on to have a severe stroke from which her journey to a partial recovery has been arduous and long.
So what does Mother's day really mean to me. I have to say it is not all roses, it is in my opinion a wonderful money making opportunity for card shops and flower sellers, and in the economic climate we are in it is not appropriate for many people to pay a lot of money to shower their mum with expensive gifts they can't afford.
When I was nursing I actually missed it one year when I was a student simply because I was working so hard, never passed any shops, and I let it slip by. My dad was furious and it caused a war for a few days. I have never forgotten that and urge anyone if they have a child at uni not to be upset if they forget- in many cases they don't know.
I would rather see a change back to a simple home made card, a small box of chocolates, a poem or few lines to say how you feel, rather than a big token of something fancy. I don't think it should be forgotten, but for me it is like Christmas. There are those who have their mum well and supportive behind them, and there are those whose mums have died, or who are ill, and for these it is an empty and lonely stark reminder of something which can be more heartbreaking than Christmas after bereavement. There are those yearning to be mums and for them the heartbreak of this day is also a cause of magnifying the way this issue affects them.
I feel so privileged to have been a mum, I chose to do this and for me I have never forgotten that they didn't ask to be born, so to me they actually owe me nothing because I wanted to have them. I think it is so important for mums to remember that so that if a teenager forgets it is not for any other reason in many cases that they simply don't know they are supposed to buy this or that for the special day.
For me anyway it is a moment to reflect. When my first daughter turned 18 I bought her a Teddy. On his little bib it says "times change but the loves the same." I didn't make up these words they were on a birthday card I had bought some years back for her. On the card a little teddy had been making a sandcastle with his bucket and spade and as the tide came in, the water was slowly washing the sand away and his little castle was disappearing for ever. The card was childlike, and my daughter painted it for me and I have it on a wall in a very special place. The Teddy went with her to university, and the caption on his bib says it all-times change but the love's the same. I still love my gran, she is in everything I think and feel. I still love my mum but now handicapped she is changed from who she was but is still my mum. My children are not children any more but still I feel privileged to have been given time with them. Times do change, one of my sons lives thousands of miles away in Arizona and yet I know he is still with me as so much of him is part of what I think and feel, and the same feelings are with me when I think of my daughters both away at university.
You don't need to spend a fortune on Mother's day but sometimes it is good to reflect for a moment on the mums we have, and the mum's we had. You don't need to spend a lot because the best things in life are not things.
Mothers day was created as a way for people to put across to their mother how much they love them. It falls on the 4th Sunday of lent (the 22nd March this year) which I can't understand because what if your mother has given up chocolate for lent? I always get my mum chocolate because she loves it.
This year, Prince William spoke out for the first time about how he feels about Mother's day since his mother, Diana, Princess of Wales, died 12 years ago in a car crash in Paris. At a reception for the Child Bereavement Charity, of which he has just become a patron, Prince William spoke of the "emptiness" he has felt on Mother's Day since the death of his mum. At the age of 15 Prince William walked behind his mother's coffin, never to see her again. I personally have a whole lot of respect for William and Harry for having to mourn the loss of their mother in public and having to live in her tail wind, so to speak. I don't think I could cope without my mum. Mother's Day is a day to show your mum just how much of a necessity she is in your life, not just like clothes and food, but a truely needed, loved and wanted woman who probably raised you from birth.
A mother can be defined as a woman who conceives, gives birth to, and / or raises and nurtures a child. I love this definition because it allows for foster mothers to be counted. A foster mother is a mother in most senses of the word except the giving birth bit, but this makes her no less of a mother to a child, raising a being, feeding them, providing for them, making sacrifices for them and protecting them are all parts of what mothers should do for their children and a foster mother is no less capable than a mother who has given birth to a child. Again, I have a whole lot of respect for foster mothers too.
My mum is one of the best mothers in the world for several reasons including:
1. shes sacrificed her on happiness to provide and care for me.
2. despite not being able to afford it, every year she makes sure christmas and birthdays are extra special.
3. She tells me I can do anything if I put my mind to it and would gladly bankrupt herself so I could do it.
4. Shes managed to raise 5 children and puts up with her fiance and his kids.
5. she doesn't have the patience of a saint but I wouldn't change her for he world
6. She gave birth to me
7. She allows me to go out with my friends on a Friday night and lets me learn from my own mistakes.
8. she doesn't embarrass me that often
9. She lets me do my own thing
10. She does my washing for me :D
All in all I think my mums pretty ace and this year I shall be buying soaps from lush because she deserves to put her feet up and relax in the bath this mothers day.