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Mothers Day in the UK
Member Name: rojm
Mothers Day in the UK
Advantages: showing you care
Disadvantages: over priced things
Mother's Day or Mothering Sunday which is the correct name in the UK is always celebrated on the fourth Sunday of Lent; which means the date varies.
There were traditions with Mothering Sunday in England which date back as far as the 16th century. It is said that this was the day when people were encouraged to return to worship in their 'mother church where they had been baptised.
On this day it is said that people that were in service were allowed time off to visit their mothers and family. They usually baked a cake to show off their new skills.
Mothers Day now means a card - there are always lots on offer from early Feb and sometimes a pressie for mum. As children get older and grow into adults they hopefully appreciate their mum more and will spend time with them; but this is not always easy as they may have a family and children of their own that want to do something special with their mummy.
Why should we have one day to say I love you mum or to show them by buying a present that you love them. Flowers double in price so sometimes I send my mum some the week before. (Does this make me a stinge). When my girls decide they want to buy me flowers for Mothers Day and my hubby does I always feel that they shouldn't have done so now I have to tell my hubby before hand (he isn't as stingey as me)as I feel bad the about the amount of money being spent.
I now live about 55 miles from my mum so don't always see her on Mothers Day and I feel guilty even though I am also a mum and my family sometimes do something special for me. I know my mum places more importance on Mothers Day than me she was even annoyed with my dad one year because he didn't get her a card. I remember it well, I was young and I said 'but you're not his mum' she replied 'no but I have had his children'. I still don't really understand that. To me if anyone receives a card for Mothers Day from their husband saying to my wife, or a card from someone saying to someone special it should be a bonus and not to be expected every year as it can get silly. I have even seen a card that's from your dog on Mothers Day surely that is going too far.
So this year I am already starting to feel guilty and thinking I want to do something so I have an idea to run by my hubby (although I know he will just say yeah whatever) that my mum and dad come and stay with us the Saturday before Mothers Day and we take them out for a meal that way I have done something for my mum that she will enjoy and then I will get the afternoon with my family (well the girls will be bad tempered because they had a late night).
Personally I think you should do special things for your parents throughout the year to show them you love them (if you do of course). I sometimes buy my mum a small bunch of flowers when we visit (not always as I don't want her expecting it everytime). Most of all I know my mum likes spending time with people and her family and now she is getting older I do feel guilty that I don't see her as much. She offers to come and stay in the school holidays for a week to look after my children that is how thoughtful she is. I couldn't allow this as it would do my head in but because I know she isn't getting any younger and although she thinks she can cope with things I know she couldn't.
So I want to try to make this Mothers Day special for my mum because she isn't going to be around forever but I also want my children to be able to do something for me because the eldest is soft like that and will want to do something.
I don't really like Mothers Day as I think you can do nice things any time you want for your mum and to me that means more than a card on a certain day. But I know for my mum, she would be so upset if she didn't have a card off me on Mothers Day and (for some reason) off my girls.
I think my mum likes cards too much.