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I try not to really make many new years resolutions as I don't like looking back and seeing what I aimed to achieve but didn't at the end of the year. But this year I decided that I would make some but try and make them more realistic and achievable so here they are:
Savings - Over the past few years I have been really bad and not saved anything at all which is not how I used to be so I aim to save something every month this year including my dooyoo pennies.
Health / Weight - I am lucky that I have always remained fairly slim but last year I faced my 30th Birthday and was so determined to wear a size 8 dress that I purchased the dress, hung it up in my bedroom and lost 10lb to get into it. Although I have kept this 10lb off for 9 months I would love to loose another half a stone to be the same weight for my 31st this year as I was for my 21st. Also to increase the amount of exercise I do by starting to run and joining the gym again to improve my fitness levels.
Holiday - Having not been on holiday since my honeymoon two years ago I feel very overdue one so no matter where I go or when I aim to have a holiday this year.
Home Improvements - I have lived in my apartment for almost 9 years now and although I only rent I am determined to decorate and purchase some new bits of soft furnishings to give it a little makeover and refreshment this year.
Family - Although I try my best to spend as much time with my family as possible it is always a little difficult with work especially as I work full and part time. But my dad has just turned 60 and has health problems and my gran recently passed away leaving me now with only one grandparent so I intend to try even harder to spend as much time with them as possible this year.
I probably shouldn't make resolutions, since I tend to do the opposite of whatever the resolution states. After seeing 101 plays in 2012, for example, I resolved that I would go to the theatre less in 2013. I saw 259 plays last year.
However, something has prompted me to give resolution-making another go, though mine are slightly different this year. I'm a member of the Day Zero website, and they offered seven prompts to enable users to come up with alternative resolutions. So here are mine:
Learn how to... style my hair in a vintage way
I love wearing vintage but I wish I could get my hair styled to match, in a Fifties-style roll for instance. My hair is longer now than it has been since I was nine years old, and I want to make the most of my versatile hair and try some different styles.
I am a librarian by profession, and I have my Masters qualification, but now I need to take the next step. To become a chartered librarian you need to actively pursue professional development and complete a portfolio - I intend to begin this in 2014.
Stop... buying makeup
I seem to have got my compulsive toiletry-buying under control in 2013, but in the process I have become addicted to buying makeup. I really don't need any more - there's a limit to how much I can and wish to put on my face at any one time - and I want to stop buying it altogether this year.
Take a vacation to... somewhere with my parents
I'm not too bothered about where I go this year, but I would like to go somewhere with my parents, even if it's only a weekend somewhere in the UK!
Find... a new job
After nearly 3 years in the same role I think it's time for a change. This will be the hardest thing for me as I am terrible at job interviews!
I've done yoga sporadically in the past and found it beneficial. I would like to get into the habit of doing it regularly - I bought a Beginner Yoga DVD a while back and I need to use it!
Be more... positive
This will be difficult. I am quite a negative person by instinct and I will have to make a real effort to look on the bright side!
(I've rated this 5 - resolutions should be made with a positive attitude!)
I am not normally one for New Years resolutions however this year I am taking a stand and making my plans
1, lose weight
I know this features a lot of typical New Years resolutions and it is on mine. I've struggled with my weight ever since I hit puberty, it is a constant battle of fat and thin. The past year I have let things slide, to many takeaways and cakes, put I am now determined to shift it for good. I am an online member of weight watchers so I will be sticking to my points. This year however I will learn not to be so harsh on myself, mistakes will happen, blow outs will occur but its not the end of the world, figure out what went wrong and carry on with the points as required. I have "skinny" pictures there to inspire me and if ever I do want something "bad" I take a step back and spend 10 seconds thinking about if I really need it, or would I prefer my beach body back, that normally helps!
2, move jobs and progress
I've been at the same place for just over 3 years and I feel like my personal development has stagnated. I would ideally like to move sooner rather than later but I will wait for the right job. I also want to start the next part of my accounting qualifications, the unit takes about 18 months so I hope to at least begin it by the end of the year.
3, do more cultured things
I love museums and history type of things so Id like to visit a few more important land marks this year. Id love to see some castles up north, living in Warwickshire I have seen Kenilworth and Warwick so now Id like to go further afield and see others, Edinburgh looks like a lovely castle
4, move more and use the car less
I am not one for loads of exercise but I aim to walk to work when its dry and not raining, if not I walk to dog for a good hour. I aim to walk at least 1 hour per day to help shift the weight and with the culture I would like to walk around more castles and stately homes.
I think I have got a good plan to aim for this year. The key with resolutions is to have a "goal" but not to be so harsh on ourselves if for one day or one week we drop the ball. I know now I will have days where I don't feel like walking but it doesn't matter so long as I don't leave it to long to get off me bum again, same with the losing weight, I know I will have blow out days but as long as I don't have to many of them I will be ok. I am confident I will achieve what I set out to achieve.
New Years Resolutions.
I try not to think of these as resolutions as such as I find that 9 times out of 10 resolutions do not work and only put pressure on to a person. Therefore I see them more as a personal goal, a fresh new year with something new to aim for or work towards.
My goals for this year are:
* To save more money. Since buying my first home at the beginning of last year it's time to build our savings back up a little and add more to that emergency fund. We were definitely overspending on our grocery shopping last year, so I decided to do a meal plan for this week and we actually managed to cut back our weekly shop by almost half and that too was with a few little added extras, bonus. I am also taking my own lunch to work and cutting out on all those unnecessary buys.
* To drink more water. This must be one of my "resolutions" that appear year after year after year, this year I'm determined to crack it once and for all, wish me luck.
* Eat more healthily. I'm not "too" bad at the moment and I only have one takeaway a week as a treat but I admit that improvements do need to be made. I am more of a snacker and I think nothing more of having a chocolate bar and crisps at work or once again in front of the TV of an evening, this needs to stop.
* Pampering. I feel as though I've been neglecting myself a little lately. More weekly facemasks are needed, sticking to my monthly pedicures and 6 weekly hair salon appointments, body moisturising after every shower etc... If I look good then I always feel better about myself.
* Read more. I love reading but I sadly find that there is not enough hours in the day, especially with working full time and travelling to and from work using public transport. My aim is to read at least one new book every month or so.
* New job. I want something a little closer to home and a little more challenging. Earning a higher salary would be a huge plus point too.
So there you go, my aims and goals to work towards in the Year 2014.
Happy New Year to you all, I hope it's a good one.
I don't like using the word resolution. I think it adds too much pressure to people and they get stressed out about it and feel awful when they give up or fail, therefore I give myself targets to work towards. Some people would say that is the same thing, but I see these ´targets´as a far more positive way to look at it. You have to find something that works for you personally.
So lets look at the previous years ones and compare to this years targets......
I like to have a list of places that I would like to travel to. Its normally a choice of 3 to 5 places. In the past few years I have been to Italy, Spain, Greece, Canary islands, Holland and Croatia.
So the first target and actually the biggest one for this year is AUSTRALIA. This is the only place on my list this year. Why? well its always been a place I want to go, but it is an expensive trip compared to Europe. But my time has run out, or rather not mine but my other halfs. In order to get a working visa you have to be 30 or under to apply. My other half has reached that age, so for him its now or never to go on the trip we want to go on. For me at 27 I could go another year, but I want to go with him so 2014 is the year to go. We are planning on leaving in Nov and actually staying 3/4 months so we can experience Christmas there :)
Next is Save as much money as possible..... This is never normally a target for me, because I´m not that kind of person, I´m not materialistic at all, I prefer experiences to things. However I am well aware that I need a certain amount of money to even be let into Oz and that's just to get in.... once we are there we have many things we want to do. Hopefully we will be working there and we can live off that but flights are expensive so needs are a must right now. 2014 is all about the cheapest way of living in order for one amazing trip of a lifetime.
My third and final target for 2014 is to keep in touch with my family and friends more. I travel a lot and work abroad for at least 6 months of the year, and have done now for 6 years and I have to say Im awful at keeping in touch, its like I just disappear for 6 months. I only talk to my mum a couple of times in 6 months, and some of you would be like what the hell right now, but the truth is my whole family are awful at keeping in touch as well. My mum hasn't spoken to her sister in months or her own mother in years and therefore I believe its how its been passed on to me. Plus when Im abroad and working, I don't have much time or sometimes don't have the resources to talk to people. WIFI isn't as accessible in some places I work and live and phone calls and texts cost a fortune, but with Skype and Watsapp, which are free and also Facebook again, which is free, I have no excuse. This year I WILL be better and This year I WILL make more effort and This year I WILL try my hardest to achieve this.
How you may ask? Well to help me I have set up reminders on my phone to go off twice a week, and if that doesn't work I will make them more frequent. I also have photos to put up around me to remind me of people so its less out of sight out of mind. This target is really important to me this year. Its all to easy just to think I will do it tomorrow, or next week, or next month but some people might not always be here, so I have to make the most of the hear and now.
So that's it for me this year, just 3 targets, but big ones. I know many people have resolutions and targets so to everyone Good luck and remember don't give up because you CAN do it. Mind over matter =)
Thanks for reading.
Well there is a month and a week left of 2013 and then we are in to a new year. And with that of course comes new year resolutions.... Is it too early to start thinking about those?
I hope not because I have been thinking about it quite a bit over the past couple of days as I am at home sick so have a lot of time on my hands!
My New Years resolution for as long as I can remember has always been the same "to be happy". I've never achieved it as I guess that's quite a broad statement - and how do you measure happiness?
So this year (well, next year but you know what I mean) I'm going to take a slightly different approach and give myself a goal that can be measured and hopefully that, if I can achieve it, will make me happier.
I have money worries and for too long I have kept my head in the sand about it and not tried to tackle it. For the past too many years I have just been making minimum payments on my credit cards and of course, because of that, the position has got no better.
Well no more.
I have a credit card with a £2,000 limit and it has been up to the hilt for too long.
So here is my New Years resolution for 2014.
I will continue to make my minimum monthly payments to my credit card so I don't get in trouble about it but then in addition, I am going to make an additional payment to my card every time I buy something on my debit card.
I have an online banking app on my phone so it is easy enough to do and what I will do is every time I pay for something, I will put the spare pennies that round the payment up to the nearest £ to my credit card.
I don't think I will feel the extra money missing from my bank as it will just be 20p here and 60p there, but I reckon it will make a real dent it my debt :)
So that's my New Years resolution and maybe, just maybe, this time next year I will have made a start at climbing out of this credit card hole.
Last year for me went really quickly and looking back I almost feel as though I didn't really accomplish too much. It ended somehow with me having little in the bank account and not much to show for it. I didn't really go on holiday (a weekend in Amsterdam doesn't count!) I didn't fix up our flat and I don't feel I did too much exciting at all! So heres a few of my new years resolutions for 2013!
1. Fix up our flat
We have lived in our current flat since August 2010 and since moving in I've hardly done anything. Of course, we bought a new bed and a new TV for the front room and other small bits and bobs but sometimes when people come round I feel a bit off as it's nothing special. We currently rent from a private landlord, and whilst I would like a mortgage one day (probably by the time I'm 30 is my aim! I'm 24 now by the way lol) I think we are going to stay put for now as our landlord is lovely, and in September my daughter will be starting primary school which is literally around the corner, a 2 minute walk away so this will keep things simple and easy. I have started off small, just a new bin for the kitchen (see brabantia bin review which I love!) and I have made a step by step plan for each month e.g. february we are going to paint the hallway and put up a lovely picture, march we are going to buy a new sofa, april we are going to get new curtains for the front room and blinds for the kitchen and so on. I just want to make our house feel like a home, and whilst it does at the moment I think a lick of paint and some wallpaper and pictures on the wall will just make it that little bit more special.
2. Go on holiday
Since about 2005 I have been on a holiday at least once a year, barring the year I was pregnant. Even when my daughter was 10 months old we went to New York on holiday! I just feel having a summer hol is something to look forward to and theres nothing like some lovely Vitamin D and a suntan to make me feel better! I didn't go anywhere last year as money just seemed so tight, but this year I am going to make a conscious effort to reign in unnecessary spending and jet off in the sun! At the time of writing this we have now recently booked a holiday to Barbados for August so I am sooo excited!
3. More extra-curricular activities for my daughter
Sometimes I feel quite guilty being a working mum as though I do not get to spend so much time with her. Sure she goes nursery, we go to the park, we bake cakes at home and we visit gran and grandad on both sides on weekends and I take her to kid play places like gambados and kidspace but I want her to be really really active. When I was younger (well not as young as she is now but still!) I used to do ballet and tap lessons and gymnastics but one thing I never properly learnt to do is swim. So I am currently on the hunt for some swim classes for her age so when she grows up she can at least save me if I start to drown! Also, as her dad is chinese, he does speak to her in Cantonese and so do his parents (since they barely speak english) but I think once she is 4 she may go to chinese school...I've always wanted to be bilingual so I guess if I can't then she can be :)
I don't know what happened but my personal savings skills are awful. When I was younger I was good with budgeting, saving all my pocket money if I wanted to buy something big. Somehow, I can't seem to restrain myself these days! Theres always just this "one thing" or "one bill" I really have to buy or pay for and end up going into the account. I am going to try and slap my own wrists now and literally get back on top of this, or else this mortgage dream will take even longer to come into fruition! I have some moderate savings with my building society so I am going to try up my input into here each month and make cutbacks. One thing I am good with is my daughter's trust fund for when she is 18 so I am going to try and be a good mummy and instead of cashing out amazon vouchers on here so often, wait for the £50 threshold and every now and again add this to her trust fund pot which is actually showing more ££££ than my own current savings!
Don't get me wrong, I can cook but sometimes I get so bored with food as I feel like I am cooking the same things all the time. I love Salmon, Roast Lamb and cooking the odd bit of chicken or a spag bol/lasagne but whilst my dishes are not limited to this short list I really want to expand my culinary skills. It is quite time consuming (and expensive!) trying new dishes from a cookbook so I am limiting my experiment to cooking a new dish I have never cooked before at least once a week. My manager is Lithuanian and she always brings in such amazing leftovers for her lunch to work, and lets me try some so the first few weeks she has given me some of her own recipes to try and they have been delicious. I am also thinking to buy a new cookbook and browse through for some new and entertaining recipes as I would love to be able to expand my specialty in the kitchen!
This is actually quite a brief list of things I'd like to accomplish this year. I'm sure I'll achieve most of them and throughout the year I will most likely pick up new things I'd like to do. Either way the start of 2013 has been really positive so far so I'm excited to see what the rest of the year holds....thanks for reading!
Whilst I am aware that problems just don't go away over night just because we have entered a new year, I do consider it a fresh start in getting my life sorted for the better. I am very blessed to have a loving family and a roof over my head but some aspects of my personal life/home life that I hope will change in 2013. These are my hopes/goals.
I have always been big built but I didn't realise how heavy I had become until the middle of last year. I was encouraged to join Slimming World and have so far lost nearly 2 stone in 6 months. I have messed about quite a bit with it though. I would love to reach my target weight/size this year and my determination to do this is really high at the moment. I don't want my son being bullied for having a 'fat Mummy' when he starts school in August.
I have a great support network and Slimming World has encouraged me to make food from scratch and be generally more healthy. My family benefits from this too as I feel I am setting a good example with healthy, homecooked meals. I have a long way to go to reach my target but I am positive that I can do it. I can already feel myself having more energy and hope to be out walking more when the weather is better.
I will keep you all updated on my progress!
I have never been particularly good with money but 2013 has seen the start of me planning the best way to utilise our money a bit better. We have a few small debts to still pay off and plan on doing that for the first half of 2013. I have a bit better control over where our money is going and I'm constantly looking for ways to save a little here and there. Making sure our bills and debts are taken care of will leave me feeling less stressed hopefully. I have started saving and planning for various trips and also Christmas!
Most years we have said we will visit certain places but I have made a resolution that 2013 will be the year! We have a holiday arranged for Blackpool and a weekend away at Thomas Land planned for this year. We are going to make the most of the Summer holidays and any school holidays including trips to Edinburgh Zoo, Dynamic Earth and various museums suitable for families.
We have lived in our current home for nearly 3years and it still doesn't really feel like our home in my opinion. I would love to spend a bit more time decorating it, buying bits and pieces including a new vacuum cleaner and bed. I just want to make it nice but this takes money so will need to save up! I think the decorating will be done towards the end of 2013 and before Christmas.
~Meet Some Friends~
I don't have many friends offline - quite sad I know but it does happen in life. I'm hoping to have the opportunity to meet a few more of my online friends this year as I did last year. I also hope to make some friends are my new Slimming Class (that I start tonight) and perhaps when my son starts school. It would be nice to have someone to have lunch out with once in a while!
~Maybe A Baby?~
Not sure if this will happen but I'm hoping with me losing weight it might happen. I was very overweight when I tried to conceive my son and it took 2years but I'm hoping my body settles a little once the weight is off as we would love to be expecting (in the early stages) by the end of 2013.
2013 is going to be a big year for us. We have a lot to look forward to with my fiance turning 30 and my son starting school. It is already going it quite fast and I want to make the most of it. I hope everyone has a great 2013 and I wish you all the best.
Thanks for reading - Laura x
With the other inspirational resolutions for 2013 written by fellow dooyoo members; here I add mine out of motivation from reading the other reviews and in reinforcing the changes I'd like to make in my life. I am always one to "bah" the idea of resolutions with the dismissing swish of a hand -- perhaps that is one contribution to me not having clear-cut goals. In my faith the concept of not wasting time or being lazy is a fairly important one - especially with regards to what we actually occupy our time with; and so it's about time I take time-management and goal-making and achieving more seriously. It's easy for me to write out the goals, but not so easy in achieving them -- consequentially making me feel like somewhat of a loser and a defeatist.
Almost a week into 2013 and I'm still undecided as to what my specific goals should be, but I would like to keep them easy and fairly achievable whilst requiring a reasonable amount of effort. In no particular order of priority, here are my goals for this year so far:
To be slightly creative (before my husband arrives!):
~ Knit up a simple draught excluder for the room (and possibly one for the very draughty windows)
~ Make up some simple but thicker curtains.
Words, Languages & Studies:
~ Complete my dissertation three weeks before the deadline.
~ Spend half an hour a day listening to Spanish radio or watching a Spanish programme/film.
~ Read more novels in Spanish.
~ Translate one untranslated public domain novel from English to Spanish.
~ " " from Spanish to English
~ Read 35 books this year (including text books)
Other things, although no less important:
~ Spend no more than £10 a week until my husband arrives.
~ Call my parents & siblings once a week and contact my husband's parents at least once a month.
~ Make good progress in my goals regarding my faith.
Well, I hope these are not too unachievable, although it is all a bit overwhelming, they are all necessary for me, I feel.
God willing we all have a productive and successful year in bettering ourselves for our sake and for those around us!
We are 3 days into 2013 and I have set myself two main goals to accomplish by the end of the year. I generally don't really see the point of New Year's Resolutions because I think it's good to be already in the habit of achieving goals that you set for yourself and new year shouldn't really be motivation for it. This year I thought I'd give it a try and see how my goals pan out.
1. Get my driving license
I have been on and off with trying to get my driving license for the past year or two and I just always ended up taking a break. I think it's mainly due to always having other things get in the way is my problem. I think also the cost of it is just expensive £20 a lesson is an extortionate being a student. I think I need to put this all aside and just spend the money and make the time and pass my test because I feel like I am getting old (eventhough I'm not) because people younger than me have already passed and have cars.
My plan for this resolution is since I already have had alot of lesson and generally know how to drive I plan on taking one two hour lesson a week starting Monday then in the college holiday in feb I plan on booking a couple lessons for that week then my test at the end of it. the thought of it sounds daunting but I think if I do it this way rather than spread it out over months I will not think of taking a break.
As for the theory part of a driving license I will be booking the test next week for the following week or soon after. I have been preparing for the test heavily over the Christmas break and feel like I am in a good position to pass first time. If not taking it in January will give me enough time to study and re-book the test with enough time to prepare for my practical.
I've thought this plan out really hard and just hope it works and well so I can say my new years resolution went to plan and it will motivate me to think they are worthy for next year.
2. Vegas baby
I always make plan holidays that I never end up going on because I always never get round to finishing planning.
I have always said that one day I would go to Vegas and I think this would be the perfect year to in the summer after finally finishing college. I got a fair bit of money over the Christmas holiday have seen good prices of around 700 pounds which is a good deal which I'm so desperate to use money I have gotten over Christmas to deposit on the holiday. I have decided that if I don't find anyone that will come by the end January that I will go on my own. Some of you reading man be thinking why would I go Vegas on my own by Vegas is a place with so much entertainment and people that are there having fun with all the casinos and clubs so I doubt that I will be short of people to enjoy myself with or get bored.
One thing I have always said to myself is if you don't do things you want to do because you need or don't have anyone to accompany you, you will never experience all you wan't to in life.
So this year definitely as one of my resolutions is to go to Vegas and have the time of my life. Plus turning 21 in the next few months so why not.
These are the two things I wish to accomplish and fingers crossed that I do :) You will all be seeing me alot more trying to save up some extra pennies for this years ventures.
I don't usually bother with New Year's Resolutions, but this year I have decided it's time for some changes. Nothing hugely exciting, but I've challenged myself in a few areas and I figured that putting it down on paper will make me commit to the task in hand.
HEALTH AND WELLBEING
I've never been one for dieting, and although I could probably do with losing a few pounds, I am mostly happy with my weight. I am, however, not so pleased about my fitness levels, as I can get out of breath so easily on walks or even doing housework. My husband and I have pledged to go walking more often, given that we live a stone's throw from the coast, and I'm going to do a fitness class once a week. I know from previous experience, fitness classes reduce stress and make me feel better about myself, so with this in mind I hope I will stay motivated this year.
I also intend to stop worrying so much, look after myself better and make more time for pampering myself with baths and so on. I need to appreciate that sometimes it's ok to be doing nothing, you don't have to be productive 24 hours a day, and taking time to recharge makes you more productive in the long run. My focus is on wellbeing rather than physical things such as weight and dress sizes, as I am trying to get my body baby ready and also encourage my monthly cycle to return to normal after stopping the pill - my doctor said stress could be a hindrance to this.
STOP SPENDING MONEY ON RUBBISH YOU DON'T NEED
In terms of actual goals, this equates to "sort out my finances". I have set goals to have paid off my overdraft and credit card by halfway through the year, and in order to do this, I really need to reign in my spending. No more spontaneous trips into town on lunch, convincing myself I really do need another cookbook when my shelves are already heaving. No longer will I read my Groupon emails in bed each morning, mentally spending my hard earned cash before even getting to work. Before I met my husband I lived on my own in a house I couldn't afford, and was living to my overdraft limit each month. In those days, I never bought anything "fun" because I couldn't afford to, and it wasn't an issue. I just avoided shops, and if I saw something I liked I'd put it back on the shelf, so this is something I need to start doing again.
Firstly, see above! Yes I have lots of hobbies, but I also have lots of stuff. So I should be putting my stuff into good use to enjoy said hobbies. At the moment I am stuck in a bit of a career black hole, the reason being that I don't enjoy my job, but I don't want to change it just yet because my husband and I intend to start a family in the near future. In the meantime, I need to MAKE time to do the things outside of work that make me happy. So, I will be cooking and baking more often, teaching myself to sew, and making more celebration cakes to add to my portfolio. This will help my long term ambition to set up my own cake business one day.
OTHER RANDOM THOUGHTS
Read more, worry less. Make time to see friends and family more often, they won't be around forever. Try to tidy up after yourself because it drives your husband mad. Focus on what you have rather than what you don't have, and find something to be grateful for every day. Finally create that recipe folder from the piles of magazines in the spare bedroom, that you've been threatening to do for about three years. De-clutter all the rubbish that's hanging around the house, and make a trip to the charity shop. Have more tolerance for your in-laws. Get rid of those size 8 clothes that are clearly never going to fit you again. Actually, use the fabric to practise your sewing! Get up earlier at the weekends to squeeze more out of your spare time. Tell your pension company you moved house years ago.
So, that's it folks. I hope that putting this into writing will commit me to my goals, and if you read a review which begins with me saying "I thought I'd treat myself on my lunch the other day", feel free to tell me off!
Every year we probably do the same thing - vow that we will be thinner, richer, nicer, generally just a bit better, and end the next year a slim vision of stunningness with a great career and a spotless house.
Do we achieve it? Do we heck. Thus far this new year I have seen the state of the kitchen, vaguely recalled stealing a glass from the pub we went to just because "I've never done that before" and in protest at how terrible the band was, and instead of tackling the sheer tip that is my house have parked myself firmly on the sofa, poured a glass of wine, and watched about 267 reruns of Great British Bake Off (series one if you must know) trying to decide if I find Paul Hollywood attractive or just genuinely terrifying.
But like everyone else I do have intentions for 2013. I can't knock 2012. It brought me Mr Rarr, after all! But as I mentioned in a recent review, other things have been getting me down a bit. Commuting is utter hell and would turn a Samaritan into a murderous hellcat. I may love what I do but I am starting to come to the conclusion that maybe, for the sake of my health and sanity, in the next few years something will have to change. Also, I have a few personal aspirations that I want to improve upon and work on a bit more this year. I am after all starting out in life with the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and frankly I have started also to realise that with that, life changes. The only people in the world who truly matter to me are him and my gorgeous mother, and I want to make life good for the three of us in every way I can. Coming home stressed and angry is not going to help with that!!
So, here are my resolutions. Let's do this 2013 thing.
***BEING A BETTER DAUGHTER***
Mum's house needs doing up, and I'm damn well going to do it. Having virtually lived with her for the purpose of travelling to work for the last 18 months, she only ever saw me shattered and fed up late most evenings, and now I want to spend my time off making up for it.
***BEING A MIRACLE GARDENER***
So about two weeks after moving into a house which effectively has no garden on the basis that it would be delightfully easy to manage, I decided that I wanted to grow my own food. Great! So, after having an allotment and having to give it up during the Year What Got Washed Away, I am now reduced to taking over Mum's veg patch and I am hellbent - utterly, you-don't-want-to-see-my-wrath-if-this-fails hellbent - that I will overthrow the army of slugs and snails that think my entirely decked garden is heaven on earth and I WILL produce usable vegetables from the tiny area that I own which supposedly qualifies as a garden. Wish me luck. I am really, really going to need it.
***MAKING OUR OWN LUCK***
I don't know if any of you saw the Derren Brown feature recently about an experiment where he tried to change the lucky mentality of an entire town, but Mr Rarr and I loved it and it totally affirmed what I have always thought - if you're not in it, you're not going to win it. And we all know that you could enter every competition in the world and never win a thing, but you certainly won't if you don't give yourself the chance. It's largely how I feel about life. Get amongst it, basically. What have we got to lose? So 2013, a year when Mr Rarr will be starting his non-military life in a new career, and when I am looking to build the foundations of our future, is also the year when we're going to give ourselves the opportunities to find good fortune as well. We might just spend a lot of money on the lottery and get nowhere, but we might have a few surprises along the way and you never know what else could happen! And hey, at least we tried....
***STARTING THE FOUNDATIONS***
...which sort of brings me to my final resolution. I have a little pipedream. I don't want to reveal all in order to avoid some stupid superstition about jinxing it, but I know that there is something in my life in the future that I really, really want to do. And to do it I'm going to need money. So I'm going to be the best Dooyooer I can, work hard, squirrel away every extra penny, save where I can and generally keep my eye on the prize. Better to start a long way in advance than get to the point at which you want to do something and have to start then! Dooyoo will be a big part of it - I love this site, I love being able to be expressive and reflective here and enjoying everyone else's approach to doing the same. I just hope to be here even more in 2013.
So basically its just a positive mindset for me this year. No beating myself up mentally for the extra half a stone I might be carrying, but keeping opportunities open and being prepared for new experiences, whilst keeping sight of what is important - just being more organised and generally more committed and better at it.
Happy New Year everyone, and I wish you all the best for it!
I love the start of any new month as it is so full of promise of things to come. None more so than the first of January as I have a whole year to go at it and keep trying out new things.
Like most people, I would love to be a bit trimmer, and a bit fitter, more organised, and just generally me but a whole lot better. For this, I think you have to look at yourself as a whole, and not just the individual aspect you want to change.
I set myself a challenge in 2011 of paying £10,000 off my mortgage balance. I managed to hit £7000, which was pretty good going, but because I was so focussed on this goal, I became obsessive to the extent that I was neglecting other areas of my life, and it was making me a bit unhappy. So though I still have a long held ambition of being mortgage free by 35 (and I only have 2 years and 4 months to do it) I also want to regain interest in what should be my priorities this year, and remember that however close I come to the original mortgage free aim does not really matter, as I have already done enough of this to achieve an earlier aim of being a stay at home mum.
So for me, this year can be split up into:
One of the things that plagues me is depression. It can hit me from no-where, and really, there is no need for it to be like that. So I vow to spend some time each day doing a little bit of something just for me to stop me getting to that state. Whether that is a bubble bath, a walk in the sunshine with my lovely little chihuahua dog Murphy, cuddles with my boys, or any other means I choose, I deserve it. I am not required to be doing something to either earn money or keep the house tidy every minute of the day, so there will be more time to smell the flowers in 2012. This will be hard for me as I don't tend to let myself relax.
I also aim to be a bit fitter by not hopping in the car to pick up my youngest from nursery, walking my puppy as many days as I can in the fresh air, going out geocaching with my family, and cooking lovely fresh food that hopefully we will grow in our garden again.
I have forgot the basics of budgetting, and been spending so much money in 2011 on things I just want, and not necessarily need. So I plan to start keeping a spending diary again, and keep up with it for the whole year so I know a lot better where my pennies are going, and make sure that more of them stay with us where they can do most good.
I will be cooking a lot more, meal planning, and not throwing so much in the bin. No longer will I be seduced in the supermarket with things we won't eat. I will keep a list in a notebook to try and shame me into being better. When I know what effort goes into growing food it really is criminal to bin it.
Up the ante
I can be very focussed when I want to be, and I do this by saying to myself I will have a little challenge. Some of these in 2011 were things like write 100 reviews between September and the end of December. Have so many no spend days in this month. Have no alcohol for a month.
This year, I want to:
- write 300 new reviews in the year, which I will break down to 25 per month
- open a folksy shop where I will sell some of my knitting
- try to be as electric neutral as possible over the year. We had solar panels fitted at the start of December 2011, and when they generate more than we are using, our old style meter goes backwards. So I am plotting ways of using all this lovely electricity within my house, such as using my slow cooker and halogen oven to make our meals instead of the gas cooker. No idea if this will work or not, but I have written down the start of the year meter reading, and I am going to have fun trying.
- try and earn more money than I spend on gifts. This is a big area for me as I have a fairly large familyand we spend a lot on gifts, so I hope my money I earn from surveys and reviews will cover this completely in 2012.
I am going to be trying to do things as cheaply and well as I can in 2012. I got an English Heirtage membership using my Tesco clubcard points, so I want to make full use of that, make what I can, grow what
I can, mend what I can, use what we own. Our lives are so full, and we have so much stuff, that life can only be improved by living in a more ordinary manner and enjoying what we already have around us.
Life is likely to be just as busy as in 2011, but I want to spend more time doing things with my family, not just for them, and remember what I am doing all the other stuff for. I want to look back on this special time with my family, and have us all remember a fun time, and not one where mum was always saying in a minute, or being a grumpy so and so.
I want to feel that I have done the best job that I can, and not a bit of everything a bit half heartedly.
This is the first time that I have posted a review in this category. The reason I am doing so, is not because others will find my Resolutions that interesting, but because it's a way for me to have it down in writing (and earning a few Dooyoo miles in the process) and hopefully it will motivate me to achieve my resolutions in the year ahead.
I have done something a little different this year and as it is 2012 I have set myself 12 goals. I have included personal goals however a lot of my goals are financial this year and this reflects the year ahead, as there will be big changes. I am currently on Maternity Leave and return to work full-time in April, so need to start planning child care/after school clubs etc for the children and also my Husband is facing redundancy at the end of the year, so we need to start planning in advance.
Here are my New Year Resolutions for 2012:
* Lose my post-baby weight *
Our youngest Son is 5 months old and our family is now complete therefore I need to get back into shape otherwise I will never do it.
* Exercise by doing a 45 min walk or 30 min cross trainer session 4 times a week *
This is how I intend to get back into shape. I used to enjoy going to the gym, however as we have two young children, I don't have the time anymore, so I only have time to go for a walk or using the cross trainer once the children have gone to bed.
* Sort out my attic and de-clutter *
Sorting out the attic is something that has been on my 'To Do' list for many years. I feel that if it's not done soon, my ceiling is going to cave in! I can't believe how much junk we seem to have stored over the years and once I manage to clear a lot of stuff, I will then buy new loft insulation as it has become wafer-thin.
* Have the patio area completely slabbed *
This is an unusual resolution but it is a job that we need to have done. Our patio area is half made up of slabs and the other half is chippings. It is time that we have this completely slabbed as our eldest Son loves putting stones down the drain and brings them all into the house.
* Carry on with my monthly mortgage overpayments *
Even though we have 13 years remaining on our mortgage, my aim is to reduce the term by 4 years (at least). I am doing this my overpaying slightly on the mortgage (while we can), so I hope that I can carry on with these overpayments as it will greatly benefit our family in the long run.
* Aim to get 3 x monthly salary in savings for emergencies *
This is another financial goal and due to my Husband facing redundancy this year we need to increase our 'Rainy Day' savings.
* Continue to stick to weekly budget i.e. general spending, food shop (and keep a Spending Diary) *
You may have already guessed by now, that I am a 'Money Saving Expert' addict, so have Spreadsheets coming out of my ears. This is how I keep within budget and I am really going to try this year and reduce the amount of money we spend on grocery shopping and make more use of offers and where possible buy the products that we use the most in bulk.
* Keep on top of household cleaning/laundry everyday so that it doesn't build up *
Where do I start with housework? It is never ending. I am not obsessed however my home does have to be cleaned everyday as I can't stand mess and clutter. I do get days where I let the laundry/ironing slip and end up with mounds of it, so I am going to do the laundry/ironing everyday so that I can keep on top of it all.
* Do lots of activities with the children on weekends and have fun *
This may seem an obvious goal as we have two young children, but partly relates to the above goal. My Husband and myself both work full-time so if I can keep on top of the housework during the week, this give me more time to do fun things with the children and max out our weekends.
* Post more reviews *
I am always amazed by some members who post 1-3 reviews a week; I just don't know how you have the time? My aim is to post 2 reviews a month. I sometimes draft a couple of reviews a week, but don't end up posting them, but this year I am going to try and set some time each week in the evenings to write some reviews.
* I am a worrier, so I'll try and not let things worry me too much *
I follow my Mum and worry over absolutely everything. This needs to stop as I spend far too much time worrying about what others think of me and I need to relax more.
* Give blood *
I am ashamed to say that I currently don't give blood. I once gave blood quite a few years ago and never went back. We then went on Honeymoon to a high risk Malaria country, therefore couldn't give blood and then had two children. Your youngest Son is almost 6 months old, so after this time I will be able to give blood. I don't particularly like having my blood taken, but this is something that I feel I need to do due to a family member needing Blood last year.
Thanks for reading xx
© sweetdaisy 2012
A resolution is an interesting concept. Challenge yourself to develop the willpower to maintain a commitment. Until a few years ago I may have whimsically put forward two or three aspects in my life that I would like to change - attempted to stick at it for a couple of days and then leave it until the next new year arrived in order to try again. Basically I took it with a pinch of salt and lacked motivation or willpower. Something changed and now resolutions that are made anytime are maintained successfully...
I discovered Kundalini Yoga when my health was challenged by illness. I was faced with limitations and restrictions which affected many aspects of my life and changed it as I knew it. Initially I was frustrated and tried to fight back - then I accepted it and worked with it and things became easier. I am now thankful for the experience as without it I would not have Kundalini Yoga in my life - it makes a huge difference. Willpower is incredibly strong when practicing daily.
I don't need to make resolutions one day every year and hope that I can stick to them. I made the choice to become 'me' when I began my yoga practice. After years of trying to meet others expectations and please others I learned that I am not here for that reason. I realised that I needed to assert myself more and say 'no' more often. Instead of reacting to situations I learned to respond - the difference being that I take my time and remain calm rather than promptly reacting and regretting it later on. I eat only what my body needs and not what my eyes desire. I became vegan because it makes me happy - others think I am being awkward at times but it is my choice and a lifetime commitment. I have stopped trying to control life and now I 'go with the flow' - it is so liberating to realise that you cannot control anything so why bother. This is not to say that I am not organised as I am but I do not get stressed about anything anymore as it just does not matter - what will be will be.
I live by my commitments all year round and what do I get out of it? I am content and happy. It seems incredible that by practicing yoga (Kundalini Yoga) life could change so much - it really has. I am calm which enables me to respond to situations the best that I can - emotions will always be aroused occasionally as I'm only human but the way I respond is entirely different. I have increased energy levels which benefits my recovery greatly - I appreciate that so much. Choices that I make daily are with good intentions and it really is effortless - it comes naturally. I do not feel like I am wanting or needing anything as I am perfectly happy with what I have - though I accept gifts graciously. I used to be on the go all of the time - always busy and very proactive. It may seem bizarre but I did not know how to relax and my breathing was from entirely the wrong place. In essence by body put the brakes on and I had no choice but to stop and listen - I'm glad I did as I am now in a much better place and for the first time in a long time I am incredibly happy.
My commitment/resolution is a permanent one - a daily practice of Kundalini Yoga. This is easy to maintain as the benefits are extensive for mind/body/spirit. Power and strength are developed physically and mentally and willpower is impressive. I wanted to be 'me' and not who everyone else wanted me to be - with the practice of Kundalini Yoga that has been easily achieved. I am calm yet energised. Happy and content.
Thanks for reading