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Do you believe in love at first sight?
Tales of Love and Romance
Member Name: broxi3781
Tales of Love and Romance
Advantages: A happy marriage and beautiful children.
Disadvantages: A feeling of loss of control, helplessness, and everything being very illogical.
Logically, I can not believe in love at first at sight. Love requires knowing someone, sharing, learning about them, finding things in common, building shared memories. How could anyone possibly fall in love with a stranger? It takes time to find out what a person is really like. Nice looks don't always mean a nice person. I have always thought love would be something that grows slowly between two people.
But then, love doesn't really seem to affected by logic, at least not in my case. I never believed in love at first sight, I found the whole idea immature and overly romantic - and I've never considered myself a romantic. Then I saw the man who would become my husband. But truth be told, it was even before I saw him. I felt his gaze on me, I could just feel someone staring, my knees went weak, I literally felt faint, and I knew, I somehow just knew he was there.
Then I turned around and saw him. Instantly, I could imagine spending the rest of my life with him. Now while I am sounding so romantic, my dear husband is not know for flowery words. rather than ask my name, or exchange pleasantries as one usually would, he asked if I could have children and then informed me that I would do, he would take me. Any other man anywhere else on earth would have gotten slapped at that point! But his confidence did say something for him, like he could snap his fingers and have anything he wanted. And to be fair he had been drinking. But I don't think it mattered what he said, I'd already been knocked for 6 by a rush of unknown feelings and emotions that literally left me reeling. Still, I'll have to assume he felt something instantly. He does swear that he has never before or since asked a strange woman to have his children :) Everything went like wildfire from there. We discussed names for our unborn children on our first real date! We were living together and engaged within a month.
So much for whirlwind romance, the question is would it last? How far can instant attraction go? Would we have enough in common to form a lasting relationship? As unlikely as it sounds, yes it did last. We have had some hard times, more or less been through hell and back again. The whole having children thing took 5 years with a lot of losses and sorrow. But over a decade later, I still love him as much as the first day. His voice still makes me go weak at the knees at times, or just the thought of him. He is still the most attractive man on the earth to me. Other women may talk about this or that movie star, but I never even look, no one compares to him. I know he isn't perfect. I have seen him at his worst many times, as he has seen me at mine, but that never changes the love I feel for him. Maybe that is really truly love, when you know everything about someone, all their faults and imperfections, and none of it matters, because the love you feel outweighs everything else.
We have two beautiful sons together now. Life is not a bed of roses. I don't believe in happily ever after. I know everyday that I am truly blessed both in my husband and my children though and I thank God for my luck and good fortune everyday. And I will never forget the first time I felt his gaze or laid eyes on him. That's not to say he never annoys me. He does. I'm sure I annoy him too at times, like the times before he quit drinking when I decided to treat him to some of my fishes food, vodka and coke with frozen blood worms, live grub worms in a beer and so on. No one can live together so long and not get angry at times. But I still can not imagine him not being here.
Now I like to think of myself as a reasonably logical person. Falling head over heels in love with stranger just did not fit in with my concept of myself. Even now I try to find some logical explanation. Scientists claim love is basically a chemical reaction that takes place in 1/5 of a second, reducing a load of chemicals similar to a cocaine rush. it leaves one feeling faint, euphoric, and dazed. I'd have to admit that pretty well described the feeling. Other research is looking into the possibility that it is love at first smell, rather than love at first sight. That on some subconscious level we have retained a primitive ability to sniff out biologically compatible mates. I really like to think someday a logical answer will be found. I just don't like to think of myself as romantic. For our first Valentines Day, I told him to forget flowers and get me a toaster. At least a toaster you can use.
But in spite of all my protests, I still can't help believing, maybe there is one perfect match for everyone out there, and if by luck or the grace of God you find that person, you just known from the start.
Here's hoping that those of you who have found that one person always realise what a gift you have been given. and for those who haven't been so lucky yet - here is hoping the right one is just around the corner. never give up, you never know where you will find true love. Or maybe love is just something that finds us.
Summary: Happy valentines Day Everyone :)