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kids having kids!
Member Name: ask_eve
Date: 08/11/11, updated on 09/11/11 (59 review reads)
Advantages: I guess you're young and fit and healthy enough to look after a child.
Disadvantages: money, single parents, haven't lived your own life yet, living off taxpayers money etc. . .
I'm not a teenage parent but saw this category and thought I'd voice my opinions.
When I was young, teenage pregnancy was much less common than these days. My parents were in their 30's when they had me, and I was 28 when I had my daughter. Times change though, and these days all I seem to see on the tele and read about are young people having babies.
When they brought out the £500 grant for new mums, I was quite angry. There wasn't any help like that when I had my children. I was also angry because a lot of the young girls getting these were wasting them on clothes and stuff for themselves when it was meant for their child. I have heard that they have now stopped giving out the grant.
When I read about these 15 year olds getting themselves pregnant I cringe. I really do. They're young people who should be out enjoying their youth and living their own lives, not starting someone elses! How can they support a child when they're not even old enough to get a proper job? I think if you're old enough and responsible enough to have sex, then you should be responsible enough to use contraception, especially these days when there are so many different types that are free.
I can't say that all teenage mothers and father's are bad parent's as that would be completely unfair. I haven't met every single one out there, so I can't rate their parenting skills. I'm sure some are good parents and have put their lives on hold, quite rightly, to raise their child. I do feel angry though, when I see these young girls pushing buggies down the street when they're hanging out with their friends. I saw a girl last year, no older than 16 with a little baby in a pram, middle of winter hanging outside a shop with her friends. I was froze, so I didn't want to think how cold her baby must have been, and I wanted to shake her (the mother, not the baby!). I felt like saying "Take your baby home, and be a parent!"
Jeremy Kyle obviously gives us a bad impression of these teenage parents. I often watch the show, with these young girls saying they want a baby, but they don't work, aren't at school or college and I think great, I'm going to be amongst the other tax payers helping to raise it for you! I don't think teenagers realise how hard it actually is to have a baby, they often just see it as a doll or accessory when really, it's bloody hard work!
I don't paticularly have anything against teenage parents. I always think they should have been more responsible, but at the same time, I often think "At least they're dealing with the situation rather than getting rid of it via abortion". I just wish that teenagers really thought it out before trying for a child or getting pregnant unexpectedly, it isn't hard to be sexually active and not get pregnant!
I think the government could do more to help prevent unwanted teenage pregnancies. I know free condoms are available to young people, but I've never seen a place actually giving them away. When my granddaughter started having the Depo jab, she was given about 6 which I thought was a bit pittyful really. I think they should reduce the price of them in shops to make them more easily available to young people who don't have much money because they are really expensive for what they are.
I don't think there's ever a time when you're completely ready for a baby. I was married and 28 years old, but I still found it incredibly difficult, so how do these young girls cope without a husband or a job? I think it's best to sort yourself out, live your life and have the money and stable relationship to support a child before you have one.
This review isn't meant to insult or slag off teenage parents at all, some are probably great parents, and some awful, like at any age. Age doesn't determine whether you're going to be a good parent or not!
At the end of the day, if you're responsible enough for sex, you should be responsible enough for contraception.
Summary: Best to wait until you're financially stable and have lived your life.