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Why waste your money?
Member Name: AlmshoeRachy
Advantages: Good when you're young?!
Disadvantages: Waste of money
I think Valentine's Day is like Marmite - you either love it or you hate it. When I was younger I would have been mortified if I had not had a card and it was a huge thing at school as to whether or not you had received one. I think the older you get, the less you care.
I have been with my husband for nearly seven years now. Our first Valentines Day was the most amazing and romantic evening that anyone has ever arranged for me. I was living in Hertfordshire and he was in London, so we arranged to meet each other for a surprise date after work. Firstly I received 12 red roses at work, and then knowing how much I wanted to see Phantom of the Opera, he had arranged tickets and then took me for a very nice meal afterwards. It was amazing and I had no idea that he had planned so much. He has never done anything so romantic since! I don't mind that - it is a waste of money. We now spend the evening at home and cook a nice dinner, or have a picnic in the front room, complete with picnic rug and basket, champagne and candles - as far as I am concerned a much better night than being rushed out of a restaurant to make way for the next couple feeling that they have to do something to 'celebrate' the occasion.
My friend's partners birthday is on Valentines Day, so it is banned from their house - he hates the way that it is totally overshadowed and thinks that as it's his Birthday it should all be about him! I think he finds it easier now he is part of a couple, but when he was younger he really struggled celebrating it, as all his friends were expected to be elsewhere with their girlfriends!
From now on, as long as I get a card, I am happy. We have much more important things that we need to spend money on, and spending it on teddy bears and love hearts just because it is expected of you is right at the bottom of our list of priorities. The tacky things sold in the shops in the run up to Valentine's Day just end up cluttering up our living space and then being thrown away anyway. A random text from hubby telling me he loves me every now and again makes me happier than him spending hard earned money on flowers that don't last long!
Summary: Good excuse for a quiet night in with hubby