“ A community dedicated to offering a friendly environment in which to chat about all things family related. Whether you are planning for your first or expecting another baby, you will always find like minded members to talk and make friends with. Look though our numerous subject specific forums or feel free post about anything you want to chat about. „
I was a member for a while and thought it was great but over time I started to notice that all wasn't quite as it seemed. It turned out that the admin/mod team had favorites and certain members were able to say what ever outlandish things they wanted but if someone who wasn't a part of their little group said the same thing they were warned or banned without notice and often with no explanation and no chance to explain yourself. Any attempt at even trying to reconcile or reason with the admin team was either ignored, responded with a very rude and/or hurtful response or it resulted in your account being banned permanently.
They pick and choose which rules apply to which members and I know countless people who have been treated unfairly as a result. The website gives off a very good first impression, it is very large and very active which is great, just what you want in a forum. But upon closer inspection it's plain to see that the Administrator and owner (known as 'Wobbles') is condescending and does not value 'her' members at all. There seems to be a little cult of followers who think the sun shines out of Wobbles' arse and whilst i'm not discounting the hard work this person has put into the website, I do think she has lost site of what the site is all about. It's like the success of baby and bump has gone to her head and she has become like some sort of dictator who doesn't value 'her' members as individuals. I mean let's face it. It doesn't matter if she gets rid of a few members, there will always be more coming into replace them because of the sheer size of the website.
She is very into the whole public humiliation thing and seems to lack compassion which considering the nature of the site, is surprising as many women are at their most vulnerable whilst they are posting on the site (during pregnancy, after giving birth and such) . It worries me that someone like this is allowed to have such a hold over so many women and doesn't seem to care how her actions can affect people because it's her site and what she says goes, which may be true but that certainly doesn't make it right.
I definitely wouldn't recommend this site.
I was a member of this site for quite some time. Most of the members are lovely. I found great support through some tough times on BnB and I can't say enough nice things about some of the people I connected with.
I can't recommend this site, however, because it is managed very poorly. The rules are quite subjective and administrators seem to hand out infractions and bans based on who they like and don't like. There are several long-time members who are unkind, have no empathy, say things to get a rise out of people and generally just hand out misinformation that's possibly dangerous. They aren't reprimanded for reasons I can't explain, but I suspect they're personal friends of the administrators of the site.
I think the site was founded with good intentions, but has become a bit one-sided due to an expanding membership and administration who can't handle running such a large site with grace and professionalism.
Needing some moral support while you're trying to conceive? Or maybe you're looking to find other pregnant women to discuss your experiences with. Maybe you're a new mum finding those first few months utterly terrifying! Well don't bother turning to BnB for support.
If you're lucky you'll get out with your dignity (and personal information) intact. Others have been thrown to the mercy of the evil overlord that is Wobbles. How this woman has cobbled together enough of her barely functioning brain cells to run a forum is completely beyond me, the fact that she seems to have a loyal following of minions, even more mind boggling. If you're still sold on the thrilling Baby and Bump experience, take note of the following:
1. Do not under any circumstances, make friends, with anyone!
2. Don't send any private messages unless you're cool with previously mentioned evil overlord reading them.
3. Don't "pick on" any of the loyal minions. The punishment is immediate exile.
Have fun my friends! Once you're in, there's only one way out ;-)
Beware this site, whilst its members are for the most part the most helpful and supportive ladies that I've ever come across, the Moderators are unprofessional, bullying, power crazed loons. Particularly the Ring Leader - Wobbles not to mention her "side kick" Atomic Pink.Before joining, try and view posts made by her and see how condescending she is! You wouldn't allow your own Mother to speak to you like she does.There is no freedom of speech on this site and if you dare to express your right to an opinion you will be accused of "flaming" or "trolling" whilst you are being flamed and trolled. Her word is God and her say is final!They (the Moderators) seem to have a whole different set of rules than the other members which spoils what is aside from this a very good website.
horrible judgmental women. unless of course you breast feed until your child gets married and carry them around on your head and lick your husbands arse. every time i wud comment on a post they would stop replying they have a secret society on there who sit and slag you off.
I used to love this site and many of the ladies are brilliant however the admin are nothing more than bullies and left me with no choice but to leave, the ring leader 'wobbles' humilated and spoke down to me and another member after our opinions were not liked. There is alot of bitchiness on the site and admin fuel it, i even wrote a goodbye thread and this was locked as apparently it was 'antaganistic' im in my last 2 weeks of pregnancy and was getting stressed out and upset with this site, if you are in with the clique of admin you can write what you like otherwise prepare to have your posts abused and deleted. I hope one day the administrators are removed as it would then be a lovely site! Overall if you dont want stress and upset then stay away from the site.
Admin also talk about you in forums once you are banned and cant defend yourself.
Baby and bump is an online forum community designed as a support group for people at all stages of pregnancy.
There are a huge amount of different forums/discussion boards aimed at different stages of pregnancy from conception to delivery and taking care of newborns.
As a mummy to be it is so valuable to be able to log in and instantly have hundreds of other mummys to talk to, share experiences with and also share worries with. If you are concerned about something you can usually get an instant reply of reassurance from other people who have had the same problem and often offers of solutions.
You can start your own topics to ask questions and read all of the other threads. It's very simple to navigate. You can track posts you have replied to under the 'user CP' function which is great and you can unsubscribe from threads if you no longer want to track them. You can put cute little tickers on your signature and spend hours generally perusing baby related discussions! ( great for having people to talk to in those first few weeks before you announce your pregnancy!!)
Posters will often use acronyms which take a little getting used to: BFP, BFN, AF, DD etc but you easily get into the swing of the lingo!
However by virtue of the type of group there are a lot of women who are struggling to conceive or who have problems in pregnancy who turn to this group naturally for support. Therefore in my opinion it does seem like there is a higher amount than average of complications and problems being discussed which for a first time mummy can be quite daunting!
The boards are not heavily moderated so people on there will give their opinions freely and sometimes quite scathingly, it is worth remembering to take some responses with a pinch of salt as there are some very rude Opinionated people online as with all areas of life.
The website does offer links to articles which range from discussing baby names to lists of "must have items". Again this is useful information but worth beig sceptical as the site is afterall a business do people adverse heavily, their must have items are often unrealistic designer items than cost an arm and a leg!
Baby and bump seemed like it was the place for support, good conversation and help. Unfortunately all it has done was made me obsessed and made my blood boil. Admins, moderator etc are VERY immature and rude. Just try posting a "im out of here BNB" and watch them rip you a new butt hole. I have seen it done to many women. While I still am listed as an active member, today I have made the decision to remove myself from BNB toxic environment. The women are RUDE- at least the majority of them. There are mainly rants and fights and some good posts in between. Im looking for another outlet with sincere, mature, respectful and honest members that have a sense of community. BNB was a HUGE dissapointment.
The worst parenting website known. The people are rude and unfriendly. The "staff" is vulgar and unappreciative of their members whom have put 1000's of free work hours of open advice. Which they will hold hostage to any content you provide. Many good members are banned for no good reason. I would log on to find friends missing each day. I learned to just stop visiting the site all together to save myself the pain of losing another bond. I can not say strong enough to avoid this site babyandbump as if it were the black plague and SARS combined. Please use my advice to save yourself from misery, parenting is hard enough you do not need to be abused by anyone, online or otherwise. I am not the first with this view or the last from what I have read. Have a good day everyone and stay off the bump!
I disagree with the afore mentioned post. I have found BnB to be nothing but a great source of help and friendship since joining when I was pregnant. I have met many good friends on this site that I love dearly. Occasionally something will slip through the lines; a bitchy call out post or a troll, but more often than not it is very helpful and a great place to socialise online. There are many worse parenting sites out there, BnB is not one of those sites.
Sometimes bluntness over the Internet is taken as bitchiness when in fact this is no the case; if someone is disagreed with they may defend themselves in such a manner that appears rude, but in reality how much tone can you convey online?
There is a section called Girly Sanctuary however it is not all about 'bashing' ex members, or bringing people down, it is about discussing non-parenting related things and meeting like minded people. Back-trotting (bringing up posts from a different time or place on the site) is heavily mandated and NOT allowed, if this happens, it is to be reported.
I've had a run in with an admin (Wobbles) once, and only because my comment came across as snarky. Other than that the admin, team and techs all take very good care of the place and keep it running as smoothly as possible.
My thought would be that the 2 previous reviewers have been burned and shunned because of their own action.
The adminss, moderators and some of the members on BnB can be very rude. Apparently, BnB is their whole world and they will do whatever it takes to tear people down whom they do not like. From personal experience, don't say anything to upset their delicate opinions because even an innocent comment will cause them to rake you over the coals and ostracize you. then, you could be banned over a silly technicality or they may not even give you a real explanation of why. They will not warn you, you will just be banned. If you ask questions for clarification your ban becomes permanent. This site is not worth the stress. There are much friendlier pregnancy and baby forum available. I developed a few great friendships which carried over onto another internet site but BnB is just so cliquish. It very upsetting that women can treat other women that way.
I found out I was pregnant in November, and was looking around online for information on pregnancy, most of which was medical jargon and confusing reports. I wanted honest opinions from real people, and real life stories, that was when I stumbled upon BabyandBump.com. I went for a peek at the site and found that it was just a forum based website, where people could post in a fair few forums on anything to do with pregnancy, whether you were trying to conceive, we're already pregnant, or even after you'd given birth. There was a forum for everybody.
Layout of the site:
The layout of the site is pretty simple with the list of the various forums of discussion;
Trying To Conceive Forums: This is the place for people who are either waiting to conceive, due to education, work or home issues. People who are currently trying to conceive, there are lots of journals to read, of real life stories from people who have been trying to conceive and what how they've been doing it Apart from the obvious of course! ha ha! It's also a place for people to talk, and get support if they've been trying to conceive for a long time, or for assisted conception - people who've been trying IVF etc.
Pregnancy Forums: This is for women (or men who's partners are currently pregnant) to talk through the various stages of pregnancy. From the first trimester - Conception > 13 weeks, Second Trimester - 14 > 26 Weeks to the Third Trimester - 27 weeks > Birth. Women can talk about their symptoms, their excitement or worries they have, with women who are at the same stage in their pregnancy etc. There are also sections in the pregnancy forums for people who are having complications in their pregnancy or are pregnant after a previous loss. Here women can talk to other's who have been in the same situation they have.
There are also sections for home and natural birthing, teen pregnancy, baby names, pregnancy buddies and journals.
Loss Support Forums: This I think is one of the most important places on babyandbump.com, the loss support forums include sections for women who've had miscarriages, have lost their baby in the later stages of pregnancy, or from still birth and neonatal loss. Support in this form I think is extremelly important for women who've suffered the loss of a child. As they can talk to many women who've been in the same situation as them.
The rest of the site is a lot more light hearted in discussions for breastfeeding, bottle feeding, birth stories and then support right up to when kids go to school. There are also discussions on everyday life lower down in the list of forums but I haven't ventured there yet.
Since joining in mid December I've only posted around 150 messages on the forums, mainly since I've been in my second trimester (which I'm soon to leave for the third)! There are good things about the website, and quite a lot of down sides in my opinion.
It's a great place for real life stories from real women, there's a varied mixture of women on the site, from first time mums to women who've got quite a few children. Some of the advice I've received from women has been great, and I pop on once a day to have a look around, and see if there's anything I could learn from.
The downsides to the site, is it seems like a very tight nit community in some places, and there is quite a lot of bitching, especially when it comes to topics like breast feeding and what not. Some women just don't seem to accept the difference in others opinions. I don't get involved when there are heated bitchy debates about certain things, as I'm not one for arguing with strangers over the internet. I respect everyone's opinions no matter what they are. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but a lot of "veterans" on the site dislike this, and will "gang up" on someone who has a different opinion to them.
I wouldn't want this to put women off from visiting the site, as all in all, it's a great site for real stories about pregnancy. But you do have to skip through a lot of rubbish or repeat posts from people to find something really good/worth replying too. A lot of the posts I've found in the trimester forums are women posting silly posts about stupid un pregnancy related things which should be posted elsewhere, or repeat posts when women could use the search engine on the site to look for help on something they need help with, thus finding an old post someone will have created on the same subject, they clog up the forums with new posts.
The Trimester forums especially the second trimester, is full of a lot of peoples scan pictures, which are nice to see but when there are a million posts asking people to "guess the gender" and what not, it's a bit dull. Posts should be kept to one place or it takes quite a while to skip through the many pages to find something worth reading. There are also a lot of women who would rather post a silly thread on the website instead of first searching the internet about it. I saw a post from a woman who asked if it was ok for her to pet a dog, something which easily could have been answered by google.
The definite good point of the site, is it's a good place for support, and it's nice to read real life birth stories from real women.
Overall I think it's a good informative site with real stories, good if you're wanting a chit chat with other women about pregnancy, or anything to do with being a mum then this is the place for you. Just try to ignore the rubbish, and skip past the bitchy moaning posts. The good posts outway the bad in most of the forums, especially reading the lovely birth stories from mums, and seeing pictures of ladies bumps as they grow throughout their pregnancy.
BabyandBump is a site that has banned members without good cause or reason. I have witnessed this first hand as a long time member.
I was reading some of my older posts and looking at my friend list as I had been offline for a bit. I noticed big a big X on many people I had grown close to and was shocked they no longer were there. People just disappear!
These members I mentioned above were not bad at all. They were supportive and helped many people. Their post counts were exceptionally high as they came on the site daily. Nothing that could not be resolved with care and compassion. The user rate is so high that the admins and moderators will rid of you without digression.
Then when I asked some other members they said simply that a lady said she was supportive of a girl who was thinking about an abortion but did not agree on one for herself. Then another did not agree with the way the site banned members and was removed because she said that the site was wrong. Then another one was removed for editing her own posts! can you imagine that!!!
My question is, how safe would you feel on a site that shows no consideration for feelings of their members. When they would just remove your account without even asking you why you are feeling sad or upset.
So with this said I vote that baby and bump is a site that will remove you because they do not care about their members what so ever. You are replaceable and do not think that it could not happen to you because you are behaved or nice. The clique of moderators do not like you any one of them would ban you for anything even if they do not agree with your and I have seen it out of nothing but pure jealousy.
Stay away from this site please... do not get attached to friends you will lose. There are so many other sites that simply RESPECT THEIR MEMBERS!
when i was starting to get a little more than slightly broody i scoured the net for some sort of forum which had like minded people posting on it - that's how i came across BabyandBump (or BnB)
The forum is split into many sections dealing with different topics of conversation. there is a place for if you are just waiting to try for a baby, trying to conceive, pregnant and in 1st 2nd or 3rd Trimester as well as other threads like men only, or support for teen mums (although the site does not condone trying to conceive under the age of 18).
I found all the girls particularly helpful and pleasant. yes, debates on certain topics can break out but this is to be expected - especially being in with a bunch of hormonal pregnant woman! if there is any problems that arise then you are sure that one of the Moderators/admins will put an end to it. I know from previous experience that keeping an eye out on every single post/thread/topic which pops up and keeping everything under control is very hard - especially on a big forum so i applaud these girls for keeping such order on such a busy forum which caters to not only the UK but to everyone.
it's nice to see a community pull together and help people through their pregnancy. I personally found the forum very useful in learning about charting cycles/trying to conceive. Once you get settled in a place on the forum you will find that you make friends very quickly.
i would recommend anyone to go and have a nosey at this forum if this is the type of forum they are looking for. Its nearly guaranteed that you will find what it is you are looking for. If the topic of conversation does not exist the girls on the forum (and guys for that matter) are sure to help when they can
I agree with everything in the previous review. Its a nasty place with lots of bullying! The admin fuel it as they seem to love confrontation. If they dont like someone and their opinions they single them out and try and humilate them.
The women on there are like a pack of wolves. I would avoid if you want a stress free pregnancy! The female admin is the ring leader, she clearly gets thrill out of upsetting people and trying to look popular. Its worse than a school playground.
Its like an episode of the jeremy kyle show
"Ive slept with 3 men whos the dad? I think Ive got genital warts"
"My toddler poos on the floor"
"Im a benefit theif, who doesnt pay her tv licence and my house is infested with mice and my dog has worms"
The person before me was correct about giving out personal information. I saw it with my own eyes. They very often have threads in their private girly sanctuary room slagging off banned members and of course you only get half a story so the admin comes out looking like the innocent party and everyone gives her lots of *hugs*. When in fact shes a nasty piece of work with no conscience or sense of decency.
The mods and admin definitely have favourites and let the women say what they please but if they choose not to like you they will try and run you off their forum. They will do their upmost to make you uncomfortable until you leave.
The worst part of it is, that these people are parents?! I shudder to think what their kids will turn out like.