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You're just a couple of clicks away from a fabulous social life!
Member Name: bamamo
Advantages: Lots of members, wide range of socials, free to try
Disadvantages: Expensive subscription
I've recently decided to stay more permanently in the UK after several years of gallivanting. Upon arranging work, an apartment etc, I realised something vital was missing. I'd become a billy no-mates. Somehow whilst I'd been away all my friends had moved, settled down or just become people I couldn't relate to any more. I needed a new social life, stat!
I can't remember what I Googled to end up at Citysocialising, but I'm sure glad I did! The site is established in about 50 of the UK's major cities, so chances are no matter where you live there will be socials reasonably close to you. I was pretty amazed that I'd never heard of it given how big it's already become, and as I became a member and got more involved, I was certainly impressed at how busy it is and how many members there are.
The idea of the site is that you pay a subscription (although you can try for free) to have access to events taking place in and around your city. You can also browse and contact other members and join interest groups.
Socials are the main attraction of the site. Some are hosted by official Citysocialising hosts, some by fellow members, and absolutely anything goes. Meals and nights out seem to be the most popular, but there are also comedy nights, hikes, cinema and theatre trips, pub quizzes etc etc. I particularly enjoy the completely random things that pop up - for example I just attended a psychic night and in a few weeks will be popping along to a Christmas card making class, next weekend it's a giant scavenger hunt in the park. That kind of thing I wouldn't think to do myself, would struggle to find someone to go with, or just couldn't be bothered to arrange.
For me that's one of the best parts of the site - it's okay if you just want to turn up to something and never bother to arrange your own socials. However, the more I attend socials, the more I start to think about what I might want to cook up for myself. If you ever find yourself wanting to see something at the theatre, or go to an obscure festival, you're guaranteed to find at least one person that wants to tag along.
I haven't looked at the other cities, although I believe you can attend socials in multiple cities. Speaking for Leeds, though, there is at least one thing going on every night of the week. Some things such as pub quizzes are weekly events, then there are monthly curry clubs etc. So far I've been to three socials and never met the same person twice, so that says something about how many members the site has. I think it's a fantastic, safe way to meet a lot of new people all at once. Most of the other members I've met have been in similiar situations to myself, or brand-new to the city. I will also say that even if you've been living somewhere your whole life like I have, you are guaranteed to find some new places you never knew about when attending socials!
Safety-wise, the site does appear to be well policed and if people misbehave on socials they are kicked out on no uncertain terms. Everyone seems to be there for the same reason - to be friendly - and it really is not at all awkward to go meet a load of new people all at once. I'm pretty shy, and I was nervous for my first social, but after that it was second nature and strangely I felt like I was going to meet friends even though I'd only seen their pictures online.
Once you've met people at the social, you can add them as friends, and see what they are going to attend next, or send messages.
Okay, everything sounds great so far, right? Well there is the money factor. It is a subscription site and personally I find it a little steep. There are three levels of membership technically, although one, "free", is pretty useless. The other categories are silver and bronze, and I am a bronze member. I feel that unless you are going to get REALLY into the site, bronze is perfectly adequate as it allows you free entry to all socials except those hosted by CS itself (which I'm not all that interested in anyway) and unlimited messaging. Most members hosting their own socials will set it for bronze and silver to attend, so you've pretty much got free rein. Bronze membership runs at around £13.99 a month with it being a bit cheaper if you buy three months at once. Silver is about £5 a month more, which I really don't think is worth it.
The good thing about the subscription is that it lasts a month from the day you get it, and you are under no obligation to carry it on after that time. So you can skip a month or two if you're too busy or just don't feel like it. I will probably have to do this from time to time, just because my financial situation isn't great and when you add on the price of food at eating socials, drinks at nights out etc it can be a pretty expensive thing to be a part of!
When you first sign up, you are allowed 10 days of free silver membership in order to check everything out. You are also able to attend your first social for free without paying any subscription to scope it out.
Overall I am really pleased I've learned about Citysocialising. It's fantastic to know that I can always find something to do that very night if I feel like it, and is encouraging me to get out there and be more social. Not to mention the instant humongous social circle and exciting things you'll end up trying!
Summary: A really fun way to get out of a social rut!