“ Hello and welcome to the I WANT MY MUM message forum. Here you can chat to like minded parents about all aspects of your baby and toddler. The idea for this site came about after we got frustrated at the lack of accurate, up to date information out there: which led to a lot of conflicting advice at a time when we already felt quite vulnerable. „
I was introduced to iwantmymum.com by a friend at a postnatal group. It was recommended to me as a place to get accurate information regarding breastfeeding, and I joined just a few weeks after the site went live.
I have now been there for nearly three years and can safely say that I have found my on-line niche. I appreciate the attitude displayed on the site to all the new research regarding breastfeeding in particular, but also other aspects of parenting and childbirth. Studies published tend to be discussed in depth in a way that enlightens beyond the headlines one sees in the media, and feeds into the site's ethos of "an informed choice is a happy choice". Here you will find support, and given the information on site it is likely you will be fully aware of the implications of the choices made.
I have found it extremely refreshing to be part of this community. I feel I have come across ideas that have challenged me and helped me to improve my own parenting, both in attitude and in practice.
Finally, I must mention the excellent support and information given by the many members who are qualified and trainee breastfeeding counsellors. I often see new members arriving with a breastfeeding problem or query who are given swift and helpful replies by these valued members. iwantmymum.com performs an essential service in this area.
I found iwmm after googling an article on extended breastfeeding. What I found was a no nonsense fact based site for parents. No excuses as to why things can't or won't work out with breastfeeding and sensible parenting, just lots of excellent information and researched based help for problems. The site has grown over the years and includes so much more now from babywearing to potty training to dealing with those troublesome teens. It's a friendly, open, welcoming site. I've met a good few people from there in real life and have made some good friends who think I'm as normal as they are!!
Well its been two years (or so) since I posted my review of IWMM. (And to answer the queries -- yes it was a genuine review.) So I thought it time for a brief update.
Well first and foremost: I am still there -- a fact that speaks volumes for the community. They are a fantastic bunch and I have met more than a few in real life.
Indeed, for some reason Oxfordshire is a real IWMM hotspot and there are regular meet-ups -- some of which my wife and I host. So if you want or need some real life support you can get it, especially in Oxfordshire. (There are other meets in other areas but they are less regular.)
Second, unfortunately, I am still the only male that posts with any regularity. However, that is no surprise for reasons outlined in my previous review. (I suppose being the token male is one of the reasons I am now a moderator :-) )
Finally, and perhaps most importantly, I would still highly recommend the site.
Grant D. Vallance
This website kept me sane!
In the daunting new world of "parenting", it can be hard to keep your head when all around you are loosing theirs! Relatives, friends, message forums; everyone is keen to share their advice and it can all get quite confusing.
This is where iwantmymum.com is different. The friendly community of mums (and the odd dad) provides information (often research) and support, to encourage parents to find their own parenting path.
Opinions are often diverse and varied, but members respect the choices made by others and it is great to enjoy healthy debate over various topics without anything becoming heated or nasty (something I have unfortunately witnessed on some other parenting forums)
In addition to other parents, the site provides a team including; qualified breastfeeding counsellors, midwives, teachers, bereavement counsellors etc which are all on hand to support parents and supply more information when required.
All in all a great site and a must for everyone new to this parenting lark!
I spent ages trying to find a parenting website where i felt accepted and normal - I've found it! I have learnt so much from this site and made some really good friends. it's great to talk to like minded individuals who know what I'm going through!
I first came to I Want My Mum when it was a fledgling site with very few members, over the past 3 years I have watched it grow in to a large and thriving community that offers a huge amount of practical and emotional support to it's members. The large and diverse nature of the community means that there are sometimes disagreements and the odd full-blown argument. You won't always agree with other peoples methods and they won't always agree with yours, but what you won't find is nastiness or maliciousness, and the £10 subscription fee means the site is free from trolls and troublemakers.
On the site you can find advice on pregnancy, breastfeeding, sleep issues, introducing solids and all the various stages of your child's life. The site has members who are qualified midwives and breastfeeding counsellors as well as experienced parents, they are on hand to offer the kind of in-depth advice and support that you won't get at your local clinic. It's a wonderful resource to have.
Just as important though is the support you can find on many of the less obvious aspects of being a parent. This is the place I come when my daughter is driving me mad and I feel like a useless parent, this is the place I come when I'm not sure if I'm making the right choice and I need advice from people who's opinions I trust, this is the place I come when I argue with my husband and need to let off steam, this is the place I come when my daughter does something wonderful and I want to share with people who understand just how proud I am of her.
I come to I Want My Mum because quite apart from the obvious help and advice on parenting issues, I know that above all others this is a place where I will find support and understanding as I work my way through the wonderful and scary journey that is parenthood. These people, many of whom I may never actually meet, have come to feel like trusted friends and confidants, and I Want My Mum has become like my second home.
I discovered I Want My Mum (IWMM) via my wife, who learnt about it from other online friends. She was (and is) a very active participant in the various fora, and participating looked interesting from the perspective of looking over her shoulder as she browsed.
I mentioned an interest, but was put-off by the £10 fee to become a full member. However, almost three months ago my wife mentioned there was a promotion for husbands/partners of members for three months free membership. This was in order to encourage male membership, which was/is decidely lacking. So I decided to join. Now I am hooked, and visiting the site is a basic part of my daily browsing.
IWMM is a parenting website. However the parents who post on the board are overwhelmingly female. No doubt males browse the site, and I believe there are a few male members, but they rarely post.
Perhaps this is because one of the primary purposes of the site is to support, encourage, and promote breastfeeding. However, this is not the only string to the sites bow. It provides opportunities to discuss parenting issues with experts (medical & other), information on various parenting issues and discussion of the same, opportunity to blog and show off photos of your love-one(s), guidance on breast-feeding, co-sleeping (or not), weaning, toddler discipline etc., and gives people's experience of the same. It is a wonderful resource and community.
However, probably, one of the best things about the site is it provides an outlet to be honest about how difficult parenting is and get support from others in the same boat. One can be open and moan about supportive/unsupportive partners, in-laws, lack of sleep, toddler tantrums, etc., and receive caring and loving support from board members. While I cannot speak personally, from posts folks have made, people have found the site a sanity-saver!
As one of the few male members who actively post I have an interesting and fascinating experience. (I now have a good deal more empathy for ethnic minorities!) I have put my foot in it on a number of occasions, where my male/personal blindspots meant I offended other members by my comments. Yet with an appropriate apology, I have been accepted back into the community with no apparent ill-will. The community does not seem to hold grudges, which is great. I cannot speak highly enough of the moderators and founders of the site who handled my faux pas' with good grace.
For other males who venture into IWMM, participation IS very worthwhile (speaking from personal experience). A male perspective on the matters discussed is very welcomed, if not highly regarded. Although this maybe because of its rarity value! In addition there are plenty of opportunities to learn too.
Overall, I would highly recommend the site and the community that has formed around it. Indeed I will ponying-up my £10 once my free period runs out.
Grant D. Vallance
I first joined this site when having troubles feeding my third baby. He was three weeks old and I was about to give up on our breastfeeding relationship with great sorrow. I was unable to get support or advice from midwife or health visitor, but really wished to continue. A friend suggested I visit www.Iwantmymum.com to get some help and advice, and I am ever so glad I did. My son is now 10 months old and thriving. I find the other parents at Iwantmymum.com to be helpful, kind, understanding and non-judgmental. I have visited many other parenting sites before and was unable to get the support I have found on Iwantmymum.com