my mum (My Experience Of Bereavement)

Member Name: f1re_cr4cker

Product:	My Experience Of Bereavement
Date:	23/10/08 (70 review reads)
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I was 7 when my mum died, my brother was 3, she was only 41. It was breast cancer that killed her.

I still to this day wonder how my father managed on his own for the time that he did.( he remarried in 1990-mum died in 1988) I remember him telling me a friend gave him a bittle of brandy as a kind of condolence gift and he said that he never opened it as he was scared that if he did he would never stop drinking it andturn to it always. I think at the time and since then people maybe thought that since I was only 7 it wouldnt affect me as much as i was so young, or that I couldnt remember- but I could. My brother perhaps this is true for as he has very few memories of her sadly. At the time though I did not realise the gravity of the situaiton only that she was unwell and had to go to hospital a lot. I do vividly remember though the night my dad came home from visiting my mum at the hospital to the babysitters and said to me "darling mummy isn't going to get better" I instantly started to cry, i think i knew what he meant. However when we got int othe car to go home i asked " are you joking daddy?" You see my dad has always been a great joker with a big sense of humour. His simple reply was "no".

When it came to the funeral i remember sitting in the pew looking up at the coffin with all the flowers on it and crying. Afterwards we went to the cemeratory and i watched them lower her into the ground. I had helped choose the headstone- it is a heart entwined with roses and says A loving wife and mother "Your living was never in vain" even now those words make my eyes prick.

Losing your mum at a young age must be one of the worst things that can ever happen to a young child. Sadly I have no letters or video of her so i rely on photos for my main use of memories.

Summary: the big C how i hate it