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I have always been a girl who has loved her sleep! No-one could wake me up and if they did I would be very grumpy! After having our daughter in October, the first night for me was the hardest. I was numbed waist down and couldn't move to help my little one, but the midwives sorted her for me. As I watched the midwife cradle my daughter and feed her until she slept, I wondered: How does she do it?? She had no children herself but was always smiling at 3AM as she came to help me and my daughter. The first night I was awake ALL night. I finally fell asleep at 8AM, 6 hours after birth. I just didn't want to sleep and miss anything that my daughter did.
For 8 weeks, my daughter was up twice every night. It made it very hard for me as I needed my sleep more than anything else. My parents and my partners parents took her here and there in the first 8 weeks and rather than spending much time with Matthew (my partner) I was sleeping. After the first 8 weeks, Angel began sleeping through like a dream. She's 7 months now, and she still gets up in the night, but she is very close to crawling and LOVES to practice it, until she gets herself all tangled up and screams the flat down at 3AM. Then she's awake 3-4 hours later for a feed.
I am having to change our night routine. I am giving her a bath every night before bed, then a bottle, then taking her into her bedroom with a dimmed light (which she loves sleeping pretty much right next too) and making sure her pjama's aren't all over the place, her nappy is clean and she is dry and that she is comfy.
It makes her sleep a little longer through the night, but teething is a big factor of her waking up, so Calpol before bed is a must. I don't mind getting up now, whereas before I was begging anyone I could to do it for me so I could sleep. I literally looked like a zombie everyday for those first 8 weeks!
A baby is a blessing, and never comes with a manual. I found something that helps Angel sleep after weeks of trial and error bedtime routines. But I'm getting there with my ever-changing bubba!
The Woman In Black. One of the most scariest books/plays/films.
Arthur Kidd is a young solicitor who is sent from London to Crythin Gifford, the fictional town on the East Coast of England. He is sent after Alice Drablow dies an elderly woman. He travels by train to attend the funeral and meets a gentleman on the same carriage. He says that no-one will attend Alice's funeral, but Arthur realizes this may well be true as she had no close family and no friends. Upon arrival of the funeral, he sees a woman dressed all in black with a pale, gaunt wasting face as the coffin is being lowered.
Not much longer after the funeral as Arthur is walking through a small market, A cart carrying huge amounts of thick heavy logs has a small crash. The 2 men who were riding it, get out to see what happened, when all of a sudden the logs give way, roll off and land on top of a small girls legs, cutting them badly. Arthur whisks her up to get her away and just seconds after he picks her up, more of the logs give way which would have crushed and killed the girl had he not helped.
He then finds out that Alice Drablow's house is in a secluded moor that is surrounded by marsh lands. A local man Mr. Keckwick takes Arthur to the house, but refuses to stay with him. When Arthur walks across a small grave yard beside the house, he notices a headstone saying 'Nathaniel' As he turns from the headstone, he sees her again. She begins to walk toward him but he runs back into the house and turns all the lights on.
As he comes out of the house to meet Keckwick he hears the distinct sounds of a pony and trap, he looks through the mist and fog thinking it is Keckwick, when he hears it crash. Screams can be heard and a small child screaming for it's mummy. Then silence.
When he returns the second time to the house to sort through Alice's things, he goes outside and hears the EXACT same sounds at the same time before. We learn that the Nathaniel is the boy who was screaming in the ghostly pony and trap. It is revealed that Jenette Humphrey's (Alice's sister) was the boys mother but as she was unmarried she was forced to give him up and Alice adopted the child on the condition he would never know who his real mother was.
The womanly screams from the pony and trap was the nanny who looked after him. All Jenette could do was look on in horror from the top window of the house. She didn't die straight away, whereas Nathaniel drowned in the marshes, but she later died from her injuries. Jenette had then became full of hatred for ANYONE that had children. If some one were to see her then their children would meet their fate. Arthur a father of TWO saw her...
After settling everything of Alice's, Kidd returns back to London. (This is the film ending) - Arthur and his wife and his 6 month old baby and 4 1/2 year old son go out on to a lake and have a family day out. Arthur sees the woman in black once again standing on the lake. Arthur's wife begins to scream and Arthur panics as he sees the tree above them is breaking, it eventually drops into the little canoe boat and pushes them all under water, killing them and the children.
The woman in black is so amazing! The west end play is the most scariest way to hear the story and is so very well acted!! please see this one!!
I have never wrote about anything to do with personal experiences of grief on here before, but after reading other reviews on people's pet losses, I have decided I would like to share mine. It's about 2 cats that my Nan had but I grew incredibly close to. I'm sorry if it's long.
Lucy. She was 20 going on 21 in our years and she was a gorgeous dark brown cat with long white whiskers and she had what looked like tiger stripes over her head which were light brown in color. Lucy and I were exactly the same. We could never wait to go out some where, always eating something, loved cuddles together and generally liked chilling out on the sofa. She used to bury her head under my hand and fall asleep when I stroked her. She hated sleeping with me at night, but she soon woke me up with a big nudge of her nose on mine in the morning and the sound of her purring very loudly! She was an amazingly snuggly bundle of joy. She was a massive baby. :)
Gizmo. He was 16 or 17 in our years and he was a lovely black cat with a white fluffy belly and a little white fluff on his head. He was more laid back than Lucy and was a lot more quiet. His favorite spot in the house was the bottom of my grandparents bed, he'd curl up and sleep there for hours and would always jump off when they got into bed. He had a thing about rubbing his nose on my nans lottery ticket, and when he did she'd win £10 here and there. He would always sit beside my Nan in her arm chair of a night and lay on her lap and she would stroke him until he fell asleep.
Gizmo stopped jumping off the bed when my grand parents came in to bed, he had no energy to even get up there.. He ran away from the sound of fire works outside, where he'd usually be very interested. He began ignoring any stroking to the tummy and began screeching if some one was to stroke him. He lost some fur and in the end, my grand parents took him to the vets. It was on a day, when my grand dad was picking me up from school. He regrets having to take me with him but they didn't want to wait any longer. When we arrived in the vets, there was a 15 minute wait and there was a lady beside us with her little cat..
As my grand dad took Gizmo in I kissed him and told him he would be fine and I'd see him in a little while. His eyes were big and he was crying and whimpering. I began worrying when my grand dad came out after about 10 minutes. He came out with the box and blanket Gizmo was in ... I tried pulling the box out of his hand outside the Vets and he had to stand me by the gate and tell me... I fell and would not stop crying.. I was only about 10, and even though Gizmo and I were never that close I still felt immense pain of loosing him.
He had a appendicitis, his appendix was bulging and he was dying... there was nothing they could do for him. They said he would last 2-3 more days if we wanted to take him home, but as I was staying the weekend, they decided it would be best to have him put down rather than bring him home. It would be too much heart ache for both me and my grand parents to bare and my Nan didn't want to find him - or even worse if Lucy (His Mum) found him..
Lucy knew instantly when we came home.. She scratched and cried at the box.. she could still smell him on the blanket and she saw grand dad leave with him. I picked Lucy up and she slept with me that night. I just held her and cried.. Where we had lost such a loved pet, she had lost her son.
Two weeks later, Lucy had stopped eating, or would barely eat anything. She turned her nose up to her favorite foods and wouldn't drink at all. Her fur fell out and she couldn't be picked up without screaming and scratching me. She didn't go out and we found it very very hard to make her purr to cheer her up. She was letting herself go... She was missing Gizmo. We begged and pleaded with her to eat something, but she was just bringing it back again if she did.. She was becoming blind and deaf and was loosing weight so fast.A few days before she was due to go to the vets, I think my Nan found her. She never told us where and when... but my grand parents have buried her under her favorite tree in the garden and planted beautiful flowers over the top.
I was so so so close to Lucy, she was like a little sister in some ways. Always begging for my attention and found me comfortable to sleep on...
I'm going to have to stop now... I'm getting a bit upset.
R.I.P Lucy And Gizmo. At Least Now You're Together And You Will Never Have To Part Again. We All Miss You ! But We Will Always Have The Good Memories. x x x x
I'm glad I could share this with you all and thank you for reading. Lucy's death was a massive blur for me as it hit me so hard, so I do apologize for being vague.
Morning sickness is caused by many factors.
* HCG Levels : HCG hormone is the hormone that Pregnancy tests and blood Pregnancy tests detect to give a positive result. Although, it is not names as the prime reason, it's the prime suspect. This is because around the first 3 months the hormone levels of HCG increases and this is exactly the same time that the sickness begins for the 3/4 of the women who suffer from it.
*Raised body temperature - whenever I used to look for the causes of morning sickness when I was pregnant, I never came across the temperature side of it. But it's common sense. Your body temp evidently heightens when you're pregnant, when you normally get too hot, you feel sick and fresh air helps. This applies to pregnancy too.
* Estrogen levels are also a suspect because they too rise around early pregnancy, but it is not thought to cause the sickness by itself.
* Hightened sense of smell and taste : This is thought to be a factor because some over whelming aromas instantly trigger the gag reflex. And when they are stronger than normal because of your senses, you are actually sick.
There are many ways to combat morning sickness, but it does depend on the person.
1. Ginger - it's recommended as a natural remedy as it settles your stomach and eases off nausea. Ginger boiled sweets help as well if you don't like the Ginger tea, or find the Ginger biscuits too heavy on the tummy.
2. Get A LOT of rest. Ever had that feeling when you are so tired you feel sick to the stomach? Well, if you don't rest the sickness will just become even worse and may make you stay up later through fretting to be sick. If your sickness comes around, say, 8PM, go to bed at 7.30PM. In that half an hour you would have drifted off asleep and may sleep through it. I did it and it worked a treat!
3. Stay away from things that trigger the sickness. IE: Strong perfume, Hot, stuffy rooms and the smell of fried food.
4. Keep simple snacks beside your bed table for when you wake. This is where you will need some one to help you. Ask a partner or some one that lives with you to make you a couple of slices of dry or barely buttered toast when you wake. You can also keep some biscuits beside your bed and a bottle of juice or water.
5. When you get up in the morning, don't jump straight out of bed, As you get up, sit up slowly and stay there for a couple of minutes, your stomach will then settle and you can stand without feeling too queasy. BEFORE you get up, snack on something you may keep on your beside table (as above) and rest for 20-30 minutes or until you feel you can get up.
6. Drink fluids regularly through the day. Don't drink too much in one go as you will feel full and are less likely to eat - this is one mistake I did. I tricked my belly into thinking I had eaten - which made me feel sick because I was so hungry.
7. Eat small and regularly. This will keep you topped up through the day. Don't eat full meals, such as a huge dinner, as it will prove to heavy. Eat small meals, such as for dinner, you could have a pasta salad or a meaty pasta dinner, it's light and will fill you up.
8. Keep rooms well ventilated. Keep your room at night light and airy so you don't wake up in a stuffy room and during the day you will keep cool and your temperature will feel controlled. Eating ICE or ICE POLES and ICE CREAM or COLD WATER always helped me keep from over heating, and it helps keep the nausea away for a while.
9. My sickness affected me so much, so I ended up having to use anti-sickness pills to help keep it away, as well as doing all of the above.
************ ..... Morning Sickness affects 1 in 10 women. Whilst some only get the nausea feeling, many will experience the sickness side of it. I was personally nauseas all day and was sick at night. Whilst it is unpleasant it is completely NORMAL. But if you find you are being sick violently through the day or not keeping ANYTHING down, go to the A&E as they will need to monitor you. They may need to replace the lost fluids for you and determine why it's so bad. It can be harmful to your baby so I wouldn't wait for the Doctors appointment. ...... **************
getting changed in the changing rooms is always embarrassing. After a hour long trampolining session i headed back to get changed. The under wire of my bra was itching me for ages and I was beginning to get looks so I went to the toilet to check it out. I had like a red rash all under my under wire, and passed it off as either a heat/sweat rash or a new washing tablet.
When i got home to my nans i asked her about it and showed her the rash, we left it and booked an appointment for the doctors the next day. By the time I had got up, i had it around the top of my back and the rash had scabbed over on the under wiring. i wore a non under wire bra and tried to air it out.
The doctors said it could be shingles, but she couldn't tell me for sure so got a second opinion and it was confirmed I had an aggressive form of Shingles. I was given a huge pack about it and when i went home I laid on my bed on my front to air my back out. I had to stay clear of other people's baths towels and put them in a separate pile so my Nan knew I had used them.
It was hell. my teacher was pregnant at the time so there was no way I was allowed near her or any of the other kids as I would start spreading it. I missed out on tons of revision and had to have some home work sent to my Nans.
I have been left with occasional back spasms, and they do hurt and are sudden. But I am just glad that I got over it. I was on antibiotics for the 2 weeks and had to take a few pills a day.
Shingles attacks your muscles and like me, can leave you with muscle spasms. It caused by having Chicken Pox in the past and can lay dormant in your body, or you can catch it from another person. You can get Shingles twice unlike Chicken Pox, but it is seen as the 'adult version' of Chicken Pox. And just like it, it is so hard not to scratch!!
scanning through the internet desperately trying to help my cousin to start eating again, we showed her a photo of an anorexic girl. then came the dreaded ''thats what i want to look like'' .. she was only 11-12 at the time. my cousin always used to have a healthy appetite. i would stay over regularly and we used to have midnight feasts, huge dinners and buy loads of ice cream and pizza to snack on. She definitely wasn't fat! I was a skinny size 6 and she fitted into size 8-10 clothes, which meant if something was too small for her she'd give it too me and if i bought something a little too big i'd give it too her.
our family went through a massive problem and she stopped eating. i wont say what the problem was though, but it nearly tore everyone apart. i think thats what made her depressed and stopped eating. She skipped every meal and her stomach quickly adjusted to eating nothing more than 2-3 crackers a day and a few soft drinks. if she hadn't eaten those crackers, she would've died in 2 weeks.
She became really frail and when I visited her when i was early pregnant, she fitted into my size 6 skinny jeans! hers were falling off her when she kept checking herself in the mirror so we swapped. By then i was size 8. I tried getting her to eat anything i could get my hands on. i put a bowl of pringles in front of her and she ate a few without realizing and burst into tears... :(
in the end, my aunt forced her to the doctors, who said her eating habit may never be normal again and it was on the verge of life threatening if she didn't do anything about it. She kept saying she wanted to be thin and didn't want to get fat - again so she said.
She counted the calories on the back of boxes and if it was over 10 she refused to eat it. but everytime she ate something we would all jump for joy and just hope to god she'd get better soon. her face was beginning to sink inwards and you could see her ribs. Her legs were like sticks and her arms looked like they'd snap in half if you touched them. She lost 2 stone in one month and lost about 4 in total. She ended up about 4 1/2 stone.
She is now on the road to recovery but her eating has been affected. She will have her dinner, but barely snack in between any more. My aunt had to ''wean'' her back onto foods again.
Anorexia is life threatening and life changing. it affects 1 in 200 women and 1 in 2,000 men. it can kill you and can certainly make you ill. you could be left with
*Heart Failure and
*Weakening of the bones.
The biggest part aswell as like my cousin, anorexia affected people will often deny they have the problem and that they are 'normal' .. i just pray she don't relapse and gets back to her normal self again. we could've lost her.
here is my top 5 and why:
1. Paris Hilton.
Famous for...... uh... i'm not quite too sure. What i do know is that she made a sex tape that leaked on to the internet. After that, she was followed by the media and then eventually was signed to a publicist. When being 'famous' she was signed up to many TV shows. She made her own called 'Paris Hilton's British Best Friend' - in this, there was a young girl called Kat McKenzie who was a runner up, she was admitted to hospital during filming and was found dead from a drugs overdose, Paris then called off filming the show.
Paris has been arrested one to many a times. From drugs to driving offenses. From being in possession of Cocaine to Drink Driving.
GET A GRIP PARIS! LIKE YOU SAY.. YOUR FAMOUS FOR BEING FAMOUS.. GET A TALENT, THEN COME BACK AND WOW US.. YOUR LITTLE DOG IN A HANDBAG AIN'T GONNA DO THAT FOR YOU..
2. Kanye West.
After stealing the limelight from teenage sensation Taylor Swift after she won best music video at the American Music Awards,by taking the mic off her and announcing Beyonce was better and should have got the award instead of her Kanye's 'Rep' went downhill... big time.. Even Barack Obama is reported to have called him an 'A***' The thing that annoys me to the back teeth is his ego! he made a song called 'Power' - a waste of 3 minutes of my life and just gets me angry. he is seen looking at the camera with the song basically saying he has loads of power to do what ever he wants.
I LIKE YOUR SONGS KANYE, APART FROM POWER, BUT I REALLY REALLY REALLY DON'T LIKE YOU!
I so regret the first song popping in my head when high on Gas and Air when in labour with my little girl was Jedwards Under Pressure Remake... urgh.... singing that for the whole labour ward to hear was just embarrasing.... There weird hair and constant talking about absolute random rubbish is soooo annoying!!! who wears there hair like that anyway??? it looks like Angels hair when she gets out the bath, even then she's desperately trying to pat it down and she's 7 months old!!
JEDWARD..... OH I CAN'T EVEN BE BOTHERED TO GO THROUGH IT ALL..
4. Justin Bieber.
What 16 year old stamps and screams on set of a music video, goes mental because a staff member of an Australian TV show put their hand lightly on his back to guide him to the stage, Draws a penned moustache on his silly face at a TOP london resturant and then throws a fit outside while the body guards TRY to get him into a waiting car.
Oh and the famous CSI Tantrum. after being given a part in the CSI episodes, Justin decided to play up, Usher his manager had to be called to get the brat out. He locked the Executive Producer in the closet, skateboarded between scenes, taking wardrobe items and at one point was seen screaming at his mother and his team didn't want him out of his trailer.
JUSTIN, YOU'RE 16.. NOT 6. YOU GET LOADS OF OPPORTUNITIES THAT MOST 16 YEAR OLDS WOULD LOVE! WHY SPOIL IT??? GET OVER YOURSELF.
5. Cheryl Cole.
The nations sweetheart. Don't get me wrong I love her music and that, but does her Malaria scare really have to go on over a month as front page news?? 'Cheryl better from Malaria' .. 'Cheryl thanks family' .. 'Cheryl thanks fans' .. she's thanked them and thats front page news?? Does that mean if my daughter farts and scares herself - thats front page news?? i'm very sorry she got it, it's not nice, but come on...
And the whole Ashley Cole cheating on her was sad - yes. But she could've prevented it. By divorcing him when she said she was going to when the first girl came about. Then after she divorces him all of a sudden Derek Hugh pipes up.. I wonder if there was anything going on when she was married? it only makes sense. They're dating now and live together. They either had an affair or she's on rebound?? Either way she seems a bit too happy after being cheated on 5+ times by her partner of 3 or 4 years, who wanted to settle down and have kids.. hmmm...
i joined this site December 2010. And here's the reasons why this should be avoided.
1. Voucher Delivery Time.
there is a 6-8 week wait for your vouchers to be sent out to you. But believe me, you will very RARELY get them within that period. We're now nearing into May and i have still not yet received my £15 Amazon voucher which i redeemed on the 27th January 2011. When i first joined there were many people writing about how they were still waiting for vouchers they claimed in September 2010 and didn't get until January-February 2011. There was a notice from the bosses of Toluna saying there had been a massive delay in paper vouchers because of the snow, yet no reason why those who redeemed E-vouchers had not yet got them.
2. Point Scheme.
you have to reach the 80,000 points mark to redeem a £15 HMV, Amazon, Halfords, Love2Shop or CD Wow voucher. And 60,000 points for a 130 point The First Club Voucher.
it will literally take at least a month of constant voting on polls and taking surveys to reach the 80,000 mark. UNLESS you make popular opinion topics and polls. But here's the thing:
*A TOPIC OPINION* : you have to have 21 replies to receive 500 points, 30 replies to receive a further 1,000 points and so on.. you can not write anything bad about Toluna or it will be removed. There was on topic about Gay Marriages on there and it was removed by the editors for no apparent reason and without warning.
*A POLL* : A poll needs at least 500 votes to even get a mere 500 points. Which is very hard to reach.
*MEMBER STATUS* : you start off as a 'new member' and you get ranked by other members. they give you between 1-5* and when you reach the 5* mark, you get promoted to 'intermediate member, where you get 10,000 points and you get points every time you're promoted.
*SPONSORED POLL VOTES* : i do these more than anything. you only take a minute or two to do each poll and in return you get between 15-150 points per poll depending on the length.
*THE SURVEYS* : you will often be redirected to a survey depending on the answers you give on the Sponsored Polls. more often than not, you will be told 'you don't qualify' or 'you've already done this survey' - i try everything to avoid being screened out of the polls and put into surveys.
*THE MEMBERS?* there are a lot of people on the site who often get 'cloned' meaning someone copies there profile or hacks it and will then start leaving nasty comments on that persons friends page, or topics. when this happens, many people will get offending messages and there will be a lot of babyish behaviour.
In my opinion
STAY AWAY FROM THIS SITE!
Unless you want to waste your time and effort in having to wait months for your vouchers and by the time you get them you have already bought what you needed at that time and end up wasting them. I won't return to the site until my vouchers are processed and i have contacted Toluna telling them so.
It is however, a great social place. i have met a lady on there who has a daughter a week younger than mine and it's lovely to be able to chat away to someone with kids as close to mine. :)
everyone would like to win the £1,000,000+ lottery jackpot; but i think many people instantly think of the non needed things. but here's what i'd do:
1. I would open a savings account for my daughter and put the full £5,000 a year in, every year for her until she turns 18 - wow what a present!
2. I would buy me and my partner and Angel a house, with a lovely garden and a car. - we're living in a 1 bed flat at the moment so for us a normal house is luxury. :)
3. I would take our little one on holiday for her first birthday and have a lovely romantic weekend away with my partner for our 2ND anniversary.
4. I would buy my parents a new house or if they didn't want too move I would upgrade everything in their house.
5. I would buy my nan her dream bungalow and kit it out for what ever she wants.
6. I would take my mum, partner, brother, dad, sister, Angel, and myself out shopping and buy them whole new wardrobes.
7. I would put aside money for all my little brothers upcoming school trip. - there is a germany one coming so that'd be so nice.
8. I would buy my family passports and take them away.
9. I would buy my nan a box of like 500 cigarettes - for all those i pinched when i began smoking - she KNEW i was pinching - wasn't stealing :)
10. I would give my nan and granddad 30,000 pound - thats to include all the money i have borrowed in the past and 30,000 to all my other family members.
i would say my plan is very sensible :)
Firstly, there are many things you need to think about..
1. If it happened suddenly, what is your first plan of action?
- mine is that if it is a low risk (not many about) or none in my street, I would either steal a car or if I had one of my own start it up and drive to all our families picking them up - those who don't have cars. For those who do, they'd follow.
2. How would you get your supplies?
- I'd find a shop the zombies had already been into, that way they're unlucky to come back in the shop and had moved on. I would park literally next to the shop door and do a 'supermarket sweep' grabbing literally everything in sight. Of course, the cigarettes too haha and champagne to celebrate surviving :)
3. Where would you go?
- It would need to be some where high, closed off with not many entrances and where you are still able to get fresh air. I think the best place would be my flat - seriously, it's 3rd floor, you can't open the door from the outside and the front doors are impossible to break down or get into without a key. But I would definitely do something about the windows, maybe metal sheets? and hammer them to the window frame.
4. What Would You Do With The Youngest In Your Group?
- our youngest would be our 7 month old daughter, so we would take it in turns for a few people at a time to be sat with her and stay with her while she sleeps. all the other youngest would of course be in there too.
5. Will You Be Armed And Dangerous?
- Hell yeah! I would have long-distance range weapons mainly and a few shot guns, but the long distance ones would be better for if you're on the run or are stuck to get up.
i just hope it doesn't happen in our lifetime, but of course it will one day, possibilities are always made possible at some point
my sister and I are 18 months apart in age. we are 2 very different people and our personalities always clash. Where i'm the one who loves to stay in doors being a mummy and house-wife (well as close as) she loves to go out with her mates partying or sleepovers.
when we were younger we would wind each other up rotten! we would take things from each others rooms and secretly take them out with us.. like a pair of shoes or socks.. stupid things, and of course there was the 'they're not yours there mine' arguments daily. Or 'you're not going if i cant go'
one day my sister really annoyed me after picking at me all day and there were times when people would only hear my voice yelling as i am the short tempered loud one, so i would be blamed. I had had enough of it and poured hot tea over her and stormed upstairs. i regret it now because i could have really hurt her, but it's behind us now.
my brother was one too, we have seperate dads, so when i used to call his dad 'Dad' he would scream and cry saying 'he's my dad, you haven't got one' it hurt but he was young, of course i carried on calling him dad to this day as he has brought me up for 12 years now, but me and my brother used to fight physically and i would get so frustrated when he would stamp in shops for sweets and toys.
Now though, my brother is 13, my sister is 16 and we're getting on like a house on fire. But that might be because I have now left and moved in with my boyfriend and daughter about an hour away from them. so instead of fighting with them, we're having phone conversations every few days and laughing and joking when we see each other.
i guess they finally realised that we're all too grown up for petty arguments - as i have too.
i was 32 weeks when i was given a blood test for high blood pressure, a couple of my hormones were too high and i had to then have weekly blood tests for 2 weeks until i was taken to hospital with suspected pre-eclampsia. my mum had it with my youngest brother and it can be passed on. considering it was my 1st pregnancy too, it made my risks higher.
when i was in hospital, i was monitored for around an hour and was lucky enough to have my nurse making me tea because i wasn't allowed off the bed. they took another blood test and then we found out that I had trace protein in my urine, my hormones had settled though so they didn't diagnose me with it, but my face was clearly puffy and my ankles and fingers were swollen, i had constant head aches and nausea as well as high blood pressure.
the weirdest thing was that if the hormone that had calmed down was the most important one, yet I had all the other signs of pre-eclampsia. i was discharged after a few hours as they monitored me for a little longer just to make sure I was OK to go home. my midwife was a great help, she pushed the nurses into doing more tests and keeping me in longer to make sure because she was concerned, but if she hadn't then I wouldn't know anything about the brush I had with Pre-Eclampsia and if the hormone had been higher, and I had had it, I may have never known.
Nowadays, routines, sleeping patterns, feeding times etc are all things that parents seem to set in stone. For me, i work around my daughter rather than work her around me. She is not in a routine and never has been, people say thats bad, but in reality, we are in a sort of routine.. she wakes every 3 1/2 hours for a feed, has breakfast some time before 11am, lunch between 12am and 3pm, and dinner between 5pm and 7.30pm. there is no set times with her as she often doesn't like to be set a routine.
at night she'll fall asleep by herself and even if she lays there awake, she'll just get on with her own thing, like playing and attempting to crawl, she never cries unless she's hungry, tired, in pain, or can't reach a toy.
every baby is different, but mine loves her cuddles, kisses and when i blow raspberries on her tummy. :) (which we call play time when she wants to come out.) .. she loves rolling around in her cot and playing with her toys instead of being in the living room and always has a smile for us.
Routines have been proven to NOT be benifical to babies, so most doctors don't say anything if you say your baby isn't in a routine. Angel already has her personality and thats 'take each day as it comes' .. Of course, bonding and contact with your baby is ESSENTIAL, but who's to say, that babies DON'T need time to be independent?
i would rather personally have a independent baby, who appreciates the time we have together and laughs and smiles when she sees us, rather than a baby who wants to be on my hip all day - but thats me! most parents LOVE the feeling of there baby being clingy, but as soon as Angel becomes clingy, i give her more independent time. :)
there is no right or wrong to how you bring up YOUR baby. things are too much strict nowadays. go with how you feel, you'll know whats right and what suits your baby. :)
my 7 month old Daughter had bad colic when she was younger. I began giving her Infacol and she was passing wind perfectly until she had an upset stomach and ended up running her down the emergency doctors, where we later found out she was a little colic and had reflux problems.
she is a very healthy baby but does get these little bouts of colic here and there still, she will bring her legs up when crying, pass wind while crying and just cry for no reason at all for longer periods than normal.
there is a solution though! the baby colic massage. After my midwife last visited at 4 months, she referred Angel to a colic nurse, and a date was set up to when the nurse would come to our house and show me how to do the colic massage. It's a very simple massage and luckily Angel loves massage time!! (we do it daily) it helps to pull funny faces and talk to them when you are doing it because it keeps them calm so the massage can take full effect.
There are many websites about that will be able to give you the ways of doing the colic massage. it's best done with baby oil or right after a bath because they are warm and it's easier to pass wind that way.
even though the crying is scary, just remember - they're not in no harm, they just have trapped wind and with a few rubs of the back and belly they will be perfectly fine,:)
there are so many habits I have that people consider 'strange'
1. I tend to rub the skin under my nose just above the top of my lip because i love the feeling of something hard being rubbed under my nose (like a sugar grain).
2. I love marmalade on toast with chocolate syrup and it has to be cut into a sandwich or i can't eat it.
3. I laugh at the most stupidest things, like some-one having a really dodgy hair cut or thinking that eating spaghetti bolognase is 'weird'
4. My boyfriend says it's strange that I don't talk about anything serious, knowing that a situation is serious.
5. One minute i'm nice and the next minute my mood can flip over in to being really mean.
i can't really think of many so these may be a bit rubbish too you, but hey, then i find you a little strange for not liking it because i'm cracking up laughing. :)