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    • Comfort Refresh / Household Product / 0 Readings / 80 Ratings
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      COMFORT REFRESH This is a really nice idea from Comfort, it is a fabric refresher spray, which removes the smell of smoke, cooking odours or musty storage smells. I bought this really just to try, I bought the trial spray, which is in a 100ml bottle, you spray it onto your clothes for that just washed smell. I found this brilliant on clothes that I hadn’t worn for a few weeks, and have lost that fresh smell, although they have been washed. The only disadvantage is when you first spray it, your clothes feel quite wet from the particles of spray, which does dry in, so I would suggest using it about thirty minutes before you need to wear your clothes. It also smells quite strong when you first apply it, but this only lasts for about forty minutes, then the smell dies down a bit. This must not be used on leather or suede, or fabrics which may waterspot (e.g. silk), but is brilliant if you need an item of clothing in a hurry. I bought mine from Asda, but I am sure you can buy it from almost anywhere, I can’t quite remember how much it cost exactly, but I think it was between ninety pence and a pound.

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      • Food Combining / Diet & Weight Loss / 3 Readings / 88 Ratings
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        This diet is from the British heart Foundation, it was given to my mum by a friend who works at our local Hospital, it is given to patients who need to lose weight either before operations, or just because they are over weight putting extra pressure on the heart. This diet is very safe, and is proven to work. It is a chemical breakdown diet, not meaning that you can’t eat, but the foods you eat, reacts together hence the weight loss. You must only follow this diet for THREE DAYS, you must not vary or substitute any of the foods, salt and pepper can be used, but no other seasoning, Where quantity is not given, there are no restrictions other than common sense. Toast to be dry – no butter or margarine, tuna, string beans and beetroot can be frozen, Saltine crackers are Tuc biscuits or Ritz biscuits. You must drink 5 x 8oz – glasses of water each day. FIRST DAY BREAKFAST Black coffee/tea Half a grapefruit 1 lice of toast 2tsp peanut butter LUNCH Black tea/coffee 4oz tuna 1 slice of toast DINNER 2 slices of any cold meat 1-cup string beans 4oz beetroot 4oz vanilla ice cream (it doesn’t state it has to be low fat ice-cream, but that’s what my mum used) SECOND DAY BREAKFAST Black coffee/tea 1 egg Half a banana LUNCH 4oz cottage cheese 5 saltine crackers DINNER 2 hot dog sausages (the ones in the tin) 4oz broccoli 2oz carrots 4oz vanilla ice cream THIRD DAY BREAKFAST Black coffee/tea 5 saltine crackers 1 slice of cheddar cheese 1 small apple LUNCH 1 egg 1 slice of toast DINNER 4oz tuna 4oz beetroot 4oz cauliflower 4oz vanilla ice cream My mum and dad tried this diet last week, my mum being five foot two and weighing eleven stone lost ei
        ght pounds, my dad being six foot two and weighing fourteen stone ten pounds lost eleven pounds, so it does work. Just remember only do it for THREE DAYS at a time, after which you can eat normally but remember to be sensible and not over do it. You can lose up to forty pounds in a month. So why not give it a go, it is only three days at a time. I have started this diet today so I will up date it, in three days time to let you know how I got on. Good luck. (UPDATE) I lost six pounds in the three days. Although I checked and double checked, this diet is safe, it is NOT a permanent diet, and from personal experience the quicker you lose weight the quicker you will put it back on, unless you continue to eat sensibly. This diet is fine to give your weight loss a boost, but please continue to eat a more structured diet, if you are going to try this. I found this diet fine, but make sure you drink plenty of water, as I found, on the first day I did get a headache from not drinking enough fluid.

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        • Teenage Pregancy / Parenting Issue / 1 Reading / 170 Ratings
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          Teenagers nowadays, they seem to be doing everything a lot quicker, smoking, drugs, staying out later, having SEX AND BABIES, isn’t this awful, if they were my children, I would never allow them to do that, we never did the things they are doing at their age, or did we. I think the problem is not that teenagers are doing things earlier, but we are making our children more aware, we have become more open minded, and discussing things that years ago were kept quiet and away from children, you hear a lot more on the news, in the papers, about things like sex abuse, kidnapping, and teenage pregnancies are more publicized than it used to be, so its not the fact that children are any different now a days, but the fact that we are more open minded, and wanting our children to be aware of certain situations. I was twelve, I met my first boyfriend, he was seven years older than me, he was my first love, we did everything together, he used to work, we would go into the pub, I would smoke, I thought I was doing the normal teenager thing, and I was, all my friends were doing the same, I looked a lot older than I was, stayed out until ten or eleven o’clock, my mum always took me wherever I was going, and always picked me up, she always knew where I was. I was extremely cheeky and often dame right rude to my parents, just like most teenagers are, I knew everything, and I was always right. At the age of fourteen I asked my mum if I could go onto the pill, I had been with my boyfriend for two years, I didn’t want to tell her directly, but I was trying to tell her I was having sex, yes this might be young, or was it, a lot of my friend at school were also having sex, I wasn’t the only one. My mum was horrified that I had even asked, and I had a straight answer of NO. By the age of fifteen I was pregnant, I didn’t tell anyone, but as soon as I had missed my period I knew what was wrong, I would lie in bed every ni
          ght feeling so alone, worried and scared, I would cry myself to sleep every night, how was I going to tell my mum, who could I turn to, I was to young to go to the doctors, I was under age, they would have to inform my parent of my situation, I never had anyone to turn to, nobody to tell, and felt extremely dirty, how could this happen to me, it only happens to other people, but it had happened, I was young and I didn’t know what to do. I was in my bedroom one night, once I knew I was pregnant, I spent most of my time either out, or as far away from my parents as I could, trying to avoid any contact with them, I thought they would know just by looking at me. My mum entered my bedroom, I was sat on my bed, she sat next to me and said; Karen you are pregnant aren’t you, I felt sick, she knew, how did she know, could she tell, did I look pregnant. Mum always kept a note of when my next period was due, I was five weeks late by this time, I felt relieved that I didn’t have to tell her myself, and I no longer had to go through this alone. She was very good first of all, saying don’t worry we will get it sorted out, and then came the anger, and the hurt at what I had done. Once mum and dad knew, this was when I felt really dirty, I would sit on the settee looking out the corner of my eye at dad, now and then he would glance over at me, I had hurt them so much by what was happening, I felt dirty because they now know exactly what I had been doing, I felt embarrassed, and I have completely let them down. Mum and dad gave me everything, they were the most loving parent any body could ever have, dad ran three businesses, he was a real workaholic, and mum also worked, we had an extremely comfortable life with no worries, we lived in a lovely area, in a nice house, but dad always made it clear that every body is equal, and no matter what we had, we were no better than anybody else, and always be grateful for what we got, and that things don’
          ;t come easy, you only get what you work for, so I shouldn’t be pregnant, this only happens to children from one parent families, who hasn’t had the fatherly influence I had, but it doesn’t, it can happen to anybody, and it was happening to me, and it wasn’t my parents fault, it was mine, I knew what I was doing. Mum made an appointment at the doctors, she took me down and we talked about an abortion, the doctors advised us to see a councilor first, mum would sit and talk to me, she would say; I would never have any life if I had a baby now, I was too young, and I had many years in front of me to start a family, when I met the right person, well at fifteen I thought I had met the right person, Richard was the only person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and of course him being older, he quite liked the idea of me having a baby. I saw a councilor before all the arrangement were made for my abortion, I found this extremely confusing, mum was saying I had to get rid of it, and the councilor was advising me on ways to have the baby, and still be able to go to school, this was when things really started to go wrong, I started to rebel, mum started losing patients, she was no longer understanding, she new best, but so did I, and I was going to prove it, I thought I could cope with a baby, although deep down I knew I could never possible cope at my age, but I wasn’t going to admit it, I was fifteen, it could work out alright, I could still go to school and take the baby with me, I had Richard, he would stick by me, we could manage together, we could get married. I put my mum through hell, the doctor wouldn’t make an appointment for me to have the abortion, until I was really sure this was what I wanted, mum would sit and cry, dad was disgusted that I could ever possibly consider having a baby at my age, mum and dad went from being supportive and understanding, to feeling anger at the way I was being behavin
          g. They started talking to me as if I was a child, I was, but there was no way I was going to allow them to undermine me, I was going to do what I wanted. I eventually decided to have the abortion, although I really wanted the baby by this time, the councilor made be believe that I would be able to cope, and even leave home if mum and dad wouldn’t let me stay there, and move into a special home for teenage mothers, but I couldn’t stand seeing my mum cry all the time, and I couldn’t stand putting them through this any longer. I had an older brother, once he knew he added to the torment of me being pregnant, calling me all the names under the sun, even telling people at school, my whole world turned into a nightmare, with even my brothers friend calling me names, or even trying it on with me, because they all knew that I had been having sex, and they thought I was easy. I went into hospital in the May, I remember it so clearly, the nurse came to see me before I went down, she took my blood pressure and weighed me, we went back to the bed, and she started to fill in a form, the normal form, asking if I was allergic to anything, she asked me how old I was, I said I was fifteen, she looked so disgusted, I will never forget the look on her face. They came to get me to take me down to theatre, I was crying, I still felt really confused, although I knew it was the right thing to do, at least for my parents sake. The next thing I remember was waking up, it seemed to happen so quick, I thought mum had changed her mind about me having the baby, and I remember saying, I haven’t had it done, and the nurse replying, its alright, its all over with now, I broke down and cried, it was so quick, or it seemed that way, I couldn’t believe that I was no longer pregnant, and there was now no baby. I went home about six hours later, and went back to school the beginning of the next week, as if nothing had happened. Mum and dad neve
          r mentioned it again, nor did I, but I felt that I had done the wrong thing, I felt empty, I never saw a councilor after, neither was there anybody I could talk to about how I was feeling, although I was only fifteen I felt like something in my life was missing, and although I was only young I had feeling, but I felt embarrassed to say anything, I now longer wanted to remember what had happened, I wished all the memories would just go away, but I was still hurting, I felt so alone again. This was fifteen years ago now, and I still wonder what I would have had, and often think, it would have been fifteen now, I really wanted to talk about it after, but there wasn’t anybody, I wasn’t offered any counseling, and nobody ever asked me how I felt, I had the abortion done, and as far as everybody was concerned, it was over and done with. I could still cry now when I think about it, not because I had the abortion, because I now have two lovely children, and I am settled with our own house and happy, but because I felt I never talked about my feeling and how I really felt, and still feel affected by this. I think there should have been some sort of after care, or at least a follow up appointment at the hospital so I could have talked to somebody. In the last few years, I have talked to my mum about this, which has helped, but it doesn’t put right what I went through at that time. Mum always says she blamed herself at that time, she should have let me go onto the pill, but she was trying to protect me, and stop me from having sex, which I can understand now, Me and Richard split up two years later, I suppose I just grew up, and wanted different things, and when I look back now I often wonder what I ever saw in him. So things haven’t changed with teenagers, they are still doing the same things we did when we were younger, but some times we seem to forget what we were really like. Yes I was very young, but I learnt from my mi
          stakes, and sometimes we need to let our own children learn from their mistakes, as long as we stand by them, through thick and thin, listen to what they have to say, although you know what is best for them, and yes adults are always right, just sit and remember what things you would have rebelled at, when you were younger, and I can understand that this can be hard at times, because we all want the best for our children. I don’t know how my parents ever put up with me, but they did, and I feel I have become a better person for it. I still feel really guilty about what I did, and I can never change it, but now I am older, I am very close to my parents and understand why they felt it was best for me. If there are any teenagers out there reading this, all I would say is, I wouldn’t wish anybody to go through what I went through, I would have never been able to cope with a baby at that age, although I thought I could at the time, always listen to your parents they do know best, and if they wont listen, just say if you listen to me point of view, then I will listen to yours, but remember that your parents only want the best for you. I would have never had the life I did when I got a bit older, and most certainly would have missed out on my teenage years, and going to night clubs, and seeing what life was really all about, if it weren’t for my parents. And if there are any parents of teenagers reading this, all I can say is never say never, I was an ordinary girl, from a family that loved me, mum always knew where I was, and if your children are going to smoke, or have sex, they will do it wherever they can, and if your teenage daughters ask if they can go onto the pill, and they have a steady boyfriend, it doesn’t mean that they want to sleep around, they might be trying to tell you, that they are having sex, but don’t want to get pregnant, but always make sure they know the importance of using condoms, for extra protectio
          n especially from sexually transmitted diseases. Always discuss things with your teenagers on an equal level, never undermined what they are saying, always be prepared to listen to their point of view, even if you don’t agree with it. This can happen to anyone, and it did, it happened to me, and it will happen to many other teenage girls. I was no different then, to teenagers nowadays. I am not proud of what I did, but hope this will help other parents and teenagers who may find themselves in the same situation someday. This is how I felt as a teenager, and not from being a parent of a teenager, I still have that to come with my own children.

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            09.10.2000 21:08
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            PRIVATE EDUCATION Both my children have attended an independent school since they were both two and a half. They attend a school within the Bristol area; the school takes children from two and a half in the nursery, right through to six form. The reason we chose to send our children to private school was because of the facilities and class sizes, not allowing anymore than twenty in a class. In fact we didn’t chose to send our children here, I would like to say we could never afford the fees, but I have the most wonderful parents ever, and they actually started looking for school when I was pregnant for Aaron, which I didn’t know, until he was two, and then my dad actually told me that he had put Aaron’s name down for this school. Dad looked at many school, and sent off for perspective for about six schools, but at the time this was the best school in the Bristol area. You get the perspective for the school, by phoning and asking them to send it out to you, this tell you everything you need to know about that school. Why we felt this was the best school, well like I have said, they can start at two and a half and go straight through to senior school, so no need to change school at eleven, and although you always get new children into the school, most of the children have attended the school since pre prep, which is the infants. The lower school is on one side of the road, and the upper school is on the other. The facilities and opportunities for the children are wonderful. There is so much choice of things to learn, within the school day, and also lunch times, and after school. Their school day starts at eight thirty, although there is always a teacher on duty from eight fifteen, when you can then leave your children, this is ideal for those parents who need to get to work, the school day finishes at four o’clock, although there is aftercare for the pre-prep, which is supervised until five thirty,
            and for the juniors there is prep, where the children can do their homework before they come home, and there is always a teacher to help them. The senior school finishes at three thirty, this is because younger children can take in so much more than the older ones hence them doing a longer day. The children start their school day with assembly every morning, apart from Tuesdays when they go to chapel, the chapel is situated within the upper school, but all the children attend even the nursery pupils. Alana is now in pre-prep two, which is the second year of infants, she is doing really well, there are only twelve children in her class, and obviously this is where the advantage of private education comes in, they have two teacher in her class, enabling them to give a lot more attention to each child. Up to pre-prep three, the children are all kept together in one class with the same teacher. They are taught the main subjects, English, Math’s, but also French, music, speech and drama, which I have found, gives them a lot of confidence, and they also do P.E twice a week. Aaron is now in the first year of juniors, and I must admit, he finds school a little harder than Alana. At the age of six it was thought that Aaron may be dyslexic, now this isn’t normally found out until a child is seven, and often older, although the school has tested Aaron for dyslexia and the results came back that he wasn’t, it nice to know that the school are very aware of children with disabilities, and also cater for them, they have a learning support teacher, and the children are taught and given all the help and support they need individually. From juniors they are encouraged to be responsible for their own things; this includes the children having all their own pencils, books, ECT which yes we have to buy. From seven, the first year of juniors, the children are streamed, the brighter children in one class, and the children that find it a bit
            harder in another, this allows the more confident children to work forward without being held back, and the children who may be a bit slower, to work at a pace they feel a bit more comfortable with. The system in the juniors is different from the pre-prep, the children now have different teachers, for different subject, which they also have to move classrooms for, this is to get them ready for senior school. The lessons also becomes more varied which still include your important subjects but also, French, rR.S religious studies, F.P, which is where the children sit in a group and discuss the things they like or dislike, or if they have any problems with other children, or they feel uncomfortable with any of the teachers, drama, history, science, I.T, art, geography, D.T design technology, P.E twice a week, and also games twice a week. P.E is inside where they do many different things, whether it be on the aporators or ball skills, games is all the outdoor lessons, this includes rugby, this is the school strong point, they also do hockey, and in the summer they do cricket. There are also music lesson that you can pay extra for, they cover all the instruments you could possible imagine from drums to recorders, but they also do lunch time clubs, and after school clubs that are free, and they also have the opportunity to go to school on a Saturday to do a sports morning, which include rugby, hockey and football, and the girls do hockey, net ball and rugby if they wish. All the children wear school uniform, so nobody is different from anybody else, the children are taught to be courteous at all times, and respect their elders, which show when you enter the school, if a child is coming through a door and your about to walk in they always hold the door open and allow you to walk in first, this is taught from nursery age. The school is very hot on bullying, yes bullying goes on like in any other school, and my son was bullied when he was six, but it was s
            topped straight away. All the children are treated equally, and no children who attend a private school aren’t snobby, which I always thought, they are just your normal child, the parents are very polite, we stand in the play ground chatting, waiting for our children like any other parent. The teachers are very approachable, and are willing to see you anytime; the headmaster is amazing he knows every single Childs name that goes to the school. What I want to say is though, no matter where your child goes to school, they will only do what they can, just because you sent them to a private school doesn’t mean that they are going to turn out to be geniuses, there are some excellent state school out there, Iknow I attended two, my infant school, and my senior school, and no I didn’t want to go to a private school, because I thought it would be full of snobs, well I can tell you now how wrong I was. I know not everybody can afford to send their children to private school, but did you know once a year all private school have an open day, where you can enter your children into their entrance exam, and there are always scholarships up for grabs, a scholarship is where the school fund your Childs school fees, either all of it, or half of it, enabling children from all walks of life to a private education, unfortunately scholarships are only awarded to really clever children, but if you would like your child to do the entrance exam, all you have to do is phone the school and put you Childs name down, and it doesn’t mean because your child has done the entrance exam, that they have to attend the school after. All entrance exams are held on a Saturday so there is no need for your child to miss any school from doing this, and if you don’t try you wont know. I think there are some really good state school out there, and children will only do what they can, and children will be children, and if it wasn’t for my parents
            , my children would also go to a state school, and be just as happy as they are now.

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            • Kids/colour.html / Internet Site / 1 Reading / 65 Ratings
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              Now the evenings are getting darker are the children driving you loopy, are they bored running around, pretending to shoot you every time you walk past them, and arguing all the time. Try looking at www.shef.ac.uk/~md1mjw/kids/colour.html, this is an excellent site, where you can print off all your children favorite characters for them to colour in, it is very easy to navigate, even the children can do it. This site covers animals, which covers all their favorites like dogs, cats, rabbits, and many more. Cartoons, this one is the one, my own children love as you can print out, Tarzan, Dalmatians, Muppets, Noddy, Teletubies, Flintstones and several more, I also use these pictures to take into the nursery that I work at, I find the children love coloring their favorite characters, especially on rainy days when they are unable to go outside and play. Miscellaneous this is a mixture of all sorts like butterflies; jack in the box, and princesses. Seasons and xmas, this is another one that I print pictures off, for the nursery at that special time of year, you have pictures of father Christmas, elf’s working in the work shop, Christmas trees and also many more. There is also a kids link which takes you into other sites with more coloring in, and other children favorites, like tots TV web page, Thomas web page, Barney web page. I find this site brilliant, it keeps the kids quite for hours; my daughter even takes them to school, and sits in the playground with her friends on a lunchtime coloring. So if the kids are driving you insane, go and print some pictures off for when they come home from school, I can guarantee at least an hour of peace and quiet.

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              • Wella Design Mousse Wax / Hair Care / 0 Readings / 60 Ratings
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                WELLA SHOCK WAVES MOUSSING WAX Another new one from shock waves, I bought this yesterday while on a visit to Boots, it comes in a 150ml can, and although in the traditional shock waves looking can, a little smaller than the usual mousse can. This product is a moussing wax, which adds shine, with the added bonus of the strong hold, on the back the instructions say; quick and easy styling, a wax in a mousse format for fabulous shine, separates individual strands and adds texture, with curl definition, strong hold and brushes out easily, apply evenly to the hair without overloading it, makes the hair more manageable for even easier styling. All excited about trying out this shock waves waxing mousse, I got in the bath and washed my hair, I applied it to my wet hair and started to blow dry, I found my hair very difficult to style, it felt extremely full of wax, and very heavy on my hair, it took me a lot longer to dry my hair, and even when it was dry it felt very heavy, not nice light and bouncy, although I had a really lovely shine on my hair, to touch it felt quite greasy. After drying my hair, I looked again at the back of the can, if I had read further down, I would have seen the rest of the instructions which said; APPLY TO DRY HAIR, dispense a small ball of mousse into hand, apply more if necessary. I cant see the point of calling it moussing wax if your meant to apply it to dry hair, how many people do you know dry their hair and then style it, I always style my hair when it is wet. I think the instructions on the can are quite disappointing, and it should have said somewhere on the front off the can, it should be applied to dry hair. I will try it again on dry hair, but can’t see the point in drying your hair and then styling it, I find my hair is much easier to dry if it is wet. I will keep you posted when I have used it on dry hair, and let you know what I think of it then.

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                  For all you athletic fans, have you missed out on some of the result from being at work or from being out during the day. Try looking at www.athleticsnet.com/ this site is really easy to navigate, with all the latest news, results, features, events, you can go into specific athletes profiles, you will find comprehensive background information on over fifty UK athletes, including personal details and performance statistics. There is live chat and discussion, when you can have a reply to all your questions. There is also a search engine so you can find your favorite athlete. Although I enjoy athletics, and I support our teams, I am not bothered if I watch it or not, but for somebody who really enjoys watching athletics, this is a really good site, to find out all the information you could possible want to know. This site is updated regularly, so you can always find out, about the results you have missed.

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                  • fragrancedirect.co.uk / Online Shop / 2 Readings / 71 Ratings
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                    Christmas is on it way, do you find buying presents for family and friends a real problem, I know I do. I have just found a brilliant site that I will be visiting for some Christmas presents, everyone likes perfume well the men might prefer aftershave, but if your like me, show me a perfume site and I’m in heaven. Search fro www.fragrancedirect.co.uk; they have designer fragrances and reduced prices. The site is very easy to navigate, they have their special offers on the home page which include, All About Eve by Joop 125ml Eau de toilette spray for £27.00 down from RRP £31.00, Dune by Christian Dior 100ml spray £14.99 down from RRP £37.00, Opium 100ml Eau de toilette spray £27.00 down from RRP £40.00, and not forgetting the men they have Hugo 150ml Eau de toilette spray £27.00 down from RRP £42.00, Calvin Klein 100ml Eau de toilette spray £19.00 down from RRP £31.00. Plus many more. They have the top ten perfumes on the home page, so if your not sure which perfume or aftershave to buy perhaps you could choose from the top ten list. The special offers page is obviously all their perfumes they have on special offer that day, and they also have a willing to wait page, which is, if they haven’t got the perfume/aftershave you are after, you can E-mail them and as soon as they have it in stock, they will E-mail you and let you know without any obligation to buying. I found this site better than having a bar of chocolate, so if your stuck for presents to buy, you like perfume/aftershave at a reduced price, give this site a visit, you wont be disappointed.

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                    • Being a Parent / Parenting Issue / 0 Readings / 93 Ratings
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                      Being a parent is a frightening thought, I was twenty-one when I had my first child, I never forget having my son, lying in that hospital bed not knowing whether to laugh or cry. I think one of the things, the health visitor don’t talk to you about is how you are going to feel when you have your baby, they explain about the three day blues, but that’s as far as it goes. Don’t get me wrong, having Aaron was the best thing that has ever happened to me, but I never forget the fear of thinking, my god this is for the rest off my life, and this little thing is going to depend on me for everything. And although my partner was with me, I felt so alone. They tell you that your baby needs to be feed every four hours, but they don’t tell you that it takes two hours to feed them, (when they first come home), and then an hour to wind them, only giving you a hours sleep in between. Another thing that really worried me was when I came home, the first night Aaron sounded really blocked up, and sounded as if he was having problem breathing, and although when I look back now, I should have realized it was the mucus in his nose, but at the time you don’t think off that. Having a baby changes your whole life around, including your relationship, being tired all the time and not being able to get anything done, causes strain on you partnership, I say partnership because this is what your life turns into once you have a baby. My partner found this really hard, I think he had depression or that’s how it seemed anyway. He found it hard that suddenly overnight I never had time to do the tea, or he would come home from work and I still wasn’t dressed, or the house work hadn’t been done, or he didn’t have a clean shirt for the next day, now this might sound really lazy, but this is the way it is for many women, for the first few weeks anyway. Then comes the time when you start feeling like your not a very
                      good mum, and other people are better at it than you, or you could never be as good a mum, as your mum was with you, these feeling are really hard to deal with as you feel like a failure to your baby, but I am sure many off us mums have felt this way. Then comes the time when you are expecting again, Aaron was only fourteen months old when I found out I was pregnant, I never forget crying to my mum I couldn’t believe it, and as you might guess this pregnancy wasn’t planned. I spoke to the mid wife and expressed my feeling as not really wanting another baby this quick, she told me I would get more used to it, when the pregnancy progressed a bit more. And I feel quite bad saying that; all the way through I never had the feeling I did when I was pregnant with Aaron. When Alana came along I was so pleased that I had my little girl, but at the same time the feeling of guilt were at times quite overwhelming. I felt so sorry for Aaron, he was only a baby his self, but no longer the baby, I would sit and watch him playing happily not bothered that there was another baby in the house, but I felt like I had taken his chance of valued time with me away, because I now had another baby to look after. These feeling haunt me to this day, and although I love my children equally I cant forget the way I felt. I do now feel guilty about feeling this way, as my children are really close, and I am now glad I had Alana when Aaron was really young. I felt like I wanted to write this because at the time I felt like I could never love Alana the same way I loved Aaron, but I do and any mum that is going through this or have gone through it, things do get better. And when your children are a bit older you will be glad that you did it this way, I am anyway.

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                      • Craig / TV Programme / 1 Reading / 65 Ratings
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                        Big Brother Friday, I was really touched my Craig’s actions Friday, and I am sure thousands of other people were to. How many people do you know would spends weeks in a house with complete strangers, and put their own business in jeopardy, without any guarantees of winning, so he could give all the money to a girl with downs syndrome, so she could go to America and have the life saving transplant that she desperately needs. Apparently before Craig entered the Big Brother House, he had been fund raising for this girl, and all because our NHS service wont give her the life saving transplant she needs. Due to the fact she is a downs syndrome child, she is seen as not being the average “normal” healthy child, and wont have the average life span of “normal” people. What happened to equal opportunities and giving everyone the right to life. I am sure from Craig’s actions Friday that hopefully there will be some sort of charity set up for this girl, so they can raise the two-hundred-and fifty thousand pounds they need to send her to America. It would be nice if everyone on dooyoo could also help, perhaps if everyone on dooyoo gave fifty of their miles every time they wrote an opinion. This could be done by e-mail and then you could donate when and how many you wanted, I know you can already donate all your dooyoo miles to charity but not everybody wants to do that, but I am sure if you had the chance to donate just some of your miles more people would do it. Fifty of your miles doesn’t sound a lot to donate every time you write an opinion, but it’s the little bits that count. After carolinsite's response to my opinion, I would just like to say that there are thousands of other children who also need this life saving oporation, and we should also think of them. Hopefully craigs actions will help send this little girl to America, but also collect enough money to also help other children, who also are in desperate need of the same treatment. So dooyoo if you read this opinion, perhaps if somebody sets up a charity for this little girl perhaps you would consider doing this, I know if you did I would be the first to donate some of my miles to help this girl who deserves the right to live.

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                        • dooyoo Addiction / Discussion / 1 Reading / 85 Ratings
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                          15.09.2000 21:50
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                          Although I am quite new to dooyoo only being a member since the end of July, I would like to tell you how I know I am well and truly addicted to dooyoo. It began as soon as I started witting and reading opinions on dooyoo. I would go to bed about two in the morning, and start chatting to myself, wondering what experiences and products I have used, and whether my opinions on them, would be helpful to fellow dooyooers this was the first sign. I would get up and go straight to the computer switch it on and log onto dooyoo to see if anybody has rated my opinions, but instead of just looking I would then stay on the computer for hours, I would just like to add before I was introduced to dooyoo, I never really could see the interest in the computer, and would get fed-up sat in the living room on my own, while my partner spent hours surfing the net. This was the second sign. I started to get a numb bum, from sitting on the computer chair. This was the third sign. I always kept my washing up-together, I was so shocked to see my wash basket was so full, that I couldn’t see the basket anymore, just loads of clothes not only in the basket I will add but overflowing onto the floor. This was the fourth sign. To all my friend I am known as Mrs. mop, due to the fact that I do my house work every day without fail, well I used to until dooyoo, it used to take me three hours every day, I would come home from the school run and start to tidy up, I have now got this down to one hour a day, only because I cant wait to get onto dooyoo and I no longer stop for a coffee in between, as you might gather my house is no longer as clean as it used to be. This was the fifth sign. I heard my children talking the other day, and Aaron was saying to Alana, wait until daddy comes home, we will ask him its no good asking mum she’s on the computer again. This was the six sign. I went out into the garden and thought my garden had turned into a jungle, the grass wa
                          s so long, I don’t know if I have ever seen it like that, in the ten years we have lived in our house. And what shocked me more was that my hanging basket had died. This was the seventh sign. My friend phoned the other day, on my mobile because the phone was engaged, (I wonder why) and I made an excuse not to go up her house for coffee so I could catch up with my rating on dooyoo. This was the eighth sign. I went to go shopping the other day, I looked in my fridge and freezer and there was no need for my trip to Asda, as I haven’t cooked for ages and I still have loads of food in my house, I thought my children were looking rather thin the other day, only joking, but the man up the chip shop now knows us by name. This was the ninth sign. How many of you never had any petrol in your car when the petrol protests started, well I was alright due to the fact that I get up and log straight onto dooyoo I haven’t been using any petrol, and still have three quarters of a tank of petrol left in my car. This was the tenth sign. I would just like to thank dooyoo for this fantastic site, but would like to add, it would be helpful if they could introduce a web page that I could advertise for people to do all the jobs I haven’t done for ages. You better advise me on a good marriage councilor as well, I don’t think I have spoken to my partner since I joined dooyoo. At least I now know why my partner spent so much time on the Internet; it is just a shame that there isn’t enough time in the day for him to go on now.

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                          • Colgate Toothpaste / Oral Care / 0 Readings / 60 Ratings
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                            06.09.2000 18:24
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                            Do you have a battle with your children every morning about cleaning their teeth, when this happens we just accept that our children don’t like doing it, but have you ever considered that its not cleaning their teeth they don’t like, or having the toothbrush in their mouth but the taste of the tooth paste. Children under two and a half, don’t understand the concept of taste, so when they say they don’t like something, we take it that they don’t like it, young children cant explain that they don’t like the taste of something because they don’t understand what taste is, and this is something that all parents do, when we have young children, due to the fact that small children’s language understanding is very minimal, we use words that our children understand, we don’t ask our children if they want to taste something, we ask if they want to try it, we don’t ask them if they like the taste, we just ask if they like it. It is the same when we first introduce our children to solid food, when they make a face and spit it out, our first thought is, that it is a different texture and they don’t like the feel of it in their mouths. The first tooth past we often buy for our children is a mint flavored, and you think about it, after having milk or tasteless jars of baby food for months, this can be rather a strong taste for young children. I have found a toothpaste that is really fruity in taste, but not to strong, it is Colgate Tweetys super star toothpaste, the tube is really brightly colored red and pink, with tweety pie on the front holding a toothbrush, the toothpaste its self is in the form of a gel and is bright red, it comes in a squeezable tube so it is easy for children to put their own toothpaste onto their toothbrush, and it taste just like bubblegum, this one is Berrylicious flavor, and they also do one in a blue toothpaste, which is also very nice. It costs about ninety-ei
                            ght pence, which is quite reasonable for Childs toothpaste, and because it is Colgate you have the peace of mind that your children’s teeth are being cleaned properly. So if you have a battle every morning, I suggest you try this toothpaste, but what I would do first, to reassure your child is put a little toothpaste on their finder and let them taste it first, this way they know what it is going to taste like before they clean their teeth, and hopefully all your tears and tantrums on a morning will stop.

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                            • Clarks / Highstreet Shopping / 0 Readings / 58 Ratings
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                              04.09.2000 18:12
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                              The beginning of this year I bought my children their school shoes from john lewis, I always go to john lewis because I feel the service is excellent, and they have a good range of shoes. I bought my son his school shoes, which were a traditional school shoe, at a cost of thirty eight pounds. Within four weeks all the stitching around the front was coming undone, and the sole was coming away. I returned the shoes to John Lewis and they exchange them for the same pair. Within four weeks the same thing happened again, I returned the shoes again, and explained that this was the second time that this had happened, and I wanted to change them for a different shoe, I was told that I couldn’t change them and that they would have to be sent away to the makers (startrite) to see if there was a particular problem with this shoe. I explained that my son only had one pair of school shoes, and if they sent them away he would`nt have a pair of school shoes to wear, and I would have to buy him another pair. Refusing to change them for a different pair, I agreed to have them sent back to startrite, and bought my son another pair of shoes which cost me another thirty eight pounds. Two weeks later I had a phone call from the assistant at John Lewis, saying that although the stitching had come away, it also looked like my son had been playing football in them, causing the problem even furthur, I asked what they exspect seven year old boys to do in their shoes. She told me that they arnt made for playing football, and that my son should learn to look after his shoes more carefully, as you can imagine I was quite annoyed, this wasn’t a ten pound pair of shoes, these shoes cost thirty eight pounds, and lets face it, all children play football at school. I asked to speak to the manager, and was told that they would exchange these shoes for the same pair, I explained due to the fact they had sent them away, I had to buy my so
                              n another pair of shoes, which cost me another thirty eight pounds, and I no longer wanted them exchanged, but I now wanted a refund, I was told I couldn’t have a refund, and that I would have to exchange these shoes. I was now furious, and after about half an hour on the phone to her, explaining that my son only needed one pair of school shoes and at thirty eight ponds a pair, I didn’t want another pair of shoes he wouldn’t wear, and because these shoes fell apart twice, I certainly didn’t want another pair of these shoes anyway. Eventually she did agreed to give me a refund, although it then took several phone calls, and five weeks before I received the cheque. If buying a pair of shoes from John Lewis, always be aware that if you have a problem with them, they may send them back, leaving you with no other choice, but to buy another pair of shoes, and then refuse to give you a refund.

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                                Yesterday we took our two children aged seven and five to Thorpe Adventure Park. It is sign posted off the M25, and is easy to find. This is a brilliant park for all ages, there are eight different zones, and within these zones there are from one to eight rides, for a range of different ages. The park is easy to get around and very accessible even to those using wheelchairs. This park has something for everyone, it consists of a water ride called tidal wave, which is new for this year and is the biggest water ride in Europe, x no way out, is a roller coaster in complete darkness, and to my surprise goes backwards, they have loggers leap which is a water flume, depth charge is a huge water slide and you go down in rubber dinghies, and the thunder river which is big round boats which sits six and you go down the rapids. I would suggest you take a towel and some dry clothes to go on all of these rides, as you do get rather wet. For the smaller children you have, a separate zone which I would say is just for the under tens, which include, small car rides that just go around in a circle, Ollie octopus, swinging seashells, and fantasy fish. There are thirty-three rides all together; they have a 4D cinema, and even a beach with sand with little slides in the water for those who fancy a dip. There is also no need to go hungry, they have burger king, KFC, quayside restaurant, lost city café, fun food factory, dropped anchor inn, pot bellies and donut stalls and ice-cream stalls all over the park. Some of the bigger rides have a height restriction which is for your own safety, and some rides children have to be accompanied by an adult. At the moment one part of the park is closed due to a fire there the beginning of this year, so the admission prices are a pound cheaper, but all rides are included in the entrance fee which is, £12.50 for children and £16.50 for adults. Opening times are 10am weekdays and 9.3
                                0am weekends except during half term when they are open at 9.ooam; closing times are 7.30pm in high season and 5.00pm in winter. I would recommend a visit to this park, but make sure you take a towel and a change of clothes. It would be sensible to wear a comfortable pair of shoes as you do a lot of walking. It can also get quite busy so be prepared to queue, the longest we queued for was half an hour. You can find out more about Thorpe park at www.thorpepark.com

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                                  25.08.2000 21:34
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                                  Have you ever got wax on your carpet? Well this happened to me, I had one of those smelly candle on top of my unit and it ran down the side, and onto my carpet. It was every where, not knowing what to do a friend recommended getting a brown paper bag some cloth, and turning the iron on really hot. What you have to do is, put the brown paper bag over the wax, with the cloth on top and iron over it, I couldn’t believe the result, all the wax was lifted out of the carpet, you wouldn’t have even known that it was there. So if you ever get wax onto your carpet, reach for that brown paper bag, it really does work.

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