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There are certain people I would like to meet for various reasons within my life.
The first of these is Madonna. I am a fan of madonnas earlier stuff, and I like her music overall however I feel she is one of the most powerful women in musical history and albeit she is a mega superstar she is also a caring, strong, spiritual woman and on a woman and mother connection I feel we could discuss alot and I would learn alot from her also.
The second person I would like to meet is The lady who writes for the Rebelle Society blog, she intrigues me and is acutely like myself. I relate to every word she writes and her power and passion for life is extroidinary.
The third person - Lois Bourne, a witch and occultist for over 30 years and has written various books of her life as a witch and conversations she has had throughout her life within this domain. An incredible and humble person.
The Fourth person - Sting, well apart from on a very trivial level I am in love with the man he is of spiritual domain and I would adore to learn his practice of tantra and his knowledge of it Decipher this as you will!
His music is exquisite and historical.
The fifth person - A monk from the highest ordinate within the gregorian era. The music these men produced was meditative, gracious and a high connection with gods.
The sixth person - A tibetan monk. A man who has high spiritual worth and lives life by the law of spiritual grace.
The seventh person - Anais Nin, Erotic writer with various lovers. She speaks of her relationships with each and the great depth each give her. A woman of great love and depth with sensual passion.
If I won the lottery I would -
- Pay off my mortgage and a few of my freinds mortgages also
- Buy a slightly bigger house, secluded with no noise and a swimming pool
- Set up a huge animal sanctuary in various areas of the world and adopt some children
- Buy an Art Gallery
- Buy a club where people can indulge with one another!!!
- Buy a Range Rover purely because its the car of my dreams
- Have a full time masseuse
- Travel to Brazil to experience the rainforest and Ayuhausca
- Travel to Iceland
- Buy a business that would be suitable to pass onto my children
-Buy some properties for future investments
- Buy land and a campsite in Snowdonia and The highlands of Scotland
- Inject money into decent animal sanctuarys
- Put money into shares in various companies
-Buy some horses and farm animals
-Invest in a farm so it can run organically
- Place money into Brain Tumour and Diabetes research without animal testing
I think winning the lottery would whilst be wonderful also be a hinderance and I would feel cheated to have money that I wouldnt have earnt myself as Im a proud and hard worker and I enjoy earning my own money. I would not want to change who I was with a huge amount of money being in my life and whilst many people would state they wouldnt allow that to happen I think in many cases it would naturally happen as ones whole life would change and you would evidently feel more power within your life.
I wouldnt say no though!!!
Sadly it is a rarity that I am home alone alot albeit Im also lucky I am not saying that but when I do get that rare opportunity to be home alone I will indulge in it greatly.
I tend to either get myself take a way or cook a nice meal for myself, something that only I like in my household and no one else can moan about. I will either watch catch up tv of trash which no one likes or a film something such as a romantic comedy or tragedy.
I will also have a long hot bath with lovely bubbles and scents and candles.
Sometimes it is fun to go online when home alone and go chat sites such as chat roulette which can in turn be hillarious and you can even meet new people and freinds on it. I will go to bed early or with my laptop and then read and going to bed early is an indulgence in itself as I prefer to go to bed earlier but many in my household do not, so a guilt trip sets in!
Indulge in yourself on a night in alone, dont be afraid of what others think of what you eat, watch or do, just be you for that night and you may wake up a much happier person.
I always plan my own holidays through the internet as it always works out cheaper and you know exactly what you are doing from one moment to the next as you have invariably done it yourself, this I find is the cheapest way to work out a holiday.
However having said that, I have not been on long haul flights and expeditions and should I do this then I would be more inclined to go through an agent with detailed itinerary's and would feel much safer being within organised groups rather than having to organise trips alone.
The internet will always be the cheapest way to find holidays as there is no middle man hence the cheapest deals will always be found there. I think booking directly with companies is also a good way to save money.
Sites such as booking.com to find hotels is a great site and also travelstay if you are looking for hotels in London is great.
Last minute is a great website again for cheap hotels and trivago for holidays abroad.
Try to book as much as you can by yourself and through the internet but be safe and follow sites which are renowned and worthy.
I am an avid fan of books, the paper kind with a cover and pages that you can curl up to read and flick through each page, however saying that I am also a fan of electronic formats for several reasons.
One, the kindle or smartphone that allows you to read from it is easy and you can store many books on it which of course saves space in the house and you have them all in one place which is easy for travelling and especially going abroad. Of course with a kindle you can also have a book exactly when you want it for you simply download it and within seconds it is there in front of you. One specific reason why I love my kindle app is because I can read in bed at night with the light off and not disturb anyone. It is nice to be able to read in the dark as it can give a higher sense of emotional contact with the book, however saying that you can also gain as much emotional contact with the physical book in your hands especially if it is an old one.
Overall both the traditional book and the kindle have their own place but I feel sadly many more people use their kindle now rather than buying a actual book and the decline of smaller bookshops especially is tragic. Please support normal books as well as the kindle because to hold a book in a chair with a cup of hot tea especially when it is raining outside is a magic that cant be replaced.
To answer the question therefore I purchase half of my books from a kindle device and half from the bookshop. It usually depends what type of book it is and how much I wish to connect to it.
A strange question in all aspects as literature is generally written by people whom have artistic minds and hence misery is a huge part of this type of characters soul. Life is not one happy, pretty rose and hence it shouldnt be like this in many books and emotions are never going to run dry so literature should tackle all emotions and make you feel both happiness and sadness at that time of reading.
Misery is part of life and to write about can engage in so many emotions towards the person reading it and they themselves can assess how miserable the feel whilst reading it as of course we all suffer and feel in different ways and what affects one person will not affect the next.
There should always be books written on all emotions and yes misery is one of them so no it shouldnt be stopped in any shape or form as if it were then it would indirectly be stopping a writer from being true to themselves and feeding emotions into their book. A good book will nearly always contain a good array of emotions and allow the reader to feel each of them accordingly.
Keep the misery!
I do feel Britains particularly work to many hours a week and hence dont get to live a life fullfilled with love, happiness and quality time with family and freinds, however it is, in this country specifically, a viscous circle as the more one works the more they gain financially (usually), allowing us to be able to do more things with freinds and family, however it is then getting the time to do so.
Work in England is categorised into various sectors, however people that love their job and have a main career are happier to work these long hours whereas many people who are stuck in the rat race of 9-5 jobs hate working such long hours and dont get what they need out of their work to be fullfilled in all areas of their life. There lies the main aspect that if you are happy in your job and your job entices you to get up each day and be happy then it is ok to work longer weeks but that applies to a minority of people.
Countries such as Italy and Spain have less working weeks and are overall happier and healthier people and they spend far more time with their families and freinds.
Always try to find work that is fullfilling to you no matter what that takes as whilst we do have to work long hours in the UK, it is then best to be happy in what you do and there is also nothing wrong with a strong work ethic and wanting to work long hours. There needs to be a strong balance between work and play and so many people forget this nowadays.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is an acute anxiety disorder which can affect a person both physically and mentally and most usually occurs after a life changing event, accident or any event that has caused acute distress and suffering.
Many soldiers suffer with post traumatic stress because of the tragic events they have witnessed in war torn countries and it is generally through witnessing or feeling a tragic event that can allow this illness to occur.
Symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress include re-experiencing the event of a tragedy or incident, living it again and again in your head and through day dreams and nightmares during sleep, visual disturbances that bring the imagery into the head again of the event.
Panic attacks and acute anxiety disorder.
A feeling of not wanting to socialise or take part in events in life that you used to enjoy.
Headaches, stomach aches and generalised aches and pains.
Feeling on edge continually and always expecting something to happen in turn leading to an acute paranoia.
Misuse or drugs, alcohol and even food.
Post traumatic stress otherwise known as PTSD, can occur anytime from a few weeks after an event to a few years after an event, it is simply when the brain decides to confront it and hence the imagery can take hold and start to become disabling for that person. It is a very real and acutely mentally disabling illness however there are many ways it can be helped and lead to cures now.
Always speak of your feelings to others whether it be a freind, family member, doctor or stranger. Talking is the main strategy for the brain to be able to cope and to release much pent up tension and mental suffering. It stores much unwanted emotions within the brain and once these emotions are put into actual words the brain is more readily accessible to release them.
Seek help when you cant cope, do not ignore post traumatic stress. Go to your doctors and aim to gain help from counselling rather than drugs albeit drug medication can help in certain circumstances.
Learn techniques of meditation, this can be acutely beneficial and has been scientifically proven to ease the brain and drop stress chemical levels.
Exercise - this raises seretonin levels in the brain which is the happy chemical in our bodies.
Eat well and healthy, you would be surprised how many foods can affect the emotional wellbeing of our brains.
Write your experiences down and talk them through with someone step by step. To not discuss events wont make them disappear they will only allow them to increase in your head.
Dont be afraid to talk to people, this is areal and devastating illness and can be treated so you can lie a happy life again.
Seek counselling and psychotherapy as ultimately this will bring you to new levels of understanding and help to rid images in your mind and being you back to whom you were before the event.
Stress is one of the main factors of poor health and diet in todays society as stress contributes to higher levels of chemicals within the body causing a person to want to over eat, or alternatively not eat at all, not exercise properly, not socialise and all these factors can contribute to stress becoming worse and creating a disabling lifestyle.
Stress can be caused by a variety of factors and what one person may become stressed over could be completly different to another person therefore it is all relative to that individual.
Stress symptoms can include -
Lack of energy and vitality
Change of eating habits
Lack of socialising or wanting to
Stomach Aches and pains with upset stomachs
Generalised aches and pains across the body
These are just some symptoms that can be suffered with stress however if stress is not attended to and maintained and cured it can lead to further health implications and can impair your quality of life distinctly.
To combat stress there are a variety of ways that people can help themselves before looking into medicinal help. Exercise is a huge contributor in handling stress and helping to combat it as exercise raises seretonin levels of the brain making the body feel more active, alive and energetic and happier.
Meditation is an incredible cure for stress especially when it is maintained daily and is part of a persons life. Meditation can be learnt alone, or through various groups, I found group meditation very worthwhile when I was particularly unwell with stress.
Reading can help with stress as it focuses the mind on another world, into a another life through the words of a book, if you dont read, start!
Looking to start new hobbies and interests, what do you really want to do in life, how can you get there and start it? Find ways to do things you love as youll be surprised how much you can do without alot of cost.
Walk and/or run, this allows to have fresh air and sunlight which incorporates vitamin D into the brain and exercise again gets you to raise chemical levels of the body.
Overall always try to maintain stress and keep it at bay as once it takes hold it can be difficult to get rid of, it can however be cured but dont always rely on other people to help you as at the end of the day there are so many ways others can help but ultimately it is only down to you.
An absolutely incredibly beautiful film made after the novel 'Goodnight Mister Tom' written by Michelle Magorian.
Set in WW2, the film is about a young boy who is evacuated from London to come and live in a small village and is assigned to live with an elderly gentleman named Mr Tom. The two build up a friendship whilst they live with one another but it is this extraordinary friendship that brings such depth, love and beauty to the film.
The book published in 1981 has also been adapted into a musical as well as a screen film and has won various awards including the Laurence Olivier Award for Best Entertainment.
Set in 1939, the boy who arrives immediately calls the man he is assigned to in the village 'Mister Tom', he is an extremely nervous child and very withdrawn as his home life was bombarded by his mother who mentally and physically abused him. He has been evacuated because of the invasion of the Germans into London and hence is not accustomed to village life in any shape or form and not only has to adapt to the country lifestyle but also to a new school and a new freinds.
The boy is so nervous and is particularly conscious of the bruising that has been left by his mothers beatings with a belt and it is Mister Tom who slowly but surely calms him as he cares for him each day and the boy realises this man is of no threat to him and will in no means harm him whatsoever.
It is almost a love story building up between the two where Mister Tom can relive being a father and the boy ultimately becomes his surrogate son. Through this love and care the boy starts to excel in all areas of his life with a huge array of freinds, parties, education and becomes a proficient artist and starts to produce drawings on a daily basis of a great standard.
The story takes a downturn when the boy is taken back to his mother and has to care for his younger and new baby sibling. He is abused once more as is the baby and uncared for. It is Mister Tom who rescues him and saves him and again this makes their bond even closer.
A truely beautiful and moving story but be sure to read the book before watching the film as it far more detailed. Both will bring you to tears but with great happiness involved.
I adore it when its my birthday or anyone within my family's birthday. We go all out in our household to celebrate every minute of the day or have birthday weekends.
Each year we try and go to a good restaurant for a start and go to a show or event, but the most precious moments are having a birthday cake and tea with champagne at home and opening presents with a cup of tea in the morning.
There should be a ritual to every birthday in each household, and always give out birthday cards and greetings to people as what you give out you receive back and to have even someone say happy birthday to you is lovely and means they have remembered. This means more and more the older you get in life.
Some people dont bother with sending cards or having cake etc on their birthday but I happen to see these as essentials for any birthday and to eat cake with freinds and family is a tradition and creates wishes and memories for that year ahead. Celebrating childrens birthdays is especially lovely and as a mother I always try and make my own childrens cakes as its part of the fun of the prep work and go all out to find the specific cartoon or film character they like that year. Buying presents is always an exciting part of creating a childs birthday and seeing them open their presents. To also organise a party is lovely and watch all the childrens faces when they have fun, dance and watch magicians or similar. The party bags are of course the best bit of a childs party and always were when I was a child myself.
Always celebrate your birthday as however old you feel on that particular year you will be younger than the year ahead and so on and so forth. Celebrating birthdays is part of life and whilst we may all be a little down about getting older it is indeed a scientific fact of us all and hence we cant change it and therefore we should always celebrate the fact we have gotton another year older and wiser and can enjoy life. Always be grateful to be able to celebrate your birthday as many people in the world cannot.
Overall always make a big deal of it whether it be cheaply with freinds round and afternoon tea with some cake, tea and presents or go all out and go to lavish restaurants and parties, whatever is your style do it in the company of people who love you and care for you and always return the favour.
I absolutely despise this programme and this is why.
I am a meat eater, however I am also a huge advocate of animal welfare and standards and hence will only buy meat when it is free range and from reputable sources and butchers with high welfare standards. If I cant afford meat one week I wont buy it, and will eat fish or vegetarian meals, this therefore should never be an excuse for people to state they cant afford free range and high welfare standard meat.
This programme shows how meat is produced but only through the highest of welfare standards, obviously so, in the cleanest and best care as possible and hence people watching this believe that all meat is produced in this way therefore increasing the purchase of meat and increasing bad standards and bad welfare.
If you believe all meat is produced in this way please visit animal right sites such as peta, animal rights org, greenpeace etc. you may be shocked that only a minority of slaughterhouses and these are tiny ones at that will be acutely careful with their animals and will treat their animals with the highest of respect.
The majority of mass produced meat comes from mass production lines in huge slaughterhouses and the atrocities that take place in many of them are abhorrent. Many animals are not stunned properly and are simply tortured through the cutting and slitting of their throats to bleed out and writhe in agony. Chickens will regularly not be stunned properly and have their beaks chopped off before a razor slits their throat.
Atrocities happen in slaughterhouses daily and its abhorrent and this programme sadly only focuses on an acute minority of slaughterhouses and mostly represents on site slaughter yards such as on farms.
Pigs are boiled alive to have all of their fur stripped before having their throat slit and many animals are abused by staff with punches, kicks, and even have a beating with tools. It is abhorrent what takes place in slaughterhouses and until cctv is placed into every single slaughter house in the UK this behaviour wont stop.
Dont believe that the meat you eat is produced well and to a high welfare standard because only a minority is and nearly all supermarket meat is mass produced meaning it has low welfare standards and is full of anitbiotics and chemicals.
If you cant afford good meat then dont eat it.
I do feel that the decision in having children should also be the decision to look after your children yourself, each circumstance is different however. Having always worked for myself I took very little time off when I was pregnant and when I had my children, however I think if someone makes the decision to have children, a couple rather then at least one of those parents should be around at least 70 per cent of time. Im afraid Im very old fashioned when it comes to working parents as whilst I work, I have always, since my children have been born allowed my work to not interfere with my children as it is so vital for mothers especially to be with their children for the first 4 years of their life.
Im afraid I tend to get rather angry when so many couples both work full time and put their children into childcare or palm them off to their grandparents to allow both of the parents to work, as a parent they miss out on vital developmental time, precious time with their kids they will never get back and vital emotional support. Its only for a few years, there are always other ways to gain an income.
Regarding keeping childcare within the family, this is a good idea to a degree as long as it is only for 1- 2 days a week , 3 at a push but after this it is again not spending enough time with the child an also not allowing the grandparents to have their own life however much they state they love having the grandchildren.
It is of course much cheaper to keep children with grandparents if not free but parents shouldnt take advantage of this. Looking after children is hard work.
Overall whilst it is cheaper and is ok for children to be looked after for a minimal amount of time to allow for working of both parents to take place this should only be done on a minimal basis as nothing can give the best chance and best support to children but the parents themselves in these first few vital years, these years afterall set up the child for life.
Being married myself I am evidently one to agree with it, however!
Marriage has changed dramatically over decades and many people dont understand that marriage was initially brought in as an insurance policy for wealthy couples and families to protect their wealth, and marriage was used on a 5 year basis then to either be stopped or renewed. It was purely down to insurance until the church got hold of it and used marriage under the 'name of god' to actually initially make money for the church! Many people dont understand this, they also dont understand that marriage is not set for us biologically. We are not a monogamous species and only two species in the world are one being the swan. We are not made to be with one person for the rest of our life and this is why so many people suffer within marriages and relationships long term. There are of course always exceptions with marriage where the feeling of being in love will last forever and always and remaining sexually attracted to one another will always remain.
I am married however I live within an open marriage which allows us both to be sexually involved with other people and hence be open and honest regarding this. This is most certainly not everyones idea of a marriage however honesty and trust is and without these two ingredients no marriage can survive long term. Trust and being honest with one another is what builds a freindship to start with and a best freindship is what allows a marriage to live and thrive. I adore my husband, and I love him and will do always and this is because we are best freinds, we would remain to be best freinds under all circumstances because this is what marriage becomes a member of the family and a freindship. The spark does not stay forever and so many people forget this.
I feel many people outgrow one another which again is a natural part of life, we all change and have 7 year cycles spiritually of changing however how we allow that change to dominate our lives is up to us and down to how honest we are. It is this honesty that can adapt within a relationship and how it can keep a relationship afloat. The amount of people I know who have been and are in long term relationships and continually cheat and lie and to their partners is astronomical and many of their spouses have no idea, this angers me and infuriates me as it only takes honesty and trust and betrayal wouldnt happen.
Allow one another to be free within a relationship and that certainly doesnt necessarilly mean allow each other to see other people as this would only suit a small percentage of people but generally always discuss your feelings, fears, worries, angers, lusts and desires for it is only through conversation and understanding one another one hundred per cent that a marriage can survive for the long term.
Personally I do think degrees are most certainly worth the paper they are written on and I will always encourage my own children to aim for university and gain a degree, however I do feel that there are some degrees out there now which are pointless and simply can add more educational time to ones life so they dont have to go to work and also more money into the educational system. These I feel though are few and far between.
I always however think that whilst there are excellent apprenticeships and work schemes for young people when leaving school to get a degree under your belt is always the best option as its a qualification that will always be with you, a training that is next to none and also life experience as university years are some of the best in your life. A new array of freinds is a great aspect of university life as well as learning to live away from home.
Overall a degree will always give you the training for a specific subject which you cant get anywhere else, it educates to a great depth and I do feel the majority of employers worth their weight look closely at educational qualifications and of course for an array of jobs it is only a degree that will allow you to enter the work such as medicine, scientific subjects, geographical subjects, nursing, midwifery even many of the arts with fashion, art, design etc these go further with degrees.
The downside of university nowadays is most certainly the living costs and loan costs which are astronomical and can start a young persons life with a huge debt. The average debt nowadays is well over 20,000 which is ridiculous when people simply want to better themselves. The costs should be much lower for students to be able to do degrees. However I always think it is very possible to go to university with loans, grants and also working. I knew many students who worked their way through university to pay for it and they came out with lower debts and a degree to gain a highly paid job.