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Remember me when I am gone away
Remember Me (DVD)
Member Name: walsha11
Remember Me (DVD)
Advantages: characters feel believable, acting is good, plot, exploration of loss
Disadvantages: not much focus on 9/11, love story progresses too quickly, very subdued film
I started to watch this film ages ago on the internet and stopped after about 5 minutes. The video I was watching was very grainy with poor sound quality so I gave up. It wasn't until months later when my sister asked me if I had seen it because of the relation to 9/11 in the film. She knows this is something I read about and watch documentaries on pretty regularly so recommended it for that reason. I saw it recently in WH smiths for £4 so decided to buy it and attempt to watch it again.
The film was released in 2010 and has a cast of familiar faces. It is described as a coming-of-age drama, though personally I would say it is more of a family drama, or romantic drama.
The film follows Ally (Emilie De Ravin - the pregnant girl from Lost), a 21 year old student, and Tyler (Robert Pattinson), a 21 year old book seller. After being arrested by Ally's father Tyler accepts a bet with his friend to date Ally. However, the two develop a far deeper relationship than first intended.
Not only do they share a mutual attraction, as well as interests and sense of humour, but they also share in their dysfunctional families. Ally has a very overprotective father who can't help but involve himself in her life. Ally witnessed the murder of her mother when she was 11 and ever since her father has been keen to shelter her from the realities of life and the modern world.
Tyler in contrast has grown up in a very privileged family. His father (Pierce Brosnan) has an extremely important and high powered job which he values over his relationship with his children. Tyler's older brother, after struggling as a musician, went to work for his father aged 22. He killed himself within the same year and there is a great deal of resentment in the family for what happened. Tyler has a younger sister who is a very talented artist, though only 10 years old, and she feels constantly neglected and forgotten by her father. Tyler feels her pain as acutely as she does and in many ways tries to fight for his father's attention on her behalf.
I can't really tell you too much about the plot without spoiling a great deal of the film for you. What I liked about it though is that it takes two very damaged young people and brings them together in a very real and beautiful way. It feels very different to anything else I've really seen before. I often find in films like this where they try to create a troubled soul there is always a far more normal, balanced and happy individual who pulls them out of this hole of depression. However, Ally and Tyler are both messed up and fractured in their own individual ways. They bond in this way and are able to help each other through life, loss and love whilst healing their respective wounds.
I also think the way in which the family elements are presented feel starkly real, almost too painfully real. Tyler's father is neglectful, stoic, unemotional and disregarding of his children. Clearly the impact of his son's suicide plays some part in this but his total disregard of Tyler still cuts very deeply for the viewer. This can create uncomfortable and painful viewing at times, though this is carefully tempered by the intense love Tyler feels for his sister and for Ally.
I do have to say that the love story progresses pretty quickly and I didn't find this wholly believable considering Ally is extremely sceptical and reluctant to date Tyler at first. I did find the acting convincing though and once I'd got over this initial flaw I think the relationship moves forward in a very believable way.
My other slight issue is the 9/11 element in the film. It is unclear throughout the film when it is set, and there is nothing really (until the ending) to indicate it is set in the summer of 2001. Even in the way in which the characters dress, or elements of their setting, there is very little to suggest this film is set over 10 years ago. Everything about it feels pretty modern and I do wish they'd tried a little harder to capture the atmosphere of New York prior to the terrible terrorist attacks. This is a double edged sword though because the way in which they have managed to obscure the setting does create this shocking and high impact twist at the end when you realise the relevance of the year. However, this did feel a little incongruous to me because of the thoroughly contemporary feel of the film.
What I think is interesting about the plot is that there are no real resolution in this film. You don't see both main characters overcome their parents' behaviour or manage to change things. In this way it feels very realistic and truthful. It isn't really until the end of the film and you see the impact of September 11th that you begin to see slight changes. These feel very real though, and although sad feel very optimistic and hopeful too.
I paid £4 for this DVD which is probably the cheapest I could hope to get it for. I haven't really been blown away by it and for a film that links to 9/11 there is relatively little about it in the film. The film is also pretty subdued, there is little action as the main focus is the behaviour and relationships of the two main characters. Sometimes I am in the mood to see a film like this, one that explores human relationships in their minutiae, I just can't imagine this becoming a regular film of mine.
Overall, an enjoyable film that examines the reverberations of loss and love.
Summary: A pleasant film that focuses on loss.