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This book is an excellent addition to anybody's self help library. It summarises succintly the physiological and psychological impact that fear can have on a person. It defines fear, discusses confort zones, provides a step by step pathway out of fear into a more empowered place via the Fear Pyramid - a simplistic but excellent model for growth!
The author provides first hand accounts of what it is like to experience fear at the coal face when faced with extreemes of confrontation from his time as a doorman. An excellent touch to the book is the interviews that are conducted at the back by the author himself with people that have experienced fearful situations. The interviews discuss fear in context and are conducted with amonst others a professionl boxer and a former SAS soldier.
The real gem of this book is the Author's superb Fear Pyramid that allows the reader take any fear they have and dissolve it with the process of systematic desensitisation.
Overall a good book and well worth a read!
Fear; the friend of exceptional people
This book is like the title implies about fear and about how to control it.
Geoff starts off with explaining what fear is. It's an emotion that gives us energy which enables us to deal with the situation that triggered it.
Like everything this energy can be used positively or can be allowed to overwhelm you, this is called panic.
The chapter continues with the many ways in which adrenaline is released and it's symptoms.
The next step is to admit that the fear is there. To quote Anthony Somers ignorance is fear's biggest friend. It's only after you're aware of the problem and admit the problem is there that we can deal with it.
Hereafter Geoff makes us have a look at what we are afraid off. Very often we would like to do things but are afraid to do it. Every time we step out of our comfort zone the fear of discomfort is there.
In the old days fear was there to give us an energy boost to outrun large predators so wanting to run seems natural. As times has changed we need other ways of dealing with fear. In the next chapters Geoff shows us some alternatives.
Next the reader is educated in exposure therapy by A, R & O theory of fear control and the fear pyramid. Of course Geoff warns us for the hurdles and pitfalls we will encounter on our route.
The books finishes with inspiring interviews of martial artists and professional soldiers who overcame their fears to live their dream.
As the second part of the title, a quote by Tyson's trainer Cus Damatio, implies fear is the friend of exceptional people. This is the guide to make fear your friend and become exceptional.
Fear: The Friend of Exceptional People is a self help book about how to deal with fear in everyday situations. The approach it uses is that most people experience fear and don't realise what it is, which according to the book is physical side effects from the release of adrenaline. The book then goes into considerable detail about how to recognise and deal with these effects in order to resolve a situation, ultimately working up to achieving your dreams by accepting that fear will always be there but can always be dealt with.
The author Geoff Thompson is a martial artist and former bouncer who wrote a highly acclaimed book called Watch My Back about his experiences on the doors of Coventry nightclubs in the eighties. That book has now been turned into a pretty decent film called Clubbed (see my review of it here http://members.dooyoo.co.uk/movie-dvd/clubbed-dvd/1242123/) which is where I came across this book.
The book is very simply (but not simplistically) written using great examples from the authors own life (going from doorman to acclaimed author) and others with a bias towards martial arts. However it does provide several examples pertinent to business situations and a couple on dealing with phobias such as spiders and flying simply by explaining the process that is taking place in the body and mind. These should be useful to everyone in illuminating the psychological processes behind fear and in particular I feel it's given me a simple tool kit to control adrenaline fuelled red mist.
The final section of the book contains several interviews with people who have been in sustained fear inducing situations (champion boxers/SAS) and they explain how they dealt with fear. This is particularly useful as it gives an insight into how other people conceptualise fear in order to deal with it and in places is quite funny.
All in all I have found this book of great help in dealing with confrontational situations, by which I don't mean arguments but asking for things (pay rise). Networking in particular is a scenario where the book has been of great help as I get nervous meeting new people. I still do, but now I can control it and feel more confident and assured and look forward to such situations and the opportunities they can bring.
Fear: The Friend of Exceptional People is an exceptional book, easy to read and understand. It has put my mind at rest about certain aspects of life that had been bothering me and in the process I found it to be quite uplifting.
I bought mine from Book Depository via Amazon for about a fiver.