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Don't do it
Member Name: rojm
Date: 26/09/12, updated on 29/06/13 (85 review reads)
Advantages: getting sleep
Disadvantages: when will it stop
I don't agree with sharing a bed with your child; I think children should sleep in their own beds end of.
So why does my 5 year old daughter end up in bed with me and my husband nearly every night?
I rarely allowed my elder daughter to sleep in our bed, she was a pretty good sleeper she would sometimes fall asleep in our bed then I would take her to bed and she would stay there until morning unless she was ill. Or when she was 3 she went through a bad spell after watching something on television that she thought was scarey (we thought it was funny but hey)
My youngest daughter doesn't like being on her own, we sussed this out years ago.
When she was a baby she slept in the same room as us until she was 6 months old but when she woke in the night we immediately got up as we didn't want our elder daughter waking as she had school. I often think this is why she doesn't stay in her own bed. She started to sleep through the night at about 3 months but when we went away for the night or on holiday it would stop.
When she was still quite young we tried just lieing her back down in her cot when she woke up but she would stand up and scream so again we would lie her down (this was done in the 6 weeks school holidays) 3 hours later she was still screaming everytime I lay her down and left her room which stressed my elder daughter out very much (and her parents) so I tried staying in her room until she fell asleep.
We made the cot bed into a bed when she was about 15 months old thinking at least I could lie with her until she was back asleep (we bought a bed guard).
Time goes on and you think you have it sorted but to be honest in the last couple of years I don't think she has gone longer than a week without getting up.
When my daughter wakes she immediately comes into our room I sometimes take her strainght back and she does go back to sleep, other times she goes to run away and begins to say very loudly NO DON'T.
Other times I am so tired I just make room for her (and this is what I don't like or agree with). Other times I do lie with her in her bed until she is asleep and then go back to mine but on those nights she is more likely to end up in my bed 2 hours later or I just stay in her bed.
So basically I share a bed with my 5 year old, either hers or she shares with me and her daddy most nights at the moment. I feel I should have been stronger when she was younger.
I haven't been well since the weekend so every night she has got up and just got into bed with us. I don't believe this is good because I can't sleep properly and if she sleeps in the middle she just keeps hitting her daddy as she likes to roll around in her sleep so nobody gets any sleep.
I have spoken to her and explained that she is going to have to go back to bed and not get in with us from Friday (I thought she could syke herself up for it) but once she wakes that is it she doesn't want to be alone.
So although I don't agree with sharing a bed with your child I am doing it pretty much every night and feeling very tired from it; I am convinced it is because we never left her for 5 or 10 minutes at night incase she woke our eldest daughter when she was younger; so I wish I had found a way but with the the paper thin walls in this house I think my eldest would have been woken anyway. Maybe if I had left a little light on - but I did try a night light. I couldn't leave the landing light on as that kept the rest of us awake.
So I am going to be harder from weekend and just sit in her room till she goes back to sleep (I have actually done this before but there becomes a time when doing it most nights you are just too tired)